So I Like Wearing Skirts

I wear pants occasionally, but most of the time I prefer donning skirts. Some people say skirts are confining when it comes to performing many tasks, but I do not find that to be the case at all. Honestly, for me skirts are free flowing and allow me to move around unconstrained. I suppose if someone was wearing a skin tight pencil skirt it might be hard to get up and done and do chores, but wearing an a-line skirt negates this issue. In the summer time I usually do not feel comfortable wearing shorts in public, so wearing skirts around knee length or a little bit longer is my preference. However, ever since I was young there seems to be a trend among people, especially women, who tell me not to dress in skirts. Once I started a job as a teacher and I wore a sundress, and the ladies told me on the first day I did not have "dress" the next day. I told them this is who I am and what I like to wear, and they immediately made the distinction about how they preferred casual attire over dressy attire. However, dressses such as a simple sundress are not "dressy", especially when even a pant suit would be much more appropriate in a business meeting. Of course women wear dress suits and pant suits in the business world, but the point is when was the last time you saw a CEO frolicking around in a sundress?

Navy pencil skirts are a classic to include in any wardrobe.
Navy pencil skirts are a classic to include in any wardrobe.

Since the time I was a small child I have had people incessantly telling me how I should dress. My grandma had an obsession with why I did not like to wear a t shirts and jeans. "Accept me for who I am!" was the thought that ran through my mind, but unfortunately for her that was not possible. I have never walked into rooms and told other people how to dress, but continually people are doing this to me. Even my mom used to make continual remarks about how she wanted me to wear jeans because that is what all the kids were wearing, but from a young age I was always my own person when it came to attire.  Honestly, I was never the type that flowed with the masses. For the most part I was not interested in upstaging the other girls with their fashions, and I just wanted to be me. I would wear pants on rare occasions, but as a kid I preferred skirts and occasionally wearing shorts.

I remember one trip to Kansas to see my mom's side of the family in 1995 and she insisted that I pack shorts in my suitcase because she thought these were cooler.  Ironically Kansas was colder than California in the summer, which was pretty funny.  In my persistence in wearing skirts I had people tell me I was uncool for wearing dresses in school.  The teasing was pretty bad during those years, but I persevered and remained true to me.

My mom was not an overly strict person, but I always smiled with irony of how she was begging me to wear pants when many parents had the opposite problem with their kids. Some of the girls I went to school with complained about having to dress up for special photos, and honestly I always enjoyed such things. Some how I could just not stop being true to myself and wearing skirts, even when it meant I was severely teased by my classmates for doing so. I think this made me stronger because I did not give just because the majority of people thought I should dress a certain way.

Once I went to college I did succumb to some peer pressure during my sophomore year when I became close friends with a girl in the dorms. She convinced me to start wearing jeans, and I started to do so a few times a week. However, most of the time I still wore skirts, which are my favorite go to item even today. In my early and mid twenties I wore jeans, but now I have completely lost the desire to don this apparel. Sometimes I wear cute flared black pants, but with my body type going jeans shopping has always been a chore. Even when I was very skinny it took forever to find a well fitting pair of jeans, but with the skinny leg jean forget about it Personally I would rather go to a place such as Marshall's or Ross and by a cute pair of flared black pants, but I will always end up buying several cute skirts as well. So at the end of the day I just have to be me, even when I get accused of being a girlygirl for not wearing pants more often. What is wrong with being a girly girl anyway? There are many myths about girly girls, such as we are not vigorous or athletic, but that is a different story for another time.

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Georgiakevin 7 years ago from Central Georgia

Good post. As a fellow teacher I personally believe that women who wear skirts and dresses establish a higher standard in their classroom, just as men who wear ties do. Students do not have to wonder who is in charge. Also I always help a fellow teacher but am more inclined to respond quicker if she is wearing a skirt or a dress. (I know I know that's sexist but it is what it is.)


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Yes I have told my cousin to try Jeans once although she likes traditional Indian dresses. But you look good in any dress hence for you it shouldn't be an issue.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Georgiakevin,

Actually that does not bother me that is your preference.  I am no longer a teacher because I was not a good one, but having those lady gang up on me for my attire was not fun.  I never tell other people how to dress, but they sure wanted to let me know I was not part of "their group".


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Countrywomen,

Maybe you should just try letting her dress how she likes. I know I was very annoyed when people always tell me how I should dress. Sometimes I just wear pants so people will not comment on me wearing skirts all the time, but now I just wear what I like.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Well I just wanted her to try it once. But then I didn't persist at all. It was said in a way you say it someone whom you know all your life.


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rockinjoe 7 years ago from Standing right behind you!

I think you're right. People should be people and should be feel fre to dress themselves as they see fit-or are comfortable. Give me jeans and a t-shirt and I'm good to go. When I work on stage, I'll throw a suit jacket on. Don't let anyone get you down, SweetiePie!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

countrywomen,

I know what you mean, you just wanted her to try it.  I wear pants sometimes, just like skirts better.

rockinjoe,

Now a days people are much more respectful about how I dress, but just a few years ago as I was mentioning in that one town the ladies had a real problem with me and my attire.  They also had a problem with my longer hair and all gave me a dirty look when one of my co-worker's complimented me on my new haircut.

I would like to see you on stage by the way, I am sure you look great.


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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

I have never told anyone how to dress, not once.  Being from NY, I experienced all the fashion trends, from jeans, pants, to suits, skirts, designer dresses, to what I hang around with these days, velour or stretch pants with nice tops, as I am home, and like to feel comfortable without looking too draby.  Individuality is a beautiful thing, to each their own.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

VioletSun,

I noticed in more cosmopolitan areas people are more open to individuality, but I have also realized that in smaller towns people have a need to make sure they all conform. I can not speak for every single small town, but for the few that I lived in. When I was teaching out in a small desert town not only did I hate the job because I discovered I was not a very good teacher, but the people let you know if you were not from their town, or did not try to fit in with them you did not belong. Individuality is a beautiful thing and I am glad people such as yourself can see this.


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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York

NY is a 'skirt' city. The entire spring and summer, Manhattan witnesses thousands of trendy skirts adorned by women of all sizes and shapes. I find the colors of this particular dress very pleasant. Thumbs up for skirts.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Angalichugh,

I must admit always thought the cute skirts and dresses on Sex and the City were very cute. The fashions on this show were from teh major New York trends, so I always was admiring the outfits the ladies wore.


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Hi Sweetie. I have noticed over the years how fashions change and tend to influence what is "trendy" but as people get older older they adopt a "style" that suits them an tend to stick to it. Personally I don't look so good in a skirt, but have worn a kilt!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Well sixtyorso, kilts are pretty sexy. I am sure you have nice legs :).


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Aww gee!


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KT pdx 7 years ago from Vancouver, WA, USA

Loved this article, and I can definitely relate to it! I love jeanskirts, and will wear them or other skirts most of the time if I have a chance to. I wear jeans a lot too, but usually not when I'm planning on going out somewhere (to my job, the store, etc.).

I used to get teased all the time in school as well, because I chose to wear skirts and dresses for everything except P.E. class (for obvious reasons). People thought I was overly religious based on what I wore (and would take guesses at my church affiliation)! I had to always tell people that I could wear whatever I wanted, but I chose to wear those outfits!


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Sixtyorso- Are you having scottish origin?


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Sorry to make you blush sixtyorso.

Kt pdx,

I think the world would be a happier place if we just allowed all of each other to be individuals. I also had people guessing about my religious affiliation, and this was last year at work. I had to tell them I was not what they thought I was because they thought I was a polygamous FLDS person. That made me laugh because I just like to wear skirts, it does not mean I joined a certain group. I like jean skirts too by the way, but I have not owned a cute one in awhile.


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deccasandy 7 years ago from Belmont

Yes! My friends too say that wearing a skirt makes them more active, though they are not enthusiastic about wearing a pencil skirt.


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C.S.Alexis 7 years ago from NW Indiana

I have been told many times by many people to dress another way. I wear what I am comfortable in. I am practical and dress to suit my life style. Works for me and besides, I buy my clothes and pay my own bills so I think how I dress is my own personal affair. Enjoy your skirts SweetirPie!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

deccasandy,

I think if your friends are happy with what they wear what they like because this is all that matters.

C.S. Alexis,

Why do people like to tell other people how to dress?  I find it so bossy really, and the older I get I truly believe these people just have way too much time on their hands.  Thanks for stopping by.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Sixtyorso- I hope you didn't feel bad about me asking that question about Scottish origin. I was just curious since kilts are mostly a Scottish tradition that's all.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Sixtyorso has probably just bored with my hub, not upset with your question :). Maybe email me and ask.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Oh another thing is due to the timezone he must be out of the active mode now. But will clarify if no reply by tonight. Have a great day.  I will email you some updates later tonight bye take care.


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I don't think it should matter what you wear, as long as you're comfortable and feel good in it. I like skirts and dresses, but I never wear them since I quit working in an office. I've always loved wearing jeans, shorts, capris, that's what I'm most comfortable in.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Hi CW,

I am sure you are right. I was replying to hub during work today, so sometimes it sounds really funny when I do that. I look forward to your email.

Hi Shirley,

I agree, we should all wear what we like. Nice to see you again and great new avatar.


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Sweetie Pie blushing is good for the complexion!

CW I have Irish Origins and the Scot stole the Kilt from the Irish! (or so I'm told!)

SP & CW It's definitely the time zone thing plus the holiday's. I am only now getting back into active mode. LOL


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Yes blushing is very good for the complexion, very ture sixtyorso. Thanks for coming back and answering countrywomen's question.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Thanks for the clarification Sixtyorso. Now you have started another debate for which I would like to know Paraglider's inputs since he is from scotland...hehe


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Maybe make a request about the history behind kilts and invite paraglider and sixtyorso to answer it :).


Chrissy 7 years ago

If anyone told me what to wear I'd probably clear out their wardrobe and replace their clothes with something appropriately embarassing - perhaps a bra and panties for a man and hmm wouldn't know what my gran would think embarassing - I've seen her wear shell suits in the past hah.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I love your amusing idea. Of course not in real life, but that would make a funny scene in a movie.


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Princessa 7 years ago from France

I love being a "girly girl" wearing dresses, skirts, high heels and dressing up. I don't care if anyone else goes around in jeans and trainers. I enjoy being different to the other girls. If I shock someone with my ways, they soon get use to know what to expect next time ;-)

Good for you, don't change to make others happy. Be yourself and be proud of it.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I always enjoy your sense of style, which clearly come across in your hubs on fashion. Thanks for sharing Princessa :).


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foxility 7 years ago

this reminds me of myself. I love dresses and skirts.


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2patricias 7 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

I like to look my best - but I have my own opinion as to what makes me look best Some days it is what makes me most comfortable, other days what I think cheers me up (bright colours) and other days I like 'dressing up' just because I want to.

Nice Hub.


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

BTW I am not sure about the USA but here it is Midsummer and the Micromini and short shorts (for girls/ladies) is making a great comeback. It is refreshing to see pretty legs again.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I am glad to hear you dress how you like 2patricias. Thanks for commenting :).

sixtyorso,

You would love California then because we have many warm months of the year and many women have always worn short skirts.


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Sweetie I was in California last, a few years back and did love it. Last time I was in San Francisco but did not see too many short skirts but around about 10 years ago I was in LA and went to Marina del Ray and that was a feast for he eyes! I am glad to hear that California has not changed much over the years. I would love to visit again.


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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

I too wear clothes that I find myself being comfortable with. From skirts to pants it's fine with me. :-) But when we work with kids, we usually wear pants, it is much easier to move around.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

sixtyrorso,

In San Francisco is a little bit more chilly than LA, thus the difference is dress. Women tend to wear more short skirts in LA because the weather is warmer year round. I wore shorter skirts when I was younger, but not now of course. Sure if you went to LA you would still see many people wearing shorter skirts.

Ripplemaker,

It is good you wear what is comfortable for you, that is important :).


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Cherish77 7 years ago

When I was younger I wore skirts, because I liked my legs than, even if they were a pasty white,lol. Now a days, I must wear pantyhose, or nylons, which still looks weird sometimes. Im more of a jeans and T-shirt kinda girl these days. It doesn't mean I don't like a nice dress now and than though.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I understand what you are saying Cherish. When you dress up you could try one of those tanning lotions on your legs as opposed to pany hose. I stopped wearing pany hose back in 200 because they run, but I know some people like them. I hope you have a great day :).


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Cherish77 7 years ago

I try, but they always make my legs look dirty.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I think my sisters have the same problem. Because of my coloring I never have a problem using these lotions in the winter when I just want to give my legs a color boost.


Ronnie-ron 7 years ago

Iam a guy but if I were a woman I would prefer skirts&dresses&if not these, I would like cullottes or split skirts. Too many women now never wear any type of dress or skirt. I never ever did like the uni-sex fashion movement. Iam 53&back in 1970 I remember a television interview with a fashion designer that said something that womens pants&jeans were going to replace skirts&dresses. White. Latin&many Asian women have really gone over to pants&jeans,shorts ect,but a large minority of black women still wear skirts&dresses. In the 1970s most black women&girls wore skirts&dresses&a small minority wore some kind of pants.Pants&jeans seemed to increase with the younger black women in the 80s onwards. The black women on Haiti&in many parts of Africa resist wearing any type of pants or jeans. It seems that the darker the black women are the more they wear dresses or skirts. Muslim women wear long dresses or skirts&them burkas but long pants or jeans are also worn.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Roni,

It is true that women in certain cultures do wear dresses and skirts more than others, but I do know women from every culture and walk of life that just happen to prefer these over pants.  I wear pants from time to time, but to be honest I just do not like the way most fit.  Mostly I just feel more comfortable in a skirt, and I know quite a few women who feel the same way. 


rosamystica 7 years ago

I read this and said, "Oh my gosh! Me too!" I like wearing skirts most of the time, and people think it's strange and that I do it for religious reasons. (I'm religious, and am all for modesty and femininity, but in today's world pants can be modest and have become women's clothing.) And they always think I'm "dressed up". I'm glad that someone out there thinks like me!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Hi Rosamystica,

I do not wear skirts for religious reason myself, just prefer the way these look on me. However, I respect those who do dress this way because of their religion, and it is good to know people are not afraid to do that. I think our society puts way too much pressure on people fitting in, and I like to see people being themselves.


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CennyWenny 7 years ago from Washington

Finally, someone who agrees! I've always preferred skirts but for most of middle and high school didn't wear them for fear of being teased. That changed in college where I found people to be more accepting, thank goodness. My favorite "around the house" attire are the sundresses my mom bought for me in Mexico. I don't like shorts either. Feels like I'm stuffing sausages into too tight casing (even felt this way when I was a relatively skinny size 6). Plus, jeans don't come in such nice prints. Lovely Hub!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Hi Cenny Wenny,

I absolutely love sundresses because thee are cute and comfortable. Sounds fun being able to pick out cute dresses when going on a nice trip.


KC 6 years ago

I have found, very often that women get irritated when other ladies where skirts and dresses.

Ladies do not like other ladies standing out. Women fought long and hard to be treated equal and to achieve this they had to become androgynous and less feminine by wearing pants. Taught to believe it was empowering and more comfortable to wear pants the primary function overall was to attract less attention to their sex and blend in to the crowd. i.e. when men are not very sexually attracted to you, they treat you more on your other qaulities. It has worked! Of course that has all run its course and now most women wear pants out of habit and indoctrination. Thus when you wear skirts, no less when you are comfortable in them, everyone likely pay more attention to you (and in this day in age, likely more drawn to your confidence then anything sexual), and you stand out. It is hard for them to compete, because they have been taught to be uncomfortable when they are feminine and stand out. So your actions go against what they were taught, and you are likely rewarded for it. i.e. it is a form of jeliousy.


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SweetiePie 6 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

That is a very insightful explanation. Thanks for sharing KC!


Chris cd 6 years ago

I think you should be allowed to wear what you want, I only wear skirts or dresses when at home, the chinese delivery guy has got quite used to me dressed en femme, people are to stuck up with their own rightiousness that they think that what they think is right, GET A GRIP, no-body owns anybody and please keep your school playground comments to yourself... there that got that of my chest hehe


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MoRita 6 years ago from IL

Great Hub! I like it :0) And I found KC's explanation to be very insightful and it opened my eyes to why we (humans) act the way we do. Great job!


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Emacnetwork 6 years ago

I love girls who wear skirts and dresses mostly. I think it just looks much more feminine.


Davyt 5 years ago

I wear a skirt all the tme and be damned, get all the "LOOK AT HIM" and when I wear high heels you should just look at the comments....get a life says me

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