Spiritual Sex and Chakras! Want to know the nexus? (Part-9)

Ancient Greece
Ancient Greece

The backdrop

Speaking about the ancient times in Greece and the eastern world, there had been (probably still is) an age old tradition of a temple priestess helping the spiritual seekers with ceremonial sex. This method of transmitting and transforming sexual energy from one person to the other, was kept hidden from the eyes of common masses for a very long time as, the people would not have been able to  perceive any spirituality aspect attached to the process and would have termed it as a basic ‘animal instinct’ or ‘lust’. It has been established and repeatedly affirmed by Yogic teachers and scholars from thousands of years that the ‘sexual energy’ is a part of our Kundalini energy (Refer to Sacral Chakra in Part-3) which in itself is a sum total of etheric or life-force energy. This form of energy, as we know, can be used not only for sexual pleasure and procreation but also for facilitating spiritual growth, by making our Chakra system and higher energies fully functional.


Eastern v Western theory

From time to time various Yogic and meditative practices have been prescribed to transform sexual energy into spiritual energy. It’s like (what they call) transforming the ‘Dog’ in us into ‘God’ or the Higher Self. Whether it is ‘Tantra’ from eastern world or ‘Karezza’ in the western countries, both propagate almost the same kind of mechanism to achieve the desired results; the only difference being that while ‘Karezza’ emphasizes on spiritual sex, ‘Tantra’ speaks about transmutation of sexual energies which opens our Heart Chakra and fills the body with the same kind of glow and mystical bliss as would have ordinarily been achieved during an orgasm. A regulated and controlled sexual energy can be channeled upwards (refer to previous series of Chakras) to develop a strong and stable Chakra system.

Religion v Spirituality

Standing at a vantage point, for being born and brought up in the land of sages (India), provided me with ample opportunities to assess the benefits and infirmities in the ‘spiritual advancement’ theories propelled by the learned scholars there. Although I spent two thirds of my life chanting mantras (not having a clue what they actually meant) which I had been taught since my childhood, it took me (seemingly) a whole lifetime to understand the difference between ‘religion’ and ‘spiritualism’. Religion, no doubt, intends to maintain an orderly society by terrorizing a man about the consequences of his wrong doings but the down side is that it creates individuals with closed minds and preconceived notions which become more and more deep rooted with time; Spiritualism, on the contrary, sets the soul free from the bondage created by religious norms and exposes the human mind to higher realms of his spiritual consciousness. It shows the way to unite with the Higher self which in turn leads to ultimate happiness and peace.

One thing more which I realized was that the body which we are born with is a powerhouse of energy which has an immense potential for achieving whatever our mind desires, provided we know how to make an effective and optimum use of this complex tool. For almost two decades of (intermittent) interaction with various ‘sages’ and spiritually enlightened people, I found that they constantly hammered on the importance of ‘curtailing sexual activity as prerequisite for spiritual advancement. Although, (with due respect to all of them) I always had my doubts if they were able to practice the ‘law of abstinence’ in their closed door lives. I always felt that if God intended a human being to have sexual pleasure then how could its abstinence lead to God? What could be their motive behind the hypocrisy, I failed to understand. However, during my journey as a seeker, I met a very learned man who answered most of my questions. He explained to me that the focus is not on curtailing the sexual activity but to retain the sexual energy in the body in order to use it as a fuel for spiritual advancement. The purpose is not to push an individual into suppression and emotional deprivation but help him achieve a level of satisfaction as he would have achieved by indulging in sexual activity. Complicated, yet simple mechanics!

Perfect harmony
Perfect harmony

Curbing sexuality impedes spiritual advancement

It dawned on me that ‘celibacy’ of priests, nuns, monks and spiritual seekers in different cultures had its roots in ‘spiritual sex’. I was told that they try to spiritualize their sexual energies by way of meditation, yoga, rigorous physical exercises, rituals and devotional practices. However, it can have negative manifestations if a celibate, deliberately and intentionally, tries to curb or suppress his sexuality by fighting his instincts. Suppression never leads to spiritual evolution as, intentionally or unintentionally, the Chakra gets blocked and the upward journey of the energy gets impeded. Meditative sex, has been since ancient times, used as a successful outlet for sexual urges and thereby creating a harmony in the energy centers of our body. This way of expressing love is especially useful for people when they age or for those who find no interest in aggressive sexual activity. Even for those people who yearn for closeness, warmth or a simple hug as against conventional intercourse, spiritual sex is a way to fill the entire mind and body system with love, fulfillment and radiance. As per ‘Karezza’ or ‘Tantra’ two individuals, most of the times, need to connect, relax, feel cared and protected, snuggle into other person’s arms without craving for an orgasm. The ultimate objective, in any case, is inner satisfaction and peace combined with sound mental, emotional and spiritual health. Needless to mention the long lasting bond and strong relationship that it creates between two individuals! That, of course, is an incentive.

What does Karezza say

At this juncture let me share an excerpt from an article on ‘Karezza’.

“When you have filled your brain and heart with pleasurable energy, shift your attention, partly, to the spiritual love that you feel for your partner. Feel your heart expanding with a gentle love and add this to the cloud of pleasurable sexual energy that surrounds and interpenetrates both of you. Finally, without losing this special feeling, you now shift another part of your attention to the top of your head or to your crown chakra. By sending out some of the love you feel to your High Self or God Presence, you immediately receive an even larger amount of spiritual love back. Feel that both of you are now connected to the love and power of your higher and divine guidance. Feel united and in harmony with all levels of your own being as well as with your partner and with your spiritual source. Feel like melting into each other…”

Steps involved in Spiritual union

1.      Hold each other in a warm and comfortable embrace. You may choose to sit or lie down side by side by maintaining close contact with each other. You might want to play some soft music in the background to create an ambience. Incense sticks may be an additional help. The purpose is to stimulate all your senses before you plunge into an ocean of love and emotional bliss.

2.      Focus on each other’s Chakras as decided mutually before commencing the process. Normally couples focus on Heart Chakra. Slowly caress the other person’s hands and if you choose to lie down, you can even softly and gently move your hands over the body of your partner. The touch is a great stimulant.

3.      Hold hands and concentrate on each other’s Heart Chakra. Take deep breaths several times and try to empty your mind of all thoughts flowing in and out of your mind.

4.      Visualize energy waves flowing from your Heart Chakra to the other person’s Heart center and vice versa. Stay in this position for a while and enjoy the warmth and love radiated by the two of you. Soon you’ll feel the energy flowing into your hands. In prolonged sessions, the hands might even start sweating. You might even feel your breath synchronizing with your partner’s breath.

5.      As a final step, when two of you find yourselves in a state of perfect harmony, again take a deep breath and visualize the energy (so generated) travelling upwards, to the Crown Chakra. When the feeling of unison gets intensified, imagine yourself to be engulfed in an air of spiritual ecstasy. Offer the same kind of love to your Higher Self (God) as you gave to your partner and in return you’ll be blessed with eternal love, much greater in magnitude than what you transmitted to Him. After the union with your Higher Self exhale and imagine the energy descending back to the Root Chakra. This completes your process of converting sexual energy into spiritual bliss. The resulting satisfaction is more stable and long lasting than the one attained by way of conventional sexual intercourse and as a bonus, you harmonize your energy fields and accelerate your spiritual advancement without having the need to suppress the sexual energy.                                   

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Comments 28 comments

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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

Wow! Great text.

I also tried celibacy but was not working in the right direction. On the contrary, spiritual sex with beloved person can bring experience of enlightment and connection with the whole universe.

Thank you for this excellent Hub. Thumbs up!

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Tatjana: I'm glad we're on the same page. Thx for your kind comments.

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mulberry1 7 years ago

This is a very interesting topic. I've not really read anything about it before (I'm such a westerner!) but it makes sense to me. The spiritual union is clearly important for fulfillment.

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

mulberry1: It surely is but in today's fast paced world, people generally believe in 'quickies'. Connecting on the spiritual level sounds like a waste of time for most of the couples. I can only wish they realize the importance of it. Thx very much for stopping by.

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guidebaba 7 years ago from India

Great ! Did I miss the first 8 parts ?

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Guidebaba: Yes you did. I'm sure you have been busy lately. Do you remember you had asked me once to write something about Yoga. See, I went beyond yoga and wrote whole lot of stuff on spirituality and you never turned up. LOL. Better late than never. Thx for visting... finally.

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guidebaba 7 years ago from India

But Yoga and SEX are far apart from ech other. This is what Baba Ramdev says. But Yoga certainly helps to have good health and finally good sex. hummmmm !!!

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Guidebaba: LOL. Yes quite right but I was referring to part-1 to 8 of my series. Thx for coming back.

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my-success-guru 7 years ago from Upstate NY

Hi Anjali,

I feel  truly blessed to read your amazing Hubs and have you as a fan. You truly are a special person and I've seen enough to know you are making an important difference in everyone's life you touch. Thank you for sharing your incredible insights on spiritual sex.I always wanted a deeper more meaningful relationship. I love the idea of Visualizing energy waves flowing from your Heart Chakra to the other person’s Heart center and vice versa. I also love the idea of melting into each other. Just imagine the peace and joy if we could reach true spiritual bliss. I am rating this Hub a BIG thumbs up! If you would like, stop by and see me again. I hope I can share a little more to make a positive difference in your life like you have for me.

May You Be Blessed With An Abundance of Health, Wealth and Happiness,

Jim         PS You are stepping over mountains!

I look forward to reading more of your heart felt Hubs.

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Hi Jim:

You have rendered me speechless. Do you often go overboard with your generosity? LOL. You are the first one to splash honey dew all over my hub. Truly I am the blessed one for having you visit my hubs and liking them too. As I told you earlier in one of my posts to your hub, you are an amazing writer with a brilliant insight. I'm going to eagerly wait for more of your articles. BTW..are you psychic? Or was it just an assessment? Thx very much for reading my hubs.


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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi anjali, thumbs up for this hub. I agree that suppression leads only to resentment and irritability. I believe deep intimacy can be shared if there is the sharing of the heart and mind and not just the physical aspect of it all. :-)

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Hi Michelle: Absolutely right. I wish more and more people understood this too. Realtionships would become so comfortable and easy to handle. Thx very much for stopping by.

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my-success-guru 7 years ago from Upstate NY

Hello Again Anjali,

To answer your first question- I simply try to offer people the love and respect they deserve. Of all my great and wonderful fans that I deeply admire you have shined the brightest  upon my heart and spirit. I thirst for the peace and serenity I find within your Writings. You quench my thirst by moving my heart and spirit.

To answer your next question- actually to my amazement I have had moments in my life with people where I felt so connected to their thoughts and feelings that I could actually tell them where they were and what they were feeling in great detail. Maybe it's your heart felt writings or your spirit shinning through but somehow I am beginning to feel this way with you. Since your spirit is so strong I know you must have some experiences similar to mine. I would be honored if you would share them with me.

 I feel so connected to the world around me because as you know there is really no separateness in the universe except that which is man-made. We are really all connected in this cosmic soup of oneness. I think that's one reason I feel so much is possible with the human spirit that others may not see. If more people could open up their heart and spirit a little more  and tap into the raw power of the universe to see what I see they would realise almost nothing is impossible and become unstoppable by lifting their spirit to new heights.

To Kindered Spirits With Love,


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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Hi Jim: I'm glad that I met an amazing person (you) on HP who interprets the power of 'cosmic energy' and 'mind frequency' the way I do. I'm overwhelmed by your wonderful comments.  Thx a ton.

About my experiences, I'll certainly share with you some time. Who knows you might even help me to rise to the next level. :) All for a reason....that's why people meet. God bless.

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Jykeith Comal 7 years ago from Cincinnati OH

hey how have you been. I went through some married drama...things are over, now she wants me back, but I moved to houston. So advice please...anyway how are you?

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Glad you showed up after a long time. Let me introduce to you a person who can really help you. He writes hubs by the name of 'my-success-guru'. If you notice he has posted a comment in this hub. Get in touch with him. Good luck.

Kimberly 7 years ago

You have mentioned positive experiences, but what about negative experiences. Is there no protection from unwanted connections? Maybe I am speaking of something else?

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Kimberly: Well, I got so much involved in postive vibrations and energies while writing this hub that I might have overlooked the negative aspect. I guess you can take care of that yourself...and if you cannot, please ask a specific question next time. I don't want to read in between the lines. Lol. Thx for visiting.

kunjvihari Dave 7 years ago

yes, i strongly believe but there aught to be equivalent agreeable partner.

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York Author

Kunjvihari Dave: I endorse your viewpoint. Thx for stopping by.

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Kreon48 6 years ago from New Zealand

Hello Anjali, thanks again for your enlightening posts which bring progress and blessing into people's lives. How wonderful and peaceful this world would be, how kind and thoughtful would all humans become if they could embrace this amazing truth of Kundalini. I just regret that there are and may be still will be millions of those who will never taste this bliss and divine grace. But if you and people like you can help at least few, this is already a wonderful achievement! Thanks again.

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anjalichugh 6 years ago from New York Author

Hi Kreon48!

You're being too generous. I do try to influence the thought process of readers in my own simple way but I'm not sure how far my efforts are successful. Thx so much for your kind words and sincere appreciation. Feel free to come back.

soumyasrajan 6 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

Hi! anjali

I enjoyed your article. How any one may have doubt that trying to curb any desire or act in some unreasonable way, can be good, with that one can only become restless. More you want to get away from thoughts or natural actions more they will be with you. Enjoyment or peace can come naturally only when you accept things as they are and do things in a manner that it does not hurt others. This includes attitude towards sex or what you call sexual energy - though this term is new for me, I knew a little about Tantra but never had heard of this concept that there is some separate type of Energy associated with sex in one's body. Interesting ideas.

But I feel surprised that you say in the beginning in India you felt a bit confined because of religion. I always thought right from my childhood (I live mostly in Mumbai) that Hinduism always leaves one quite free. There are no unnecessary sin or punishment from God type thoughts to trouble you. Perhaps you are more talking about restrictions because of social activities among various community.

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anjalichugh 6 years ago from New York Author

Hi Soumya! Sorry for a late reply to your post. Somehow I'm not getting notifications lately.

Sexual energy exists at the root / base level of human consciousness and its up to us to take it to the highest level of spiritual realization. If you have time, do read some of the content in my hubs on Spirituality. You will find quick links to these articles on my profile page. Thanks very much for joining in.

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bluefordjoe 5 years ago

Thanks for this article... Keep up the good work.

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anjalichugh 5 years ago from New York Author

bluefordjoe: Thank you for stopping by.:)

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sasanka7 5 years ago from Calcutta, India

Very nicely you have explained how to make the best use of positive energy and obtain spiritual advancement. It is a part of "Tantra".

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anjalichugh 5 years ago from New York Author

Sasanka7: Thank you for your kind comments. Feel free to come back.

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