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Best Answer Brian says
I would respectfully argue that too many family members imagine themselves to be "superior" to others (and imagine what doctors, teachers, etc would do); when if they respected the other person and listened, they might reduce the frustrated behavior.
I do not refer to the important aspect of listening in a relationship. The very question indicates the Drama Queen makes trouble for its own sake. This isn't a matter of superiority but of getting rid of a behavior that is negative.
ibbarkingmad isn't saying this to be superior. This is about fixing a problem behavior. You don't let a child throw tantrums to get what they want. You gently teach them how to ask. This is the same thing but for older "children".
Exactly! This is about resolving a behavioral issue. They aren't lab animals. They just learned a bad habit & behavior modification is the means by which to fix that. Not all classifications of "drama llamas" are accurate, but a lot are.
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Sue St. Clair says
Boundaries is important. Just don't let the boundaries be fuel for drama. Like you said, validate but don't feed the drama.
I agree. Don't sneer. That is negative, but encourage positive behavior by encouraging positive communication. Ignore the drama & offer incentives for communication rather than drama. Life is a lesson & we all can learn a little more.
Lisa HW says
Thanks for the support.
There are people who do what they do to get attention. Listening is great, but when they have found that a little drama get their way, sometimes the only way to resolve the issue is to let them know that behavior is not acceptable for communication.
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Hi. Our DQ happens to be my 18 year old daughter. We can't avoid her. lol
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Patricia Scott says
You are right. They soon grow out of it as life catches up.