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What would you do if Rutgers Coach Mike Rice was abusing your child?

  1. Alphadogg16 profile image88
    Alphadogg16posted 3 years ago

    Video surfaced of Rutgers Coach Mike Rice physically abusing, berating with homophobic slurs, and throwing basketballs at his players in practice. How would you react to this if one of the players were your child? The University knew of the abuse and suspended him before, but nothing changed. DO you think Rutgers Athletic Director should be terminated as well?

  2. The Suburban Poet profile image81
    The Suburban Poetposted 3 years ago

    I would discuss it with my son and try to communicate with the AD. I'm sure there was pressure because of scholarship issues (losing your scholarship if you transfer) but it's tough to get an AD to move on an ultimatum (fire the coach or we're taking action). On second thought I'd probably try to contact the other kids parents and see if we could have a summit with the AD and the administration.

    I'm not going to say I'd go kick Rice's ass or anything but I have a temper and who knows... if you see something that is happening to your child and you know it's wrong then you react....

    And yes I think the AD should be terminated because his judgment is clearly impaired. However I have a feeling that he consulted with the higher ups and reached a consensus on the punishment. I don't know why they didn't fire him unless the guy literally begged for forgiveness and swore to change his ways. I wonder about that meeting when they told him of his punishment.

    I feel worse about his own children who now have to deal with the humiliation of their father being a national disgrace.

  3. number2son profile image61
    number2sonposted 3 years ago

    I would kick his butt.  What else is there to do?

  4. Uninvited Writer profile image85
    Uninvited Writerposted 3 years ago

    Not right, but they are not children. They are university students, most over 18.
    He lost his job over it as he should have.

    1. number2son profile image61
      number2sonposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I understand.  If I were one of the kids there, I probably either would have put up with it, or lost my temper with him, and ended up in jail.

  5. Alphadogg16 profile image88
    Alphadogg16posted 3 years ago

    I have a temper myself......Im actually surprised none of the kids said anything before......or pulled a Latrelle Spreewell and choked/hit the coach.

    1. number2son profile image61
      number2sonposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I know.  I might be a religious guy, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't beat the living daylights out of someone if I have to, or have good reason to.

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
        prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        I am a woman but I will punch him perhaps on the stomach part cos I can reach that high. smile

        1. The Suburban Poet profile image81
          The Suburban Poetposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Ha ha... that was funny...

          1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
            prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            big_smile

        2. BLACKANDGOLDJACK profile image84
          BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Somebody should be afraid, very afraid.

          This Rutgers thing was way over the top, and it seems as those involved are being dealt with appropriately.

          My daughter had a high school basketball coach last season who I thought went beyond what I considered reasonable behavior for dealing with high school kids. He was an old school guy who would yell at the girls in a demeaning way and make some of them cry. I did suggest to him several times that he lighten up. So my daughter's team made it into the state playoffs and everybody was happy. They had a party for the coach after the season. So I have mixed feelings about his coaching style. I wouldn't have blamed my daughter if she would have punched the coach, like you would have done, prettydarkhorse.

          1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
            prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Everybody want to perform well for the win but being abused and shamed verbally and physically is not a good way to do it!

            When I said that I will punch him in the stomach, it was just my first reaction upon watching the video, I always believe in settling things in non violent way. I was exaggerating (hyperbole), LOL! But I can do it specially if I witnessed the practice.



            Yep. As I looked at your daughter, I think she will punch him beautifully big_smile

  6. Alphadogg16 profile image88
    Alphadogg16posted 3 years ago

    Lol.....I would hold him down for you Prettydarkhorse

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      You can help me too smile

  7. MommyLoves profile image80
    MommyLovesposted 3 years ago

    If this coach were abusing my adult college student, I would take this as the perfect opportunity to teach my son to be a strong, honorable man.
    I would coach my son to stand up to this guy himself, and tell him that his behavior is inappropriate and not at all inspiring to his team! 
    The biggest problem is that young boys (and girls for that matter) are taught that if they complain during sports, they are sissies and wimps, so I would need to counteract that belief first.
    If the coach retaliated against my son for standing up to the bullying, I would coach my son to go to the next level, and then the next until he got to the top.  If nothing was done, I would support a decision to go to the media.
    The kids whose entire academic career is based on the sport are the ones most hurt by this.  How can they stand up to this coach without being marked as "not a team player"?  Where other college would take them once they were honest about why they wanted to transfer?
    'Rock and a hard place' if I ever saw one.
    Glad he's been fired finally!

  8. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 3 years ago

    I am not sure a parent going and beating him up would really help their adult kids understand that hitting and abusing people is wrong.

    1. BLACKANDGOLDJACK profile image84
      BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      You are absolutely right. It should not be the parents dealing with the situation. It should be the kid when the kid is an adult (over 18). My son played basketball in college. I can't imagine him putting up with crap like this. That's him in the pic.   

      http://s1.hubimg.com/u/7859480_f248.jpg

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
        prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        They are a beautiful pair smile

  9. ocbill profile image75
    ocbillposted 3 years ago

    These guys put up with it for a long time and they are in college, NOT kids. They are 18 and can fight for our country I am sure they hear & see worse from Marine & Army sargeants.They are legally adults.

    That being said, maybe these coaches were simulating what does happen on the court so these guys do not get a technical foul, so they do not fight the other player(s). Yes, there are other ways to teach it.
    Verbal abuse by other players, trash talking,  name calling (racial,fat, family, ugly, cheap), getting in your face does exist and always will in basketball; college & the pros . Even Kobe has said gay slurs & been fined. KG says harsh stuff all the time. Remember him and Melo?  It is a part of the game of basketball.

    But in the video, the name calling was so over the top it was like watching a Joe Pesci and DeNiro gangster movie. The ball throwing (dodgeball) was ridiculous.
    I do agree what Rice and his asst did is NOT right for society. What would I do? they are 18, so they can just transfer to another school but the players don't want to hurt their chances of making money playing pro, NBA d-league or overseas so they tolerate it. I remember I hated my first boss at age 16. He was such a jerk to everyone.

  10. Alphadogg16 profile image88
    Alphadogg16posted 3 years ago

    I have a son, who I coach myself...and a daughter in college.....I've always told them to respect those who respect them.....so I would not have any problem with my kids punching their coach in the face if he/she put their hands on one of them.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Good for you alphadogg smile

  11. prettydarkhorse profile image66
    prettydarkhorseposted 3 years ago

    And of course psycheskinner is right smile

 
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