We Sure Love Our Pebbles, Don’t We? What Are Yours?
The expression of having a pebble in our shoe is a powerful metaphor. Muhammad Ali wrote, “It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out. It’s the pebble in your shoe.” I first heard a variation of this same wisdom in Inneractions, by Stephen C. Paul: “Remove the rock from your shoe rather than learn to limp comfortably.”
We all know people who have what appears to be an absolutely devotional attachment to the pebble in their proverbial shoe. They have perfected their limp, they nurse their calluses, and oh how they love, preserve and protect that pesky pebble! Some actually limp with style, but most lamely claim that it isn’t that bad. What’s your pebble?
Admittedly change is scary, so until we have a rousing desire which is stronger and more powerful than our fears, we will continue to limp. And all too often we squeak about it at the same time. Why is it so many would rather complain than change? It may be easier, but it sure is less satisfying in the long run. We all know the expression, feel the fear but do it anyway. There is an insightful and empowering book by Susan Jeffers, PhD with a similar title. Of course, there is that voice in our own head, with which we must contend. Everyone knows about that chastising, limiting, belittling voice in one’s head that is overly cautious, overly protectively, overly inhibiting. I liken it to an obscene phone caller and advise immediately hanging up whenever it starts!
Still, for some of us there comes a time when we decide to remove the pebble. Maybe the pebble becomes so annoying, or a painful event jolts us, a friend with honest clarity intervenes, the fear of remaining stuck is greater than the fear of change, or surprisingly we catch a glimpse of something not only possible but so compellingly attractive, that we decide to remove and disown the pebble.
Whatever the pebble has given us, it suddenly becomes less valuable to us than a new possibility, and we make a different decision. Choice is a function of personal awareness and intention; so we need to experience the sparkling realization that the power of choice actually exists within us. We need to understand that we are always one generative choice away from more knowledge, greater empowerment, and a fullness of life heretofore unknown to us. Once this insight shines forth like the rising of the sun, a new way of seeing also dawns.
We don’t have to merely, passively settle for what is and fear what might be. We can summon newfound energy, make a different decision, choose a new direction and take meaningful action. Instead of waiting with dread for whatever, we can dream fresh dreams and become self-determining. Instead of reacting, we can initiate. We can decide, we can choose, we can take action. Once we begin to understand that we don’t need to be a victim of circumstances then everything changes. Everything changes the instant that we change the way we see and understand things.
Taking a “wait and see” attitude, or hoping for the best despite the obvious is relinquishing our power and courting disaster. One thing I’ve come to realize in a big way is that no one else can dream your dreams for you, and no one else will be as skilled, gifted, passionate and persistent at fulfilling them as you are – or will be - once you admit them to yourself, acknowledge them as worthy and embrace them as sacred. Among many stellar teachers and mentors, the wisdom and faith of Wallace D. Wattles is superb. His book, "The Science of Getting Rich" is about personal transformation. I find the book's title way too limiting. It is about so very much more than money.
Perhaps you’ve been walking around feeling as if your left shoe is on your right foot, or as if you have a pebble in your shoe which you have left there despite the discomfort. And maybe, just maybe you are ready to remove the pebble and set your feet on a new path. If so, I am rejoicing with you. If you are not ready, then remember that when you are ready, all that you need is waiting for you.
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