LESSONS LEARNED: A Little Bit of Kindness Goes a Long Way

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Since first writing this, I believe even more than ever that reaching out to others with a smile, a kind word, a helping hand can make a day that might have gotten off to a bad start be turned around.

That smile, that kind word, that helping hand can cause others to extend the same kind of encouragement to someone else. It can have a ripple effect and can bring joy into a community...just by such a simple gesture.

Smile more, acknowledge others more...you will be glad you did.

It costs nothing to bring some joy to the life of another.

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A wise person has said... we human beings are on the planet to help others. We are here to be of service to others.

Many passages have been written in an effort to explain why we are here. Each of us has our own explanation. No one explanation is the correct and true one for all. There is some truth in the way each of us explains this walk.

As for me, I believe that we are here to help make this walk easier for others. Take what blessings we have and share them. And if we have only sparse material possessions, then give of our time and energy to help others. In some way, each day do something to make the day better for someone else.

This fits with H.O.W. ...Humanity One World, that billybuc here on HubPages has begun. Reaching out to lift up others enlarges the lives of others and a wonderful thing happens. It enlarges ours as well.

A little bit of kindness can make the difference in the lives of many...as it is paid forward throughout the day.

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Why am I here?

Some say it exclusively is to be of service to God. To carry out his message and share the good news. Still others find no connection to their walk here on the planet and God. As for me, I do feel connected but stop short of condemning those who do not.

For me, believing that I am here to help and to be of service to others is a way for me personally to answer that age old question: Why am I here?

A place of self discovery for me is among the lovely plants in my yard and among the beautiful plants and trees in my town or in nature wherever I may find myself.

Paying it forward at its best...a little bit of kindness goes a long way

Give a little joy to someone...

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Would I ever know why?

This is a personal revelation for me. For many years I have questioned and sought to discover an answer. Ideas came to mind. They were dismissed. Nothing seemed to satisfactorily embody an answer that made sense to me.

There were times throughout this journey that I wondered if I would ever know.

Turning inward, I looked deep into my thoughts and reminisced about those who had gone before me. Those that left indelible footprints on the planet while they were here. I studied over their lives. I looked at those characteristics about their lives that made them unique in comparison to others.

Happiness doesn't result from what we get,

but from what we give.

— Ben Carson

Some other articles on this topic:

Reach out and touch others to make a difference

http://pstraubie48.hubpages.com/hub/Lifes-Struggles-HOW-Do-We-Stop-the-Insanity

Help to stop the insanity

It is the right thing to do.

The one set of characteristics that was found in each of them was their desire to help others. In doing so they were in fact of service to those who needed it.

These were not pious, holier than thou individuals. These were just every day folks who cared enough to be of support and help to someone who needed it. They asked nothing and expected nothing in return.

Those who made this short list were what I term selfless .

  • Every opportunity they had to do something for someone else that arose, they were there ready to assist.
  • Because it was the right thing to do.
  • The right thing for them to do. Maybe not for everyone but for their lives it was the choice to make.
  • Because this is why they were on this planet.

When I think back on the history of our country, this same kind of giving has occurred over and over. For strangers and friends, giving of possessions and of time and energy has been repeated many times over.Many times these acts occur after some disaster.Early in our history, neighbors came together to help each other with big projects such as a barn raising.

Generosity is not giving me that which I need that you do, but it is giving me that which you need more than they do.

— Kahil Gibran

Selfless giving...ask nothing and expect nothing in return

  • In 1992 after hurricane Andrew which devastated South Florida, Neighbors 4 Neighbors, a nonprofit organization was formed. It was and is designed to put those in need with those who can help.
  • We watched in horror as the whole nightmare of Katrina unfolded before our eyes. And, hope emerged as the outpouring of giving of time, money, and energy went to those in need.
  • Here in north Florida we watched as truck after truck after truck from our electric companies headed to the areas to help. People from all walks of life packed up and headed out to help.
  • When 9/11 tore lives apart in a matter of minutes, again people from every walk of life packed up and headed out to help. They stayed until they could stay no longer. They helped in any way possible. This spoke volumes about how our country can pull together.

Selfless giving. Expecting and wanting nothing in return. Just to give some measure of comfort to another seems to take away the powerless feeling we have when a disaster strikes. It speaks to the strength of human character. Not only for those giving but for those who endure. It takes unimaginable strength and courage to pick up and go on in the wake of catastrophic occurrences

Don't wait for other people to be loving, giving, compassionate, grateful, forgiving, generous, or friendly... lead the way!

— Steve Maraboli

Helping others to help themselves

Our forefathers operated on this premise too. One way they did this was to hold barn raising. Barn raisings were good for the whole community and helped to make the community prosper. They helped others and in turn it helped to ultimately make their lives better in many ways. They would buy, sell, and trade with each other. Often this bond of helping went back through many generations.

We could say that Habitat for Humanity uses the same premise for their model.

Helping others. In that case, helping others to help themselves. A community of volunteers working to help erect a home for someone who deserves and needs it. The recipient joins in to make this happen.http://www.habitat.org/how/factsheet.aspx

Giving...helping...serving

Scores of other organizations exist to be of service others. Soup kitchens, shelters, and food banks are a few of those.

There is a layer of ongoing giving and helping and serving that exists each day. It is neighbor helping neighbor. It is stranger helping stranger. A kind word, a smile, a polite gesture such as opening a door for someone adds is a way to give.

As for me, knowing that my walk helps make someone else’s walk easier gives me a measure of peace. It is a private, quiet joy that I feel. What I do for others is done without fanfare and without the knowledge of others.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Aufait

You too have made some important points. Learning to live with others and not be judgmental is a way for us to truly walk this walk in a way our Lord would wish.thank you for stopping by. Angels are on the way ps :)


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Aufait

You too have made some important points. Learning to live with others and not be judgmental is a way for us to truly walk this walk in a way our Lord would wish.thank you for stopping by. Angels are on the way ps :)


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

Some good points made. I think serving God goes beyond spreading the Gospel. When we help another person we are helping God. He said so when he was walking this earth.

In addition to helping each other there are lessons that need to be learned. Learning not to judge and to be merciful and forgiving are the toughest lessons for a lot of people.

Giving to other people what has been given to us -- forgiveness and mercy. They may not deserve that, but do any of us deserve that?

Who is qualified to judge who deserves a helping hand and forgiveness? Only God. Yet He gives us forgiveness constantly -- forgiveness we do not deserve, so who are we to with hold that from another?


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Mary. The best of us comes out of is in the worst of times.---it it could only be that way all of the time what a gentler world this would be.

So nice to see you this morning. Thank you for your kind words. Sending you many Angels to your home here in Florida.

:) ps


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

When that horrible event happened in Boston everyone jumped in to help the wounded. It happens in every disaster just as you mentioned in your Hub. I've seen these acts of kindness time after time.

You wrote a beautiful article here, and I loved your photos.

BTW: congrats on having a 100 score! You really deserve that.

Goodnight, Mary


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Vladimir Uhri 3 years ago from HubPages, FB

pstraubie48, Hello, sorry for mistake addressing on comment of James. It is very good Hub. But I am different looking at life. God created man since He wanted multiply. We supposed to be here for ever. But... We are designed to work together, help and it is our fruit we bear.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Kathi

Thank you for returning the Angels ....I do feel enveloped by them. Each day is truly a gift. My family and I are so blessed.

The Angels I send are my way of trying to give back some of what has been given to me and mine.

Sending you those special Angels once again :) ps


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Fossillady 3 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

You have a beautiful heart Patricial and a soul that wants to connect to others in a giving loving way! I really enjoyed your story and every time you send an angel my way, please know that I make a note to send one right back attcha! Kathi :O)


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Audrey

this has been on my mind for sometime before I ever put it into a hub...it just sums up how I feel...

thanks for stopping by

Sending Angels your way this evening :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Audrey

this has been on my mind for sometime before I ever put it into a hub...it just sums up how I feel...

thanks for stopping by

Sending Angels your way this evening :) ps


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AudreyHowitt 3 years ago from California

I loved the loving and introspective nature of this write--beautifully done!


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

moneyfairy....thank you for your kind words. Truly I believe that we are in this together.. to help each lighten each other's load along the way. I know that because others have done it for me that I feel so blessed. And it has become important for me to reach out to others


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moneyfairy 4 years ago

Wonderful hub!!! Many Many blessings to you for sharing your journey.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Steph72..thank you for the kind words. I learned about giving from my Momma and Daddy. We did not have a lot of things when I was growing up but we had an abundance of vegetables, fruits, and flowers. So from my earliest years, I remember my family giving to others often to others who were in need. I guess I feel like I need to keep that tradition if you can call it that, alive. Thank you for stopping by again.


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Steph72 4 years ago from Sunny Fl

this was awesome .. you were a teacher right , if you taught half as good as you write you did wonders for many of your students i am sure if some read your words they would agree you did/ do make a huge difference on this planet.. What lucky grandkids you have too


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

epigramman...I am deeply humbled by your comment. Writing is one of my passions and to have another writer say such things ecourages me to keep on writing. Thank you so much for reading some of my work . I will be over to visit very soon. It is lovely here in Florida this evening...not so hot which is nice. We are having 80s this coming week instead of 90s...woo hoo.


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epigramman 4 years ago

.....what an absolutely wonderful heartfelt writer you are!

You have such a world class talent for communicating the written word and I was going over some of your other hubs and you have so much to offer your readers here -sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 7:10pm and it's been a beautiful fall day here by the lake with sunshine and no wind


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Vladimir...I went to your page to see if I could find an email addie. Actually I am not James but pstraubie48 although James A Watkins did comment.

Nevertheless I still appreciate the comment...and now yes we do know was agape love is. Thanks for stopping by even if it may have been to visit the wrong person. I will be over to visit soon.


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Vladimir Uhri 4 years ago from HubPages, FB

Hello, James. What a refreshing Hub. Yes we are for helping each others. But I think God created us to have a company. He gave us plenty, everything, fullness, lacking nothing. But we know what happened... Again God gave... It was most difficult for Him. It was personal - His Son. Now we know what agape love is.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

James A Watkins...absolutely. What an empty walk it would be if we did not reach out to each other. Making a difference in the life of another even if ever so small gives them new hope perhaps and often they pass it on to someone else.

So nice to see you stop by. I need to visit you soon.


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James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

Oh yea! You are right on. I am with you all the way. You gotta serve somebody. Well said.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

thank you for stopping by, Glimmer Twin Fan. We really do make life better for others if we are able to some small thing to lighten their load. I have seen an angry scowl turn to a softer gentler expression just from a silly joke or remark sent their way. I will be over to visit soon.


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Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

This is a beautiful hub and says such important things. Thank you.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

billybuc...It really is about the love. Loving each other enough to care about others...especially when we know they may never know. It is the purest kind of giving of ourselves. Thank you again for stopping by. :)


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

And I send warm greetings and blessings to you my friend. I wrote on this subject once...and said that we are here to love....which is basically what you are saying...unselfish giving with no thought of reward or even recognition, is an act of love any way you look at it.

Bravo....loved this completely.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

AK Turner....You are right...I believe you are correct. It just 'ain't about the money', is it? It is reaching out in so many ways, on so many levels to be of service to others in ways largely unknown to others. It is connecting on a personal level with another soul that seems to complete us. Thank you for your kind words and for stopping by.


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A K Turner 4 years ago from West Yorkshire

I love this hub, it is so true, you make life by what you give. I have spent years to voluntary youth work in my spare time, and I am sure though I earn significantly less than my other family members I am by far the happiest!


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

alphonse george....thank you for stopping by. I wrote about this because it has been on my mind for quite a while and it was just waitng for me to put it out for others. Thanks for sharng it. :)


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alphonse george 4 years ago from Kerala,India

Great hub.Thanks to you for having find the time to write this beautiful hub.Keep it up.Hub shared.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

thank you , Rema, for stopping by.

I just recall times when someone reaching out to my famly made a huge difference in our lives. It was life changing and made me believe in angels. I have written about it in some of my other hubs.

To me it is about giving back. Sharing with others what has been done for me.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning, Michele...Thanks for stopping by. God does bless each of us and charges us to care about those neighbors as you say. These wrods have been on my mind for a while. In the last few days I found the ones to say what I was feeling. I just think of the times when othes have reached out and made a difference in my life and the lives of my family.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi , Faith Reaper, thanks for the vote. What a lonely journey this would be if we were not sharing and caring for and with others. Thank you too for stopping by. :)


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

thanks, Civil War Bob. You are so right. I am so glad you could stop by.


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida Author

shiningirisheyes....thank you for your kind words. Each one of us makes the way brighter for others as we make our walk. I am glad I have 'met' you!


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Hi pstraubie,

This is an amazing topic that you have handled beautifully. These words here impressed me: "These were just every day folks who cared enough to be of support and help to someone who needed it. They asked nothing and expected nothing in return". This is what I personally believe in and these are the kind of people I want to emulate in my life.

We should do everything within our capacity and means to help others while expecting nothing in return. I have been practicing this for a few years now and how happy I am doing so. It elevates your life to a whole new level. Beautiful hub. And the pictures are even more beautiful.

Sharing it across as it deserves to be read by as many people as possible for the great value it offers. Cheers, Rema.


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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

What a beautiful hub. We are on this planet together, and in following God's path " Love thy neighbor as thyself" is on of God's commandments. If we follow that, helping each other, we are doing the right thing. Thank you for this hub.

God bless you.

Voted up.


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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

Well said, pstraubie and oh so beautifully written. When we do something for others, we are not to shout it from the roof tops. I believe we are here to glorify our Lord God, and we do that by exactly doing what you have expressed so lovingly here in this hub. Voted Way Up. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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Civil War Bob 4 years ago from Glenside, Pennsylvania

Good hub, PS...voted up, useful, beautiful, interesting. The Bible even says we go through all the stuff we do so we can help others go through it too. Enjoy your day.


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

I for one am glad to youa re making your journey during my lifetime.

Thank you for making this world a bit brighter. You make a difference. Voting up and sharing as well.

Blessings to you on your fine journey.

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