LOL. that about sums it up. I was arguing with someone on this site a while back and after a bunch of posts back and forth I remember looking through the string at how silly we both sounded arguing over some point neither would ever give ground on. I was embarrassed I'd stayed there so long.
Even when I am the one to loose an argument into the group, I still hate to lose that argument.
Seriously, though, I usually find that it is usually better to just keep my mouth shut; all too often I run out of smart stuff to say (takes about 2 sentences usually), keep talking and look like a fool.
First of all, what constitutes winning? Who decides who's won? Do you need the other person to agree with you? You have won when you're sure of who you are regardless of your inability to persuade others on a particular issue, when you are flexible in listening, when you do not berate others for their beliefs, and when you keep a sense of humor and perspective in all things.
The only reason I see for using the word Winning, Is because I have read many people calling what they do here in forums as debating. And the way in which they choose to "Debate" seems more like a boxing match than a discussion.
An exchange of ideologies between intelligent people is not a contest. And never turns into a contest of insults. When it does? I think that grandpas' advice should apply.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
A friend posted that on Facebook the other day, and I thought it very fitting advice. Now, I know that an idiot and fool are not quite the same, but arguing rarely gets one anywhere. It is usually best to show someone something, if it can be proven.
I took a test in a class and missed one question. When I took the test, I could see the answer going either way and I knew I could present a good argument for or against my answer. It was multiple choice, so I selected...