Just talk to him. Tell him what you're thinking, honestly -- good or bad. Just say, "I want to feel closer to you." Ask the Holy Spirit to speak on your behalf, even as you pray with your own words. Then ask the Holy Spirit for promptings. In other words, utilize the Trinity: Father, Son & Holy Spirit when requesting guidance. You may be led to the right book or a person, or many, many other situations which will confirm your beliefs and relationship with Jesus. Keep in mind that the Trinity has a purpose. For example, I have always believed that Jesus is the master of relationships. If a relationship needs to be healed, he makes it happen - so I direct my prayers to Him, instead of the Father or the Holy Spirit. Sometimes I don't have to do a darn thing, but pray and be ready for the phone call that comes from the person who wronged me. It's pretty miraculous, really, despite what all the naysayers believe. In some cases, it can take years (for someone's heart to be softened) Other times, the relationship is healed quickly. Once in a while, you can expect to get the message that you have to forgive and move on...that this relationship is not what you need, i.e., ex- boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.
It sounds like I went off on a tangent, but my point is that you just have to communicate your real feelings, and utilize the Trinity, including the Holy Spirit, who will prompt you.
Then you will feel closer to Jesus, having established real-life communication. The key is to have patience and believe. Even if it feels like nothing is happening, your prayers have actually changed some dynamics. It's sort of a co-creation, God's-here-to-help relationship. It's fun. Hope this helps.