Do YOU Feel UGLY?

(Let me remind the readers that "beauty" in this hub applies for both men and women)

The "UGLY" and the WORLD...

“I know that I am not physically beautiful…” this is a line from a friend that struck me days ago. I was really surprised because she is physically attractive, bright and kindhearted. I was wandering what made her feel physically ugly.

From time to time, there are factors that may make one feel physically ugly. And in reality, being physically attractive is a “BIG DEAL” in every society, which is the reason why beauty centers and even the most expensive beauty products are making so much money despite the failing economy.

Let me use the adage again from Oscar Wilde, “To me, beauty is the wonder of wonders...It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances.” Let us admit the fact that all of us are automatically attracted whenever we see good looking people. We never fail to give a second or more look whenever they are around, whether they are acquaintances or strangers.

  • Beauty and The Brain – This hub by one of my favorite hubber, Cecilia Beltran explains the role of the physiologic activities of our body and our attraction to physical beauty. It then inspired me to make my hub about beauty and ugliness.

The fact is, we are all programmed to acknowledge physical beauty at a first glance and inner beauty does not give that automatic effect since it is not seen physically. However, what is beauty in the eyes of everyone?

The subject of physical beauty may remind us of the only published novel by Oscar Wilde in 1891, “The Portrait of Dorian Gray”...

Dorian Gray was a young man who was really very good looking and physically attractive. At that time, a painter named Basil Hallward was so impressed by the good looks of Dorian, and knew that it would give a new life to his art. He then requested Dorian to be his subject for his paintings. Dorian gladly agreed.

It was not long until he met Lord Henry Wotton who is a very good friend of Basil. He was the one who introduced to Dorian the significance of being physically beautiful and attractive. He started to emphasize that the most important to have in life is satisfaction of the senses and beauty. Dorian begins to think that beauty is the only worthwhile aspect about life, and the only thing that everyone needs to pursue. Because of this, he wished whimsically that his portrait that Basil is painting would age rather than himself so that he would be good looking all his lifetime. His wish was fulfilled so that his own portrait aged and manifests some disfigurement whenever he does something sinful. It served as a reminder what each sinful act does to his soul.

Although his wish to be always “beautiful” physically was put to reality. It has never made him truly happy. He fell in love with a beautiful and a very talented actress named Sybil, but when Sybil lost her talent to act, he started rejecting her, emphasizing that her beauty was in her heart and that she does not possess the physical beauty that could attract other people. This was the very first time that he discovered that his wish to stay young and good looking was fulfilled when he went home and saw his portrait was aging. He then decided to reconcile with Sybil, but he was informed the following day that she took her own life by taking hydrogen cyanide because of what he has done. In 18 years, he never fell in love again. He experimented with every vice, mostly under the influence of a "poisonous" French novel, which was a present from Lord Henry. *Wilde never revealed the title, but his inspiration was possibly drawn from Joris-Karl Huysmans's À rebours (Against Nature ) due to the likenesses that exist between the two novels.

In his lifetime, Dorian experimented with vices and substance abuse; he committed crimes (one of which is killing Basil). For some reasons, he decided to be good and again fell in love with Hetty Merton. He did all he can so as not to break her heart, stopped doing all his sinful acts and gave up his immoral ways. and went back to his apartment thinking that his portrait has returned in its most beautiful form. He unveiled his portrait to find it has become worse. Seeing this, he questions the motives behind his "mercy," whether it was merely vanity, curiosity, or the quest for new emotional excess. He thought that only full confession will absolve him. But soon, due to fear of the consequences and lack of feelings of guilt, he decides to destroy the last vestige of his conscience. In a rage, he plunged a knife at the heart of his portrait. His servants heard a cry from inside the locked room so they called the police. They find Dorian's body, stabbed in the heart, which now looks horribly withered and aged. It is only through the rings on his hand that his corpse can be identified. Beside him, the portrait has gained back its exceptional beauty and form.

EVERYONE CAN be physically beautiful. Here are a few ways to be physically attractive:

  • Start proper diet and exercise.

  • Know the art of choosing the outfits that emphasize your assets.

  • Sleep and drink lots of fluids.

  • Learn the creative ways to use cosmetics depending on your own physical assets and liabilities.

  • Choose the right skin care for your own skin type.

  • Maintain proper hygiene.

  • Stay Beautiful ON A Budget- This is a hub by yours truly about being beautiful and ways to be physically attractive.

And there are a million more ways, not to mention the more advanced ways to be physically attractive like aesthetic surgeries, which may include bust and nose lifts. Skin tanning and skin whitening are also very popular. Regaining your “virginity” in a physical manner is also possible through hymenoplasty.

Above all, we must realize the fact that EVERYONE can be physically attractive especially at this day and age where the aesthetic science is evolving to an extent that it could make you look like a Greek god/ goddess. Failing to measure up with your own society’s "definition" of what is beautiful makes you feel physically ugly IF you take it too seriously. There goes your self esteem… time and again, low self esteem unconsciously announces to the world how ugly you can get even if you are physically attractive. Everyone can get so physically beautiful… but not all can have the inside out beauty that everybody is truly aspiring for. Low self worth makes you feel ugly and eventually will manifest even in your own physical appearance and body language, it makes you less attractive.

What is REAL BEAUTY?

The novel of Oscar Wilde somehow shows us what beauty is all about. It can never be present in every human if it is not in harmony with his inner self. The maintenance of physical beauty does not guarantee a beautiful life. Furthermore, your own perception and faith in your own beauty may be influenced greatly by your environment and if you let it get you, you may either get so obsessed at making yourself physically attractive or you may feel ugly if you are not able to cope with the standards that your environment is trying to show as something that is beautiful.

I can still remember when I was in high school, I was always teased by my friends because of my “big bottom”, and yet in my post graduate years, most girls admired that “big bottom” because that was the time that Jennifer Lopez became so popular. In my childhood, one of my friends hated her pouty lips, she despised them being so big, and yet now, so many women spend so much money just to make their lips pouty because of Angelina Jolie. And who could ever forget the voluptuous and ever so sexy Marilyn Monroe? Yet right now, very thin models represent the most popular brands, thus the advent of so many teenagers try to vow to be anorexic for life because of the new “standard” to what is beautiful, despite the lack of curves and bulges on the right body parts. These only show that interpretation of what is physically attractive can be “seasonal”.


Ben Barnes as Dorian Gray in 2009 (Image courtesy of Company.co.uk)
Ben Barnes as Dorian Gray in 2009 (Image courtesy of Company.co.uk)
Julia Roberts  (Image courtesy of Blog.beliefnet.com)
Julia Roberts (Image courtesy of Blog.beliefnet.com)
Reese Witherspoon  (Image courtesy of Wallpapers-e.com)
Reese Witherspoon (Image courtesy of Wallpapers-e.com)

Beauty and Science....

We may also notice that some alteration or disfigurement makes one physically attractive. The law of symmetry does not always apply in the real world. Again, the "Marquardt's Theory" may be appropriately compared to the line that goes “Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes…” as it is also implicated in the book, "This is Who I Am: Our Beauty in All Shapes and Sizes" by Roseanne Olson. "Marquardt’s Theory" in this sense may imply that a little off the ordinary can make you attractive.The faces of Julia Roberts and Reese Witherspoon for example are so attractive and captivating, analyzing them closer will make you realize that there is something about their chin which are out of the "ordinary" BUT THEY BOTH POSSESS SUCH AN ADORABLE BEAUTY. Take a good look at the choice for the role of Dorian Gray in the 2009 film, Ben Barnes has an extraordinary cleft chin which makes him stand out. Take a good closer look at the physical features of some people that you find attractive or beautiful and you will find something out of the ordinary.

Beauty may also be manifested by the Phi ( The Divine Proportion/ Golden Number- some think of the Golden Number as the Fibonacci Series), an infinite series of 1, or one can see it as 1 to the infinite; or the Pi (The Divine Number) which no human can ever calculate precisely (although Archimedes calculated it, he just provided an approximate value of 3.1416 which is still being used to the present). These products of science may show us that beauty is without any finite or measurable limits and no one can ever define it accurately in a detailed manner. It only shows that beauty is an endless overflow of what feeds the mind and the senses in myriad ways. That even science could not give it a definite point.


One can be called "fat" when being with others with smaller figures...

Images of Tyra Banks fighting back after being called "America's Next Top Waddle" (Image courtesy of Hilary.com)
Images of Tyra Banks fighting back after being called "America's Next Top Waddle" (Image courtesy of Hilary.com) | Source

Just a thought of WHO attracts WHO...

In your opinion,which actor who played the role of Dorian Gray is more attractive?

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At what age bracket are you?

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"....You must learn to see past established notions of beauty (tall, blond, blue eyed and slender) and realize that proportions know no size, height nor race. A fat woman with a 1:1.618 proportion will still invite attention more than a slender model who is stick thin." (Cecilia Beltran's comment for her hub "Beauty and the Brain").

Another extraordinary beauty that we know is Tyra Banks. She was the heaviest among her batch mates when she first modeled for Victoria's Secret, yet she gained the most attention from people all over the globe. In 2007, published photos of the supermodel, looking a little chubby wearing a swim suit, with the title "America's Next Top Waddle" came out. Tyra fired back by wearing the same swimsuit on her talk show displaying her lean and curvy new figure, which was a far cry from the distorted image. She even said that she's proud of her post-modeling curves. In all truths, Tyra looks beautiful than ever. She was 161 lbs in a 5’10" height. This can show us that one can be labeled as "fat" anytime whenever exposed to people who are more thin than them even if they are not actually fat.Tyra obviously has that Divine Proportion going on, she is a masterpiece of a Phi at work... NO SHE'S NOT FAT at all. She is a picture of real beauty and health- NOT the epitome of a fad called ANOREXIA.

As anything else in this world, we perceive beauty in vast and different ways. We must realize that what we perceive to be physically beautiful may not be perceived as such by others. The lines that says, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” may come to mind and realize once again what it really means, that we may see the same thing at the same time but may perceive it differently. This is the very reason why each of us SHOULD accept the fact that some may find us somewhat ugly and some may find us beautiful... and it should NEVER affect us greatly.

What really matters is that we must love ourselves no matter what size and shape or color we’re in. We only have to aspire to be healthy to prolong our life which may include common sense ways like gaining our ideal body weight and not trying to be anorexic for life or trying to be a glutton just to gain weight if we feel like we should be bigger on some parts of our body. Keep in mind too, that having the extra 5 to 10 lbs or the lack of it does not really add up to the physical ugliness and beauty of a person. Let us again be reminded that physical beauty does not guarantee an “insecurity- free” life. Some (if not most) good looking people could be more insecure compared to some who look “average” because they grew up catching attention with their physical beauty. Most good looking people may in some point find it very irritating to be stared at and the attention may become very suffocating. Enhancing our own uniqueness physically, spiritually and emotionally without the pressure to be like someone else makes us beautiful inside out.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all of us felt really beautiful inside out? Most men and women don’t realize that criticizing other men or women can hurt their own ego. The judgment tool they use for others is the same tool that they use for themselves. Let us face the fact that some women/ men criticize other women/ men because they unconsciously compare themselves to their prey. I love one of the quotes in the book by Roseanne Olson, it came from a 51 year old woman, which goes like this: “I love being comfortable in my body. It has a certain grace that is distinctively mine.” Your own true appreciation of who and what you are sparks up your own ability to look and feel beautiful.

It is never too late to realize that we often let the outside world control our own beauty and ugliness, not realizing the fact that it is our choice to be beautiful or ugly whether physically or not. This is a fact that has been overseen in many decades. This is the beauty secret of women who are beautiful inside out... As to my friend, she is a woman of real inside out beauty, the ONLY "disfigurement" I've seen in her is having her own belief that she is not physically attractive.

“Physical beauty may leave us in wonderment and fleeting happiness… inner beauty can warm our hearts for life… but feeding our senses and our life with both gives us immeasurable joy and grace we can have even after we take the journey of life…” (DjBryle Works, “The Beauty at The Gates of The Beast Inside…”)


It is YOUR CHOICE to be BEAUTIFUL, all it takes is for you to KNOW THE PROPER WAYS without disturbing the HARMONY of your own PHYSICAL & INNER BEAUTY...

Copyright by DjBryle Works, 2010

Image courtesy of: Graur Razvan Ionut/ Freedigitalphotos.net; Graur Codrin/ Freedigitalphotos.net; Healingdream/ Freedigitalphotos.net

(This hub was inspired by the discussions of hubbers Cecilia Beltran, Petra Vlah and Jane Bovary; and of course, by a friend who will always be cherished no matter how ugly she could feel...)

*Wilde's The Picture of Dorian Gray", Highbeam Research, April 2007.

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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

HI DJ this really made me stop, can't wait for the evening to react... I am fat all my life, and there are disadvantages when you are in the heavier side... I had my years when I surprised everybody with my dropping weight, I guess I lost more than 40 lbs, hard work exercize, diet etc.. but you know those 10 years of looking thin was the hardest and saddest part of my life... I always wanted to look beautiful but I myself cannot appreciate it, and was always surprised when complimented by lots of people.... I am back to biggy size again, maybe few more lbs and I am back hahaha, but I am happier..can't tell in details yet what went wrong then hahahah... so beauty is not everything.. I may admire lee yo won a lot coz I find her really beautiful and lucky and popular and great actress, but I am a different person, I may want to look like her sometimes hahaha but you see happiness is getting the love the you have in whatever looks you have....great hub dear


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Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

Most adult males don't care near as much for physical beauty as you think,it's usaualy appreciated as something out of reach...but respond to the return of affection and just a compliment out of the blue,this will raise a womans beauty to unseen heights,no matter phisicality;)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@MA. Cecilia: Thanks so much for sharing with me a part of your life. You never fail to amaze me with your hubs... and now you warmed my heart! Hey, what is beauty if it does not agree with the voice inside you, anyway? I've seen your images at your site and I see every reason for you to feel beautiful physically. Thanks for dropping by and for the very kind appreciation of this hub! See you around! =)

@Mentalist Acer: That is so true, that is why our physical beauty SHOULD always be in harmony of what lies within us. Thanks for dropping by my friend, and spending time with my hub! =)


raine 6 years ago

Not only once in my life did i get so envious of women who are physically attractive that even i, being a woman would care to throw a second glance. I always wanted to be slim. Never mind being small in height. But i just couldn't get enough motivation to exercise or even stick on any diet regimen. Because i love to eat. And most of my favorites fall under those rich in carbo and fats--pasta (pancit bihon to my native language), burgers and other fast foods. Even if i am so tired after a 12-hours work, i still would want to eat before going to sleep. Some friends say they preferred it better when I do gain weight but personally I really wanted to be skinny. Who would not want to fit in small sizes waistline of at least 26-27 inches. Sigh! I am such a freak when it comes to size not to mention having a flawless skin. But I always end up feeling sorry for myself for not being able to achieve this so-called physical attractiveness.

But with all due respect, I appreciate this hub. I just wish I could get hold of and maintain the motivation I used to have when I decided a few years back to trim down. Way back then, I really felt at peace with the way I look. Thanks again for the realization. =)


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I had to hit those buttons! You put a beautiful hub together here. This last video has a pretty song. It's beautiful! I'm pretty on the inside! God bless You!


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I thought I always miss the hub like this. Wow.... this hub so beautiful as pretty as you are. I find your great thought about beauty definition from you. Why we felt ugly if we have beautiful heart, right. Everything comes from our heart and mind. Just show your self what you have. Talent, kindness, patience, humility and honesty are parts of the beauty. For me personally, inner self or inner beauty is the best. Why we pretend to others if we not comfortable. This is like we are wearing a mask. But actually our heart refuse this.

Very inspiring hub. Good work, my friend. I am happy to vote this Up.

Blessing and hugs,


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Karanda 6 years ago from Australia

The old saying, beauty is only skin deep, ignores the fact that beauty comes from within. It doesn't matter how perfect the external features are if the person inside doesn't feel right with themselves. You've made some really valid points with this hub.

The Portrait of Dorian Gray was a favourite of mine but more because of the haunting Chopin background music. It took me years to get past that and ponder on the meaning behind the movie.


hubpageswriter 6 years ago

This is a beautiful hub. Beauty is indeed skin deep and there are beauty on different levels, which should be appreciated no matter what. The internal beauty is one, the exterior beauty is just a bonus which if have is wonderful. I always believe that the beautiful personality of someone will outshine their physical looks and that's the real epitome of beauty in my opinion. Keep writing awesome hub here.:)


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onegoodwoman 6 years ago from A small southern town

It is not that simple..........it has to do with our programing from early on.......what a parent may have or not said, what a sibling said, what a playground friend said.......

My Dad thought I was the cat's meow

My hubby thinks I am gorgeous

From my high school annuals, my classmates though I was attractive

My kids have compared me favorably to the moms of their friends.........

YET, I have never, not once, not one time, looked in the mirror and thought that I was "attractive"..........

Am I a good person....check

Do I have something to offer.......check

Do I, do I, do I........check, check, and check

AM I..........no, I do not think so.


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onegoodwoman 6 years ago from A small southern town

Being beautiful or even attractive and seeing yourself in such a way are two different things. I have to look only in my own mirror to know this.

Do people snicker at me when I enter the room? no

Does my hubby think I am gorgeous? yes

My children compare me most favorably to the moms of their friends.

My family sees the attraction.....so do a few past suitors.

Would my appearance stand out in a crowd? perhaps

Yet, I have never, not once, looked into the mirror and thought of the reflection there are :beautiful, attractive, eye catching, head turning..........

Even compliments are regarded as circumspect. I am not one to "blame Mama"........but the physce starts early in life........so early, that one can not pinpoint its origins.


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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

Physical beauty should always be in harmony of what lies within us... gagawin kong status sa facebook ko ha dont worry i'll aciknowledge you hihihi


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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

Physical beauty should always be in harmony of what lies within us... gagawin kong status sa facebook ko ha dont worry i'll aciknowledge you hihihi


Viktoria's Sickrights 6 years ago

Hello ma'am Jen! This article is so beautiful! It fits you well. I am a former student of yours. The first time you stood in front of our class, we were so attracted with your physical beauty, good posture, clean flawless skin, neatly done pony tail. The moment you started the lecture on Medical- Surgical Nursing, we were in awe. The boys in our class started dreaming of you, even the girls admired you (although some felt insecure, hehehe!)And the time when we get to know you well, we discovered that you have a much more beautiful heart compared to what we have seen and heard of you. Ma'am, hindi ako sumisipsep ha, hindi na kailangan dahil RN na ako! hahaha! Babasahin ko lahat ng sinusulat mo! Ang ganda mo talaga! Kumusta kay sir.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Raine: I was overweight when I was in college, but I was not conscious of that. I wore jeans and shirts and off to school I go. I was comfortable with the way I look not because I find my self beautiful but it's because I know that I am unique. =)

Let me emphasize a line from this hub: "Keep in mind too, that having the extra 5 to 10 lbs or the lack of it does not really add up to the physical ugliness and beauty of a person...", it's because having the excess or lack of your weight is not that really big deal especially if you don't emphasize it to the world by not talking about it, lines such as "I am gaining weight..." every time someone asks how you've been will just make them realize that you really did. Here's another line from a favorite hubber of mine,Cecilia Beltran (who worked with models in all shapes, sizes and colors),"You must learn to see past established notions of beauty (tall, blond, blue eyed and slender) and realize that proportions know no size, height nor race. A fat woman with a 1:1.618 proportion will still invite attention more than a slender model who is stick thin." This is really true, that curves attracts attention so much in the real world. You can also notice that models who pose in a sexy magazine are not really thin as compared to ramp models. Having a flawless skin also depends on how you view it. The skin of models on print ads are edited at photoshop and enhanced by body and facial make ups. The skin that other people that you see around each day may just be also enhanced with make ups... or if not, realize that you can't take a look at other people's skin as closely as you look at yours.

You wish to be motivated to lose weight and have better skin, wishing about it is a motivation in itself. It is a good start. The next time you give million glances to an attractive woman, stop feeling sorry for your self. At this point you can use "displacement" as a coping mechanism and turn that self pity to energy that will give you the courage to exercise and eat balanced meals. These will help you get your ideal weight and enhance the ability of your cells to enhance their healthy cytoplasmic activities, which will also make your skin look healthy and feeling great! You go girl! Before I go, let me ell you one thing, NOT everyone has the cute eyes that you posses, I always admired them! See you around! =)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Micky: I am so blessed to have met a great hubber friend at HP who is pretty inside! Thanks for hitting the buttons! I love your hubs too which is why I read them each time I log in! See you around! =)

@Prasetio: Thanks for the compliment my good friend and for voting it up too! I have to read your amazingly unique hubs later too, I need to relax so I will visit you! =)

@Karanda:I love that music from Chopin too, although it gives me eerie feelings when I am alone, it's as if it makes me feel relaxed at some time. lol! Thanks for dropping by and for the kind words! See you around.

@HPwriter: I agree with you my friend! Thanks for dropping by again and for the copliments... see you around! =)

@Onegoodwoman: That's true, being attractive and being beautiful are two different things. And they are both viewed in myriad ways, and this is the reason why people around you and even your self have different opinions of how you look, who and what you are. No matter where one looks, everything and everybody is a Phi at work. lol! Thanks for dropping by and for spending time with my hub! It means a lot! =)

@Ma. Cecilia: Sure thing sis... hehehe! It's a my honor. See you around! =)

@Viktoria Sickrights: lol! I like your name! Thanks for such compliments my friend! I never knew I was admired that way... it's very heart warming and I am thankful to all of you for appreciating me. I am not flawless, I have freckles on my face... lol! I really don't have a beautiful heart all the time... ;) But just like everyone else, I am a Phi at work... just like you and all the others! Thanks for dropping by! =) Kumusta rin sa lahat!


ethrhane 6 years ago

You inspire us Jen bec. u empathize. Most women go on dilemma about their physical attributes and most times disregarding to ponder that beauty does not only point on the physical self but also on the inner self. Women must realize and come to terms that beauty lies on what we think and act. We, us, women tend to neglect how having a good positive outlook in life would radiate through our physical,mental and social well-being. The magic word prolly is SATISFACTION. Satisfaction about everything would end all of our dilemmas , ain't it?


Kimchi 6 years ago

Hi, mam jen. I suuper agree with Viktoria my best friend for life! We always admire your looks and your goodness. I always wished I had your height and sexy figure. Thank you for this very motivational article. We love you mam Jen. pm kita sa fb.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Ethrhane: Thanks so much for a very heart warming comment sis. Satisfaction indeed is the best way to a better and happy life. Thanks for dropping by. This one is dedicated to women who are beautiful inside out like YOU. =)

@Kimchi: lol! Thanks for such a flattering and a really Dopamine boosting comment; and for finding this hub very motivating! I have read your pm at FB. See you when you get home! tc and regards! =)


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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

DJBryle I am curious, you must show me your picture, I admire you already, but I want still to see, I am encouraged by your former students, you reminded me of a beauty queen already.. just invite me at facebook if you don't want your photos scattered here at hudpages


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Ma. Cecilia: hahaha! My students just love me so much sis... love is blind... lol! ;) But, I will still risk my face and add you as my friend at FB. lol! What's your e- mail? tc =)


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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

Celar_peso@yahoo.com celar ia Maricel Arrogante for short Peso is my adorable dog, so the email address is also 10 years old... pakilala ka ha or send me a message, someone not in my friendlist send me a message telling me my dogs are nice but dogs only not me, hahaha, I think you are just naturally down to earth, that was very obvious in you profile


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Sis, I am not really attractive, you might be really surprised when you see me. lol! Anyway, I am so happy to have a new found friend at HP! I have sent you a friend request sis! tc =)


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Jane Bovary 6 years ago from The Fatal Shore

What a wonderful hub Dj..you've really given this topic some coverage. I enjoyed your summary of the Dorian Gray story -it's a kind of King Midas tale, only about beauty instead of money.

Beauty is only skin deep...but skin deep is enough.Being very beautiful has it's traps though...(so I hear. I wouldn't know!Lol)..for one thing people tend to feel threatened by it, for another really beautiful people don't really have to develop a personality, so it often happens that they DON'T. They get enough attention just by virtue of their appearance.

Of all the people I know, the ones whose company I enjoy the most are not beautiful. They're attractive, but that's because of who they are not how they look.

You are right though, much of it has to do with confidence. If you're happy in your own skin, it will radiate through.

Cheers


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks so much Jane for dropping by. It's heart warming to have such kind comment from you! See you around! =)


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

I love the way you get us all thinking and Hub'ing.

ME... well I fell out the ugly tree, and hit every branch on the way down.

But I'm amazing I think I'm wearing myself inside out .

Personally , I think a good attitude is the most important thing to have, as it is the first thing people notice about you. ( and I'm not just saying that because I have too )

Also, the most beautiful women of the world are very often insecure. And also they each have one hang up, or another.

I do love your Hubs


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks for dropping by again Debbie, at an instant we may get attracted with physical looks at some people we don't actually know. But in the long run, good attitude is the one that truly makes a person attractive. I love your hubs too! See you around! =)


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

You sure will, I love reading your Hubs.

Kind regards :]


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acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

This is a beautiful piece of writing. I believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and a wonderful personality is far more attractive than mere physical beauty.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Acaetnna! Thanks for dropping by again my beautiful friend. I agree with what you said. See you around! =)


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lyjo 6 years ago

You, are truly a beautiful person. Great Hub. Much blessings...take care!


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks so much for a heart warming compliment Iyjo. 'Wishing you blessings too! See you around! =)


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gr82bme 6 years ago from USA

very nice, I have already shared this hub


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denise mohan 6 years ago from California

Beautiful, beautiful, & nice hub too!


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks so much for those heart warming comments Gr82beme, and Denise! Gr8, thanks for sharing too! Wishing you both the best blessings! See you around!


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vocalcoach 6 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Have you ever spotted a person with physical beauty, then as soon as they open their mouth and speak, you no longer see that person as beautiful? It works in reverse as well. A great hub which deserves a big thumbs up and awesome! Everyone would benefit from reading this. I like the products too. Getting out my credit card as we speak. A new fan here who is eager to read more from you.

Thanks so darn much! :-)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks so much too Vocalcoach for dropping by and for leaving me a kind and inspiring comment.

Sure thing, I've met many people like that. lol! They inspired me to write this hub. God bless and see you around! =)


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Lita C. Malicdem 5 years ago from Philippines

You just brought me up beautifully inside and out today, DjBryle! Just the right tune to hear and the best lyrics to start my day! LOve that song! Whoa, aren't we all beautiful? Thanks.


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DjBryle 5 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Mam Lita- Thanks so much for such a very heart warmig comment, having the thought of making someone else's day better makes me feel so beautiful too! Thank you more. See you around!=)


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katiem2 5 years ago from I'm outta here

How true we all feel ugly at times. Very well done and thoughtful, I had a lot of Ah Ha moments! Thanks for the delightful read and the polls were nice! :) Katie


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DjBryle 5 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Hey Katie, I am so happy to see you at my page again, it is my pleasure and honor having you here. Thanks for the warm appreciation for this hub. Stay beautiful inside out! =) Jen


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BeccaM6 5 years ago from East Grinstead, UK

I suffered from anorexia at the age of 13 through to 14/15. This hub really shows how I feel on somedays, but also gives me inspriration and hope for the future. After a long battle, although I am still just 16, i feel like the worst is over, and it hubs like these that inspire me to keep going. Thank you, and what a beautiful hub :)


Textured Ideas 5 years ago

Interesting article! Yes beauty is subjective and in the eye of the beholder. Dorian Gray is an amazing book which really highlights how appearance isn't everything and how the most handsome man in the world can be the ugliest inside. A very relevant movie in this day and age! But I do I think Ben Barnes is beautiful because he's also a beautiful person inside and that really shines through; given that, I still know a few people who think he is ugly!

I don't know why people try and attain so called 'perfection' through cosmetic surgery because it is the strange quirks and so called 'faults' which make us different and attractive =)

There is something beautiful about everyone so thank you for this positive article, I'm sure it made a lot of people feel better about themselves!


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umeraziz 4 years ago

great articles.. this gonna help many of us psychologically to feel better about our self.. !


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poetryman6969 2 years ago

Bless your big bum!


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DjBryle 2 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thank you, poetryman :) Bless you bum too, no matter what size it is! Thanks for dropping by! :)


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DjBryle 2 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thank you Umeraziz for a heart warming comment :) See you around!


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DjBryle 2 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thank you, Becca M6 and Textured Ideas for appreciating this hub, it means a lot to me. See you around! :)

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