Why Forgive

Forgive?

Having a hard time forgiving? It hurts when someone does you wrong, especially if they show no sorrow or care that you've been wounded. You may be suffering from a huge betrayal...possibly from years ago...but it feels as fresh as if it happened today. And yet, something inside is saying "it is time to forgive."

Forgive and Be Forgiven

Forgiveness, and being forgiven, are fundamental to a healthy life. Medically it has been proven that many physical and mental ailments are rooted in the inability, or unwillingness, to forgive an offense. Spiritually speaking, the Bible makes it crystal clear that forgiveness is vital to our relationship with God. If we want to be forgiven our sins, we are directed to forgive. Luke 6:37

But forgiving is not easy. Many times the offender has not changed one bit. They may not believe that they have done anything wrong at all. Even if they do recognize it, there may not be any remorse or an attempt to change on their part. So, what do you do with that?

The Lord loves us too much to give us an impossible directive--especially one that is tied to our very relationship with Him. Yes, He really does say, "forgive and be forgiven." It all begins with us.

So, what does He expect us to do if nothing's changed or even got worse?

Forgive anyway. Forgiveness as an act of loving obedience to the God we serve. It has very little to do with the one who needs forgiveness.

God gave His only begotten Son, Jesus, to die in our place though few, if any, were sorry at all. He didn't wait for us to feel bad about it. Sadly, most would have sinned the same sin again, given the chance. No, God did not wait for mankind to repent or change our ways. He gave His Son with no strings attached. A free gift of amazing proportions.

Afterward, all He asked of those who have accepted that sacrificial gift is that we do the same thing, in a very small way. We can never match the magnitude of what He did for us but we can pursue the power to forgive others, by faith. Ask Him to give you the faith and strength to forgive. He will answer you!

So that's what it takes, an act of faith and obedience. Do you trust Him? He does not ask us to do the impossible. In fact, Jesus said that "all things are possible to him that believes". Mark 9:23

A down-to-earth lesson on how to forgive the unforgivable, by Joyce Meyer.

Joyce Meyer had much to forgive. Let her tell you how she did it and what forgiveness can do for you.
Joyce Meyer had much to forgive. Let her tell you how she did it and what forgiveness can do for you.

Forgiveness Test Part 1 -- Joyce Meyer

A Story of True Forgiveness

This wonderful woman from Minneapolis, featured on CBS Evening News, knows the true power of forgiveness. She forgave her son's murderer and, today, that former-murderer actually lives right next door.

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The Lord's Prayer

Even if you have not opened a Bible or attended a church for years, you are probably familiar with the Lord's Prayer. When Jesus gave this prayer, it was in response to His disciples' frustrated plea for instructions on how to pray effectively.

They'd watched His prayer life and had seen the results. The lame walked, the blind received their site, miracles happened. They knew that they fell woefully short with their own prayers. The Lord's Prayer is not as much a prayer to be prayed, though we do, but a pattern of the important things to touch upon when we pray.

Matthew 6:9-13 Jesus speaking:“This, then, is how you should pray:“‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’

Matthew 6:14,15 Jesus adds:  "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

Notice the part in the Lord's Prayer on forgiveness, in bold type. When we pray this prayer it assumes that we forgave others, and therefore we have every right to ask the Lord to forgive us, too. Forgiving is so very important.

How to Become a Christian

The first step in receiving God's help in forgiving others is to have a real relationship with Him yourself. If you aren't sure that you know Him, here is what to do: God's Four Spiritual Laws.

About the Author...

Sinea Pies is a freelance writer who writes frequently on HubPages, GVParent Magazine, WebAnswers and her own website: Ducks 'n a Row.

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So much of forgiving, and not taking it back, comes from our thoughts. Conquer your thoughts and you will win the battle! In this recent release, Joyce Meyer teaches how to think powerful, positive thoughts get your breakthrough.

 
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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

I think when we find it difficult to forgive is when we forget how much we have been forgiven. No matter what happens to us it never will compare to the debt we owed God and our crimes against Him.

I also think of Jesus when the scripture says that He really didn't seek vengeance because He entrusted Himself to the one who judges fairly. When we forgive we essentially express our faith that God is good loving and fair and He will take care of matters in His own good time and in His own good ways.

I liked how you showed how unforgiveness can affect us not only spiritually but will manifest in our physical conditions as well.

A thought inspiring article.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

You are so right, Tamarajo.


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Steph Harris 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom

A very good Hub, forgiving is the number one step to living a happier, healthier life.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Wouldn't it be a great world if we'd all learn how to do this?


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jackie.t 5 years ago

Thanks Sinea, for this great hub. I am having a hard time forgiving someone right now, your hub has come at the perfect time to remind me how important it is to forgive, to let go and ultimately to trust the Lord.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

You'll be glad you did. I think we all need to remember that the only One who can truly be trusted is the Lord, Himself. All the rest of us will fall short at some time or other.


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rachelsholiday 5 years ago

Thank you so much for this hub. I think it is also important to note that sometimes you need outside help (meaning help from sources other than God) to forgive. I was sexually assaulted 3 years ago and I'm having a really hard time forgiving the guy because I'm finding it hard to forgive myself. I've recently started counseling and that helps a lot.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Yes, sometimes we just can't do it alone. You make a very good point, rachelsholiday. Thank you.


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James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

Thank you for this lovely missive. You are spot on. We must forgive to be forgiven. And it is good for our health to be a forgiving person. I am blessed that God has given me this gift.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Me too. Thanks, James, for the encouraging comment.


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Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

I learned forgiveness to survive when I got a mother-in-law so I know what you are saying but although I simply forgave her for my benefit it seems to me the bible says that you forgive ever how many times someone asks you to and I came here because of really bad times I was having with nursing homes etc abusing and finally killing my mother and I don't see how that is my business to forgive them for what they did to her. ??


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Jackie Lynnley, that is a tough one. Forgiving does not mean, though, that they are off the hook...just your hook. God knows what they did and He has a way of taking care of things.


blog8withJ 5 years ago

I wrote an article about forgiveness too. It does help you a great deal if you choose to forgive someone.


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Sinea Pies 5 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

So right blog8withJ


Ruth 4 years ago

Thanks for directing our thoughts to forgiveness. My husband and I have received training from Peacemakers.net and are ingesting the message that we who have been forgiven the most can most forgive. The world will be awed and drawn to Jesus when they see the forgiveness that only happens because of the gospel.


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Sinea Pies 4 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Thank you very much, Ruth, for you kind words.


Charlotte 4 years ago

Remembering the story of Joseph and his brothers always helps me with forgiveness. It's so true that being unforgiving can cause all kinds of problems including health problems. I'm glad you shared this post.

Blessings,

Charlotte


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Sinea Pies 4 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Charlotte, when I get to heaven, I have plans to meet with Joseph! :) Next to Jesus, he is my all-time hero. What an example. Thanks so much for your lovely comment.


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snigdha.s 4 years ago from India,mumbai

Great hub.It is easy to forgive people who hurt you but very difficult to forgive those who hurt your loved ones.


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Sinea Pies 4 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Thank you so much, snigdha.s. You are so right.


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calico Stark 4 years ago from Earth for the time being

Those closest to us can hurt us the most. It is hard to forgive. I mean sure we can say the words but it is a whole different thing to not hold it against the trespasser. I heard some great wisdom from the Lord once. He said in the quiet of prayer time..."Why should you hold that persons past against them when I don't?" Talk about "OUCH!" I think it is easier to believe we are more pliable in the Father's hands than the next guy. There is no taking the "u" out of the term self-righteoUs. Great Hub! Vote up!


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Sinea Pies 4 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Calico Stark, you are so right. Thanks for the read and the vote UP!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

On a selfish level, hanging on to a wrong can be taxing and increase stress level. Plus you're always waiting for some revenge and justice that may not come. Better to just let go of the hurt and spend your emotional energies on my positive pursuits. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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Sinea Pies 4 years ago from Northeastern United States Author

Thanks for the big votes, alocsin. True. Unforgiveness is dangerous to the one who can't..or won't..forgive. It can affect everything in their lives, including their health.

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