Modern Men In Frilly Stockings

Men's tights are making a comeback, but there's a secret many men who wear hosiery harbor – they don't want to wear men's tights, they want to wear women's tights. And why not? Although several small companies have sprung up making hosiery for men, Activskin being perhaps the most well known, as with most male garments, every effort has been made to remove the softer side of the garment. For some reason, when clothing is made for men, be it outerwear, underwear or intimate wear, an emphasis on blocky construction and minimalist ornamentation seems to be considered key.

You won't find lace trim, bows or anything else pretty on this 'hosiery for men', so all it really does is continue to reinforce the stereotype that men must dress plainly in order to be considered masculine.

Why? In nature, the most flamboyant displays are usually reserved for the male. Look at a male peacock compared to a female peacock. The male is brightly colored and flaunts his ornate display proudly. In humans, we seem to delight in quashing all signs of male flamboyance for fear that males might become more effeminate.

The fact that clothing can't really make a man more or less fundamentally effeminate seems to escape people. If a man is going to be effeminate, then he will be effeminate whether he is dressed in a red silk gown or a prickly penguin suit. Our gender identity is usually set long before we start to wear adult clothing at all, and all the conditioning in the world can only serve to impart an insidious guilt on those not already primed to run with it.

What do I mean by that? I mean if you try and train boys to be 'real' men by making them only do 'manly' things and wear masculine clothing, you're really only appealing to the young men who would have naturally gravitated towards this sort of thing anyway. If you try and force unwanted hyper masculinity on a child or man who is not naturally that way inclined, all you do is create internal conflict, guilt and self loathing.

Bring on men's hosiery with bows and lace and frills! Lets embrace men in all their proud glory, not shut them away in dark sombre colors. Let's allow men to express themselves as freely as we women can express ourselves, and lets enjoy the great pageant available to us in fashion without feeling guilty about what we want to wear.

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likewhatiam 7 years ago

Hi Hope

Thanks once again for your great hub,I just wish every body thought the same as you do,it sure would be a great to just wear whatever we want without being branded or put into a certain catagory.Keep up the good work maybe some day we will be accepted for what we are.


Michelle 7 years ago

As always Hope another great hub. I completely agree. I wear pink dress shirts and a pink tie to work all the time. My boss was impressed that I wasn't self conscious about it and HE started wearing pink shirts and ties as well. Now most of the guys at work wear pink as well. Just goes to show what one person can start and accomplish, even if you dont mean to.


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bearclawmedia 7 years ago from Mining Planet Earth

Hi Hope , hope you publish my comments not just the people who agree with you. Read my hub Men in women's cloths - by Bearclawmedia


vickie 7 years ago

Thank you Hope, There are a lot of us wearing garter belts and stockings under male clothing. I love what you said about forced hypermasculinity. If it is not forced it is implied. Maybe one day the barriers will be broken down.


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David H 7 years ago from England

How about pink floral lace tights - wouldn't that brighten up these dark days?!!

I have never understood myself why "real men" must always dress plainly.

Men and women should compete and try to outdo each other in fashion stakes. It would give everyone in office jobs something to talk about at least!


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lainie_xo 7 years ago

Thank you for another great Hub. I especialy liked whay uou had to say about forced hypermasculinity. "and all the conditioning in the world can only serve to impart an insidious guilt on those not already primed to run with it" Just started recently to pursue how I really want to live my life and these pages are encouraging.


Mikk 7 years ago

You're right once again. This is another reason I shop from the "women's" side of the store. Can't find anything thats not fit for a lumberjack or gangsta, and don't even think about wearing anything that hugs your figure, apparently someone forgot to inform the people that design clothing for men of the existence of spandex and all other things stretchy.


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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

Bearclaw, you didn't even spell the word 'clothes' properly, your title is 'Men in women's cloths', so pardon me if I don't take your rebuttal with any seriousness.

Men who wear women's clothing tend to be eloquent and educated, the ones who are dead set against the idea seem unable to spell six letter words. Is that perhaps telling in some way? I don't know.


michelle 7 years ago

It is idiots like bearclaw who perpetuate the ideas that crossdressing is wrong and perverted. Bearclaw you need to stick to what you know, which is nonsense and mispelled words. I read what you wrote and it is all a bunch of B.S.! So do the rest of mankind a favor Bearclaw and keep your mouth shut and your hands away from the key board.


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Ruby Slipper 7 years ago from Medford, OR

I say wear what makes you feel good. Nice hub.


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Set's All Set 7 years ago from New England

Hope, simple grammar mistakes does not take away from bearclaw's substance. I could wrote with perfect grammar and still sound like an idiot. Ohh, I see you've already mastered that in this hub. You're learning. Did daddy hurt you when you were young or do you just like slamming men? Is that the new "fad"?


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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

Nobody is slamming men here, Set. Unfortunately, you couldn't understand that if you tried. Bearclaw's writing didn't make any sense because it assumed I was saying men had to be feminine to be men, which is absolutely not the point. He, like you, took no time to understand the issues which he was commenting on.

Men do wear women's clothing. It happens. It happens whether I write about it or not. I'm not bashing men to acknowledge that. You would have to actually read more than the headline of these hubs to understand that however.

I find your casual reference to child abuse quite disturbing, and indeed, very telling. Instead of debating the issue at hand, you resort to base, and fairly sickening personal slurs. Just because someone holds a point of view that you can't even bring yourself to consider, it doesn't mean that they are somehow disturbed or broken.

It is you who lacks substance, any form of argument, or indeed any form of masculinity if you believe that being a real man means attacking others personally online. Your IP has been logged, and any and all further comments you make will be deleted without being read.

(On another note, I find it hilarious that you've published a hub on online reputation management and then posted disgusting bigotry in a public place. Nice one.)


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GetRhythm 7 years ago

Ya know it's fascinating to ponder the ideal of what a 'real' man or a 'real' woman should be cause in reality this ideal differs from person to person. It's stupid to think that in order for men to be 'real' they have to fit a certain 'mold' and for women to be 'real' women they have to fit a certain 'mold'. Come on now, you can't expect everybody to be this socalled 'real' man or 'real' woman. It just isn't realistic. Agree or disagree with what Hope writes; just know that what she's writing about deals with a real issue. You don't have to agree with the issue, but know that it is more real that this ideal of a 'real' man or a 'real' woman. So excuse me while I put on something a little more comfortable.


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bearclawmedia 6 years ago from Mining Planet Earth

Did not understand how things worked when I first arrived, thought we were in a free speech environment. I can see how I was out of line, but it was ignorance not maliciousness, so I apologise from the heart. Especially after being partially responsible for the level of anger that was exhibited in other hubs. Certainly never my intention.

Yes typo’s are as good of a way as any to feel superior, suppose you never had to work on a dock or labour for 36 hours in a row, or fight bush fires. All places where you do not learn how to spell or write beautiful paragraphs.

That said, your hubs are still offensive to me because you speak to the sensationalist audience. You negate others buy speaking as though you speak for everyone. I have come to terms with the fact that I am the minority here.

I will keep my comments to myself about you and others on the hub pages.

I wish you could believe how sorry I am for the way all this turned out. Sorry if I have offended you or any one else. Real man, not real or even a fake man, I ams what I ams, and I aint no more. Nice hub on plus size lingerie, touché…………..

P.S. Google add sense shows clothes as one of the most commonly misspelled words, as well as tattoo and many others. Mostly Americans. Who do you want to hear your message, I suppose that is the question?


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Hope Alexander 6 years ago Author

Bearclaw, I have no problem with you, I think you've maybe misunderstood what I'm really about though. I'm not writing, in the most part, for sensationalism. There are thousands of men who come and read these articles every day because they do like to wear different clothing from the mainstream.

Men who are happy wearing traditional guy clothes are not bad people, and they are definitely real men. I hope I'm making myself clear when I say that saying 'real men wear panties' or whatever I say, I'm not saying that you can't be a real man without wearing panties.

I'd also like to apologize for making cracks at your spelling, we all make typos and mistakes. That was a douche thing to do.

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