How to Look More Mature

Me at age 31.
Me at age 31.
 

I want to look older. What! Who in their right mind wants to look older? You say. Yes, I understand, everyone wants to look younger. Although I am 31 years old, I am constantly being told I don't look that old. What's wrong with that?

Looking young becomes a problem because people fail to respect you and believe you can handle responsibility. I find this is true when I go on job interviews or am trying to get a promotion.

I try to carry myself as a mature, responsible person.

However, people can not help but assuming I am far younger than what I am. I find that when I go on job interviews, people look at me skeptically when I tell them how much experience I have. When I go shopping, I have a hard time getting customer service to help me, because they think I'm just a teenager who isn't going to buy anything.

It's annoying to hear people tell me I look so young. It's annoying when they also say I should be happy that I look young. I do not think there anything wrong with looking young, but people think I am still in high school. I am 31 years old and I wanted to be treated like one. People say when I am 50 I will be glad that I look so young. Yeah, but what do I do in the meantime when I am trying to get that raise?

I find at work I don't get the respect I deserve.

My boss gives me very little responsibility. A position came open that I was very well qualified for and was under the same boss I worked for. I asked my boss if I could apply for the position since I would be such an excellent fit. He discouraged me from applying, saying he did not think I should apply for the job because they needed me in my current position. Mind you, in my current position I do not have a lot of work to do, I seriously doubt if I left they would even have to hire someone to replace me!

So does anyone have any suggestions on how to look older? I don't want to look 50, but I don't want to look 20 either!

 
 

Comments 67 comments

Elizabeth 8 years ago

I wish I knew what to tell you. I have the same problem. I am 30 and I look so young that people get downright offended at me b/c I have kids. I get no respect anywhere I go it's fustrating!!


Sarah 8 years ago

I have the same problem!


Slowpoke 8 years ago

I feel you one hundred percent on this...because im 30 myself and look all of 16 ON A GOOD DAY...the other day I went inside Chuck E. Cheese to pick up my best friends kids and the teenager assigned to stamp your hand as proof of admission had nerve to ask me "where my mother was at?"...I looked at him like, Do you know im old enough to add you on my taxes as a dependent!...thats just one of hundreds of incidents that happen almost daily...it's nice to know that im not alone though


Mari 8 years ago

Same problem here.It's really frustrating.


Anne 8 years ago

Same here. I just got beat for a promotion by someone age with less experience, who "looks" older. Also, if I do make a mistake at work I get "well I remember what it was to be in college" when I've worked at this company for several years! I guess I should be greatful that I have a golden ticket out of trouble, but it is very frustrating!


Anne 8 years ago

greatful = grateful; see what the frustration does to me?


gemma 8 years ago

its the bain of my life. i don't want to look older, i just want to look my age!


Maureen 7 years ago

I have the same problem. Does anyone have the ANSWER though?!?! People think my husband is cradle robbing when he is only several years older.


Alexandra 7 years ago

I have the same problem I'm 14 but I look 10 and it gets annoying because a guy in the next year up from me thinks I'm too young looking 2 go out with. And I get mistaken for a year 7 and its so fusterating also my friends treat me as the baby of the group and I'm the oldest! And even the teachers treat me like a baby, but I get annoyed because I'm mature in the mind because I speak sophisticately but I don't look my age :(


Johanna 7 years ago

Definitely feel your pain. I'm turning 25 this year and work in the hospitality industry. I look like I'm 16 and worst of all I have braces. Trying to get coworkers to take me seriously is almost a joke in itself. I'm doing a make over with a friend to see if I can at least look a bit older. Darkening my hair color and trying a different style with make up for a more mature look. Good luck! :)


Natalie 7 years ago

http://www.women24.com/Women24/FashionBeauty/Fashi...

Looking younger than you are in the working world can be a challenge. Try the following:

Build a good basic work wardrobe of classic item that fit well. i.e. tailored trousers, jackets, fitted blouses, shapely skirts.

Wear make-up. This can make a big difference giving you a "grown up" look. If you are unsure of how to apply your make-up try cosmetic counters like Bobbi Brown at selected Edgars stores or book a make-up lesson with a makeup artist to gain this skill.

Keep very trendy items to the minimum. Very trendy clothes will make you 16. This doesn't mean you have to take on a fuddy duddy look, but be aware how you wear trends at work. Wear a fashionable blouse with a pair of fitted classic trousers as appose to a very low slung hipster bootleg.

Just to let you know I as well have this same problem. I am 29 and everyone thinks that I am 21. Very annoying! found the above answer on the website posted. I hope that this helped a little.


PAMESH 7 years ago

Same problem I am facing. I am 33 years old but still look like 20 years old. Some boys who were 10 years old when I was 20 they looks older and more mature than me. The problems arise both place; socially and on the work. Socially as I am 33 years old, so I can not mixup with very younger one who are less then 28 and the persons having age more than 30, do not take me seriously. They talk with me as I am a very young person. At working, my boss treats me as a younger one. Give less responsibility. Every person tries to give me advices as I were a school boy. When go to shop, shopkeeper first pay attention to other older looking customers. Due to this, I dont have any friend, or any other good commanding position in socieity.


Katherine 7 years ago

Same here...ugh isn't it so annoying. Im fastly approaching 20 and yet I get comments ALL the time about how I look 14. I find it very insulting and yet cant find the right comebacks to put them in place, I get it so often its almost become "normal". I really wish there were a solution to this issue...yet I find I have not discovered it.


Julie 7 years ago

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I have the same problem! I’m eighteen and people still think I’m a thirteen year old. People younger and the same age as me act condescendingly toward me even though I’m more mature then them. They tell me how oh so “cute” I am which drives me crazy. I think your physical appearance is taken way too seriously then it should be. I have a sister one year younger then me, and people believe she is three years older than me! I know this may be a blessing when I’m older but at the present when I’m entering college looking like I’m in middle school, its annoying.


kshama 7 years ago

i have d same prob!!! i luk lik a kid..i want a mature face..ppl tink m a kid..its very annoyin i hope i cud jus go 2 d doc n ask 4 some tablets n get rid of this shit


tonibelle 7 years ago

OMG. i have the same problem. im 18 and everyone thinks i'm 12. i mean, yeah, sure, it's flattering, i'm baby-faced, but people don't take me seriously and i'm typecasted as a kid in my theater org. and guys don't think i'm cute in a "crush" way, they think i'm cute in a kindergarten way and it's really really disheartening to dress up and try to be pretty because it doesn't matter to people anyway. i mean, even if they think i'm pretty, they still treat me like a kid, not like an equal. :(


cleo 7 years ago

You don't look like regular 31 year old woman, but you look like the famous stars in their 30s. It's flattering for all of us to look 5-10 years younger, but when it comes to doing our age job there becomes a problem.If you are short the problem is bigger. Wearing classic high heels could help. I look older with glasses on my face, I know on college when I wear them I always get more points and professors look at me like I'm on their level. So glasses could help for business or school.

The other problem... I don't wanna wear glasses at night when I go out. I am beautiful girl but I cant find a boyfriend older than me. Only younger people approach me :(


CMR 7 years ago

I know this doesn't answer your question, but it's nice to know that there are so many out there experiencing the same issue. I'm a teacher, for a while in middle school, and I was constantly mistaken as one of the students. I don't think people really understand how it feels to be in our position, they brush it off with the "you'll be thankful when you're 50" comment, but like someone said: I don't want to look older---just my age. What is beginning to erk me the most right now is the constant reference to me as "Baby" or "sweetie" even by others who are younger than me. I've ignored it for awhile, mostly because I don't know a polite way to counterback, particularly if they aren't doing it to be mean or spiteful. I think it really angers me more when those who are younger than me get treated with more respect/responsibility or status than myself.


Sandy 7 years ago

Same problem bothers me. I think that's just simply the way how human are dominated by the appearances. Think on the other side of the table, as when you see someone "young", how would you treat them?

Once I met a young lawyer at a seminar, I don't know how old she is, but she definitely look young, like 21. If I just judge from her look, I prob won't take her as a serious knowledgable lawyer, but after hear her talks, all the cases she worked over the years and the way she carry herself, I know I was wrong, and she surely gained a lot of respect from the crowd. A lot older-looking people ask her for advice.

I agree that certain clothing or make up skills will help, specially I noticed at my work, all the young-looking women managers wear nice framed suits and wear glasses. But also I think it's very important that we take ourselves seriously, showing the matureness when dealing problems and conflicts, that will change people's impression for real.


Fish 6 years ago

I am so glad to have found this page. Been frustrated for a while that I look like 16 when I'm really 24. Ppl ALWAYS think I'm taking my O levels this year.. So much so, sometimes I just don't rebuke. Pointless. Else it'll be the same conversation again.. "What? Sure? You're 24? You look like you're 16 or 18! Wow! ....." I wish I looked my age. Cause I'm in the finance line, and everyone, even my younger clients, think I'm younger than them. I wear make up, contacts, heels, carry a working bag... but nothing works.. T.T

But after first impression, when ppl are willing to talk to me, their idea will change. It's just the first impression that I want to change. Else... I guess, I should be happy with who I am. :)


SARA 6 years ago

It's really nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way. I'm 20, my sister is 16. I am constantly being confused as the younger of the two. I don't think I'll ever be able to be confident with my looks when I look like a child.


Rachel 6 years ago

grow ur hair a little longer and try different hair styles


Carolyn 6 years ago

I'm 26 and it's my 2nd year teaching. At the very beginning of the school year a new principal started and was lecturing all of us about behavior expectations for students blah blah blah. She came to a point where she was talking about how young some of us look (there are a lot of newer teachers at my school) but as she spoke for like 15 minutes she looked straight at me. I'm 5 feet tall and sure I'm young but I'm not the youngest (I'm 4th from it) and I'm not far behind several others. Now she's contradicting herself on observations saying that I didn't do things that I should have (when I did) and she's not sure if she wants to rehire me unless I shape up. I think it comes from the same bias. The thing that drives me crazy is that one of my coworkers who is a year younger than me and teaches the same grade with the same flavor as me had a fine observation. Well guess what, she's like 5'10 and people usually think she looks older if anything. I'm 5' even. It's unfair and really just maddening.


Moseela 6 years ago

I'm 20, bt I looked like a 15yr old boy, it annoying because people don't take me serious in places like banks, offices etc. The same thing when I'm driving...


Madeline 6 years ago

I am 23 years old and look fresh out of highschool at best (I blame the baby face). I feel insulted whenever students of my own age give me a shocked look when I tell them my age. Some shopkeepers speak to me without polite forms and even attend to older people first, despite the fact that I followed next in line and had been there waiting for a much longer time.

Whenever I want to buy a more expensive piece of clothing, they look at me and say: "It's 200$" with a tone that suggests I haven't read the price tag correctly. "It's 200$, are you sure a teenager-looking person like you can afford to buy it?" Yes, I know how to read price tags, thank you very much.

Make-up and a more business-like attire can help, but it depends on the person. Some people here wrote about how personal knowledge and confidence can set things straight but we don't have the chance to show those in every situation. If the shopkeeper just ignored you to attend to the older-looking woman, you can't give him a speech about proper work ethic. You just have to grin and bear it.


Raj 6 years ago

Same here , I am 30 but look 20 , I worked for more than 8 years in the same company, currently working as a senior supervisor , however when I go for interviews for the same position in a different company , I don't get selected and the usual question they ask is if I would be able to handle the responsibility .Very annoying and dissapointing.


Shane 6 years ago

I have read it all, i am 23 and looks like 16, i am studying in uni.. and i am in final semester of MBA the grls who are younger me more then 4 to 5 years thinks that i am small boy, lot of my friends say's that you look like a child that's why they don't give u a lift or consider u..


bruce 6 years ago

it's funny, but in your picture you actually do look about 30..


Guest 6 years ago

i know how it feels. i'm a 24 yo guy but face the same problem as you. im going out of my mind thinking about it.


cheergirl 6 years ago

me too..i am 23 now. very sad when i go for interview and the interviewer tell me that i am not matured enough to do a job.


Jason 6 years ago

Same problem... Turning 24 with a bachelors degree and look 18. Maybe we should just hook up with each other. I think us guys got it worse though. Women want mature looking men, I can't do that. Unfortunately guys will date you as long as your 18


sweetie 6 years ago

people must learn to treat all with respect irrespective of their looks because we cant walk with our age taggeg on our foreheads.

thanx


Keisha 6 years ago

well i just turned 14 and all of my friends make fun of me because i look 12 and im older than all of them. it also makes me really angry because all these people come up to me and ask how old i am and i say 14 and they say really i thought you were 12 or something. i really wish i looked older and all my friends say that make up will make me look older but i don't want to wear make up i have no idea what to do anymore.


Michael 6 years ago

Same, i was just at my friends house, and this 11 year old said i looked 10, im 13 and i could kill him in as many ways, his little brain couldn't even count that high. And for some reason my best friends asked him how old he thought i looked. Im just glad im not the only 1.


sam 6 years ago

one day i went out with my sister and her friends and they r younger than me :) they re teenager. i ordered sm coffee mix that had low percentage of alcohol, the waiter refused to bring me one and asked the id for age control :S pff and i was so offended cause the girls that i was with, and i looked like a child and by th way i am 23


Laura 6 years ago

God I'm so happy I'm not the only one who has this problem!!

I just turned 18, and TODAY someone told me she thought I looked younger, like 16.

An old man I know once told me I look like an 11 year old girl!!!

I'm really sick of people thinking I'm younger than my age, especially because this week I will be attending my first year of college!!

I'm so so scared that the students will think I'm a little girl, and they will make fun of me.

I have long curly (brown) hair (I always wear it down) and I'm only 5 feet tall. I tried wearing heels and I did almost every possible thing with my hair. I'm desperate...

And the comment: "You'll be grateful when you're old" is indeed terribly annoying

P.S.: thanks for the tips everybody :)

Laura


Emma 6 years ago

You need to wear some blush to define your cheekbones; heels to make you look taller; a jacket with a belt is a good idea because it defines your waist. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. I'm 13 and I look 10 when I don't do any of that, but I found all this REALLY, REALLY helps me.


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asksupermom 6 years ago

I can totally relate. At 30, with 5 kids (the oldest almost 14), I am rather sick of everyone assuming I'm still a teenager.

The worst is when I get attitude at the middle school (where I have 2 students - both my own biological sons).

Ive been asked for my hall pass for goodness sakes... On multiple occasions! And when I try to explain myself I get "mother" incorrectly *er* 'corrected' with "stepmom" and a roll of the eyes.

I do appreciate looking young, really. But it can be VERY frustrating when no one takes you seriously. The bigger issue is the fact that people tend to be judgmental right off the bat. I don't appreciate being typecast in to an entirely different persona than what I really represent.

To be quite frank, I earned my 30 years in the school of hard knocks without help from anyone at ALL (no welfare, no family, no nothing!) - 2 teenage pregnancies and then some. I overcame it with hard work, multiple jobs, self-sacrifice, sleepless nights, and 110% of ALL I had and am apparently no worse for the wear. However I attract attitude as if I were someone else entirely.

If only people knew my REAL story...

I digress - hang in there, you are not alone by any means :-)


leah 6 years ago

i so understand how this feels. its frustrating that no one takes me seriousely. i dress appropriate for my job, I have my hair short and everything to make myself look older. But everyone thinks I am 14 and has the nerve to say that at me, whereas I am 26 and a diplomat


Marie 6 years ago

Ahh, I'm soo glad I'm not alone. I am a 23 year old third year law student. I am 5'2 with big doey eyes and cutesy-cheeks. The thing I hate the most about being baby-faced and petite is that I now have first year law students and younger kids saying things like "Hello dear". I make six figures, and live in a townhouse by myself, so I am quite the old soul. My boyfriend is 33 and even he is too immature for me, so the fact that people judge me as a kid based on my appearance is laughable. Girls my age look at me and say "Oh my gosh, you are so cute; my little brother would love you". I deal with it by laughing maniacally inside (haha).

I do know how to look older though: I think an earlier post got it right:

* Always wear make up and arch your eyebrows and file them in with pencil to give you a more serious look.

* DO NOT wear trends, you will not look the same as your older looking friends, you will look like a kid trying to be grown up. Instead, stick to the classics...billowy blouses with midriff belts, pencil skirts, vintage jewelry, and business casual (yes even in college)...Dress like a European...16 year olds often cannot pull off this look.

* If you are not that into fashion and are petite also, do NOT shop at juniors. Shop at petites; it makes your life easier. Wear things like blazers, sweaters, and scarves. Think "petite sophisticate".

* DO your hair! If it is short, cut it a very grown up style (think news reporter), and if it is long, wear it long in a center-part (Pocahontas style)and make sure that it is impeccable. Teenagers often have messy hair, so the messy look will not work for you.


amrita 6 years ago

Im 15 years old! but everyone acts as if im a kid of 12! people pull my cheeks(which is the most painfull thing in the world) and calls me cutee! i juss want to look matured. i've tried everything,even threading and waxing! NO USE! WAT DO I DO????


amy 6 years ago

i know how it is im 22 everyone thinks im 15 16 i hate goin to buy liqiour or cigarettes because everyone says it so much on how young i look it makes me almost feel that young sometimes to where i feel like i am too young to buy liquor and cigarettes its insaine, plus im a mother of 3 and no matter where i go with my kids people down grade me like im 16 with 3 kids really? like as if that is even possible come on now! i hate it exspecially shopping cuz im so petite n small which makes me look so young i cant ever buy nething that makes me look my age i hate it!


anonymous 5 years ago

me too! i hate it, im only 11 but i have such a baby face and im sick of being treated like a five year old even by people younger than me!! i have tried EVERYTHING! i don't know what to do :( im in year 7 at school and people wondder why im in secondary school

also it dosent help that ive gone really dum because when i was little i was really clever i mean at the age of 1 i could write my name and read long words (umbrella)!! now i cant divide small numbers!


Emma 5 years ago

Ah, I have this issue- I'm 13 but I look really young and absolutely nothing helps. I pass for eight at times. I know I am intelligent and I speak well, but it doesn't help the fact that I'm short and baby faced. What I find amusing, though, is to use a sentence with SAT vocab words when people ask me where my mother is. It gives humor to the situation when you get to watch their shocked face.


Emily 5 years ago

I'm a senior in high school, but I could easily pass as a 7th grader. I just turned 17 last month and people still mistake me for a 12 year old.

I'm barely 5' tall, pretty skinny and, of course, I have an obvious baby face.

My friends laugh at me when someone (usually one of them, in fact) comments on my stature, and I tend to laugh as well to look like it doesn't get to me, but it does.

I just hate how everyone just assumes I'm immature, because of my height. Makes it so much harder to state an opinion and actually be heard.

Sigh.


guext 5 years ago

I'm so glad I found a website with people that relate to my problems. I'm currently 17, but i look as though as if i was 11 or something ._. Looking young for your age is more of a curse then a gift in my opinion. I once went to the bank to open a debit card account and the banker just stood there and laughed with a "Your kidding right?" look to his face. I also asked a girl out i liked and she said she didn't want to date me, when i asked why she said that if maybe i was a little older she would. We were the same age. GAAAAH


Charlie 5 years ago

I know the pain, I'm 30 next month and look 18, I'm a pretty woman but never get men my own age only teenagers chat me up. I'm looking for a job at moment but everyone assumes I'm 18 at interviews despite having 7 years experience. I get told I'm lying all time when I tell people my age. Just last night I went out and people are like no your not and start arguing with you. No I'm not 30 just said it. I think I'm never going to meet someone because I look

So young! It's really horrible looking so young. My best friend is 30 and looks it, she gets treated so differently to me and looks about 10 years older when we go out together. Problem is I do my make up well, but I know I dress young as I like trendy clothes, where as most 30 year olds where smart classic clothes. Oh well... Nice to know others out there xx


Liz 5 years ago

It's so reassuring to hear other people share my problem. I am 23 and have been told that I look 16 or even 14. I always get ID'd and on one occasion I was ID'd on an adult-only cruise ship. Yes people - you had to be 18 to be on the ship in the first place and I still got ID'd! People accuse me of having fake ID and I never know what to say to that.

In the last couple of years, though, I have learnt that the secret to looking older is all in your attitude. If you act confident, be forward, be the first to speak when you meet someone new, and even offer to shake their hand, that seems to work. Enjoy the somewhat confused look on the other person's face as they wonder why this 'teenager' in front of them is acting so grown-up and they will soon realise who they are dealing with!


Ovidiu 5 years ago

Where do you ppl come from? Perhaps most of you are from the States? Dealing with age may have to do with the culture of the place. I live in Austria mostly and never get wrong aged there but happents in other countries


Liz 5 years ago

I totally agree with that. I'm from the UK and it's pretty bad here, but worse in the US I'm guessing since the drinking age is 21 there. Whenever I've been to continental Europe I've had no problem at all.


DJ 5 years ago

I KNOW I AM 17 THEY SAY I LOOK LIKE I AM 11


Stricken 5 years ago

I'm 20, look 16-17 at the absolute most, and I'm 5'9"! I have a baby face. The only time it has ever been beneficial is when people try to sell me credit cards on campus - "Sorry, I'm not 18 yet" can be code for "Sorry, I just don't want your useless card"


Jen 5 years ago

I completely understand. I'm 20 this year but people tell me I look about 15. to top things off I'm only about 90lbs. Im looking to go into the real-estate industry.

I constantly get told I look like a little kid. It makes me feel like less of a women sometimes.

I know it will be a challenging road for me. I would say the best thing you can do is wear cloths that hug your curves and wear as much make up as possible. Heals are a must.


esther 5 years ago

I've also gone thru a lot cos of ds. Taken a whole lot of steriods to no avail then diagnosed with clinical depression. Yes! As far as the psychiatric hospital. I'm 23yrs old but I've been told all my life I was a child. Now after a whole lot of steriod of dexamethasone and antidepressants my case seemed worse than before cause I've lost body expressions.


Hannah 5 years ago

I have the same problem.. I was recently in Mexico, and because it was hot, I didn't wear much make-up, and due to the fact I am 100 lbs and 5 feet tall, people responded, "are you serious?" when I told them I was 16. The locals told me I looked about 13 or 14. I find this very insulting, demeaning, condescending, and frankly rude. Why would you ever respond to someone with, "are you serious?" when they tell you their age? I mean, come on.. what do they think I'm gonna say? "Nooooo, I'm just kidding!" ? Of course I'm 16.Carding is one thing, that's doing a job, but in day to day conversation it's outright rude. Especially when I make the effort to speak Spanish [quite well if I do say so myself] and when I am as mature and confidant as any adult. I have not had nearly as many problems in my home country, the U.S.A., but it is starting to come up more and more, leaving me really upset about the whole thing. :( I guess I am just glad there are other petites who are clearly just as smart, beautiful, and well-spoken as their peers who suffer from these rude remarks and lack of respect that we receive from our young looks.

-H


Katrina Stephens 5 years ago

I justed turned 20 in January, and a couple of days ago I answered the knook on the door to find a man preaching about religion. Before I could say anything, he said, "Is your mum or dad home?", to my horror I couldn't believe what he had just said. I'm 20 years old, renting my own place and hes like asking for my mum or dad. Are you serious?

I always get comments from children and teenagers saying that I look only 16 years old, and I hate this. I do not get any respect, they judge me because I am short, and because the only clothes I can fit are XS or Size 6, therefore they assume I am a teenager.

My hair is shoulder length, I am slim built, but curvy. I am olive/tan skin, and have brown hair, and approxi. 163cms or 5 ft 3 or 4. How should I style my hair, and how should I dress to come across as 20, not 16. I do exercise, and look after my skin, and that's why people also say I look young, because I don't seem to age or get wrinkles.

Should I wear mature looking earings, scarves, heels? I wear heels, and heel boots occasionally and make-up on a regular basis. Are their any celebrities I should look to for inspiration?


Emily 5 years ago

I think that age discrimination is just as big of a deal as racism, sexism, and gender discrimination. People think that it's lucky to look young but hey, that's for when you're 50. I'm 23 yrs old and have recently located to Florida. I don't think I have ever been more offended in my life. I live here with my boyfriend who's 34 and get asked if he's my dad all the time. That's sick, really... I get suckers at the bank and carded as if my ID were fake. I never got a promotion at my job when I had it and get treated like I'm 12. People laugh as if it's no big deal but on the inside I feel like slapping someone. I've tried cutting my hair. I've tried wearing heals, I'm too poor to just change my wardrobe. What can I do? I thought that as I got older so would the age people think I am. It hasn't happened. I've been 12 for 11 years gee, half my life I've been 12...


Sayako Matsumoto 5 years ago

I have the same problem. I am in my mid 30s (!) and people ask me for ID when I want to visit a movie at the cinema, I get student prices at museums by default and people assume that I just finished (or even started to attend) university - even when I appear in business-like attire... It is so annoying. I find this very annoying! On the other hand, when people do not see me and just read my texts or hear me on phone, they assume that I am in my mid- to late 30s or even 40s... (I even think about plastic surgery to make me look older!)


Estelita Esmarelda Scott 5 years ago

I'm 23 in South Africa. I cannot get into a dance club without an ID.

I'm 4'11. I look 10. I sound six over the phone. When I make important phone calls, people think it is a prank call.

No one respects me as a woman. People say: I'm not going to argue with a child.

I feel like a child inside sometimes.


Ovidiu 5 years ago

Guys, I think I discovered what to do about the issue.

First I'm male, still like to think of myself as a boy, but also to get the deserved respect due to age(almost 29) and experience.

Whenever I had my hair cut too short without any style I got mistaken for younger. But every time I arrange the hair backwards on a side I look better, have more confidence about looks and get aged right.

More over my hair it's pretty hard to be brushed on the side, still just by passing the hand through it and putting it in the right direction does the trick.

Think about the right hair style for you and look confident, try to find out what are the features you'd like to underline


FountainofYouth 5 years ago

Does any of your family members have the same 'problem' like you? Cause I do...anyways that's not the problem here I know how it feels like you know people ask you how old you are and you tell them and they'll be like 'oh my gosh are you serious??' and you'll be like 'yes I am' some people are proud to be like that some people like us don't so the key to looking old and you know half dead is to do the opposite of the things you need to do to look young...


Jason 5 years ago

Me too.


Osirus 5 years ago

I too face this problem. At age 33 all the people I know look their age but me. When I am around them I feel like a minor and photographs depict me as that too. For 15 years I have known the secret to solving this but have been very lazy to do so. I complain only when I am forced to be apart of a major event and everyone present fit the part. The solution is everyday extreme workouts. At least 1 hour to 2 hours of hardcore dance and aerobics. This will help increase hgh and all chemicals in the body. Plenty of sleep and eat right. I know because 18 years ago I did so and I was able to look the part and fit the part however I stopped doing what I needed to do and the progress slowly regressed over time. Now I am on the mission to make it happen again. This takes pure commitment


Kelly 4 years ago

I am in the same boat! I am 35 years old, but am constantly mistaken for 18. It doesn't help that my only child is only for years old. People assume that I am a young mom... I don't get much respect and am talked down to on a daily basis. It is crazy that I have to wish that I look older. But like most have said, I don't want to look old, just look my age. People don't realize how demeaning their comments are, saying that I'm lucky to look young, etc, etc. Very frustrating!!


Rev 4 years ago

I am 48 but had tough time in life, as I look 24.

When I go with my daughter, people think I am her friend in college.

In a reserved bus, the driver look suspiciously, and told me to leave the bus, as this seat is reserved by an old lady in late 40's

I didn't get Head position in companies, as I don't look old enough in my face.

In college reunion, when others look their age, I am the only one looking like their child. No respect for me.


Amy 3 years ago

I know how you all feel I'm 21 and went for a job interview as a trainee sales negotiator today. The interviewer said to me 'I'll be straight with you, I won't be offering you the job. You're 21 (which he'd asked me as it's not on my CV - I thought it was rude to ask a woman her age) and you don't even look it. I need to hire someone people will believe and I don't think people will believe you. Do you think you could secure a sale over me and another man in is 40's' (Obviously not that's why I was applying for the TRAINEE role!)

I'm absolutely livid that people think it is acceptable to treat people this way! If you went to an interview as a larger lady you wouldn't be turned away told you are too fat!

It frustrates me so much that people think that it is acceptable to point out the way I look.

I would never walk up to someone and say ' Gosh your ugly' why is it acceptable to constantly judge people based on their size and build.

I now have another interview for the same role at another estate agents next week and am absolutely dreading it!

I walked into the interview feeling confident and prepared and left feeling absolutely ripped to pieces.

If I'm on a night out and get comments I can react with 'No way, sh*t I was 5'10 and looked like I was heading for retirement when I left the house - but at an interview this clearly isn't acceptable.

I'm 4'11 and 3 quarters (I know you'll all understand the importance of this)

sorry for my massive rant feeling really rubbish now and hoping that this will get it out of my system a bit!

Any advice for my interview would be appreciated.

I wore heels, smart trousers and a shirt. Make up wasn't too over the top, eyeliner on top lid and mascara.

Glasses totally don't suit me or I'd consider that! I'm really thinking about getting a hair cut and colour in an attempt to make myself look older.


andrea 2 years ago

I am 23 and work as a strata manager. Constantly dealing with council members and contractors that are older than me can be tough. I tend to stick to dressing in classic business attire and classix make up helps but i still get comments about my age. I admit i could pass for a fifteen year old but I have years of experience in the industry and it is definitely frustrating.

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