The Cemetery Man: A Child's True Ghost Sighting

Photo by Jim Champion/geograph.org.uk
Photo by Jim Champion/geograph.org.uk

Can the Dead Greet the Living?

This is a true story that happened in the fall of 1991. At that time, my eldest daughter. age 4, was just starting her second year of pre-school. The pre-school she attended was held in the parish house of an old New England church. There was a small playground area with slide, climbing apparatus and swings, but it was located on the opposite side of the church from the parish house. In order to use the playground, the teachers would line the children up, and they'd all hold on to a loop on a long rope to keep them together. Then the teacher would walk behind the line of little ones, along the narrow lanes of the churchyard cemetery, behind the church, to reach the play area at the other side.

This church was founded in the early 1700's and many of the graves date back to that time. It is a pretty cemetery, with a low stone wall, large shade trees, and scattered rows of ancient grave markers.

Photo by davefalconer/geograph.org.uk
Photo by davefalconer/geograph.org.uk

A Paranormal Event

One day, I arrived, as usual, to pick my daughter up from pre-school, She had stayed later, in the day care that day, so I could get some errands done before picking her up. There were only a few children at the pre-school when I arrived. I walked into the classroom, where my daughter was busily creating an imaginary meal with some miniature pots and pans on a child's toy stove. Another child was napping on a pallet on the other side of the room.

I was about to greet Mrs. Landow, one of the pre-school's teachers, when I stopped short in surprise. Mrs. Landow, normally a vivacious and talkative woman, was sitting, quite still, at her desk, hands clasped tightly in front of her on the blotter. She was watching my daughter play, but her eyes seemed almost glazed over, as if she wasn't really seeing my daughter, but was lost in thought. She did not look up and greet me, as she normally would, when I walked in, but continued to stare, rather wide-eyed, in the direction of my daughter.

"Mrs. Landow?" I said, and she jumped as though prodded by a jolt of electricity.

"Oh, you scared me!" she said, pressing one hand against her chest and swallowing hard. Her face was as white as a sheet, and she appeared to me to be quite upset about something.

"Is there something wrong?" I asked.

"Oh, no!" she answered in a breathy voice, "You just startled me!"

I hesitated, noting her almost panicked expression and the paleness of her face.

"Are you sure you're okay?" I asked.

Mrs. Landow glanced over at the children and back at me and let her breath out slowly.

"Yes, I'm fine," she said, "just had a very odd experience, and I'm afraid it has really spooked me", and she laughed nervously.

"Really? What happened?"

Mrs. Landow stood and leaned back, placing a hand behind her on the desk, and stared at the floor, as if deciding whether or not to tell me.

"Mrs. Landow? What happened?"

source: Wikimedia Commons
source: Wikimedia Commons

She looked up with a slight smile and met my gaze for a moment before responding.

"Well," she said, "I don't know if you believe in.... ghosts and such, but what just happened a little while ago has got me really shaken up." She hesitated a moment longer before going on.

"I was taking the children to the playground, like we always do" she said, "and I lined them up and each child took a loop on the rope... there were, I think, ten kids today.... anyway - we walked through the cemetery to the play area and we stayed there for about 20 minutes while they played. The church bell struck the half hour, and I gathered the kids together and lined them up again with the rope to take them back to the classroom."

"We had just started out along the cemetery lane, and were passing by a plot of very old gravestones. All of a sudden, the children all looked toward the stones on the right hand side, and began to smile and wave. A few of them called out "Hi!" as we walked along. But there was nobody there! I asked the children - 'who are you waving at?' - And Carly Wilkins piped up, "That man! He's waving at us!"

"I'm telling you, there was NO ONE THERE! I scanned the whole area as we kept walking, I mean, it was bright sunlight! Trust me, there was no one in that cemetery but me and the children. Needless to say, I picked up the pace a bit and got back to the classroom as fast as I could. When I told Mrs. Heath" (another of the pre-school's teachers) "about it, she was alarmed. She thought it might have been some guy lurking around, watching the children, who shouldn't be there. She asked several of them to describe who they had seen. They each answered the same way.... there was a "nice man" they said, standing there, among the headstones and wearing a tall hat, who was smiling and waving at them. So they just waved back!"

This was the premise of the movie The Sixth Sense, where a withdrawn child was under the care of a psychologist who learned the child's secret: he saw dead people!

"I See Dead People"

Do Children See Ghosts More Often Than Adults?

It has long been understood that children are particularly sensitive to the spirit world around them. For centuries it has been recorded that spirits and ghosts have appeared with much more frequency to children, particularly very young children, than to adults. Athena A. Drewes, child psychologist and licensed parapsychologist, explains that the reasons for this are really quite simple.


First, Drewes stresses that, in all her years of studying children's psychic experiences, she does not see any indication that children tend to "create" these experiences themselves for attention, as some skeptics have proposed. She also stresses, however, that parents must be aware that psychosis can sometimes be present when a child describes "seeing" spirits or ghosts or even so-called "imaginary friends". It is important for parents to be aware of any additional symptoms aside from these sightings that may indicate a mental health issue.

Why Are Children More Able to See Spirits?

Having said that, a child seeing spirits does not mean that there is anything wrong with the child. It is known that children are more perceptive and able to pick up on elements of their surroundings that adults may miss. One of the reasons for this is that the survival instincts of young children are in high gear. Because they are such vulnerable human beings, their "radar" is super sensitive, especially when it comes to human emotion and interaction.

Secondly, young children do not acquire social "filters" until they go to school, where they quickly learn to moderate what they say to fit in with their peers and avoid being ostracized. A child age 2 to 5 or 6 years of age is much more likely to simply express what they see without regard to what people are going to say about it. Once these filters kick in, about age 6 to 7, they quickly evolve to include self-filtering of thought as well as expression to others.

A Medium Discusses Childhood Ghost Sightings

In other words, the child begins to push thoughts and experiences to the back of his mind that he senses will not be acceptable or "normal" to his peers. He teaches himself not to "see" what he may have noticed earlier in his life.

This combination of extra sensitivity to the nuances of her surroundings and lack of social filters prior to school-age makes it much more likely that a young child will notice - and describe - a paranormal event.

Here a well-known Australian medium explains childhood "ghost" sightings and what parents should and should not do.

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Great Movie About A Psychic Child

The Sixth Sense (Collector's Edition Series)
The Sixth Sense (Collector's Edition Series)

This movie illustrates the social "filtering" that a psychic child may feel he must do. Wonderful film.

 

My Child's Ghost Sighting

I was fascinated by Mrs. Landow's story, and sorry that I hadn't gotten there earlier so I could have asked a few of the children about it myself. Some of my own family members from generations past were buried in that cemetery! And I believed every word Mrs. Landow had told me. She wasn't the kind of person who would embellish a story for effect, and she seemed genuinely unnerved by the event.

When I got my daughter in the car and started out toward home, I asked her about who she'd seen in the cemetery. This was her reply:

"Oh, there was a funny man there! He had a black suit on and a big tall hat and silly boots - and he was smiling at us and waving to us. We said hi and waved back at him."

I couldn't get her to accurately describe what she meant by "silly boots", but it could have been that he was wearing 19th century men's shoes, which were more like ankle boots than the shoes worn by men today. I asked her if he looked strange at all, if he was shiny, or if you could see through him or anything like that. She said no, he was just a regular man.

For Parents With Psychically Sensitive Children

Kids Who See Ghosts: How to Guide Them Through Fear
Kids Who See Ghosts: How to Guide Them Through Fear

Written by a psychotherapist who has worked with psychic children, this book answers many questions and concerns of parents who believe their child is experiencing ghost sightings.

 

Who Was the Spectral Man in the Cemetery?

That church and its cemetery are not far from my home, and I often pass by it on my travels around town. I never fail to think of the story Mrs. Landow told me, and I still wonder who the man was, why was he waving at the children, and how could it be that all ten children saw him, but Mrs. Landow did not?

I guess I will never know the answer, but my daughter, now 24 years old, says she still remembers seeing the man, and that he just looked like a normal man in old fashioned clothes who was smiling and waving at the children passing by.




Another TRUE ghost story: The Specter of Captain Kelley

Did you know there are SIX TYPES of hauntings?

© 2011 Katharine L Sparrow

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Seeker7 5 years ago from Fife, Scotland

What a fascinating hub!

I've been interested and studied the paranormal since I was fourteen. This kind of encounter you have described wonderfully, for me, make some of the best evidence for the existence of spirits - because of the multi-witnesses and same description! I think many sceptics, when they hear believers talk about the paranormal, think about the horror movies and so find it hard to accept. The paranormal is not like the movies, but it is probably more startling for all that when you do experience an event.

Children are different. They just accept it and are open to any possibility. That is why, like most animals, they can see, hear, smell and touch the paranormal when adults can't.

A wonderful story. Voted up + awesome!


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JamaGenee 4 years ago from Central Oklahoma

I've lived in many houses and apartments that had at least one resident ghost. One, in an old house in which each of the two floors had been converted into an apartment, was where we lived when my son had just turned two and therefore wasn't talking yet. Several times I walked into his bedroom to find him sitting on his bed, apparently watching "someone" walk around the room. Once he was even jabbering away, as if he and the person only he could see were having a lively conversation! Later, when he could talk and hopefully tell me who he saw and was talking to, he couldn't remember any of the instances I witnessed, which to me means he wasn't scared and the "person" was supposed to be there. It was possibly the same man I saw one time cross the hall from the living room and go into the bathroom, which was next to my son's room, but maybe not.

In another place, I'd sometimes catch our Siamese intently watching "somebody" in various rooms of the house. Whoever it was, I couldn't see him/her, but Murphy apparently did.

I don't doubt 10 pre-schoolers saw the same "nice man in a tall hat" waving at them, so they waved back. Really a shame, though, Mrs. Landow wasn't as receptive! I'm guessing she slept with the lights on for many nights after that incident!


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LGrey 4 years ago from Alabama

Kids are definitely more receptive than adults. I think as we grow older a lot of us "turn off" that part of ourselves.

Great hub and story!


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August Xavier 4 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

Good story. I find these phenomena fascinating, whether I believe in them or not I can't really say. I want to, but I'm stuck in this empirical frame of thought. I believe what my own two eyes tell me-for better or worse. My brother says he has had experiences but sometimes I think it's just his over-active imagination.


neil 3 years ago

I do believe in spirits. My dad passed away and a friend and I went hunting. We were waiting in the car for daylight so we could walk up road. The road lit up but nothing was there. No person ne vehicle. Nothing I got my first. Buck that day. I think it was my dad telling me to get to his place where he used to sit cause where I got it.

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