My Friend Adversity

You've unmasked, you're an ally, my toughest teacher yet
You've unmasked, you're an ally, my toughest teacher yet

My Friend, Adversity

by Sylvia van Velzer

Mother of dread, how many times i've prayed you away.

Bearer of bad news, party pooper, my worse nightmare

Unpredictable, tenacious, a no respecter whatsoever

The sum of all my pain, you make me cringe i swear!



You never wait for an invitation, nor need any welcome mat

Like a diva you won't be snubbed, hello, you just show up

The hell you found my number, surprise, surprise!

You marked me like an assasin, 'was stunned and shocked



You made sure i agonized deep, I felt dead, but really was not

How you disrupted life's sweet flow, man, you robbed my joy

I thought i heard, 'pray or mock God', careful with your choice

Like Job in the Bible, i found myself ask, why i was even born.



That was then, with so many visits, we've become acquainted

You've unmasked, you're an ally, my toughest teacher yet

A goldsmiths as well, you pick gems to shape and refine

Dross you remove, the stale status quos, for me to shine?



And! You call me a "diamond in the rough"? I had much doubt

Chip away you went, twas not enough, you put me through the fire!

Holy! The furnace was hot, but grace you sent, i was unscathed

Then you promised, 'rest for now, we're not done, I'll be back!

The End

I know adversity well, which inspired me to write this piece. I was 16 years old when I lost a brother who took his own life and left us confused as a family. My parents separated after being married for close to 30 years and as kids, we had to deal with so much pain and bitterness, which went on for a long long time. My first marriage failed, and my husband of 28 years died of cancer. My daughter went through several traumatic miscarriages, we felt as if heaven was close to receive our prayers. But we were proven wrong. Our life has been filled with so many miracles, we have been amazed, knocking our socks off! It's tough dealing with tragedies, as we see so much unfold all around us. Yet, we clearly see the 'Unseen Hand' of God who moves in our midst, to help us overcome, give comfort when we need it, and strenghten us and build our faith.

Some quotes to help encourage us when we are visited by adversity...

"If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small"-Proverbs 24:10

"We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed"- 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

"I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me". -Philippians 4:12-13

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Tom Cornett 7 years ago from Ohio

Great insight and hub! Thanks! :)


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aka-dj 7 years ago from Australia

Thank you for sharing your story. It is worse than some, and not as bad as others. I think you have the right attitude to keep overcoming,and becomming a stronger and better person because of it.

You can never make a bad be good again, because it is past. You can only take the good from the response you give it. Blessings to you. :)


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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Tom Cornett: My thanks!

aka-dj: You are sooo right about the past. It best left behind, and then move forward. Our attitude will make the big difference how the future turns out. Blessings as well!


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Gerg 7 years ago from California

Island - you are spot on. What happens to us is outside of who we are.

I'm very sorry for your circumstances. Best of peace, happiness and all "good things" to you.


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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Hi Gerg. Thank you so much for your good wishes. If we don't learn from our experiences, then we are the bigger losers. I had no choice but to rise from the heap! The best to you as well.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

Hi IV, many thanks for this inspirative Hub. Bad can be always tranformed into good, but sometimes we have to wait very long to see the good points. Your life-story is very touching, thumbs up!


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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Aloha T-Mihaela! It was my pleasure writing something so close to my heart. That's true, much of these lessons and finding good, took some time, like years.


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trish1048 7 years ago

Another heartfelt hub.  It would take me a while to list the things that were bad, but I will share that I was once held up at gunpoint.  I was 45, widowed with two children.  I can't begin to tell you the thoughts that ran through my head.  Obviously, I survived.

With the losses in my life, I've heard many times that things happen for a reason.  That is true, but I wonder if I'll know the reasons for all of it before I die.  I may never know, and that's ok.

Another saying is that which breaks us makes us stronger.  For some that is true, for others it is not.  I don't know what the answer is, why some succeed and others do not.

On one hand, I am a pessimist, mostly about things and events around my life.  Where I am an optimist is that I tend to believe that the majority of people are good.  I take what is said to me to heart.  Until or when I learn otherwise, I will remain that way.

Thanks for another great hub.


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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii Author

Trish: You must write about your experiences and even if you never find out why some events happened, there are things that you learned from them which can help others. I too believe, there are more good people than bad. Stay an optimist. We need more like you in this planet. Thanks again!


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Marliza Gunter 6 years ago from South Africa

Yes it is true...every dark cloud has a silver lining..be blessed.. :)


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IslandVoice 6 years ago from Hawaii Author

Thanks Marliza! Be blessed as well.


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GPAGE 4 years ago from California

S!!! WOW! Never read this.....so cool to read this now. VERY powerful this is my dear!

Your heart is so full of passion and pain in this writing. Yes I know both well. Yes, over and over again...there have been little and bigger miracles! Awesome!!! G


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IslandVoice 4 years ago from Hawaii Author

Oh G! Do i know pain, you can tell. And how i feel for those who are going through theirs, right now. Thanks for your generous words of love and understanding.

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