A Promise Ring for Her

What Does "Promise Ring" Mean

A lot of people get promise rings confused with engagement rings, which are two different things.

A promise ring symbolizes just what it says, a promise. A promise you make to your significant other can be any kind of promise or commitment, not just for marriage. A promise ring can mean that you are committing to be faithful only to her in your exclusive relationship and backing that up with a ring, or symbol of your commitment. A promise ring can promise her that she's got your heart.

It can certainly be a "pre-engagement" ring, expressing your intentions of making it legal one day, perhaps when the two of you are a little older or have a little more money.

It can be the promise of your intention to take care of her. It could be the promise of breaking a bad habit such as drinking, smoking or gambling.

You can make a promise ring as uniquely yours as your relationship.

As an engagement ring is the promise of a marriage, a promise ring can symbolize anything between the two of you, whether that is an eventual engagement or marriage or something else.

A promise ring is a sweet and meaningful gesture when you really want your partner to know how much you care about her, and that your feelings for her run deep.

Think of how you will present this ring to the one you love. A special place where the two of you can share in this special moment.

Giving a promise ring is one of the most romantic things you can do and it can really help you express those feelings that maybe you have a hard time putting into words. There are many shapes and sizes of promise rings that can help you get that message of "you mean so much to me" across in just the right way.

Let's take a look at some of those beautiful rings so you can begin thinking of how you can pick out the perfect promise ring for your someone special.

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Promise Rings - Girlfriend

You can always go with a less formal gemstone for your promise ring, but diamonds are probably the most popular. Maybe you’ve heard of the song, “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend?” There you go.

Diamonds are timeless and classic and just the brilliance and luster of the stone are a few of the reasons why they are such a popular choice. Diamonds look good in just about any ring setting.

Diamonds also look beautiful with any color of band, whether it be sterling silver, yellow gold, white gold, or rose gold, just to name a few options.

If you want to promise your love forever, a diamond promise ring will do the trick!

Choosing charming heart-shaped promise rings can be given with real heart-felt feelings.

From a small, simple design to something very fancy with diamonds and gemstones, she’ll be delighted to receive something right from your heart.

Diamond Heart Promise Rings

For a very romantic promise ring, you can opt for a heart design. Whether your heart is made from precious metal or is set off with a diamond or other gemstone, nothing says romance like a heart.

Truly giving her your heart and promise, a heart-shaped promise ring is a very popular choice.

A heart promise ring can be simple or elaborate, depending on what your promise will be. So it’s a perfect choice for a girlfriend, or a wife-to-be.

It can also be given to a daughter for a milestone birthday, or exchanged between best friends, sisters or anyone you want to be a “forever friend.”

How to Give a Promise Ring

Even the smallest of diamonds, or diamonds in a band or knot design, look timeless, elegant, classy and look great with any skin tone with the help of beautiful white gold.

White Gold Diamond Promise Rings

Choosing a diamond promise ring set off in a classic white gold band is a favorite choice today.

White gold, much like the traditional yellow gold, is made by mixing about 3/4 gold with another alloy.

For yellow gold, the remaining 1/4 is an alloy such as zinc and copper, giving it a yellow gold hue.

White gold is also made of 3/4 gold, but mixed with a metal such as silver, giving it the gray-white color. The gold may also be mixed with nickel, but sensitive skin may have a bad reaction to nickel, so silver or palladium is a better choice. From there, the metal is coated with Rhodium, which is similar to platinum, and this metal is what gives it the classic “white” appearance.

White gold has been gaining popularity over the years, and the understated elegance of this metal makes that diamond really pop!

These promise rings combine the beauty of diamonds with a white and black mix of precious metals and stones.

Gorgeous meets cool!

Black Diamond Promise Rings

The beauty and unique qualities of this dazzler speak for themselves!

A gorgeous black diamond, featuring a square cut, and set off by tiny little stones complete this gorgeous promise ring.

For a really different look, and a step away from a traditional-looking diamond, this one steals the show!

Ring Settings - Gemstones

There are many different types of gemstones, as you are probably already aware, but also keep in mind the cut of the stone, or setting, of the ring. There are a variety of different ways the gemstone can be “cut,” then shaped to fit appropriately into the ring setting.

For example, one of the more popular gemstone cuts is known as a “Princess cut,” which refers to how the gemstone is cut and that the correct number of facets the stone is given. (Refer to the Princess Cut section of this Hub).

Listed below are different types of gemstone cuts and ring setting shapes. If you aren’t sure what type of cut your sweetie prefers, it is generally a safe bet to go with a brilliant Round or Princess cut, or stick with a band.

Otherwise, just suck it up and come right out and ask, or have a trusted best friend bring it up in conversation and pass the information on to you. With all the different cuts and ring shapes, it can be pretty confusing to try to pick out just the right ring.

The confusing part comes in when you have to remember that the “cut” of the diamond is not the “shape” of the diamond.

For example, you can have a round diamond in a Princess cut setting. Or you could have a Round cut diamond in a square-shaped setting. Add the diamond chips (also known as pave diamonds) and a couple of baguette cut diamonds on the side, and you can see how it can become mind-boggling pretty quickly.

If you can remember that the cut of the diamond and number of facets are to bring out the brilliance of the stone when the light hits it from any direction and to make it shine brilliantly, while the shape is simply how the stone is set into the ring, whether it be a pear, oval, star, heart, etc.

Princess Cut Promise Rings

By far, one of the crowd favorites is a Princess cut diamond.

You can spot a Princess cut by the square or rectangular look of the diamond from the top. From the side, it takes on the shape of an inverted pyramid. Because of the cut and the facets, the brilliance of a Princess cut diamond is amazing from any angle, as it can reflect a lot of light.

Second in popularity only to a round Brilliant cut diamond, it’s easy to see why any lady would feel like a Princess with this type of ring!

Gemstone Cuts

Here are some popular cuts plus descriptions -

Brilliant Cut
Usually cut with a round stone, resulting in a cone shape with many, many facets on the top and sides of stone. Exceptionally luminous.

Emerald Cut
A rectangle-shaped cut with tapered corners. Longer areas of stone (the table) do not have as many facets, but as it “steps” down on the sides, still catches light and results in a beautiful look of the stone. Usually seen with emeralds, it is becoming more popular with diamonds and other colored gem stones.

Heart Cut
A modified version of the Pear cut, but with two distinct curves on the top and a point at the bottom of the stone to form a heart. Cut in a way to expose many facets for maximum brilliance and luminosity.

Marquise Cut
Long, elegant cut tapering each end of the stone. Almost the shape of an eye or football. It can make the size of a smaller stone appear larger, and can have a slimming effect on fingers and hands due to its longer shape. Many facets make this a sparkly cut.

Oval Cut
Much like a Round Brilliant cut due to its brilliance, but oval in shape. Has a slenderizing effect on hands and fingers due to its slightly longer shape, and can make a smaller stone appear a bit larger.

Pear Cut
Round on one end; tapered to a point on the other. Has many facets like a Round Brilliant, but offers a less common shape.

Princess Cut
The top is a square or rectangular shape with clean, square corners. From the sides, it looks like an upside-down pyramid with lots of facets (bevels) for maximum brilliance.

Radiant Cut
A square or slightly rectangular shape cut, with distinctive “squared off” corners. Many facets make this a dazzling ring cut choice.

Round Cut
The most popular type of cut, the gem is round and sparkles brilliantly due to the many, many facets. This is an extremely flexible cut that can be used in virtually any kind of ring setting.

Square Cut
A perfectly square cut that is sometimes modified to become a Princess, Radiant or Brilliant cut stone. May contain “steps” that allow for more facets and more shine. A square cut is also the basis for a “Cushion” cut, which is a square cut with rounded corners and large facets. A Cushion cut may vary from square to rectangular in shape.

Asscher Cut
A popular shape is much like the Emerald cut, but square. With the many steps and resulting facets, this cut is very luminous.

Trilliant-Trillion-Triangle Cut
A trendy variation of a Brilliant cut, this stone takes on the shape of a triangle. Featuring many facets, a trillion-shaped ring is unique and dazzling.

Generally speaking, the bigger the stone, the fancier the cut you will have. Again, the “cut” refers to the design or style that brings out maximum luminosity and brilliance of the stone once completed and polished. Fancier cuts result in more facets, which enable the stone to catch the light from any direction and sparkle.

The smaller the stone, the less involved the cut, as there will automatically be less facets simply due to the size of the stone.

Some of the most popular cuts for diamonds include the Asscher, Princess, Emerald, Heart, Marquise, Oval, Pear and Radiant.

Sterling Silver Emerald Rings

If you want to go with something other than a diamond, maybe a little less formal or maybe a preference, don’t rule out the beauty of an emerald.

A deep, gorgeous green that can complete with any diamond, an emerald is another of the favorite gemstone choices.

This promise ring which features a lovely emerald nestled in a romantic design is sure to melt her heart.

Promise Rings - Him

We’ve talked about the fellas gifting their sweethearts with a promise ring, but ladies, you can give that special someone a promise ring, too!

Think Johnny Depp here...

Your special ring can include a very special message that tells him just how you feel about him.

Even if simple and understated, he can carry his thoughts of you everywhere.

The symbol of your feelings for each other. A commitment made with the exchange of rings. A perfect couples’ gift idea that has special meaning for the two of you.

Matching Promise Rings

Since promise rings are truly an expression of feelings for each other, why not give each other matching promise rings?

These rings are not wedding bands, as you can see from the design. You can gift each other with matching promise rings, each signifying your promise to each other.

You can both wear these rings even if your “promise” is not one of an engagement or marriage. Simply a promise to one another that the two of you can decide upon.

Great lookings rings perfect for Valentine’s Day, an anniversary or Sweetest Day.

Hopefully, you're beginning to see that promise rings come in all shapes and sizes.

There are bands, “knot” designs, different colored gems, great-looking cubic zirconia, and just about anything you can come up with!

The beauty is not only the ring, but the fact that you can go with a traditional design or something that is very cutting edge and different.

You make or break the rules here. Your promise ring can be as unique as you are!

Unique Promise Rings

The wonderful thing about promise rings is that they don’t have to have gemstones at all!

This ring is all metal but designed in the classic Irish friend symbol. This promise ring is perfect for anyone who holds their Irish heritage dear, in addition to friends and loved ones.

A gorgeous ring that can be given to anyone, yet can still convey a very meaningful message to the recipient.

Determine Ring Size

If you’re unsure about the size of ring, you can simply grab a string and wrap it around the ring finger (or finger of choice). Once the two ends of the string meet to form a “ring,” mark that point of the string with a Sharpie. From there, stretch the string out straight and measure against a plain, old ruler.

Be sure to keep some “play” in the ring, so it’s not too tight, and to allow for a little weight gain, or slight swelling of the fingers which may occur from time to time.

You can also measure with a piece of construction paper. Simple cut a strip of construction paper about 1″ wide. Wrap around the finger and mark with a Sharpie, pen or pencil where the ends of the construction paper meets to form a “ring.” Lay out flat against a ruler and get your measurement, either in inches or millimeters.

Use the illustration below for a sizing guide.

You can always go to a jewelry store to determine ring size, or try to sneak a peek at another ring and compare it to this sizing guide.

Some people will tell you that promise rings shouldn’t be worn on the actual ring finger that you would wear a wedding or engagement ring on. It is completely up to the two of you to decide if the promise ring should be worn on the wedding ring finger, or on the other hand.

What Does a Promise Ring Mean?

So friends, I hope you see that promise rings can mean so much more than making a commitment to become engaged or married.

Promise rings can be exchanged between parents and children; friends; siblings and of course, sweethearts.

How would you like to give or receive a promise ring, and what would it mean to you?

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patricia_bruce 2 years ago from Wisconsin Author

That is so cool, Whitney! I know a lot of people who use promise rings for things other than getting married, and I love it! Thank you for the nice comments : )


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Whitney Amechi 2 years ago from Winnetka, CA

This is truly a great read. I actually have a promise ring that my boyfriend gave me for our one year anniversary nearly four years ago, and I also gave him one for our two year anniversary. A lot of people assume we're married when they see them because they're both very simple silver bands - mine has a small diamond in it and his has a nice design. Thank you for putting this Hub up to have people understand that promise rings are not ALWAYS for pre-engagement reasons! xx

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