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  1. Dave Mathews profile image61
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    My sister suffered for 12 years she had High blood pressure, diabetese,hearing failure, asthma half a stomach,her kidneys and liver were failing,she also suffered from many female disorders, she could only walk assisted by a walker, and she battled depression.
    She was taking medication ontop of medication, some helped some were counter-active, some totally useless. Finally this past Wednesday she had suffered enough, with absolutely no hope period for anything so she took her life.
    My question is do you think God and Jesus would understand this about all of her suffering, and even though she killed herself, give her a pass into heaven?

    I believe that God, knowing my sister and how loving and caring she was to others and knowing her sufferings would show mercy and compassion and forgive her her final sin and grant her entrance into heaven where she belongs.

    1. Alya rose profile image62
      Alya roseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If that' what you believe in I'm sure your sister will be fine,happy,and safe,no one should have to suffer.

    2. lifegate profile image85
      lifegateposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Dave, thank God for the blood of Christ! It cleanses us from all sin. If your sister has put her trust in His blood thus forming an allegiance with Him, she is most assuredly in His presence at this very moment.

    3. stilljustwonderin profile image61
      stilljustwonderinposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I know it is hard.
      We all sin.  There is none perfect.  If only sinless people made it into heaven, no one would be there.  Our Lord looks in our hearts.
      From your description of your sister, the Lord sees love in her heart.
      During this difficult time in your life, just keep in mind that your sister is in a better place.  For her there is no more suffering, no more pain.  She is happy, feeling God's love.

    4. Daniel Carter profile image91
      Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      So very sorry this happened, Dave.

      All you have to do is put your sister's shoes on and see what it all feels like to determine how any human or even God should act or think about your sister's taking her own life.

      Wear the shoes, and see what it feels like. I think all judgment stops at that point.

      Sending kindest and best.

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      paarsurreyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hi friend  Dave Mathews

      I am sorry for you sister's death;

      The Creator- God Allah YHWH is Most Merciful and Master of the Day of Judgment; He can forgive needs no consultation from us.

      God bless her soul.


      I am an Ahmadi peaceful Muslim

  2. ediggity profile image61
    ediggityposted 6 years ago

    I am sorry for your loss.  I hope your sisters faith in Jesus was strong.  Only GOD can judge her for her actions, and I can honestly say I don't know if he will let it slide.

    1. getitrite profile image81
      getitriteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Simply put, his sister is now released from her life of pain, to suffer no more.  No more.

  3. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Dave, my father's case was similar to your sister's. He shot himself at the age of 85. He was a devout Christian and lived 3 weeks on machines after the incident. My dad's was not a selfish act. It was killing Mom to care for him.

    1. Dave Barnett profile image60
      Dave Barnettposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      What the divinity would probably not understand is providing our precious pets and certain other animals the luxury of a dignified out while denying it to those of our own kind who are suffering.

  4. liljen23 profile image72
    liljen23posted 6 years ago

    Dave I am sorry to hear this about your sister and it is sad, but I can honestly say I understand some of the things she went through. I have problems with asthma, kidneys, heart, lungs, anxiety, and depression. I have been so close to killing myself a few times but my faith in God turned it all around for me because I wanted Him to take my life when He feels it is my time to go. Not myself. I don't know if He will let her pass through but she was really suffering so it is up to Him to make the final call.


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    klarawieckposted 6 years ago

    So sorry to hear about your sister. You know she is in a good place. Hell was created by men to scare the living into doing right by the church. Don't worry about it. Focus on healing your personal pain and that of your family. God bless!

  6. skyfire profile image74
    skyfireposted 6 years ago

    I am sorry for your loss,dave.

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      Home Girlposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Nothing is worse than losing those who are dear to our heart. Be brave.

  7. Jerami profile image77
    Jeramiposted 6 years ago

    All of my best wishes to you and the whole family.

       As to your question?  I don't think suicide is an unpardinable sin.  Your sister bless her heart, was in pain and agony...  people tend to forget that when the body is in pain the brain isn't functioning at its best.

       Sounds to me that she was ill from the tip if her hair on her head to the end of her toe nails.

       I don't think that the way that she exited this life has anything to do with her destination.

      It is OK for big boys to cry sometimes.   
    Giving you my best wishees.

    1. luvpassion profile image59
      luvpassionposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Is there such a thing as an unpardinable sin...I don't think so.

      Dave my best to you...I'm so sorry for your loss.


      1. Jerami profile image77
        Jeramiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        If I "HAD" to say yes or no ?    I'd be leaning toward NO

  8. AEvans profile image72
    AEvansposted 6 years ago

    A mind can be a confusing thing and I believe God knew where her heart was. I believe she was forgiven. Nobody can understand the battle unless they have dealt with it or had friends or family who have fallen into that situation. My condolences to you and your family at this time of loss and may God tend to hold you in the palm of his hand. He has forgiven her. (((Hugs)))

  9. Lisa HW profile image83
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago


    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and of your sister's years of suffering.

    To me, it only makes sense that, besides knowing all the caring your sister did over the course of her life, any God would more than understand that suffering can become so unbearable to people, sometimes it's just too much for them to keep going on.  How, on Earth, could any all-knowing God not know or not understand such human-ness?  Besides, depression is physical condition, and so are any changes in thinking that can take place when people are on medication.  How could God not understand that her thinking may have been affected by her depression.  Nobody knows - maybe it was in God's plan that her suffering end.

    Sincerest wishes that you find a way to make me peace with her passing and find peace in knowing she's not suffering now.   I'm not sure what I believe about Heaven, but I can't imagine that if there is one, God would not let your sister in under those circumstances.