Change and new ideas take time to become ingrained in one's belief system. I, too, once believed that being homosexual was a choice.
My husband's nephew came out around 25 years ago. He was most concerned that family and friends would have a different opinion of him.
I sat down and wrote a hand written letter (that's the way we had to do it in the olden days) and I explained that my husband and myself would still
love him the same. Then I wrote something like, "It's your choice and we will accept you and the choice you make."
Jacqui, I did not know any better, at the time. He was kind enough to write back to me and explain that he had not made a choice. He said he had known he was gay from his earliest memories. Wow! That was an eye opener.
In those days, people were much less accepting of gay people. I had the opportunity to be around some lovely people and got to talk, heart to heart.
The struggles they endured were a real shame.
As the years passed, my neighbors and acquaintances have become much
more accepting of people who are different than themselves. The character of a person should be the main focus for acceptance. One's sexual preferences should not even come into play. People still have abhorrence
for sexual deviance which include pedophiliacs, bestiality, or anyone not capable of giving consent.
Jacqui, you are putting out inquires asking how people come to conclusions
and I commend you for your research. It will help you to understand how others feel and react and at the same time, you are enlightening others
on their road of growth and discovery. We never stop learning. When we do, we die.
"Why is a 'choice' so well protected?" You make a most valid and sincere question. It is because, many long years ago, way before you were even born, we were told that homosexuality was a choice. Give us time. We are learning. Some learn at a slower rate than others.
Continue your questioning. They are great ways to make a person stop and think about "why" do we act or react the way we do.
You may not know it, but you are a super teacher, my friend.
Give the wee one a hug for me.