Whatever it is that you want. Give it away to someone else. If it is money, give some away. If it is love, then love someone.
As Dr. Wayne Dyer says "Ask how you can serve and the Universe will answer 'How may I serve you?'"
Meditate formally and daily. It puts you in a frame of mind where you realize that everything in creation is related.
Watch the movie "The Matrix." When you realize that reality is nothing more than our own creation it is easier to accept that you can change it.
Realize that God is not out to get you. He does not punish you when you "sin." You punish yourself.