FINDING THE RIGHT BRA SIZE

photo by mckenna7 @ sxc.hu
photo by mckenna7 @ sxc.hu

One day, approximately two years ago, I had a revelation. As I was getting ready for work one day, I realized, much to my dismay, that my wardrobe was looking rather worn out. If you must know the truth, it was downright pathetic. I was wearing clothes that looked as if they were dug out of a dumpster. Worn, dreary, dingy, shabby and so clearly outdated. The thought that I really must do something about it kept nagging at my brain. Being the procrastinator that I am, I kept putting it off. Apparently, I was waiting for my savior to nominate me for What Not To Wear. However, that didn't happen.

Since I've aged, I've learned to hate clothes shopping. I found I can no longer pull things off a rack and take them home without even trying them on. Gone are the days of designer jeans, skimpy tops, shorter than short skirts and high heels. No, my wardrobe was a deep, dark abyss. Elastic took the place of buttons and zippers. Black, brown, navy blue and dark gray replaced my cheery whites, reds and yellows. Big, dark and baggy had become my motto. The bigger and darker, the better. Flats and sneakers quickly replaced the high heels. Comfort, right? Well, that's what I told my tired brain. Dark and baggy things hide a multitude of sins, not to mention, made me look like I still had a figure. When I wore baggy clothes, I was asked, hey, have you lost weight, your clothes are getting baggy. Hahahaha! Little did those people know they were baggy because I'd gained weight, not lost it. But, who was I kidding? My days with a figure to die for were long gone. 36-24-36? Hah! What's that, picks for the lottery? No, it had become a serious situation.

Ok. The day came, and off I ventured to the local mall. Down to business. God, I dreaded this. I had to go in and find things I felt were appealing, and go off to the dressing room. Actually, after browsing for a while, I was getting a bit pleased with the number of things I found that I thought, maybe these will work. Now, there I stood in front of the dreaded 360 degree mirror. Oh geeze! What the hell happened to my boobs? The reflection staring back at me had boobs that I didn't recognize. Wow, did I even have a bra on? Why, yes I sure did, however, it didn't appear that way, not only to me, but I guessed, to the public in general as well. My bra was so old and worn it lost its purpose many moons ago. It left me looking bra-less, which, if I were 20, would be great. But, I'm not. How in the world was I going to even find new clothes that would look good?

So, with that depressing sight, I put my top back on and went out to the sales floor and asked for assistance. The woman was very friendly and more than willing to help. She said, what's the problem, dear? I said, well, I am in desperate need of a new bra, and to tell you the truth, I have no idea what size I need. (The size of the thing I took off was long gone). She said, well, have you ever been fitted for a bra? I said no, actually, I never have.

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photo by canoncan @ sxc.hu

So there I was, at 50-+ years, being fitted for a bra. It was a slightly, well, no, more than slightly, embarrassing experience. Well, when the saleslady told me what size I needed, I was shocked. Left to my own devices, I had been wearing, or, should I say, squeezing into a bra that was three sizes too small. No wonder my clothes (although baggy) didn't look good. My upper torso had morphed into a no-shape torso. Now, the saleslady said to me, this bra I'm giving you will feel tight, but it's supposed to. Ok, I thought. She said, once you get it on, bend over, and slip your hand into the cup and lift your breast so that it falls fully into the cup. Then stand up. I did that. When I stood up, I was speechless. Staring back at me was a woman who had a chest. I had boobs!  And God, thank you, they were bigger than I thought! I was so excited. I had a chest, and a waist that I could see. I wanted to do a happy dance. (The saleslady must have thought I was nuts). I have to admit, it was feeling pretty weird. It felt like my boobs were right under my neck. They weren't, but it sure felt like it. Talk about an uplift! It kinda gives you an idea of how low I had sunk, er, I mean the boobs. And wow, then I realized I didn't need a boob job! I wouldn't be one of those women whose boobs peek out from under their skirt when they sat down!  All it took was the right bra to give me back the real feeling of being a woman.

photo by just4you @ sxc.hu
photo by just4you @ sxc.hu

Today, with that experience behind me, there is a slight downside. The store I go to, which, by the way, has become my store of choice is a bit pricey. The bras start at $40 and go up. Prior to this, if I spent $15, I thought I had a good buy. Wrong. But, that said, even the pricey ones do not last forever, which I foolishly thought they would, given the amount of money I had to spend. And yes, even with the proper care, they still wear out. In any case, this store is doing its job of keeping me fashionable, with pride.

So, for you ladies out there contemplating breast enhancements, do yourselves a favor. Get a real fitting for a bra by a professional. It could save you tons of money!

I wonder, is there a place to go to, to get fitted for panties? :)

Comments 36 comments

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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

Great hub, Trish! This hub reminds me of two separate hubs I wrote about a similar experience I've gone through in the last year. One, is discovering how frumpy my wardrobe has gotten and the other is about my new bra. I too have realized how make a few changes in those items can really change your attitude and how you feel!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi KCC!

Thanks!  I'll have to check out your hubs, if I haven't already.  That's the only issue I have is finding enough time to read all I want to read.  I have tons of hubs bookmarked, and heaven knows when I'll get around to them.

Glad you liked this.  Thanks for stopping by, always nice to see you.


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Steve Rensch 7 years ago

I don't think I'll ever understand the intense self-scrutiny and, usually, self-condemnation that women put themselves through when it comes to their own bodies. But I'm sure the reason that men are not as bad is not that we are more evolved, but rather that we are more arrogant and sure that we are without flaws.


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muley84 7 years ago from Miami,FL

What fun! A great read! I can relate even though I am a guy. Once a former jock in great shape, elastic waist bands have now become my best friends. I am glad to hear that you got reaquanted with your boobs. lol


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

LOL Steve.  Men?  arrogant?  well, maybe some.  Perhaps you should write a hub about it :)  I'm sure it would get lots of attention!  I will admit I have met a couple of men that are very arrogant.  It doesn't put me off, because I give as good as I get.

Seriously, I think women and even men fall victim to what's portrayed by the media.  Beauty pageants, busty blondes, hunky, muscled men, the list could go on and on.  Somehow and somewhere along the way, the way a person looks was made to be more important than who a person is.  It's a very sad commentary.  And yes, I fell victim to that thinking too, to a degree.  I have, however, to use your word, evolved into a person who values people for who they are, not what they look like.  And although I tend to pick at myself, I am happy with the person I am.

Always nice to see you and to hear your thoughts.  Thanks!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

LOL muley!!  I just choked on my coffee :)

That's a nice way to put it, I didn't think of it that way.  Re-acquainted, I like the sound of it.  I am especially glad, in a good way, that you found the forgiveness that elastic waists deliver LOL.  Elastic, in a way, is a best friend when you don't wish to deal with weight gain, but in truth, it's our worst enemy.  It lulls us into thinking, oh, it just feels good.  I have to admit it does, but I often wish I paid attention to my real pants when they became a bit snug,

You're so funny :)

I always enjoy your visits, glad you liked this silly hub :)


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capricious_d 7 years ago from The Northwest

Oh Trish, poor thing. I could only sympathize and moan as I read - I'm glad you found your solution, and store! It's unfortunate that most of the time it's true: "What you pay is what you get".My small investments tend to be on my skincare products. They never seem to get cheaper but it's the quality that matters ;) Great hub


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

Um...I don't think I was supposed to see this!


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India

Trish - an uplifting hub to be sure :D So when do we see your avatar decked out in those reads and whites et al?? Great hub - laughed all the way through it!


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

Uplifting indeed...what a mood enhancer this is trish! :)


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

hi capricious_d,

Yes, I agree with you get what you pay for.  Well, I used to.  My new store has disappointed me a couple of times.  For instance, although they cater to a certain kind of woman, they do not have pants that do justice to me.  In fact, they make me look bigger than I am.  The bras, although lovely, don't hold up more than two years, but maybe that's not the store's fault, but the manufacturer.  Or, it is simply planned obsolesence.  For the most part, I'm happy there.

We do have to pick our battles, and for now, mine is clothes.  Thanks so much for commenting.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

LOL Christoph,

How soon we forget.  Of course you were.  You're my number one fan, right?  :) By the way, nice to see you! Haven't seen you around in a while.

Have I left you speechless?


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Oh!  dear Shalini! 

Yes, it's been a while since I put out a hub, so I was trying to think of something a little less serious than my normal style.  So, uplifting it became :)

Well, let's see.  My best friend is trying her best to get me to put my photo out here.  I did have it up for a fair amount of time and decided I wasn't thrilled with it so I changed it.  As far as reds, whites and all bright colors, that may be a while in coming.  It is something I need to work on.  I promise, when it happens, a photo will be posted.

Thanks for commenting.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Feline!

I have to admit, this was inspired by a conversation my best friend and I had on Saturday.  We got to talking about different things, and this topic came up.  When it did, the jokes just started going back and forth and we both had a great laugh about it.  And I sat here and said, this is it!  My next hub.  I was excited to say the least, as I had not been inspired for way too long.  So, after I put it together, my friend said ok, now sit on it.  Go do something and come back to it, do what you have to, then publish it tomorrow.  Well, that didn't fly, since I seem to be one of those instant gratification people LOL.  In any case, it's here.

I'm glad you came by and thanks for commenting.


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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

Well, new clothes can, uh, uplift one's spirits, that's for sure. You can also be grateful that you once were 36-24-36. Only a select group can have that to look back on. I enjoyed your story.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi James,

Yes, clothes can certainly do wonders for the spirit. As I was putting this together, I wondered if men also enjoy getting new clothes and if it does anything to the way they feel.

Glad you enjoyed my story, thanks for commenting. 


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Jaspal 7 years ago from New Delhi, India

Good one Trish, and I really had a great laugh at some of the visualisations, the bending over and making sure everything fits in snugly!!

I'm happy to be a man who's content with the same brand of innergarments he's always used, albiet a few sizes bigger. :p


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Jaspal,

Yes, it seems men are all about visuals :)   Personally, I was never a brand shopper, but I am now as far as undergarments go.  What I found are comfortable and do me justice.

I've been up and down the size charts a long time, and down is definitely better, but, you work with what you've got :)

Thanks for dropping by and commenting, always nice to see you.


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Sally's Trove 7 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

I remember those hot colors you used to wear...especially the reds, which you know I love on you. I'm with Shalini: let's see that new avatar. Oh yes, and be sure to include your uplifted girls in the photo! ;)


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Yes Sally, I know you love red on me.  So do I because it's my favorite color.  I just have to put aside some time to get some photos done.  It's kind of hard when my daughter and granddaughter are rarely home.  I have two gypsies living with me as you know :)

And I'm not so sure I'll go that far LOL.  But hey, ya never know :)

Thanks for commenting my dearest friend.


Ghost32 7 years ago

This Hub reminded my of my (small breasted) wife around the time she started into the joys of menopause. A bra was a GREAT problem due to a nasty lifelong mole on her back that was positioned perfectly in line with any bra strap ever created. In other words, wear a bra and suffer or don't and...

Finally asked her doctor to cut it out. The mole, not the bra.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Ghost,

Wow! I bet she was thrilled. My question would be, why didn't she have it removed sooner?

The rites and passages into adulthood are not a fun ride, that's for sure. I'd love to hear about the aging process from a man's point of view.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, and thanks for the great fan mail. Nice to meet you.


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Bredavies 6 years ago

nice hub. :)


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

hi bredavies,

Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for commenting.


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K Partin 6 years ago from Garden City, Michigan

Hey Trish, what an up lifting uh, story. Glad everything is uh, looking up. LOL Glad I'm a guy, jeans and a tee shirt or sweat shirt for me. But I feel for you. OMG all the puns...sorry :)


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

hi K Partin,

Yes, I can honestly say more than my spirits were uplifted lol. In some ways you guys have an advantage :)

Thanks for commenting.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I'm really glad this had a happy ending- the video anyway. Thanks


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Hi Micky,

Thanks for taking time to stop by and comment.


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Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

Trish, what these men did in here, reading a hub about Bra? Hehehe... Bra always become big problem with me since it is hard to find bra with my size and we don't have someone who able to help us to fitting our bra in our country. I wish we have one! :(


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Aww Freya!

I'm sorry to hear your country doesn't have someone who does that.

It was quite an experience, and I can't even tell you how to do it because I don't remember the different measurements she took.

Men reading this,,yes! I'm sure it's one of their favorite parts of the female anatomy :)

Thanks so much for stopping by.


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Rochelle Frank 6 years ago from California Gold Country

Yes, Time and gravity does take a toll. A professional fitter can do wonders for your body and mind.

Good advice.


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Hi Rochelle,

Had I not had the experience, I would not have believed it. It was definitely an exilarating experience. I highly recommend it!

Thanks for stopping by, nice to see you.


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Moon Daisy 6 years ago from London

Great hub! I also haven't been clothes shopping in quite a while, and am wearing a lot of the same clothes I've had for years. I'm probably not the only woman now wondering what a new bra might do for me...

I enjoyed reading this, thanks!


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Hi Moon Daisy,

It's so easy to fall into comfortable routines, isn't it?

I figured, as long as the clothes I put on were easy to get into, no muss, no fuss, then that's what I'd stick with. And since elastic is so forgiving, that train of thought can and does last far longer than it should. Then one day, you wake up, look in the mirror and don't recognize the person looking back at you. The dreaded wake-up call.

I hope, if nothing else, this inspires you to go for the experience of a proper fitting. I can vouch that it does wonders for the ego.

Glad you enjoyed reading, thanks for commenting.


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Nevada Logan 6 years ago from USA

Enjoyed the hub! Would love to go to see that lady in the video, she seems to know exactly how to fit a bra. I went to the Bali/Playtex store one time and the poor sales girl had no clue.


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Hi Nevada,

Aww, well don't give up. I'm very surprised that the girl didn't know how to do it. I would think all of the staff would know how. Did you get anyone else in that store who was able to help? If not, I would be complaining.

Glad you enjoyed, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.

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