I have said and done things that I hurt others and those who I have hurt have given me second chances or forgiven me. Here's the problem, I try to do the same for others because the same was done for me, but I am under the impression that some people really do not change. How can I learn to forgive others but not be stupid enough to trust them once again? Does forgiveness really mean eliminating the past completely? I am struggling to forgive a few people, but I really do not want them in my life now and in the future. How can I honestly trust someone I know has stolen valuables from me or people my family keep warning me to stay away from? I like to see the good in the others, but I do not want to be stupid again to trust someone who has seem heartless.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget completely. You forget the anger. You forget the feeling of betrayal. You put it in perspective and move forward. You adjust your behavior in an attempt to be a positive influence.
If someone is a thief, it doesn't mean you pretend they aren't. You accept them for what they are and fashion your relationship accordingly, or step away. To allow them to continue to steal is not being a positive influence and just setting yourself up to be hurt again.
by JP Carlos5 years ago
Perhaps more than just forgiving the person, would you still think of continuing with the relationship?
by Leslie A. Shields6 years ago
We know that we will be better off if we forgive all of those things and and all of those people that have caused us pain....In this thread, ask for or give forgiveness. You don't have to give specific in details if you...
by maestrowhit8 years ago
If you were God, and had the power to forgive or condemn whomever you chose, would you let people go to Hell? Would there be a single person you would not forgive?If your answer is yes, then who would that be? and why?
by underhiswings7 years ago
Reasons for or against?How many times do you forgive for the same thing?How many times have you been forgiven for the same thing?What kind of proof do you need in order to believe the offender really seeks forgiveness?...
by Andrew02088 years ago
Should I Forgive Anyboby? This is an interesting and common question in our daily life. You might been hurted so bad that you did swear never to forgive as long as you're alive seeing that person. When people hurt us,...
by snagerries6 years ago
Human beings are not perfect anyway, If your friends or workmates doing bad to you, do you forgive him?or you will angry forever or keep inside the heart forever?
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