Marriages under Attack-My Testimony

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I am sharing this real -life testimony in order to show how the devil is real and is working overtime to destroy the marriage institution. It is also a sign that we need more of God in our lives. We need to seek him first and his Kingdom otherwise we are doomed to failure. Do not be fooled, there is no way the devil wants you to be happy. He is against everything right about God’s system.

If we refer back to the very beginning in Genesis 2 vs. 18, “Now the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet ( suitable, adapted, complimentary) for him”, this shows us that marriages were designed from the beginning of human life. They were meant to provide companionship and completeness. In Genesis 2 vs. 24, it says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” I’m quoting from the Amplified Bible.

If God had wanted man to be single, separated or divorced, why would he make that statement in Genesis 2 vs. 18? It is therefore not God’s plan for man to be single, separated or divorced and this is the area that the devil uses to trick people. He comes and tells us to taste the forbidden fruit, with promises of happiness, wisdom and knowledge. He sows the seed of doubt about the effectiveness of God’s system and provides the possibility that we could have something better.

I was married for 8 years before the devil struck my marriage. In those 8 years, we were really happy and doing quite well for a young couple. The Lord blessed us with four children, a house, two cars and holidays etc. We were actually the envy of our extended families and peers. It also happened that at that time neither I nor my husband was fully committed to God. I was a Christian but a lukewarm type. My husband’s role went as far as dropping us off at the Church gate and picking us up after the service.

We did not know how spiritual attacks worked and were not mature enough to know how we could fight or protect ourselves. The signs were there for all to see that a spiritual attack on our marriage had begun but as I said neither of us was mature enough in that area to know what to do. It started off with my husband getting into wrong company, drinking excessively and having illicit affairs. I got to know about each of these affairs as if God was revealing them to me but I was too weak to protect myself. This graduated to episodes of abuse toward me and I was confused but I did not seek help. For the next 5 years, this went on and off and I pretended all was well as if to wish it all away. I would cry until my eyes were sore but I did not know how this would end. As time went by, the frequency and intensity of abuse increased and I began to seek means and ways to cushion myself from being hurt. I still did not tell anyone what I was going through as I think I was in total confusion as to how what I thought was a perfect marriage had suddenly turned sour. I did not understand how at one time we were the best of friends but now were fast becoming enemies.

I began reading books and magazines in the hope of finding solace and ideas. The internet was a new thing at that time and I began to use it as an escape avenue. One book I read stated that most women are divorced or separated by the age of 35. I believed this statement as at that time I was about 33. I also began to seek comfort and joy outside of my home and in the process made male friendships. To me this was the only way I could satisfy my need for love and companionship as the gap between me and my husband continued to widen. It’s surprising how we moved from a communicating couple to a situation where we could barely hold a conversation without it degenerating into a war of words. So, I found out I could talk to other men outside my marriage and that to me was a way out, while still keeping my marriage.

Unbeknown to me, the devil had another arsenal up his sleeve. In the 2 years that followed, life became totally unbearable and the abuse turned to threats on my life .By then I had read about domestic violence and abuse somewhere and was now fully aware of what was happening to me and what psychological effects it was having on me. I was also oblivious to the fact that I was also contributing to it by my reactions and actions. Things came to a head one day when my husband physically assaulted me and I decided enough was enough. I told myself, I deserved better and was going to find a better life out there. However, the biggest mistake I now realise was that through all this, I never consulted God; I did not seek him or seek biblical counselling. Instead, I used my own human judgement of what I could see and understand at my level.

I went to work the following day and did not return home. I had decided to leave my husband, children, house, property, cars, everything! To cut a long story short, for the next couple of years I was separated from my husband. I did manage to get custody of all my four children but had to start afresh in all other areas. I did not realise that God had a plan for me and was not going to allow the devil to destroy me. In that time while I was separated from my husband, someone introduced me to a Bible believing, Spirit-filled church. The moment I started attending that church and re-committed my life to the Lord, life became easier and bearable. I received support and counselling from ladies who attended the same church and one of them prophesied that the door was not shut on my marriage and I should seek God about it.

At the end of the two years, I had become more spiritual, committed to God and very prayerful. I however, still had some seeds that the devil had planted during the period of strife in my marriage. I could not stop the friendships I had developed with men outside of my marriage. When I tried to pray about this, the devil would intercept my prayers and make it look like it was okay, I deserved to have company. After all God wanted me to be happy. On the other hand my husband had also become entrenched in the illicit affairs that he was having, especially now that I was out of the way. It is now clear that even then, neither of us was happy or satisfied, even though we each wanted to believe we were.

It so happened quickly that there was a shift in the battlefield for our marriage that, as we entered the third year, and one day by coincidence, or due to something negative that happened, we got talking with my husband. I now know that God uses bad situations to produce something good because overnight we had made a decision that I should return home. So, in the following month, I prepared my children for the trek back home and we did return and many people could not believe it was happening. Apparently, a lot of people had an interest in what was happening to us, some were concerned while others were celebrating our downfall. So, this about turn unsettled a lot of people and the devil himself was not amused.

In the following days and months after my return home, there was massive warfare in the spiritual realm, but by now I had been enlightened and was aware of the available weapons. 2 Corinthians 10 vs. 4: “For the weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood], but they are mighty before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds.” I began to earnestly seek God about my marriage and he responded by baptising me with his Holy Spirit. I became empowered and started to see some of my challenges from a spiritual angle. Victory was in sight and as they say; the match was now fixed.

My husband also decided to join my church, received the Lord Jesus and was baptised. However, this did not end the struggles in our marriage as the devil attacked from different angles. I went into warfare and began to cry to God, waking up at 3am daily praying and fasting. Then the Lord spoke to me and I was surprised because he said to me: “I want you to stay in that marriage because I have a plan for you. You shall soon know why.” During that time, the Holy Spirit himself comforted me and spoke to me in the midst of strife in my home. I was so strengthened and empowered, that I even surprised my husband and he began to attack my prayer life. He accused me of praying in tongues so that he would not know that I was praying for him to die. I laughed because I knew this was far from my intentions as I was actually praying for his good and the good of our marriage.

I now know why God himself says in Hosea 4 vs. 6, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge...”, if I had known then what I know now; I would not have been plundered by the devil the way he did. By the way, in all those years that we were fighting with my husband and separating, we lost most of the wealth we had acquired i.e. the cars, land and investments etc, except for the house. When we got back together, we were even driving a borrowed car that my brother had given me to use and my husband was not gainfully employed. I struggled as the main breadwinner to put food on the table and to send our 4 children to decent schools.

Anyway, to cut the story further, getting back with my husband was no walk in the park as the devil tried his best to put asunder God’s plan, but as it is with all that God purposes, the devil is no match. So, the next couple of years saw intensity in spiritual warfare. My husband and I even made a trip to the Holy Land, yes to Israel. I believed my life would never be the same after making this trip and for sure God is faithful and he is not a man that he would lie. If you seek his Kingdom first, everything else will be added to you. It was not until I had repented of all sin and made a decision to be pure before God, that I began to see real change. As I continued seeking him and praying for my husband and family, I began to see victory.

Recently, I got involved in a 21-day prayer marathon organised by the prophet of God, Elisha Goodman and as a result have seen God work wonders in my life. For the first time in years, my husband and I have sat down to discuss our marriage, the trials and tribulations we have gone through and how we have overcome. We both recognise the spiritual attack that we suffered and have made a pledge not to allow the devil to destroy our marriage again. I believe that this was the vital time of complete healing and forgiveness and release. We both acknowledged our wayward and illicit associations with people outside our marriage and that we should never go back there. I believe, this is the opening of doors by God and whatever God opens, man cannot shut. My husband and I have decided to use our testimony, to help other people going through the same challenges to understand that, it is a spiritual warfare and our weapons are not physical. We need to engage God when faced with such an attack on our marriages. The battle belongs to God because he is the creator of marriages and he needs to defend his institution. This year we are celebrating 21 years of marriage!

I pray that this will also be an eye-opener for anyone reading this testimony. Glory be to God. Amen.

About me: I am an aspiring author and mentor. I have started a blog where I post articles about issues affecting society in the 21st Century. I welcome useful comments.

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Ralph Deeds 6 years ago

Quite a story of the rocky road you've traveled. You write very well! Keep it up!


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mosfar2009 6 years ago Author

Thank you sir. I shall always remember that.


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heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

The Spirit Realm is Real! Satan would like us to keep our problems and shame hidden. It is so interesting how God says His ways are not our ways...because in time and with the right people, God wants us to share what we have been through, as you did. We in turn not only are able to relate to others, but in the process there is healing that even comes to us. "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed..."(James 5:16)

Thank you for sharing from your heart something so tramatic and real to you!


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tlpoague 6 years ago from USA

Terrific Hub! I have to agree that it is rare to see anyone married for ten years or longer. For a Christian to be married to someone who isn't strong in faith is a challenge. I speak from experience. I pray to God each day for my husband, children and our marriage and take it one day at a time. Phillipians 4:13 is my favorite passage...I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

This is a touching hub. Thanks for writing it.


MS Girl 5 years ago

I am touched by this testimony. My husband and I are fighting a battle right now. But i prayed last night and i claimed it in the name of Jesus.

Reading this testimony just gave me a boost that yes, I have the victory.

Thank You!


security 5 years ago

thanks for your posts...im really touched from your testimony actually im planning to leave my husband and set him free to her ex girlfriend i thought it will be the best thing i could do to settle oour problem but thanks God for your post...im enlightened..GodBless and more power..


faithful 5 years ago

I believe all women are under spiritual attack by the devil in these times, witness the porn sex trades sexy fashion stars videos and music. After 34 years of marriage my husband has succumbed to this influence and expects me to perform all of the above. This mental sexual abuse is a direct attack and I need to pray and fast to overcome. I know God can save us and our marriages from all attacks if we stay strong in our faith.


GRACE 5 years ago

I HAVE UNDERGONE WHAT U HAVE AND HAD EVEN LEFT MY HUSBAND AND KIDS BUT I PRAYED AND GOD RESTORED MY MARRIAGE. MY HUSBAND ISN'T BORN AGAIN YET BUT I SEE A LOT OF CHANGE IN HIM AND I KNOW GOD IS GOING TO SAVE HIM SOON.

GOD BLESS YOU


Child of God 5 years ago

What you call an attack of the devil, the Bible call being unequally yoked.


Ms. A 5 years ago

Wow! What a powerful testimony! You give many women hope and belief that through Christ, all things are possible. Thank you for sharing, I will never forget your story! Blessings to you and your family.


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dlouyoung 4 years ago

I had to go to jail before my husband accepted Christ. What made him change his heart? He couldn't believe that he was lovable enough to be forgiven. Now, He is saved and our marriage is no longer a battleground. Out of respect for your readers, I will only post a link to my personal testimony/our marriage story. http://dlouyoung.blogspot.com/p/my-personal-testim... Also, I have added your name to my prayer board. In the love of Christ, Donna


Desperate 4 years ago

I have been married 2 years and my husband was suicidal when i met him and has fallen into depresssion and suicide again. I have been told he has a darkness over him and is involved with illuminati, I just need help and guidance. Thank YOu


Michelle 4 years ago

I'm going through the same thing .Me and my husband are seperated and have been seperated for a year now. We still talk about taking things slowly in working on our marriage and we still do love each other. The devil is a liar, when we first got married we were attending church every Sunday as a family, once we stopped that's when the devil stepped in. He's living in his own home but is seeing this woman and she is so vindictive but portrays to be so kind in front if others, I'm constantly reading the word to give me the strength to deal with this situation. I'm determined to fight for my marriage. It's amazing how one person can come in the middle of a marriage and try to destroy.I'm not just blaming her but if she wasn't there the healing process could begin, she knows but is being very possessive about my husband, she doesn't belong she thinks because we are seperated that it's ok, it's not.


Mary 4 years ago

Thank you for your testimony, I am so encouraged by this as my husband and I are going through a similar battle and I refuse to give in to the lies of Satan. Great is our God and great is his love and faithfulness.


Kathy Q 4 years ago

Thank you for sharing your testimony. It was great timing for me, God's timing. I am in my second marriage and Satan attacked us a week after we were married. We definitely have spirtual warfare going on. My husband wants me to trust him, begs me to...we even had a few bible studies this week but the enemy is at full force using an outside source to give me info about my husband. I'm so torn. Prayers appreciated. Keep sharing your story!


Mrs N. 4 years ago

Thanks for sharing yor testimony. I was searching on the internet for marriages under attack and came acros your story. I have been married for nearly 6 years and on reflection, I have had more stormy days than good. I really want God to restore my marriage. I am trusting God for complete healing and total restoration. Thanks again your story is encouraging.


Am blessed 4 years ago

Thanks 4 sharing ur testimony. It's really a quick overview of divorce and the true purpose for it: as in its a trick by d devil 2 take one away from God's will and plan. Would like 2 share ur testimony with others with ur permission of course. Tanx


madele 4 years ago

thank you so much for your testimony. It is truly an encouragement to me. The devil has attacked my marriage. And that Lord has been giving his family, he and my self dreams and prophesies of the danger if we don't do something. We are praying and I solicit your prayers also. Blessings.


Marcy 4 years ago

It's a great testimony. I'm happy your marriage was saved. The only thing that I cannot understand is how can you say that the physical abuse was partly your fault. I don't get that. Regardless if you were "egging him on". Or encouraging in some manner to hit, he was suppose to be man enough to get up and walk away. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.


wifeandmother 4 years ago

This blessed me! Thank you for this!


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mosfar2009 3 years ago Author

Thank you all for your comments. I'm back to hubpages after a long absence. I had gone on a spiritual journey of which I will share on my next hub.


Vee 3 years ago

Thank you so much for the wonderful testimony.it really opened my eyes.i am going through the same but i know God is on my side.i am definitely confident that i will win the war and the devil is a liar.watch out for my testmony soon


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mosfar2009 3 years ago Author

Amen! to that. Your faith and actions will surely pull you through.


Julie 3 years ago

Thank you for being so honest about your Christian marriage. In the church I attend most difficulties are not aired to which I have found extremely frustrating because it gives a false picture of Christian marriage. I know where you have been, for I was there many years ago. I thought I was living with the devil for many years through my husband's behaviour in the home. I have known terrifying fear, abuse in every form, enslavement to the house, isolation, neglect, poverty and all came under the umbrella of Christian marriage. I stuck it out because the church I attend frowns on divorce and raises up self sacrifice. I have been so miserable in my marriage that I thought about ending my life many times. I am pleased to say that I have gotton over the worse. God revealed to me that satan had a grip on my marriage and was behind the scenes controlling my husband and that I have not prayed enough for the help to which I needed. I had the determination to stick it out, but it has cost me dearly. I think that when we bear the name Christian the world looks on. If we act the same way as unbelievers and separate and divorce, what do ye that is different, why should they listen concerning the truths of the bible. We have a great enemy but we have an even greater God.


Abr 3 years ago

I am currently fighting to stay married to my wife , she filed a diverse due to our miscommunication which lead me buying staff without involving her. Now she does not want me to her life ny more because during our misunderstanding we hurt each other with perceptions.

We are both Christians but I would like to believe like u are saying we need more of God to run this institution as its not ours.

I know I am late for that as my wife told me she does not see me as a husband anymore. We are blessed with two houses a car and a charming two year old boy. I was working alone to keep the family strong like any other husband but that eded nothing today.

I did everything to make his work but still she told even the pastors that nothing or no one will change her mind.


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mosfar2009 3 years ago Author

Abr- Thank you for sharing and it's sad to hear what is happening to you because of a few mistakes that you made in your marriage. But I really believe that if you are trully remorseful and you come before God in prayer , pleading for your marriage-things can start to shift. The mistake we normally make after realising our mess is to force things back together in our own power. But if you seek wisdom and let God be God and allow him to direct you-your eyes will start opening such that you will discover knowledge that you never knew you had and see your marriage in another light. Your behaviour will change and that is what your wife is looking for -not anymore empty promises! I pray that you will find that wisdom.

PS. It's never too late!


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mosfar2009 3 years ago Author

Hi Julie-You are right in your observations about what we go through as christians in marriage. Thank God we can see the light!


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Jeff Porter 3 years ago from Georgia

It takes a lot to be so honest about such a tough situation. God bless you, and may God bless your situation. Thanks for sharing, as I think many people can relate to your situation.


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mosfar2009 3 years ago Author

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NNEDIE 2 years ago

God Almighty is d ever present help in ytm of need,he has d whole world on d palm of his hand,u nid not run to any one to cast any spell on anyone,cuz u never can tel whr dey got der powers from.Jesus Christ is d head of every principalities n powers,jst focus n trust hm ,believe al tins wok togeda fr good to dem dt luv God n at called by his purpose n also weeping may endure fr a nyt by joy Comes in d mornin.wt him alntins at possibl,ur faith shd b on d one who created u n not on ur fellow human being.calvary greetings ,may d Lord strengthen us IJN,our spect actions shal not b cut short!Amen.


The Very Real Answer 2 years ago

Well there are certainly many of us men out there that are very seriously looking for a good woman to share our life with, and loneliness is certainly no fun at all these days especially when the holidays start to come around. I do really feel that God is very much to blame for my loneliness which i never did anything wrong to begin with, and after seeing so many Very Blessed men and women that had been Very Fortunate to have met one another and have a Family like many of us would had certainly wanted as well. Loneliness is very bad for many of us that really hate to be alone, and there is no reason for many of us to always be by ourselves which i am sure that many of you will certainly Agree with me on that. I will never understand why would God give so many other men and women to find Love And Happiness Together And Not Us? What in the world did we ever do Wrong for this to happen to us?, and we're No Different than the ones that have it. My Aunt And Uncle just celebrated their 65th year together, and that shows you how much different the women were years ago when they were Very Committed to their men and Accepted them for who they were when Money wasn't an issue that many women are now looking for today. Women are certainly Much More Nastier today, and they are nothing like the Real Women that were Much More Educated than the ones that are out there now. Very Obvious why many of us good men can't meet a Real Decent Woman anymore today, especially with Much More women that are Gay And Bi now adding to the problem.


Abram Nthoba 2 years ago

can God realy turn a broken marriage. i have sent my story three months ago because of the divorse my wife filed. i have spoken to her several times that our miscominication can be resolved if we can talk to each other, but again as she said i am late for as she has made up her mind.

my worry is one, i have realise that she has moved on with her life even though we are still staying togather durring this process of divorse. i have came across lots of shoking staff like sex games, sex dicis money exchanges between them., pregnacy tests which is very funny for me.

i think she is making sure that we dont stand a chance to reconcile with all this things she is doing.

but if you get divorced this days for our misunderstandings, what else will keep marriages together as people are always pushing their happiness instead of unity.

i dont know if i should loose hope on this, because i realy dont know how am i going to pass that stage if she is willing to come back especially realizing that i happen to know the guy.

yes i am a christian and i still love this person but i think what realy is left in me is pain.

but again if its a will of God to save this marriage its ok, but God will have to deal with my mind as my mind has captured enough during this period only.

i feel undermined, hurt and i feel like i am nothing to this woman and i had never being, she was just making escuses for her to fulfill her life outside.

right now i may be writing out of hopelessness and hurt but i just want to see what will happen.


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mosfar2009 2 years ago Author

Abram Ntoba- God can restore marriages but in his own way and time. We might try to force it , to work the way we want but...God's ways are not our ways.

You may want to get in touch on facebook or through my website if you require support.


Lcoop 2 years ago

Oh my, talk about crying so much as I read your story. My husband and I have been going thru a very rough time for a year now. It started with i'm not happy anymore to taking his ring off and not wanting to wear it anymore to not calling at all during the week. He works out of town with the oilfield but even though I've told him to take some time and stay up there and see if that's really what he wants, but nope he comes home every week. We were both baptized along with our two boys years ago. My husband was walking with the Lord and knew his priorities and from one day to the next he became cold and bitter. He's even distant with his boys and his mom. Which by the way he was so close to. He was always very humble, consconsiderate, compassionate, loving, attentive, and positive. Very strong in his faith. He stopped going to church and walks around like he's better than everyone and entitled. We've been married for 20 years and this is the first time we've ever gone thru something like this. He has mentioned divorce and he has told me that our marriage has no hope. I've had my doubts about him having another woman and I've asked God to show me, and nothing. I've fasted and i've cried everyday for a whole year. I pray so hard. And things seem to get worse. But faith is not about what we see or not see, but by whom we trust in. My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! Please if you have anymore suggestions my email is: loricoop70@yahoo.com


saline 2 years ago

U know god indeed answers the prayers of righteous.as im writing thc tears streaming down my chkx.i know god will c m thru, he will fight my wars.


INNO 2 years ago

WOOW what a testimony i also want my husband back im going through alot im so depressed Please help me ASAP i need bullet prayers so that i can get my husband back, my husband left me for an older woman and want nothing to do with me and my kids.I love my husband so much and want him back please, he asked for divorce&told me that im not good for him&never ment to be. Help me get him back before its too late may GOD RICHLY BLESS


ekiti queen 2 years ago

your testimomy is inspiring and gives me encouragement that my battles too will turn to a testimony. may the lord give us grace and the spirit of supplication to uphold our marriages in prayer.


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mosfar2009 2 years ago Author

If you are genuine and have faith in God, all things are possible and you do not have to seek help from dubious prophets. Prayer actually works and I am living testimony. Please visit link to my website to receive further assistance. My God shall supply all your needs according to his Riches in GLORY!!


Joyful Stander 2 years ago

How did you wake up to pray every night? Were you woken? Or did you set an alarm?


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mosfar2009 2 years ago Author

Hi Joyful. I have always found that an alarm works better and usually set it so that it goes off 5-15 minutes before the midnight hour. This allows me time to get out of sleep mode, out of bed and into another room that I use for prayers. I advise that you use a different room to your bedroom as your prayer closet so that you do not disturb your partner. This also allows me time to drink water so that my throat is not dry as I need to start by praise and worship songs before getting into prayer,

Let me know if you need further clarification.


Sonny 2 years ago

My marriage is under attack. My wife and I have been married almost 12 years. We are both christians and have been on staffas youth and children's pastors. We have been seperated now for about a month. She told me that she wasn't happy with whom she had become. She has had a complete personality change and is now seperating herself from God. There are some friends she has made on social media and family members that are pushing her to go the direction she is going. I know God had brought us together and has blessed us beyond what we deserved. We have two amazing daughters together and other than an occasional disagreement, we didn't really fight. I know that this is nothing more than a spiritual attack. Thank you for your testimony.


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mosfar2009 2 years ago Author

Hi Sonny,

Sorry to hear about your wife and the state of your marriage. However, since you do not have control over your wife as an individual, God has. Thus my advise is to stay steadfast in prayer about your marriage and your wife,. Ask for God's will to prevail and leave it to him in prayer. Do not give up and continue supporting your daughters as well.

God's will , will surely prevail over evil.


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meaganvanvuuren 19 months ago from Port Elizabeth, South Africa

Glory to God. He is Good all the time! Beautiful Testimony!

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