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Live and Let Live

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    Emile Rposted 2 years ago

    We all enjoy sharing our individual philosophies; but, at what point does it turn into pushing them? Where do we draw the line in our mind as to what is personal opinion and what should be viewed as universal truth?

    I'm asking because it seems to me, when we seek to marginalize the value of another belief we drag the value of our own in the wake. I see the inherent value in debating an individual on their stated beliefs, but trivializing an entire group by our perception of what we think they think seems to be a less than desirable stance. Tried and convicted in the court of malicious gossip  in order to showcase our perceived value of our own philosophy seems a little insecure, to me.

    Thoughts?

    1. Slarty O'Brian profile image87
      Slarty O'Brianposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I find that I become inspired my having my ideas challenged to the full extent of my opponent's ability. It gets the best out of me. It doesn't do that for everyone but that's how I learn. Putting my ideas through a test of fire. It makes people do research and form educated opinions, regardless of the chaos we see on the surface.

      I do not get offended by anyone or what they say. I think everyone entering a debate, and that is  what these forums are when it comes to topics like religion and politics, needs to grow a very thick skin. Didn't our parents always tell us not to discuss those subjects in public? This is why. In the real world these discussions lead to violence. Here they lead to insults for those who are easily insulted.

      I don't think these forums are for everyone. That is to say I don't think some people can handle them and perhaps shouldn't be here. But then again I have seen people who are at first appalled, who once they learn the ropes do very well.

      I doubt that unless a religious vs atheism forum is structured and highly moderated, it ever be a place of mild discussion.

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        Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Well, as I said. Debating the individual makes sense. Broad assumptions don't. We have no idea what anyone thinks until they tell us. Derogatory prejudgment only shows our limitations and personal bias. Assuming someone is close minded is, in itself, close minded.

      2. Castlepaloma profile image22
        Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Much in agreement with Starty.

        It's all a learning process, when too many people major in minor things, how much do we learn?. A branch of kindness dose help the balance.

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        Motown2Chitownposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Aw, I know you mean me, of course wink  in truth, getting to know you and talking with you made my forum time quite educational and a LOT of fun.

        Not that you really meant me, but I did want to chime in.  smile

        1. Castlepaloma profile image22
          Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Well your kindness is delightful and some of your small talk can be interesting. It's more of the one;s that are one-sided limited thinkers.

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            Motown2Chitownposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Thank you, Castle.  I strive for kindness and honesty always.  I'm grateful to know I hit the mark occasionally.  I appreciate the compliment.  smile

    2. Disappearinghead profile image89
      Disappearingheadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Though I understand what you are trying to say, I came out of many years in an evangelical Christian environment, and though many make more of the 10,000 denominations argument than it has merit, evangelicals do broadly believe the same things. I can testify that they are very uniform in their opinions as not to be runs the risk of not being 'a true Christian' with the result of going to hell. So I do believe that their opinions are largely that of the group, and fair game to be challenged. Similarly the atheists here also share a herd mentality with regards to their anti-religion stance.

      If anyone here makes unqualified statements they are going to be taken to task and run the risk of mockery if they blindly hold onto positions when their error is exposed.

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        Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I do think any statement made by anyone is far game for challenge. However,  I haven't polled enough evangelicals of varying denominations to feel comfortable acting as if all who bear that name are of one mind. Heck, even if i disagree with the reasoning behind the conclusions of one doesn't imply that someone who states the same conclusions used the same line of reasoning. I wouldn't deign to think i knew what someone thinks without giving them the benefit to state what they think. Unless, I'm venting. At which point that reflects poorly on me, not anyone else.

        My only point was the value of any belief system lies in the good it does. If your belief system requires you to belittle the beliefs of others, in order to feel good about yourself and your beliefs...where's the observable good in it?  I do realize you are a special case. You were an evangelical. But, (correct me if I'm wrong) you were a Pentecostal. A very minor sect about as far out there philosophically as the JW.   At least around here.

        But, using the exact same behavior patterns one claims to be railing against gets confusing to watch.  The lines get blurred to the point where they all look the same.

        1. Castlepaloma profile image22
          Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          A few times I've said, don’t understand Christian.  It’s my only claim, over all, no better, no worst.. It was penny who pointed out, its people I'm trying to understand better. Since most people are religious and must love them and respect everyone in order to love this world, first, they are family, ok… lover’s second, deep truth to be told. 

          May not ever understand the religious, when studying their behavior and observe their respect toward other groups and the millions of species on earth. Many of the religious think people who commit abortions are the greatest murderers on earth, That;s all we need!, more human’s for the rat race and no gays, so on and so on….

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            Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I will agree that I don't understand a lot of the things religious people say they believe. And, sometimes, their reasoning comes off as veiled hate. It's simply that if we respond to what we consider to be disrespect with disrespect, I don't see where we are any different than that which we rail against.

            I actually started this thread because of a bombardment of threads by someone who kept asking what made Christians so pushy about their beliefs. If you start shoving back, aren't you also guilty of attempting to push your beliefs? Right, or wrong, everyone is entitled to believe whatever they want. If we attempt to belittle and degrade we are attempting to change beliefs through intimidation.

    3. Don W profile image84
      Don Wposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      The point where those beliefs are invoked as the primary reason for imposing behavior on others.

      1. wilderness profile image96
        wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Good answer - there's a lot of truth in that.

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        Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        That encompasses a great deal more than most would admit to. Since, anyone who forcefully enters a debate can be accused of such. Unfortunately, within the topic of religion and philosophy, it is difficult for most to accept their thoughts on the matter fall into the category of belief.

        1. Castlepaloma profile image22
          Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          it feels like the suspension of disbelief with many final answers answered being-:You got to have faith:, often blind faith at that. If I were to talk to my imaginary friend, they take me away to the funny farm, (maybe not an artist).. If a Christian deal with their imaginary friends, they can cause wars, imprison and get their taxes cut.
          It's not just Christians, it's the whole idea of US against Them thing, that is such a waste of energy.

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            Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I agree that 'us against them' is a waste of energy and myopic. I think that's my point. We are all myopic, but we rail against others because they are myopic.

        2. Don W profile image84
          Don Wposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I think there is a unique problem in the space where religious belief intersects with civic engagement. The very nature of religious belief means that certain religious views are not open to argument for the person holding that view. When those views are used as the basis for public policy that affect everyone, including those of different faiths, and of those of none, then there is a problem.

          Those with religious belief need to translate their ideas and concerns into universal values that are meaningful to wider society, not just those who share the same beliefs. Someone can't simply invoke "god's will" as the justification for a proposal that would affect all of society. Instead we have to work within the common reality; Persuade, reason, and compromise.

          In my opinion, if someone cannot present the benefits of their ideas at societal level, without resorting to invoking god's will, then they have failed in civic engagement. Insisting on those idea regardless is, I believe, the point where religious belief becomes an imposition on anyone who does not share that belief.

          1. Castlepaloma profile image22
            Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Accept for the greed for arguments, well said.

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            Emile Rposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Couldn't disagree with that.

  2. r-o-y profile image82
    r-o-yposted 2 years ago

    It becomes pushy when people can’t discuss a topic without name calling and trying to talk down to each other.  When people can’t have a different opinion without them being called a bigots or when tolerance means that I must cosign everything some other group does and stand for, or I’m anti-American.

    1. Dr Lamb profile image59
      Dr Lambposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      It seems to me that pushy ideas are those that others will call bigoted ideas. If one is claiming that we shouldn't allow same sex marriage or inter-racial marriage the he/she will be told that their ideas are bigoted and pushy.

      1. r-o-y profile image82
        r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I never brought up anything about same sex marriages, but since we’ll on the subject I would like to make clear my stand on the subject.  First I would like to say that people should stop equating same sex marriages with inter-racial marriages.  One is natural the other is not! One can produce children [which seems to be the reason for sex] the other cannot, what purpose does fulfill accept the lust between two men for each other?

        Now having said that, if the US law states that it’s constitutional for same sex marriages to take place, then so be it. If the law says they have a right to full benefits of marriage, then do your thing!  The law is the law [man’s law] but there’s a law higher than man’s law and that’s God’s law. I will obey the law of the government, but when it demand that I break God’s law to be accepted by this world.
        I see no pushiness in what I just wrote!

        Now because of what I wrote if it offend you to the point of calling me names, than you would be the one who are during the pushing!

        1. Dr Lamb profile image59
          Dr Lambposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          This is really very interesting and I want to be as clear as possible if I may. Are you saying you can express, share and promote your opinion (which is based on your religion) that strips the rights of a group of people of the same rights you have based on that religious opinion. In essence attempting to deny a group of people an equal opportunity in your country. You don't think that's pushy but if someone were to come along and say that that's a bigoted opinion that opinion would be pushy.

          Did I get that right?

          1. r-o-y profile image82
            r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Know you didn’t get that right, what I attempted to state is that if the laws of these United States says it your right to marry two people of the same sex than go on and marry with the full benefits of marriage, if that is indeed what the law of the land states.  If it’s your opinion that this is ok to have same sex marriages, than that’s just your opinion, and I have a right to my opinion which is that it serves no useful purpose.

            Nowhere in this did I deny anyone any rights which belong to them according to the law of the land.  I never deny anyone theirs rights if it’s the law of the land. But what I don’t like is that my rights are being denied, when I’m being force to accept something that I believe to be wrong. I’ll live and let live, but I expect the same from you.  You will never make me believe that it’s ok for two men with the same seed to have sex, that’s my opinion, and I have that right just as you do.

            Now I have threw right to not have my children exposed to something to that I don’t think would not be in their best interest. Just as I have a right to protect my children from getting involved in gangs and drugs, this is my rights. When you try to force your lifestyle on me you violate my rights.

            1. wilderness profile image96
              wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              What are you being forced to accept?  That someone else can do something your god says is wrong? 

              You DO realize, do you not, that you are not the final arbiter here?  That your opinion doesn't mean diddly to anyone else and that you have no right to impose your opinion on them?

              You aren't being "forced" to do anything but leave people alone to act as they wish, hurting no one.  In particular, you are not being forced to live any lifestyle you don't want to (except that you may not exert arbitrary control over others).

              1. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                If God didn’t say it is wrong, I still don’t believe it would not be right for me and my family.  A man and a woman have the necessary equipment to pull this sex act off; two men just are built for this type of activity. I know I’m the final arbiter, but neither are you, did you know that? You are already getting pushy, I never forced my opinion on anyone, but you seem to think you have a right to your opinion and I don’t have that same right.

                I never even brought up the conversation of same sex marriages that were something that you have a problem with. I’ll Leave those people alone who leave me alone, we wouldn’t be having this conversation if you had not come here trying to force your opinion on me! Show me in my post where I tried control others, all I did was the same as you, and that is state my opinion on the matter that you brought up! If anything it’s you who come here to try to force your opinion on me!

                1. wilderness profile image96
                  wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  You are ignoring or missing the whole point; you DO NOT have the (moral) right to control others any more than necessary than for the safety of society.

                  Same sex marriage offers zero harm to society; it does not need controlled.  Yet a great many people WILL control it, ban it and the people practicing it.  And perhaps I misread, but I got the definite impression that you would be one of those voting to control and ban it.  Was I wrong?  Would you vote to permit it in your state?

                  Finally, yes I will always try to force an opinion on you - the opinion that everyone has the right to live as they please without interference.  That it must be tempered with the comment that they can cause no harm doesn't materially change it, and I will absolutely try to force that on you and everyone else I can.  Matthew 7:12 may be the most important verse in your scriptural book, but also the most forgotten.

                  1. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    PLEASE, try to understand I'm not trying to force my opinion on anyone, I'm simply doingh what you are doing, and that's stating my opinion. If its wrong for me to do thss, than its worng for you and we all should just stop posting!

                  2. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Do I not have that same right?

            2. EncephaloiDead profile image60
              EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Same sex marriage may not serve a purpose for you, but that doesn't mean it isn't serving a purpose for those who want to get married.

              Of course, you appear to equate marriage with sex and reproduction, which is your fatal error in reasoning.



              Sure, you have a right to that bigoted opinion, but what does it have to do with you, anyways? Nothing.



              No one is forcing gay marriage on you, it has nothing to do with you or your children. YOU are the one trying to force your opinions on others, not the other way round.

              1. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Do you see the problem why people can’t have a difference of opinion and discuss it in the proper manner? It’s because it always results in name calling!

                Again, show me in my post where I’m trying to force my opinion on others!

                1. EncephaloiDead profile image60
                  EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Where on earth do you see any name calling? What kind of ridiculous accusation is that?





                  Your opinion to equate gay marriage to gang infested ghettos.

              2. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Please explain to me what you mean by your statement of equating marriage with sex and reproduction, because you’ve completely lost me on that one.

                1. wilderness profile image96
                  wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Perhaps because not all marriages involve sex, and it's to the point now that the majority of marriages do not involve reproduction. 

                  Yet, your comment that "I have a right to my opinion which is that it [gay marriage] serves no useful purpose. "  pretty strongly indicates that you think a marriage must show both sex AND reproduction or it serves no useful purpose.  A rather obvious fallacy.

                  1. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    a rather obvious fallacy? please explain!

                2. EncephaloiDead profile image60
                  EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Wow, how soon believers forget what they say. Right here:

                  1. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    What did I say?

            3. Dr Lamb profile image59
              Dr Lambposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Just to give you an idea of how bigoted your opinion sounds lets imagine we were talking about inter-racial marriage, as not long ago it was also not lawful. Would you be making claims that your rights are being infringed upon by an inter-racial couple moving into your area and exposing your children to that?

              Because untimely it's the same thing. Discrimination.

              1. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                It’s your opinion that I sound bigoted and you have a right to your opinion. Being a black man that grew up the deep sought during 1950’s and 60, I’m well aware of the problem with this inter-racial thing I know first-hand the pain of discrimination. I would never try to cause that pain to anyone, but that has nothing to do with homosexual activity.

                The homosexual is free to sex it up with whomever they which they have this freedom.  No one is stopping the homosexual having sex,  but it was against the law of the land to marry inter-racially, do you see the difference.

                One have aq free-will choice, the other don’t.

                1. Dr Lamb profile image59
                  Dr Lambposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Now I'm really confused. You claim you would never cause the pain of discrimination to anyone and I certainly respect and appreciate that. There was a time when inter-racial marriages were against the law and there was a time when same sex marriage was against the law. They are now both legal, right, so why are you discriminating against homosexuals by claiming you don't what your family exposed to them. It seems like the very same thing some would have said about inter-racial marriage.

                  1. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    didnt I say that if the law of the land says they have a right to marry, than let the marry? If the inter-racial couple wants to marry and the law of the land says its ok for thgem to marry, trhan let them marry. I see no discriminating in any of this.

        2. janesix profile image59
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Interesting.

          Should infertile people be banned from having sex too? They can't produce children.

          How about pregnant women? They can't produce children, so should they be allowed to have sex?

          1. Castlepaloma profile image22
            Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Everyone could be allowed to have sex after of age 18. Maybe age16 for straights or maybe age 12 like in the Bible stories, kidding about the bible stories and Pope, I was not there, behind secrete doors to know.

            I do know about 80 predominate religious countries have illegal same sex -sex laws and death penalty in 10 of them.

            That is a lot more than an opinion, it's against the law of love and the law of nature and the law within the animals species.
            Roy, I hope you never have twins and one of them is gay, because 50% chance the other child will be gay too.

            1. r-o-y profile image82
              r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I don't care who have sex with whom, again, I say its not for me and my family, if you can't respect that, than it is you trying to force your opinion on me. Just because the majority agree on something doesn't make it right!

              1. janesix profile image59
                janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                I have to agree with you that just because the majority thinks something is right, that it is right.

                1. EncephaloiDead profile image60
                  EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  That is a fallacy referred to as an appeal to popularity.

                  Here's how it really works. When something is right and it is understood by people, they will accept it as right. The majority know evolution is right, those who don't clearly have no clue and are a minority.

                  1. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    You was supposed to be explaining to me what you meant by stating that sex have nothing to do with reproduction; I’m still waiting on that.

                    Are you stating that evolution is a fact? There was a time when most of the world thought the world was flat, but that didn’t stop it from being round. Because the majority agree on something dosn’t make it right!

              2. wilderness profile image96
                wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                It certainly doesn't!  That the majority thinks a harmless action should be prohibited does NOT make that prohibition right. 

                Just as you say, opinions matter naught; what matters is the results.  Gay marriage has no result except happiness of two people, so all the opinions that god hates it matters nothing.

            2. wilderness profile image96
              wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              "That is a lot more than an opinion, it's against the law of love and the law of nature and the law within the animals species."

              Against your concept of a "law of love"??  Outside your own mind there is absolutely no such law. 

              Against the "law of nature" and another madeup "law within the animals species"????  Do you have any idea at all just how many species regularly practice homosexuality??  Or multiple "spouses"??  Your "laws" are nothing but your own imagination!!

              1. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                I can love you anhd still don't agree with your lifestyle!

  3. Castlepaloma profile image22
    Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago

    wilderness

    Everything I've ever achieved in life was all once imagined.

    Maybe a  misunderstanding, I'm for same sex, although not gay myself, nothing is wrong with that.

    Everyone or groups task, is to love, why should there be a law against same sex love? Love is  when two people or thing are stronger together than apart. It's been proven thousand of species have same sex -sex and mate for life. Plus all animal love.

    1. r-o-y profile image82
      r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Not being a homosexual myself, I just can’t see how a man can have sexual desire for another, when I see two men kiss each other in the mouth, I almost lose my dinner.  Now if it’s having that kind of effect on me, what am I supposed to do, put my stamp of approval on it? Then I would be untrue to myself to please another, nothing good could come from that.

      1. Castlepaloma profile image22
        Castlepalomaposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Roy
        Would you join a world where everyone was just like you.
        I would not.
        10% of people prefer sex same sex, maybe some of them would throw up to watch you kiss a woman.

        1. r-o-y profile image82
          r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          No, I wouldn’t want to live in a world where everyone was like me, I’m unique and so are you, but one thing is sure, you are trying to get everyone in this world to be like you. Show you what I mean:
          Since we’ve started discussion on the problems of discussing in forums without being pushy, not once have I tried to convert you to Christ, you got to give me that.

          After I made my first comment in this forum [which had nothing to do with homosexuality] I have been hit with comments by people trying to convert me to their ways or at lease me see it as normal, trying to evangelize into their cult, I never tried to convert anyone of them to Christ.

          I tried to keep my religion out of it! To me it is the gay community who are trying to force their cult on others, trying to create a world where everyone is just like them!

          1. psycheskinner profile image81
            psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            You think gay people want to turn the world... gay?  That sounds a little paranoid to me.  I have never heard anything of the sort from any gay person.

          2. JMcFarland profile image90
            JMcFarlandposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            you think the gay community is a cult?  A cult of what?

            Please inform me, because I AM gay, and happily, legally married to my wife.  I don't force my gayness on anyone.  I don't make out in public in front of homophobic people.  I don't force straight people to hold hands or watch what goes on in our bedroom.  I'm not trying to convert people to gayness. 

            What exactly is the gay "lifestyle"?  Do you have a straight lifestyle?  What does that entail?  If you don't like gay marriage, don't go get one.   No one is forcing anything on you at all.

      2. psycheskinner profile image81
        psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, you should put your stamp of approval on people loving who they chose to love.  I do expect that of everyone in a compassionate society.  If you don't want to watch them kiss (I am no fan of public displays of affection myself) avert your eyes.

        I think religion is errant nonsense and delusion at a personal level.  But I certain put my stamp of approval on people pursuing any religion they want.  It is just the same as that.  I don't expect people to conduct themselves according to the workings of my brain or stomach.  They are living their own lives by their own standards and harming no one.

        1. r-o-y profile image82
          r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          That is your right to put your stamp of approval on it; you have a right to stand up for what you believe. I just happen to believe it not normal for one like me to want to have sex with me, I find that disturbing. I don’t want to be around men who are turned on by me; don’t I have a right to keep things away from me that disturbs me to such an extent? When I'm called a bigot for looking out for my peace I find that I am being violated. Rights go both ways.

          I don’t understand everybody wants to talk about religion.

          1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
            MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I wouldn't worry overmuch about it.

            1. janesix profile image59
              janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I don't want to be around donuts. They are conspiring to make me fat.

              1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                I'm tired of being hit on by men. I think all heterosexual males should be forced to be gay.

                1. janesix profile image59
                  janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  lol....I unfortunately don't have any men hitting on me, why don't you send some my way?

                  1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
                    MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Bah, I live in WV... (DEEEEEEEP WV), I have all my teeth. That's all you need down here. Unfortunately most of the men hitting on me also live here and most don't have all their teeth.

                    But if you're a fan of camo and chewing tobbacco and pick-up trucks with rebel flags in the windows, come on down. I'll hook you right up smile

          2. wilderness profile image96
            wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            No, you do NOT have the right to keep all people you don't like away from you.  You have to right to keep away from them, though, should you choose to pay the price of that instead of making them pay it.

            About the only exception is the legal right, enforceable by law, of a restraining order.  It's not given just for an opinion of lifestyle, though, and generally only to prevent violence.

            1. r-o-y profile image82
              r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I’m not sure your last post was meant for me because comment seem to be falling in places other than where they are supposed to be, maybe it time for me to get a new computer.
              If it was meant for me, here’s my reply:
              I never said anything about keeping all people away from me, but if I find something to my disliking I have the right to keep it away from my house. I never said they have no right to be anywhere they want to be, this is America the land of the free, go where they will, do what they, but not at my house where I’m the law to a certain extent.  If you are responding my post, than you are reading things into your post I never even implied.

              You got me wrong; I never said they don’t have the same legal rights under the law of the land if that’s the law of the land. You’ll try to force things here that don’t belong!

              1. wilderness profile image96
                wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Yes, I took "keep things away" to include people.  Apologies.

                But whatever does gay marriage have to do with your home?  Is this just a red herring to divert attention or do you really think you will be forced to supply bed an breakfast to a gay couple?

                Law - now it's you reading something that isn't there.  Except, of course, that you will do what you can to make laws banning such a marriage.  Without having a valid reason for doing so.

          3. EncephaloiDead profile image60
            EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            A simple solution for you, don't have sex with men. That was easy, wasn't it?

            1. r-o-y profile image82
              r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              t5hat was the point of my whole argument, its not for me, i think he's finally got It!

              1. EncephaloiDead profile image60
                EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Then, you have no problem.

      3. EncephaloiDead profile image60
        EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Those men might lose their dinner when they see you kiss a woman. So what?

        1. r-o-y profile image82
          r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I'm alright with that, because nothing they could mach what the evil looks I've gotten in certain places just being black, so if they lose their because its not for something I did , but because of what I look like.

          my problem with them is not how they look, but what they do.

          1. wilderness profile image96
            wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Now that I like.  Good attitude.

            Except for the part about a problem.  Why do you have a problem with their lifestyle?  How does it affect you?  (when answering, remember that they are not responsible for controlling your imagination smile )

            1. r-o-y profile image82
              r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I thought I explained that already, but since you missed it I’ll explain it again. I’m not comfortable being in the company of men who are attractive to other men, I  love women , I was a whore, that was my lifestyle, but I didn’t try to convince others that it was right or normal and called them bigots because they disagreed with my lifestyle.
              Am I imagining that I’m repulsed by men having the hot’s for other men? Am I imagining that I don’t want it in my house, what do you mean controlling my imagination?

              1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Of course you can choose not to be gay... It's not really a choice, btw, but anyway.

                You can have whatever you like or not have whatever you don't like in your home.

                But... that is technically bigotry. I'm sorry you don't like the word, but it's apt.

                My dad, for example, wouldn't let blacks in our house when I was younger. Black people repulsed him. It certainly repulsed him that I was having a relationship with a black guy. So then he wouldn't let ME in the house.

                Was that his right? Yep. Was he a bigot? Yep.

                1. r-o-y profile image82
                  r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  But he judge the person by what he looked like, there's nothing wrond with being black. look around you, blacks are some of the most gifted people on this earth, to judge a proson by what they look like a not for somerthing they've done is biggotry.

                  That why people need to stop trying equate the two, they are not the same!
                  If i don't want you in my house because you are crach-head, that's not being a bigot, its using my common sense!

                  callinng people bigot just because  they don't agree with your lifestyle is in itself bigotry!

                  1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
                    MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Actually, you don't disagree with my lifestyle. No one who's ever told me I was disgusting or going to rot in hell forever has ever disagreed with my lifestyle.

                    They have disagreed with who I am. Something that I can't change, something that I was born with.

                    I will absolutely equate the two. I have seen the same baseless prejudice against my son not because he was "acting black" but because he was black. Just like you don't want someone in your home because they might "act gay" others didn't want him in their home because he might "steal something" or "get high".

                    It's the same thought process, the same stereotyping behavior... you just don't like it when it's done to you and don't mind when it's done to others.

                  2. wilderness profile image96
                    wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Roy, you've been given some real food for thought tonight.  I really hope you will spend some time thinking about it.

                    For Melissa is right - you are exhibiting the behavior of a bigot.  Someone that dislikes someone else merely because they are different.  We all have some of that - it is a natural reaction of humanity - but it needs removed from our society at every opportunity.  It is imperative that we are all tolerant of other behaviors, other appearances, other lifestyles.  This land is to small to remain forever hating, forever fearing, forever at each others throats just because we're different. 

                    We all have it somewhere, sometime.  The only difference is what we do with it - do we spread hatred and fear or do we offer love and tolerance to people that are not as we are.  Think about it.

              2. wilderness profile image96
                wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Your imagination is the only thing that could be affecting you.  You may not know any gay people (either sex) or you may, but you can't tell.  So what's all the stress about?  Obviously only your own imagination. 

                No one will force gays into your home at gunpoint.  No one will require you to take the podium and declare to the world that being homosexual is a natural thing, even though it is.  No one will require you to visit a gay bar or a party with gay people present.

                Just give them the same opportunities you have; to marry the person they love and have certain legal responsibilities and duties as a result.

                1. r-o-y profile image82
                  r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  I understood conversation to be about homosexual, not wither or not I can recognize be sight, I know homosexuals and have had conversations with them,  if I’m approached by one I give him the same respect I would give a NORMAL  man. I do not try to shame them or anything like that I just refuse to be dragged into that cult.

                  You keep harping on the same thing, I keep telling you that if the law of the land says it’s their right to marry, then let them marry, the people has spoken, what more can I say? I never once said that they should not have the same rights as every other American, if that’s the law of America, I just don’t know what you are trying to get out of me.

                  If you are American, and the law says it’s your right to marry, than get marry, share your home together, but I don’t have to attend your wedding and cheer you on.  I believe there some American law that gives me that right.

                  So what point are you trying to prove by going in this circle other than to convince me that it’s a normal lifestyle, and something is wrong with me because you can’t convince me of your way of thinking, I’m not going to be evangelize by you, you are simply trying to force me into your way of thinking and if you can’t then I’m a bigot.  I don’t have a right to force my way of thinking, and you are wasting your if you think you will ever evangelize me!

                  1. wilderness profile image96
                    wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    "I never once said that they should not have the same rights as every other American"

                    Of course you did say they should not have the same rights.  When you said you would prevent them from marrying the person they love; a right that you have.

                    And perhaps I AM trying to evangelize; I am a very firm believer in both the Golden Rule and the concept of tolerance of others.  You have plainly denied that either one can be found in you, while at the same time demanding that others exhibit both towards you.  You don't want the gay "lifestyle" forced on you, and you demand tolerance of your intolerance.  You complain that no one will ever change you, that you will remain bigoted your entire life, and that is your choice but do not ask me to condone intolerance, hatred and fear.  You will not get it from me.

                  2. JMcFarland profile image90
                    JMcFarlandposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    You give then the same respect you would give a "normal" man?   Are you saying that Gay people are abnormal?

                    Roy, are you hit on by every female that crosses your path?   I imagine not.  Why on earth would you assume that any gay man would automatically hit on you?   Or are you disturbed by the fact that they're attracted to people that you don't agree with?

                  3. r-o-y profile image82
                    r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    I told you where I found that definition and I quoted it verbatim, I added nothing to it or have taken away from it. So if you have a problem with that definition you need to take it up with them. So what do you think of the other words you needed me to look up for you, did I get normal  right or does your dictionary say the opposite?

          2. EncephaloiDead profile image60
            EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            And, there problem with you is not how you look, but what you do. It's the same thing, they don't really care that you are into women and they are not, so why should you care if they are into each other, it is really none of your business.

            1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
              MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I'm bisexual whether I have sex with women or not. It's not a choice. I was born this way. I never sat down and decided to be attracted to men.

              It's not bigotry against what someone DOES. It's bigotry against who someone IS.

              I would venture to guess that most of the homophobes don't have gay people having sex on their yard. They don't like the person because they ARE gay, not because they have gay sex.

              1. r-o-y profile image82
                r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                If you belive that mess you are saying, i can see why you are so confuse about who and what you are and what sex you are. you sounbd like a very confused bperson!

                1. MelissaBarrett profile image61
                  MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Ah, personal attacks. Nice.

                  I'm absolutely not confused about who I am. Nice try though. Sorry but it will take more than that to insult me... or at least effectively.

                  I would think it would be more confusing to be part of a minority that was horribly stereotyped because of something they couldn't change, and hate it, yet be perfectly willing to do it to another group. That's confusion I COULDN'T live with.

            2. r-o-y profile image82
              r-o-yposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              First of all you and the gang made it my business, you brought this conversation up, you told me how you felt about the homosexual lifestyle and I told you how I felt the topic you brought up.

              I didn’t care one way or the other about the homosexual, but it seems to be something that was pressing on you mind, the only reason its my business is because you made it my business.

              1. JMcFarland profile image90
                JMcFarlandposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                You keep calling gayness a cult.   How so? Do you know what the word means?

              2. EncephaloiDead profile image60
                EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                The topic was only brought up as an example of bigotry, and no one at that point had mentioned anything about a "homosexual lifestyle", whatever that is, whereupon you leaped on the opportunity to say this:

                "The law is the law [man’s law] but there’s a law higher than man’s law and that’s God’s law. I will obey the law of the government, but when it demand that I break God’s law to be accepted by this world.
                I see no pushiness in what I just wrote! "



                No, we did not make it your business, it was only brought up as an example of bigotry and you took advantage of that opportunity to voice your bigoted opinion.

    2. wilderness profile image96
      wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Most definitely a misunderstanding - I apologize.

 
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