Here are the verses you are referring to:
John 3:3-7 (Contemporary English Version)
3Jesus replied, "I tell you for certain that you must be born from above before you can see God's kingdom!"
4Nicodemus asked, "How can a grown man ever be born a second time?" 5Jesus answered: I tell you for certain that before you can get into God's kingdom, you must be born not only by water, but by the Spirit. 6Humans give life to their children. Yet only God's Holy Spirit can change you into a child of God. 7Don't be surprised when I say that you must be born from above.
As the support for the morally obscene and senseless wars in Iraq and Afghanistan prove,it is extremely easy to be a just pretending follower of the Prince of Peace.No one will be granted salvation until they exhibit such a profound level of love and faith that God decides to send His Holy Spirit to them through what is called the " Baptism of the Holy Spirit." This is an amazing experience that results in spiritual gifts being bestowed by God upon those He selects for salvation such as the ability to speak in tongues.