You just might find this somewhat ridiculous..............
I manage a kitchen, that serves senior citizens, many of them have lost control of their bodily functions.
Some of them, can no longer, command their hands and arms, to pick up a fork or spoon, and bring the food to their mouths. It might be alzhemiers, it could be MD, MS, or it could be another, unexplained, or unidentified physical or mental cause.
There are the aids who dress them, shave them, toilet and bathe them. That is their job. They deal with these things every single day.
I work more " backstage".........cooking, ordering groceries, holding my staff accountable to sanitation laws and practices.
The very first time, that I had to physcially " feed" an adult ( of course , I had fed my own children ) was traumatic. It was second, only, to accepting my Salvation.
I went home and I cried...............I am not easily given to tears. My heart hurt for those many people, who can no longer do for themselves.
They are not only to feeble to live alone, defend their homes, dress themselves......................
they can not even EAT without assistance. Except for the kindness of others, they would sit and slowly STARVE to death........just because, they can no longer pick up a fork, secure a morsel of food, and bring it to their own mouths.
Later, as life progresses for some of us, and deterioates for others, I was helpless, in caring for my own parent. The march of death had already been played for me..........the watching of the parade was unbearable.