WHY IS PEACE ALWAYS BETTER THEN WAR

My experience of war

18 years ago, when Croatia wanted to separate from Yugoslavia, war in my country started, and it lasted  4 years. Yugoslavian military forces, did not allow Croatia to separate (we were without weapons on the beginning, but managed to fight on so many inventive ways despite of that). Big part of my country was almost completely destroyed - houses, factories, schools, churces, so many people was left without everything what they had, so many lives was lost. My whole generation lost the best time of life in the war and in the healing traumas afterwards.

The psychological cause of war, was unhealed hate among the people from the time of Second World War. Some families (who lost their dearest) did not forget that hate, and gave it in heritage to the next generations, instead of love and tolerance. From this small sparkles of anger and hate, big fire was burning here for 4 years, fire of destruction without any mercy. The all sides which were involved in the war in Croatia and later in Bosnia, committed war crimes while forgetting that they are doing that to their neighbours, friends, colleagues - to their human brothers and sisters. Political and economical interest from the certain foreign countries was also helping that fire of hate burns much stronger, then it should.

I was living in capital of Croatia, Zagreb, which was not in the first front line, we had bombing only twice, but city was full of fear and refugees from the rest of Croatia, and later from Bosnia.

The hotel where I worked was full of refugees (from Vukovar) and I volunteered for Red Cross. Later on, I started to work with United Nations Protection Forces, who came to keep the temporary peace we established.

When war is in your country, which you love with your whole soul, it is heartbreaking. Then - it is not happening to somebody else, somewhere far, you just feel it and see it everywhere around and you must become part of it, on one way or another. And you cannot run away from it, nowhere. The war starts to run through your blood, the war is in every molecule of air you breath. The war touches everyone whom you know. Although I have chosen to work for peace forces, what was the best choice in this craziness, nobody was able to protect me from the fact that my country was burning, exploding and crying in pain.

There are some valuable lessons I learned then:

1. Live today - in this moment, you never know it might be your last one.

2. Nothing material cannot last and there is no guarantee for anything what any human creates in the life.

3. So many time is needed to create something, and so little to destroy. And years are needed to forget and forgive, sometimes many lives (or generations.)

4. Peace is the highest gift from heaven, but everyone has to deserve it.

Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic
Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic
Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic, Karma, Arbanasi, Zadar
Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic, Karma, Arbanasi, Zadar

People who are not touched by the pain and fire of war - either through the personal experience or through the compassion for the others , cannot fully appreciate incredible value of peace, love and freedom.

Army attacking another army is the highest top of violence escalation which begins somewhere else - in our minds and hearts, with hate and anger towards oneself which we project towards the others, intolerance, and playing aggressor or victim role in any segment of the life.

Even when we choose to be victims of our own life, it is bad - victim always need the aggressor to continue that vicious circle...

We need to make an effort to become balanced and dignified human beings, step by step, the most valuable reward will be gained - peace and contentment of the soul.

At first step - start to love yourself and give to the yourself abundance of love. When you stop to fight inside yourself, and understand that you are the only one who can be your own best friend (as well as your own worst enemy) - than you will be able to consciously project the love in the outside world.

Peace starts in the heart and mind of everyone of us.

Effects of war and depleted uranium

On the right are pictures of children born with the heavy birth-defects caused by use of DEPLETED URANIUM , when NATO bombed Yugoslavia, Afghanistan, Iraq.

 

My country also joined NATO this springtime, and we are not very proud because of this.

 

Children of NATO soldiers who were fighting on the territories polluted by radiation, share now the same destiny as the children from their "enemies" - birth defects occur on the both sides - war does not protect anybody involved in crime on humanity.

 

This is what hate produces - this is human hate materialized, this is how the hate looks like.

 

Whenever our human brains start to find good points in the wars and weapons of massive destruction, especially when is happening to the others, it would be good to remember these photos, just to remind ourselves, how is hate expressing itself through the genetic defects of human offspring.

 

Depleted uranium, chemical poisons and other types of weapons do not influence only countries attacked - this radiation and poisons are affecting all living beings on this planet: you, me, especially children and future ones to come. These poisons are changing genetic code of people and making us more vulnerable to the various illnesses, or defected.

 

Despite everything, we have the strongest power - love inside us to create better world in our visions, to believe in humanity in spite all madness and irresponsibility humanity produces here.

 

Peace and love in our heads and hearths can and will gradually change the world - for beginning the world of ours. Energy of many open human hearts is stronger than bombs, pollution and radiation.

Only thing we need to gradually sacrifice, step by step, is war in our mind and emotions, and create ocean of love and peace with all others, no matter to which religion they belong, which race, gender or nationality .

In the times of war - there is illusion of "winners" and "loosers" - but, finally every side looses, always. Law of cause and effect, is not possible to avoid.

In the times of peace - everyone is winner - because peace brings progress and posperity.

Let peace and love embrass our world and our lives!

Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic  Vir - Croatia
Photo by Tatjana Mihaela Pribic Vir - Croatia

The Immortal Child, by  Jean Hudon

From the Point of Infinity to the Point of Eternity,
there is only One Being... One Life... One Consciousness...
radiating in all directions, through all dimensions,
the infinite, eternal Presence That Is!

And Life on planet Earth is but an expression
of the infinite creativity of the One.
We are here to celebrate Its existence,
here to discover our Unity with All That Is.

Now as never before, the times are ripe for a massive change.

Humanity, amidst colossal difficulties,
has arisen from the soil of evolution on this majestic planet,
one amongst so many others.
And now the time has come for a New Beginning,
a time of complete, total Renewal
of what constitutes the Human Experience on planet Earth.
We have to awaken...
We are bound for the stars...
And the Universe is holding its breath in keen anticipation
of this magic moment when Humanity will soar
through the Skies of Infinity.


Photo by Tatjana-Mihaela Pribic;   Karma, Arbanasi, Zadar 2009.
Photo by Tatjana-Mihaela Pribic; Karma, Arbanasi, Zadar 2009.

Let peace prevail on Earth.

My other Hub about peace: PEACE TO THE WORLD

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Teresa McGurk 7 years ago from The Other Bangor

Thank you for taking the time and effort to write this wonderful hub. I know it must have been difficult to think back to the war. I can not understand how - HOW - any leader, or nation, anywhere, can decide that war is the only alternative (unless they are being attacked by someone else and have to defend their families).

How can any leader live with the failure? failure of diplomacy. failure of every means possible to avoid war. Men tell me I am childish for saying this; no, I'm not!

Sorry, Tatjana-Mihaela, I didn't mean to shout. Your hub does what the best articles about war always do: it celebrates peace.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Hi, Teresa, I can fully understand your pain.

Well, war is mainly men´s game - women usually do not have time for it - they must care about families and think about the future of children. Diplomacy fails - with purpose - some people do have economical interest when some others are so stupid to fight.

The only hope is - that we establish peace in our lives and believe in peace - humanity is still young - we will learn one day to contol our wild hormones, lack of trust, we will learn how to become ONE.

Peace to you....


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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Tatjana: I had chills after chills while reading your article, and admit my eyes got wet, I could feel the power of your message, the sorrow of war, the waste of human life and resources; its such a sad legacy to pass on hate from generation to another.

This sentence stood out for me "We need to make and effort to become balanced and dignified human beings, step by step, the most valuable reward will be gained - peace and contentment of the soul".

Thank you for writing this, we need reminders after reminders that peace and love is the highest form of existence among humans, we deserve it, and the Earth does too.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thanks God, we have many lives to live, everyone of us - so we will all learn to sing - the symphony of peace...

Thank you so much, Mary, for your precious and wise comment.

Peace and love.


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Paper Moon 7 years ago from In the clouds

What can I say? This hub took me up, it took me down and back up again. This brought tears to my eyes. I have worked with many Bosnians and Croatians in the last ten years. I have loved many of them. You have such beautiful countries, I still cannot fathom the horrors endured by the war in your country. I hope that peace will grow in the hearts of your country men and neighbors, though it will be a long and hard road. Thank you for sharing this hub. It was excellent. May you have peace always.


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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York

It was spine chilling...especially the pictures of the babies. "There might be no tomorrow so celebrate each and every moment with peace." This is what I beleive in. What needs to be eradicated from this planet is 'hate' and nothing else. I wish the heart of every human being gets filled with love for others so that there is no need of weapons and artillery. I know that this does not sound realistic but that's what I pray for. Thx for bringing this hub together.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thanks PaperMoone for your comment.

What happened in my country and in Bosnia during the war is not different then what is happenning in any other war around the world. Every army in military intervetion - is just the same. Every hate - is just the same...Like I said - the war started from little sparkles of hate, unhealed traumas from the Second World War...

Every war in the world, every military intervention lives such traumas. War on this planet will stop, when people learn how to use their energy on creative ways, not on destructive, in the name of any God, or while being araid of somebody who is different, so must be enemy.

In the meantime, we can just pray and meditate for peace in our lives and teach the children, that only love matters.

Thanks for working with my people and helping them - from all my heart.

Peace and love with you - always.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Dear Anjali,

when we create peace on this planet in our visions, it will realize, one day- there are so many lives we live, so many realities, so many alternative worlds... that is why is important to belive and create the peace. It will be materialized, even after our essence live this body and enters into new one.

Peace and love with you.


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Melody Lagrimas 7 years ago from Philippines

A very thout-provoking piece. Hope peace will prevail in your country now as well as throughout the whole world.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thanks Melody for your kind comment.

Peace is already established in my country, and I wish that to the whole world.

Many thanks for visit.


Am I dead, yet? 7 years ago

Beautiful, Tatjana. Peace is always better than war. Music artist James Blunt wrote songs about his tour in Bosnia. Such a devastating war. Wonderful hub.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thanks, AIDY, for the comment and tip about James Blunt.

Thanks god, now we enjoy the peace... (people finally realized that it would be stupid to continue with fighting, plus politic changed and that one who were political leaders at the time of war - are dead now - what is great. A rest of the most responsible ones for war crimes is in the Haag (in prison) so everything looks much better now.

You are great compassionate guy, world is happy to have you, and me as well to have you as my fan.

A lot of peace and joy.


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Paper Moon 7 years ago from In the clouds

Thank you again for this wonderful hub. I had to come back for a second read. It is a perfect addition to the hubs around the world link for peace. :D


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thank you for so many kind words, Paper Moon. I needed to write this Hub, otherwise my soul would not be content. People should be able to face effcts of their deeds, good or wrong ones.

All of us are responsible for the situation on this world.

Love and peace


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quicksand 7 years ago

Only those who have been in it know what it feels like. I really know what you would have felt like when Zagreb was bombed. Four years is a long time indeed. Time wasted. I do know.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thank you very much, QS for so compassionate comment... Maybe you can share your experience - in one more Hub for peace???

Many hugs, my dear friend.


ColdWarBaby 7 years ago

If only there were some way everyone could be forced to experience the reality of war through the words and emotions of others. Sadly it seems that nothing short of actually being there can bring home the insanity of such conflict.

The vast majority of humanity is peaceful by nature. It is always those who seek to dominate and rule that create and foster hatred and hostility within the human family.

What will it take to make them see how wrong they are?

There is no way to Peace. Peace is the Way.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thanks for the visit and comment, CWB.

Wish to dominate comes from inner weakness , not from inner strength. Those ones who want to rule, are scared and sick people, who do not believe in themselves - that is the reason they need the others to command them, to manipulate them, to be fed by energy of the others.

The biggest problem is - that majority of people think that they have destiny of followers, that they need to be obedient to somebody else, and that somebody else (politician, King, President, boss on the job, whoever) needs to think and make decisions instead of them.

Fear is the worst human enemy - fear creates masters and servants, and agressors and victims. Fear creates hate, hate creates wars.

Love and inner peace create individual freedom, and this is path through wich every individual needs to walk step by step.

Peace to you CWB.


Peter M Adamson 7 years ago

Thank You Tatiana for such a moving and inspiring hub.I was born in 1954 in England and have always felt blessed that I have lived through times of peace. My Father was a soldier in World War Two and suffered mental illness many years later. He was a good man and had no choice at that time. Although our country has supported and been in wars we have not suffered it on our ground in my lifetime and for me it is beyond my imagination. Your hub goes somewhere to helping that understanding and the photographs are horrendous. Every human being has to be human, not inhuman and peace can be the only way to build a better life for all. I believe in God and free will and believe it is man's inability to make the right choices that has caused all these problems on Earth. For those who believe in God we must pray for evil man to see the light and for those who do not believe we need to fight the cause of peace through other means.As a believer I want to say God Bless all those who fight for peace and justice. It is the only way. Peter M Adamson


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thank you very much, Peter, for your beautiful comment. I will put here your e-mail you send me today, and waiting for the more informations about your protest-songs:

"Hello Tania, my Lyrics to the Anglo American World Recession Blues were a protest song about the Big Countries involvement in the Iraq War and the fact we spend money on this when there are world problems of food and health, So I will continue to sing Recession Blues to highlight the same points you are making. It's just a different approach and I know exactly what you mean.keep up the good work. God Bless you Peter M Adamson

http://www.pmadamson.com

Why not have a listen to my other protest songs where I sing from my middle class palace - your very point."

Thank you so very much for contacting me, Peter, I am honored!


Tanya From Mauritius. 6 years ago

Me I think the world would become much better by starting that all people looks not differently than others bcause we are all of the same world and we could make efforts and show that we can live in peace and freedom will be here for us and us for them.This is to show you that nothing is impossible.Thanks for understanding please if possible transfer this message to all the representative of all countries and then i am sure that we will have a better world for each of us.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 6 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA Author

Thank you so much for your beautiful and so inspiring comment, Tanya.

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