When someone is speaking, we have a tendancy to only listen with the ears, while at the same time thinking of what we are going to rebutte with. This not listening, it is having a one sided conversation in which the listener is playing the fool.
Yeh, I think morality can only function correctly if there is always a driver at the wheel. Everything is so fuzzy. Putting everything into black and white doesn't always work. I know people love to talk of right and wrong but if you don't look at all of the variables sometimes what looks right on paper is wrong in action.
I think you have to find your sieve. Funnel decisions through what you perceive as the most important moral lessons. And then let your actions stand on their own merit.
I've made many mistakes in life, for I was never truly at the wheel. I thought I had it down man, I was the end all of creation. I had a moral compass sure, but I was always doing for me and no one else. I finally looked at myself once and it was good long look too, because I did not like what I saw. Pure desire.
Look at the self, but it must be good long look or one may miss a big aspect of the world. Everything is interconnected. I am no different from the bird, which seeks only survival and sings songs for the world.
We are we and that is it. We think many things and then they are only "thinks". "I think" is a common misnomer for factual reality. But if you study the world, thinking is just stabbing at the moon or trying to grasp the sky. We can think all we want, but we don't learn anything by thinking all the time. This is living in the mind, which can lead to a very lonely existence. I learn from everything you say, whether I agree or not and what I am realy learning, is to look at myself critically.
I can't tell you how many times I have sat there listening to hubs explain first, why we need a new external hard disk beyond simply saying we need a new one, how many shops sell them and all the prices/differences and postage plus how we might save money if we buy something else to get free shipping, why the cheapest shop is crap to buy from, and more all the while simply trying to get the chance to say 'I don't care which one you get, I trust you to get the best deal and understand what precisely it is we need, you can just buy it, really'.
When we are being lectured or preached at, it can be impossible to 'listen honestly' IMO
I'm speaking from experience, though I know it is nothing you haven't heard before. I am just saying that it's time to relax and be of no worry. What the world does is what the world does. It is a system of eating, but rarely does one species eat it's own.