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We really don't know people even the ones who are closest to us. I now question how well I knew my ex, how I could live with him all these years and why.
Violet Flame says
I'LL defend you! Three years old is way too young to be treated like that. Little kids are all about emotion. When she brushed off your feelings, it's as though YOU were not important, but you were/are. Wonder how she was treated when she was young?
Thank You watergeek! You are very sweet! I don't know how she was treated but I think she had to learn to shoulder life's responsibility when she was still very young. Her life is all about self sacrifice instead of gratification.
I'll second watergeek's comments! What she did (TWICE) was not validate you. This is very significant and emotionally hurtful. You are important and valued!
Dearest Violet, while I understand your sentiments, your mother was lost in more severe to her things like getting the food on the table or recovering from insults she had been receivng, perhaps
from your father.To her the children's act was trivial
Thank you, everybody, for participating in the discussion - sometimes such a small and seemingly insignificant thing is all that upsets the balance in our upbringing. I had more than this even though I know that my mother loves me.
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Denise Handlon says
Thank you for your answer. I think sometimes that is the reason why we should write sometimes - so someone some day can read - it's hard to tell stories to your children when they are not fully ready...
I cannot say that "I know" how you feel, but I feel empathy. I am grateful that I have my very imperfect family still and I have learned one lesson - "I am not allowed to leave the ship as long as I have any of them - my parents and my son.
The more I hear about people, the more I realize how tough life gets for many of us. People lose their loved ones to illnesses, addictions, suicides, et cetera. Is there anything more important that family and love? Friendship?
carlos mendez says
I so know what you mean....
I understand that it is very painful for you to come to terms with even thinking about your mother, but unfortunately we don't all have the best mothers. We don't choose our parents, but the very least that we all get is the gift of life.