Living As A Redhead: How Having Red Hair Changes Everything

Redheadedness

As you may or may not be able to tell from my Hubber profile, I myself am a redhead and I will attest that being a redhead is an eminently unique experience compared with other natural hair colors.

Herein, I will attempt to prove it. 

Incidence

Redheadedness is the rarest natural haircolor: less than 4% of people on the planet have naturally red hair.

It is more common among individuals with genetic roots in western Europe, and - notably - in Ireland and Scotland. 

Stigma

Throughout history, redheadedness has been associated with negative traits, which I find summed up nicely in this proveb (compliments of the French):

"Redheaded women are either violent or false, and usually are both."

They have been targeted as witches, deemed as 'naturally' quick-tempered, and viewed as the product of 'unclean' sex.

More benign stereotypes of redheads include the idea that they are more promiscuous, wilder, more passionate, and loud-mouthed.

Also, redheaded women are more likely to be the subject of said stigma than redheaded men.

Interestingly, among women who dye their hair, more women choose red shades than either blonde or brunette. 

NOTE: even my own grandmother (who, mind you, had four redheaded children and at least seven redheaded grandchildren) said a the birth of my newest cousin: "I never did care for a redheaded child...."

 

 

Real Life Effects

As a redhead, most of the nicknames I have been given have been due to my hair color, and the only celebrities anyone every compares me to are redheaded ones...and they do so indiscriminately (evidently, having red hair makes me look like Tori Amos, Julianne Moore, Lucille Ball, and Lindsay Lohan all at the same time....).

Furthermore, much of my identity to others lies only in my hair color. When people are asked to describe me, many can only come up with "redhead," and some will add "tall" to the description.

More than that, though, the strong public perception of redheads as strong-willed, feisty, and whathaveyou seems to have led to people treating me as if it were so. People expect me to adhere to these stereotypes, behave towards me as if it were so, and I have reacted accordingly -- fulfilling their expectations because that is what I was taught from a young age that I was supposed to be.

While that is not science or proof, I am certain that other redheads may have that experience as well.

Many redheads also report having been treated negatively as a child due to their haircolor - mostly by children. Personally, I have had the experience of adult women being fascinated by and jealous of my color. (I have also had men fascinated by the possible color of hair other than that on my head.)

In dating, men are either attracted to the hair as a fetish, or terrified by it's ostensible indicator of my personality.

In foreign countries like Thailand (or others where redheads are far less than 1% of the population) redheads can expect to have their hair fondled often.

Also, everyone assumes I'm Irish.  I happen to be Irish, but that's only a scant 12.5% of my heritage...no one ever guesses the rest of my genetic background. 

Bottom Line

Being a redhead comes with assumptions, stares, taunts, and questions.

The good news, however, is that when people expect you to have a strong personality and you thus develop one, people usually listen to what you have to say and are interested in who you are.  I happen to love it and embrace it as part of who I am, a central piece to my identity. 

You may learn to love the attention and enjoy busting the stereotypes, but unless you dye your hair permanently, you cannot escape what it means to be redheaded (and, even then, you're stuck with the genetic corollaries).

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sean.rutger 7 years ago from USA

I'm one of the guys with a thing for redheads.. my wife is one. A tall one, at that. She has said many of the things you have... except they mostly happen to be true about her. For example, she is very passionate and sometimes loud. Sometimes I think maybe she is a witch, hehe. Nice hub!


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CarolynnMarie 7 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, CA Author

Wonderful, thanks!

I'm tall also, so I think a lot of the stereotypes are exaggerated when that's also true for redheads.


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Lgali 7 years ago

nice article


Ken 7 years ago

I am a redhead and at 46 am still treated like a redheaded step child. People have been cruel to me my whole life. I am also only 5'6" and have big ears and wear glasses and had braces on my teeth until I was 19 years old..............


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CarolynnMarie 7 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, CA Author

I'm sorry to hear that!

I think sometimes it's completely different for men who are redheaded than for women who are redheaded.


mrs. stoor 7 years ago

You are absolutely correct. Being a redhead does change everything.


Heather 7 years ago

I am also a very tall redhead!

I used to hate when I was younger, but I am now embracing it.

I like being somewhat unique, and my best friend is coincidentally a redhead too.

She is very short though.

We're both very short-tempered, made fun of for being redheaded, but people still complement our hair.

I have a lot of Irish in me, and she has a lot of Scottish.

Both of my parents are burnette, while I have two other siblings who are redheaded, and four others who are burnette.

Her parents are burnette and blonde.

I think the only thing that stil bothers me is that people think the nickname firecrotch is really funny.


lindsey 7 years ago

Why do so many people dye it this colour if people treat readheads so bad?


telia 7 years ago

@lindsey:

Because they don't treat us 'so bad' these days. I think what a lot of us are saying is that we are pissed off that suddenly (for about 15 years) it's more and more trendy to be a redhead. Some of us went through hell as children because of our hair, then as teens everyone thought redhead american girls must all be like Tori Amos and redhead boys were aliens. I'm not sure what the difference is.

Why do redheads have the stereotype of being 'fiery' or whatever? Because the idiot masses prefer to cling to stereotypes. Trust me, I would still be a bitch if I was blonde or brunette. Having to put up with so much just because of my hair only makes me worse. Yes, I love my hair and its color, I have about four feet of it. What I hate is that the very same (expletive deleted) that teased me when I was 13 were all over me when I was 17.

They would ask "what do you use to get your hair color so beautiful?"

"Shampoo. What do you use?"

I honestly have no clue how it is for guys. I have never known a guy who dyed his hair red and pretended it was natural. All I've known are women who dye. There are some that I love, basically anyone who does it as a form of artistic expression, anyone who does it as a modification because it's how they think they are (like people who cut off a limb because they see themselves as whole when they are an amputee (I suppose this includes trannies)), and people who do it as if it were no different from makeup.

The ones who piss me off are the ones who pretend it's natural. The ones who /want/ to identify with the stereotypes are the ones who are getting in the way. Isn't it odd that red hair dye sales skyrocketed when it was first made widely known that redheads need higher doses of some drugs?

Suddenly (eye roll) major media agencies are running the story again as if it's something we didn't know 15 years ago. They aren't spending all this money/time doing any relevant redhead research. They are taking 15 year old info and raping the redhead stereotype image for the ratings the other 98% of the world gives them. If it was about anything useful then the latest batch of 'reports' wouldn't have been so skewed and recycled.

They drew conclusions in very weird ways from the last batch of 'studies'. They assumed that higher sensitivity is the same as a lower threshold of pain. They made it seem like a natural resistance to anesthesia means we are babies and avoid the dentist more than other people. Sure, there are probably a lot of redheads who have avoided going /back/ to the dentist but there is a higher percentage of the non-redhead population who have never even been to a dentist.

Nowhere in the recent press releases did I see it mentioned that (genetically) we are more likely to be more physically sensitive while also having a higher threshold of pain. It makes sense to me that at least those two things are probably connected. It makes just as much sense to me that even if we're not born with a high threshold then considering that we also have a resistance to both natural and artificial anesthesia is surely something to cause us to have a higher threshold.

The media only want to play whatever 'angle' will get them higher ratings/sales. Yes, that is proper English because 'media' is plural, not singular. I wish 'you people' would either go away or at least go back to hating us. Really, I was much happier just being teased than I am about being pimped out for the stereotypes associated with me.


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dljc_79 7 years ago from England

CarolynnMarie, i would like to say (for the benefit of everyone) that it is NOT different for redhead men, it is just different for men in general..

yay red.


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Jelliebean 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

Also I think women are often stereotyped by their hair colour. I often get told I look like anyone who has black hair. It is also a description used to describe me above anything else. I notice that people assume I am mysterious, serious and that I read gothic novels. The stereotypes for blonde-haired women are endless!

My niece has typically Scottish red hair. Her dad bought her a GAP t-shirt and told her that the GAP written on the front stands for Ginger And Proud!


swimmm 7 years ago

I am a redhead and 14-when I was younger I was soo insecure about my color. Now, I've realized that i am one of the "few" lucky ones with the color.

GO RED!!!


Pucokie 7 years ago

I am 16, I have auborn hair, and I have olive colored skin. Everyday people will make some type of comment like: "Your a ginger","You have red hair","Red heads are so moody"..... The fact is most "redheads" have orange hair, not red. My hair has more brown in it, but it also has red, blonde, and orange in it too. Also people make remarks about my eyes (which are also auborn), they always say: "Your a vampire, because you have red eyes". People just assume the silliest things about me, that may or may not be true. Although the constant teasing gets on my nerves, I absolutely love being a "redhead"!!!


Ben 7 years ago

I've had my hair fondled by a Thailand guy when I was 8 it was weird


Tom 7 years ago

I'm pretty sure I always get into confrontations when I'm out coz i'm redheaded. People just don't respect me. I avoid trouble as much as possible, but it always finds me. I learnt how to box, so now i just kick their ass if it goes too far. Reading this, you probably think i'm the aggressor. All I want to do is have fun and wish no harm on anyone but it just doesn't happen like that in the real world.

Also I can tell you all now that reason everyone thinks redheads have a fiery temper is because we do because of all the shit we have been through.

To finish on a good note fellas, girls believe that guys with red hair have big dicks to make up for the failed hair colour. Yes, girls have told me this(girlfriends), i didn't make it up and the fact has been confirmed on my behalf. So lets get the best kept secret out there fellas!!

Tom


dylan  6 years ago

i'm 14 years old and i'm a boy. i have red hair, and let me tell you, the teasing you get especially in middle school in high school is relentless. for 4 years i took offense to it, but now i've learned to laugh it off. i love being a red head and i love being different. every other hair color seems boring to me. and i also like that some girls have a thing for red heads ;)


Tom K from Maiine 6 years ago

I had a few problems younger in life until I found that a lot of girls like red hair.


Mark D 6 years ago

I'm a guy and was born with brite red hair. I absolutley hate it. As a kid I was called a red headed woodpecker or woody for woody the woodpecker. I don't look like my siblings or parents and everyone joked calling me the redheaded stepchild. It is true about having a higher pain threshold and I wonder about alcoholism. My ex and I are both recovering alcoholics and always needed to drink way more than the average person to get drunk. (we are both clean now for 3 plus years.) Our daughter is gorgeous and has long very thick red hair that matches the locks my mother saved of mine as a child. I have since gone blonde and only people that knew me before even know. People ask me now all the time about my beautiful blonde hair and blue eyes. I just smile.


Alexandria M. 6 years ago

Okay, I'm a 16 year old red-head high schooler. I have come to expect one of two things to happen when I meet someone. 1) They comment on how pretty my hair is and leave it alone

2) They make jokes about my temper and personality

The second is BEYOND annoying! Then, to top it all off, you get those old ladies in grocery stores or restaurants who feel the need to TOUCH MY HAIR! It's weird! I don't know them and they all have this /urge/ to touch me!

Course, the redheaded stepchild joke is abundant. My Dad even says it! (I'm the only one is my family, distantly related and not, that has red hair. It's a running joke in my family that I am adopted)

The effect it has on my life is....obvious. My hair color decides what colors I can wear (B/c, honestly, pink is NOT a good redhead color), what people think about me at first glance, how much sun screen I use, and how I act. Being treated as a stereotypical redhead at a young age kind of formed my personality. I'm hot-headed, have little patience, etc.

It kind of also effected the guys I like. Growing up hearing that red hair is pretty, I came to associate it with handsomness in goys. I crush hard on redhead guys. Dunno why, I just LOVE that colour on a guy.


me 6 years ago

im a (natural) red head with an aditude and im proud!


Lily 6 years ago

there is this girl in my class and she thinks she's really awesome and unique just because her hair is red. I know red hair is a rare thing but just because her hair is unique, it doesn't mean her personality is unique. I am against stereotypes, but this girl probably fits exactly the stereotypical redhead... loud, violent, and she is pretty fake seeming


Samantha 6 years ago

I am an 18 year old redhead and I do tend to have a bit of a temper, often to the point of petulance, so I definitely fit that part of the stereotype (sadly), however I am not particularly tall. A measly 5'3". (But I like to pretend I'm 5'4" sometimes, just to make myself feel better) People (mainly older people) have always stopped me and told me what pretty red hair I have (it's VERY long, practically a firey orange with these super awesome natural hightlights, and straighter than an arrow). They ask where I get it from, my mom or my dad. And, weird enough, it's neither. In fact, there is no one in my immediate family (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents) that even HAVE red hair. I would like to think I was adopted or switched at birth, but that's a hard one to explain since I'm also a twin. And said twin has dirty blonde hair.

Being a redhead has definitely affected my life. It's just always been Who I Am. I'm the redhead, the loud one, the impatient one, the passionate one. Every guy that's ever spoken to me has made some kind of comment about my hair. Not that I mind because it makes me feel special. But there is more to me than just the color of my hair and sometimes it feels like people aren't willing to look past that.

Also, I hate the word "Ginger" with a passion. Friggin' "South Park."


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Scozzo_Scotty 6 years ago

@Samantha!

Wow, its kinda weird, everything you said is exactly how i am, except im 21. I do believe that becouse of all the crap we took in the early years of life has made us generate a personality to die for as we get older!

Id love to talk about the differences between being a Red-headed male growing up to being a red-headed female!

Anyone?

Scotty :)


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Scozzo_Scotty 6 years ago

Tom!

Just seen your Comment! Agree Totally Agree AWESOME haha


siscici 6 years ago

isee all these comments about red heads... i just got my hair dyed a deep redbrown and now im wondering if i shuda dunn tht


lisa 6 years ago

I am 17 and I am a redhead. I have been bullied in school a lot and know I dye my hair light brown and the bullyng stopped-

being a redhead just sucks.


Martha 6 years ago

I love redhead! I am one of those fascinated and will stare at the hair. I am Mexican and have medium brown hair with reddish undertones but my husband likes me to dye it jet black. Anyways I loved your article. ;)More power to you.


Amber 6 years ago

Everyone assumes I have a short temper. My temper shows when I'm constantly reminded I'm supposed to have a shot temper. It does upset me that people see my hair and automaticly think don't make her mad, she'll eat you alive. I'm quite the opposite. I have a high tolerance for stupid people, screaming children, and flat rudeness. Once more, what's upsetting is when I'm asked what color I use or who does my hair because that red is just beautiful and I have to have it. Um, God? My parents pick one its natural. In high school a girl got mad because I said my hair was natural. That can't be the case, your eyebrows are brown. Yes, they are brown. I also happen to have a very dark red and not fiery red people often think of when they hear red hair. However, the most hurtful thing I've ever had said to me is when my mom admitted that she vowed if she ever had a redhead child she'd dye the hair because she did not like red hair. After which she said but don't get me wrong! I love your hair. Thanks?

Despite the things I've had said to me I'm a strong women that loves my hair. And gets a little satisfaction every time I see a bad dye job walk by, because you can't replicate awesome.


Little Rock 6 years ago

I hated having red hair growing up and 10 years ago started dying it blonde. This past year on my birthday I decided I was tired of the touch ups and went back to my natural auburn color. I couldn't have imagined the change. Everyone loves it. 3 of my coworkers have started dying their hair my shade and as an added bonus my boss now seems to take me more seriously. I don't mind the fiery personality comments anymore because 1) its true 2)the blonde jokes were way more insulting.

Embrace your redheadedness!


Sieera  6 years ago

I am a short, ( just under five feet tall) slim,I have fair complexion,no freckles and emerald green eyes. My hair is very thick and silky and long,to my lower back.People often accuse me of having colored my hair.It is natural and I am happy with it.I am a quiet and reserved person.It takes a lot to set me off but when I do I say what I feel and then am over and done with it.People don't understand how I can be so forgiving. They think I should have a fiery temper.


Maggie Bonner 6 years ago

Hi.I am 21 and a redhead. I'm not tall either. Crummy 5 4". However, I fit almost every other sterotype. I hate hearing the word false though. I don't think red headed (women especially) are all that false. I mean most of us are passionate. I know seven red headed girls that went to school with me and we were all very passionate. (A problem when we disagreed...) However, we ran our mouths too much to lie about anything. I think it's more like red heads are more manipulative or are able to pull it off because we're an anomaly. We aren't false, we just have a tendency to be believed. Fiery tempers make dangerous weapons when their wrapped in a pretty package that is opened without forethought.

I do admit though that around my neck of the woods people think it's good luck to rub a red head on the top of their head. That drives me nuts. It's annoying to randomly be in line at Walmart and turn around to someone rubbing your head or stroking my hair like they're my grandma when it's some guy in camo that's like 30. Weird. Then they use the red-head "had to touch" excuse. I usually laugh it off then shiver cause it creeps me out. My military fiancé doesn't usually laugh...


Robin 6 years ago

Dudes, I'm a redhead with brown eyes but my hair is more auburn than red also I loathe having freckles i don't like them i'm a dude, and i think they look better on chicks haha.


samantha 6 years ago

Iam a red head auborn realy have freckles but black eye brows Lol.My Parents Are Puerto Rican & el salvadoen and i ask where i got the freckles and red hair both of then have dark hair but i poped out different.


Bel 6 years ago

I am a 39 year old redhead auburn as some might call it. I hate it when I walk into a room and all of the ladies sneer at me. Their looks are so full with disdain. I have a really hard time with it. I like being involved with my childrens activities in school. But not many women talk to me. Now before you think it is a personality thing, I experimented with a blonde wig and they results where incredible. Not only where the women talking to me they were being nice. Red hair strikes up some type of emotion in people. I love my hair and would never dye it. But I am really frustrated with these people.


Rhonda 6 years ago

I have auburn red hair. I hate when people make cracks about me because I'm a natural redhead. a lot of people say they wish they had my color and some even ask if it's real. But its kind of funny when I tell them I had this color since the day I popped out of my mom. Ironically my mom had black hair and my dad was a blonde. Oh well.


René 6 years ago

My father had red hear and now my daughter has. I have lived long enough to say that all I can tell about a person, has to do with personality not with colour of his/her hair. Hair is just a visual accent to that. CarolynnMarie, keep Your red-haired head proudly up!:)


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Little_Abby 5 years ago

Love this! So silly that there are so many negative things associated with redheads. My hair defines me in a good way I think, and I will never change my hair color. Being a redhead is a very strange thing to try and describe though, I'm glad you could put some words to it.


ciara 5 years ago

omg im a redhead (nd proud) but i was really self concious about it until i went 2 italy on vacation and the amount of attention i got from guys was just incredible!! (im from ireland)


Assassin Fred 5 years ago

I love redheads... Red hair has always been a dominating factor for me in my preference for women.


rachel 5 years ago

As a redhead in the aircraft maintenance section of the military, I notice- more so after having joined years ago- that no one takes me seriously. I'm five feet tall, which probably doesn't help.

But when you have to make decisions and explain a problem with a jet or something, you look up after a very intelligent (so i hope) explanation of the problem and everyone is grinning at me, like 'Yer so damn cute!'

I was pretty quiet when I joined, but hitting my early twenties and working with potty-mouthed guys in hot or freezing whether has made me more stereotypical. AKA loud and proud.

Sometimes the older ladies down here in florida will grab my hair and howl into my face 'I love your hair!'

And the guys on the flightline, who I don't know, ask if the curtains match the drapes. I really have to remember not to assault a fellow servicemember after the six or seventh guy asks me that same question in a single week. Oh well...


unhappyhair 5 years ago

im a 13 year old girl with orange hair and im from australia. in australia people call redheads rangas (short for orangutans). heaps of people take it to heart but it doesn't effect me because people don't mean it as an insult when they say it to me as they are friends. but one day i was walking along past a market and a drunk man shouted out ranga to me. even though i said i don't care about people calling me ranga, i got really upset by this and when i got home i sat in my room and cried for such a long time. i feel really hurt when random people just shout out ranga or ginger (which happened when i was on holiday in london) and it is aimed at me.

everyone tells me my hair is its amazing and never to dye it. even strangers in the street stop and tell me what a rare and gorgeous hair colour i have. but i really hate my hair colour. whenever i go out i feel like people are staring at me and judging me from my hair. i really want to just temporally dye my hair brown just to see if i like it but my mum (who is not a redhead, and neither is anyone else in my family) wont let me as she thinks it will not go back to its natural colour.

how can i convince her to let me temporally dye it? and what is a good hair dye i can purchase in australia?

PLEASE. i am very unhappy with my hair :'(

please.


Heather 5 years ago

I'm a 11 year old girl and I have had auburn hair my entire life. To be honest I love my hair but being a redhead sucks! When your the only girl in the 6th grade with red hair and your also the person who is hyper with your friends 24/7 the hair is a dead giveaway. Countless times have I had people come up to me in the hall and say "You should so date Cameron (guy in 6th grade with red hair)." I hate it. My nickname, agianst my will, is Lil Red. Thats what my friends call me too. It bugs the crap out of me. I am nothing like what people believe redheads act like. I have two friends with amazingly bright red hair but last year we stopped being friends and now I'm the "Ginger" of the school. Now to the people who dye ther hair red or auburn you have no idea what you've gotten yourselfs into. If your in middle school, and this is from personal experience, you will be picked on. An it doesn't help when your public enemy number one to the most populer girl in school. Don't get me wrong there are times when my favorite part about me is my red hair and other times im ready to go dye it black or brown or blonde or anything. I could already deal with the blonde jokes because I'm not that smart in the first place and people tell me that everyday. I get the crap redheads go threw everyday. I'm just glad I'm not the only one. I thought that it was just because of how rare it is to find a redhead at school was because I was picked on but aparently the rest of the world of redeads deals with it too. I've never told anyone about how hurtful it is everyday. Not my parents or my friends or anybody. I've tried to tell my friends and they say "The reason we call you Lil Red is because we know you don't like it. We love you and all but your really fun to mess with haha." I could go on for just about forever but it would take to long. I just wanted to share my story.


Sean 5 years ago

I'm 18 and have short bright red hair and lots of freckles. I'm about 6'2". I never really thought of myself as being different than other people although when i was younger i was called ginger and fire-crotch, but only by a few people. I've noticed that a lot of people stare at me, i think because of my hair and freckles. I actually find it quite amuzing. I like that my hair and freckles makes me unique.


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Scozzo_Scotty 5 years ago

Had to read this hub again,

Amazing! Keep the faith fellow Redheads.

MWAH!


Victoria 5 years ago

I agree with some of what it says about red head. I do have a bad temper. And every time I go out I always get complements on my hair color. But I don't believe what it says with us being voilent and false.


Daisy 5 years ago

I had bright red hair when i was a little one. Like fire truck red. But as i grew older my hair was not as bright. I to was teased growing up. OMG the things they said to me. One day i got home from school crying to my Dad (a red head) i hated him for giving me red hair. In turn he talked to my grandma (his Mom/red head also) & she sat me down & talked to me. Red heads are very few & unique. The ones that tease u r just jealous & don't let them get to u. I in turn did that & was not teased half as bad. I love my hair. I am 52 now, but, i have had highlights in my hair for the past 5 years. I love it. My eyebrows are another story. U can't hardly see them. I did buy a eye brow pencil, but, it looks (frackin) ridiculous when i use it. So, no more. My husband loves my hair color. In closing RED HEADS ARE THE BEST. And we love to give good head. HEHE had to put that on here.....


Lilly 5 years ago

My boyfriend is a redhead and he was picked on while he was a child.. He's told me all these tales of the hateful and hurtful things other children would do and say to him. An adult once asked him if he dyed his hair. What level of ignorance is the world full of, to treat redheads as if they're something weird. Being a redhead is beautiful. HE is beautiful, both inside and out. He's now 22 years old and he thinks that all of this has made him a stronger person and I praise him for it. But yes, it is weird that now people consider it "cool" to be a redhead, wish he didn't have to go through all the hurtful nicknames through school.


DJ B-Cuz 5 years ago

My mom is Spanish and Filipino (75% of the former; 25% of the latter) and my father is French, English, Scotch-Irish and Sioux. I am the oldest of three boys. I was born with a full head of Auburn hair. My skin is medium toned with some freckles, mostly on my nose. I am fairly tall, have an athletic build and dark eyebrows and light brown eyes. My friends from NYC say I look like a lot of Italian dudes with dark red hair they grew up with. Growing up as a military dependent kid was tough. Until I was 14 my pops was part of the Air Force Southern Command, so we moved from base-to-base mostly in Texas, Florida and Alabama. I really had no problems with the name calling until my dad got stationed in San Antonio, TX and we had to live and go to school off base. From 9-14 years old I had to fight my way through existence physically and verbally. These civilian fools in Texas hated anything or anyone different for some reason, especially redheads. (Guess what, even the idiots in Hollyweird and LA have some fear and loathing of red heads, especially redhead guys). I use to come home upset, often crying. I went through this junk at a time when you could fight in school and not get in big trouble or sent to jail. I learned to fight well. My father got stationed in Clark AB , Philippines in 1982, when I turned 14. It was the first time I was happy to be relocating. Overseas kids on base were from all over the USA and world. Our school was so diverse and cool. I got into Hip Hop; Breakin', DJing, Emceein', Graf and the inclusiveness of the real Hip Hop Culture. I got real good. Whereas you fools here in the states jock the jocks, where I was at almost everyone had some athletic ability, so you needed to stand out and have some skills beyond the commonplace American stereotypical football crap. Needless to say I realized that chicks dug me and my time in high school was golden. I eventually came back to San Antonio, TX in 1988 and some people were feeling me, but most of these ignorant yokels still had their hatred for what was different. It didn't matter to me though, because I knew the real and had experienced the reality of me. I made them FEEL me. Fast-forward to the second decade of the 21st Century. I am 43, but look 28, am married to a beautiful and intelligent 29 year old angel who also happens to be a dentist. I kept B-Boyin' and capitalized on all it gave me. I am a very successful college educated businessman, with a life you would not believe. I turned the tables on the suckers and reality, and now I can hear all those loser name-calling miscreants from my youth crying their lonely, fat, balding, third wife havin', pencil-dicked, poverty stricken, cowardly, pin-heads to sleep on their Dukes of Hazzard pillow cases! Rising above those who fear the diversity of life, and the fact that many redheads are smart, talented, beautiful, empathetic, long-lived and will be successful because life has tempered them like hardened steel, is the GREATEST revenge. Keep your heads up and knock the fools out the box. ONE LOVE!


Joe 5 years ago

An angry article written by an angry redhead that has no soul.


rebecca 29 5 years ago

Im very tall with red hair and i have a red headed brother also. He was teased and picked on a lot more than me. I would say most of the stereo types are true. Here is a genetic fact. Studies in Europe have found that red headed women feel more pain than other colors and require twenty to thirty percent more anesthesia to achieve the same effects as other. Here are some famous red heads. Van Gough. Benjamen Franklin, Napoleon. Plus mythology believes we will turn into vampires after we die. lol. And in the middle ages over fourty thousand women were tortured and killed because it was believed red heads were witches...


Jenna 5 years ago

I'm thinking of dying my brown/blonde hair red...a natural looking redish/copper colour. I'm kind of nervous however but I think it could look really nice. I have blue eyes and pale skin and i'm 5'7. I bought L'oreal's preference intense red/copper hair dye yesterday and since I have been thinking about going red i've seen soo many red heads. They are seriously everywhere! Dyed or natural, I think red hair is beautiful and I feel really bad for anyone who has had such negative experiences based on their hair colour. I mean, I know that people say being a red head is not like any other...but in my opinion, our hair does not define us and anyone who thinks it does is allowing these stereotypes to define you.


Em 5 years ago

This is so true! I was born a redhead and am so proud of it. I hate it when I haer other redheads diss their hair color. I mean people may be judgmental but you gotta be proud of yourself.


Nicole 5 years ago

I love having red hair(: not to mention my best friend is a redheadd.

gingers rule breh


Irish 5 years ago

I know exactly how that goes. In fact, at work they've nicknamed me Irish... Which is, like with yourself, a very small part of my ethnicity. I applaud you for embracing you hair as fully as I have!

Cheers!


RCH 5 years ago

My wife is a redhead and has most of the stereotype features. She's highly resistant to pain killers, she's passionate, somewhat psychic, fiery temper, fiery jealousy, difficult, and high maintenance. But she's also always fun to be around, never a dull moment, exceptionally intelligent(IQ over 140), and she is extremely beautiful! Extremely! Many many people have told both her and myself that she is the most beautiful woman they're ever met, and certainly better than any Hollywood redhead. She has very prominent cheek bones, perfect skin, every single feature of her face and body is amazing. She's normal height of 5'6", but has long legs. She looks like she's wearing 3-4" heels when barefoot. And her legs are not just long, but perfect, equal to the best I've ever seen. She should've been a model or movie star, but she's too shy and humble about her looks.


EmJ 4 years ago

I have bright red hair that looks like fire in the sunlight. I have hazel eyes that change color with my moods. And my moods change a lot!!!!!!!!Whenever I go out people are constantly saying "I love your red hair". Or they just randomly shout out " GINGERS" when I walk past them. I am shy, but whenever someone is mean to my family or mean to me I get really mad. I think a lot of them just want to see my temper... well I give them the full force of my anger!!!!!!!! Lol!!!!!!!! But once you get to know me, you will really love me!!!!!!!!


Hannah 4 years ago

I have hardly ever beenteased about my red hair. Though I AM stereo-type- violent, loud, strong-willed. But I can be nice. A boy at my school say that I am a "Violent ginger she-demon, that makes bloody mary run in hide" and its true. Except I aint no demon. I just laugh if I get teased though if bad enough Ill hit them with my books. Idc if I get in trouble really. It makes life un boring. :) Oh I have brown and blone natural highlights and brown eyes :)


Hannah 4 years ago

I have hardly ever beenteased about my red hair. Though I AM stereo-type- violent, loud, strong-willed. But I can be nice. A boy at my school say that I am a "Violent ginger she-demon, that makes bloody mary run in hide" and its true. Except I aint no demon. I just laugh if I get teased though if bad enough Ill hit them with my books. Idc if I get in trouble really. It makes life un boring. :)


Hannah 4 years ago

Just an add on to my last comment- I have ONE experience with painkillers (that i don't hope to relive) and while I was getting stitches I was screaming pain, pain, pain and the doc was like "But I gave u painkillers" and I was like "Well obviously they didn't work!!! Pain, pain, pain!!!" So Im guessing the painkiller thing is true... sadly ?


Vivian 4 years ago

I'm 13 and-surprise surprise-have red hair. I'm really quiet so I don't get the stereotypes about feisty-ness, but it seems to me a lot of jerks at my age loooove to focus on the "lack of soul" stuff. Devil-haired girl and carrot top, not to mention just "red" come up a lot but I love the color of my hair :) what sucks though is that because I have pretty light red hair, I have like super light eyebrows that no one can see. oh well, just something I have to live with.


CopperTop41 4 years ago

Yep - true Ginger here and I've loved every minute of it. In fact, the majority of my friends are GINGERS! There's nothing better than seeing a group of Gingers walk into a place, talk about attitude! I have always walked around feeling good about the fact I was 100% different than others (Thank you Dad, luv Rusty). While others were dying their hair, I was sitting back saying "that has to suck!". As an adult 41 year old woman, I have a CarrotTop 5 year old, darker than I, and she walks around as if her poop don't stink - I luv it because she should. Bring it on - we'll take ya down =) Brunettes and blondes got nothing on a true Ginger. (Sorry, I love all my friends, no matter what color hair)


Arava 4 years ago

To those who are not happy being redheaded;

I'm 47. I have had orangy-red hair for the past 27 years. (meaning i've been spending money each 3 months for those past 27 years to have my hair that color...)

Wouldn't change it for the world! That hair color to me is warm, earthy, inviting, sunny, glowy, deep and special. It's like a sunrise or a sunset permanently glowing around you. Furthermore, it blends beautifully with all skin colors, and styles.

Now why on earth should someone who has this hair color naturally, would want to change hair color, in order to "blend in" (meaning: to be bland, ordinary, like so called "everybody else") or "just not to be teased" is beyond me...

For all I've learned in time: is that the ones who teases you the most because of your hair color or whatever for that matter, are mostly the ones not worth listening to (teasing about your haircolor, ain't it a bit shallow?)...

Hope you all keep on wearing that flamboyant hair proudly!:-)


Howard G40 4 years ago

Very nice article on what I honestly consider to be incredibly beautiful looking and fascinating women. Redheads are people just like anyone else. If they are perceived as "mean spirited" or "quick tempered", well it's no small wonder when people constantly tease, taunt, or make ignorant assumptions. I am half German and half Polish in my ancestry, yet because of my German background, I will be associated with Naziism, or other types of Aryanism. Or I may get treated better by local businesses because I am "white". I actually feel embarassed and insulted after this, and discontinue business with those establishments. I actually had some Polish relatives interned at concentration camps during the war.

As far as being a redhead, it is a very beautiful trait which the Lord has richly blessed you, so continue to cultivate that part of your femininity. To hide it would be cursed, because it only exposes insecurity and lack of faith for yourself. You are a person above all else. Realize that and have faith in it. Furthermore, I actually have a very beautiful red haired girlfriend who is from Latvia. Very wonderful person indeed. Get to know the person, and accept them for that.


Wynona 4 years ago

I'm a fair skinned, freckled redhead. I am so sick of everyone saying things about how I must be Irish. I am NOT IRISH. I am actually English, Southern Italian and my grandmother was 100% Paiute Shoshone American Indian- from the Lone Pine reservation. My whole family is olive-skinned and brown hair and everyone assumes I am adopted.

People: The red head gene pops up in MANY different races, not just Irish. You can be of many different races and be a redhead.

That said, I am stereotypically feisty but I think I learned to be that way because people have said so many moronic things about my hair and skin.


nywoman 4 years ago

NRice article, why do some people complain about being redhead? It's a fine color, stop defeating yourself!


REd 4 years ago

redder does it bedder


Gingeeeeeee 4 years ago

I think I officially love all you guys. You just totally cheered my day up. Im a 5ft red head with cropped hair. And nobody else ever seems to get that identifying somebody purely by their hair colour is irritating! At school my maths teacher insisted I must die my hair because I have black eyebrows, it was not until I wacked out a toddler from Facebook that he actually believed its natural! Its so frustating, im seriously fed up of having to tell people my hair colour is natural. Never had the hair being felt up thing before though? Thats kinda interesting, but maybe its because mine is short - and im in England. So thank you guys - GINGERS FOREVER UNITE ;)


Abi 4 years ago

I'm a red-head that is sixteen years old and in high school. When i was little, i used to get picked on A lot. so much so that i would shun away from strangers, and sometimes even my family. but as i got older i realized, hey! I'm DIFFERENT! the sooner i accept that fact, the better off i will be. And yes, i do have a fiery attitude. I'm usually very happy-go-lucky, until you piss me off. (which is usually hard to do.) But once you piss me off, you might as well say your prayers, because this is one red-head you don't wanna mess with. I'm also very tall and pale. I'm six foot, and am whiter than the albino at my school. I don't have that many freckles, because i hate them and don't want them, so i stay inside a lot...


jack 4 years ago

it's different when your a guy it sucks (carrot top)


ME 4 years ago

If your a red headed woman you have nothing to complain about. Society has deemed you sexy. While the men have not!!! And you red head women know it. How many of red head women have dated a red head man? I'm sure if your honest, not many would answer yes.


markus 4 years ago

Ginger guy here, although the orange hair of my youth has faded and the sun makes it blonde. People have commented on my fiery personality and I am quite sexual which my partners have appreciated . I guess I am good looking enough that I didn't suffer so much, but I did hate the "red" comments. It sounded ignorant. Would like to have sparks fly with another ginger some day...


Deb 4 years ago

It's true that as a child there was a lot of teasing, but mostly it was harmless and I just ignored it. I heard the typical, "carrot top" comments. I knew that kids always pick on the different ones and just thought those were the insensitive and bullying-type of kids. I never gave them any attention at all. I always thought it was ridiculous when people asked, "Where did you get that red hair?" because both of my parents have dark brown hair. I decided to answer, "God!", even though I knew it passed on to me from my two red-headed grandmothers. In high school my nick name was "Road Island red," after the Warner Brother's cartoon character that was a chicken! Now I'm a slender, 5'10" tall woman and my co-workers call me "big red" affectionately! I am very sweet and am not tempermental or fiery at all. I actually love to just make others happy and be fun and kind. I get a lot of attention from men, often non-white men, probably because most white men are intimidated by tall women! The black men and Latino men love red hair! When I travelled to Spain and Italy, I was literally chased down the street by some Italians and at the McDonald's in Lake Como, I kept hearing a sea of people saying, "Peliroja!" (red-head!) and smiling at me! It made me feel special. I hardly had any dates in high school, but once I got to college and my early adult years, I felt so proud of my hair and felt lucky to be unique in that way! I constantly get compliments on it and the usual, "is that your natural hair color?" That question always bothers me because you can always tell the natural ones. Now I am married and have a son. My husband loves red heads and always points them out in public. My son has beautiful golden blonde hair, but both of his best friends are red-heads, which I think is very cute! I have to admit it's probably tougher for boys to have red hair and I was glad that my son didn't have to worry about that. Oh, and I did date a red-headed guy in college. He was so cute and fun, but it felt weird, like he was my brother, and I was very uncomfortable with all the stares we got when walking around holding hands! I married a tall, dark and handsome, sweet and smart man! I hope all the younger red-heads in these posts will ignore the teasing and just stand tall and proud. Having red hair is a part of you and makes you the unique person that you are. The mean kids at school only pick on others because they themselves are sad. They think by putting others down, they'll feel better, but they don't. They don't deserve any of your worry or attention. Keep your chin up and just wait until you're an adult and you have so many admirors! You'll see! It gets much better!


luke 4 years ago

i am 12 i have put up with all this crap as well, all you people have helped me out so much ,thank you


Carrot Top OBW 4 years ago

Oh yeah, I've been called that (affectionately) all of my life. Yes at 47 I am still a red headed woman, top to bottom. Don't ask me why, but I've tried to dye my hair many times over the years. I don't know why, but my hair won't dye any other colors. If the dye takes, it only lasts for maybe 2 weeks. "I" am the original redheaded step child. I've had 2 step fathers and 1 step mother. Regardless, I am just fine with my hair color. Oh, and it is very hard to sedate and kill pain in this carrot top. Id like to thank Howard G40 and tell CopperTop41 that you got it down girl!!!! I'm who I am. If you don't like it, than look the other way:-))))


gingerfan 4 years ago

I think red hair is very pretty. I don't understand why blondes are so celebrated. Red is much more lovely and unique.


Tex 4 years ago

What is it about redheaded girls that just makes them so fascinating to be around? I just have a thing for redheads.


Jacqui 4 years ago

I just found this and I love it. I love being a redhead. My great-grandmother was and I am the only one lucky enough to be a redhead. It makes me the automatic favorite. I've haven't been treated badly because of it. I adore my red hair and I always tell kids that have red hair how much I love their red hair. We need to start teaching them young to embrace it rather than to hate it!


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Newyork204 4 years ago from Anchorage, AK

Nice Hub I would agree with you. You all are definitely unique though a bit crazy at times but that is what being on the endangered species list will do to ya' lol


qwertzuiop2 4 years ago

I think girls with red hair can be pretty, it is a feminine color. For a guy like myself my red orange- red hair has ruined me life for the past 30 years and it probably will for the rest of my life. I am so ashamed of it and all that comes with it, the skin, the complexion, everything. I cant live a normal life with this shit. Everyday I pray to god that I may stop living soon.


mmp333 4 years ago

I'm in my early 20s and I'm natural red head...when I was little like real young I wished my hair was blonde bc my sisters a yr younger than me and has looked like barbie her whole life/california dream girl. BUT the older I got I literally love it I get so much attention I love rocking it; I literally don't understand a lot of the previous posts---any girl who has not been workin game should get out there bc boys live for gingers, they LOVE our shit, its awesome, also I get away with tons of ridiculously random shit just saying "well i'm a ginger" and yes 4rgn boys love our shit hard! everyone knows were better and its hilarious. even my friends that are girls love rollin w a ginger haha~ as far as the ginger boy girl action, I never thought i wanted to hook up with a ging until a yr ago I realized its pretty much the only type of guy I haven't pursued and then I moved to spain so I had no access to a ging LOL. but when i was back in san franciso a month ago I met a ginger french boy at a bar and didn't think he had red hair and then he was fuming I didn't think his hair was red(super funny) I was super drunk but ended up hooking up and I loved it, it was hilarious, literally I have no idea why people would care about that, like all through my life peoplel have been stupid and say i should marry a ging to keep the hair color alive~~~~and boys i seriouisly know so many girls that are super hot that are so hot for gingers/half-black half ging, esp 4rgn girl bc they know your better-----gotta love it people I know I do, my hair is my best quality not even a question!!!!


Karah 4 years ago

I'm a redhead and only 4"11 and i always get made fun of for either my hair color or my height.


boothy 4 years ago

I'm a redheaded bloke and I don't seem to feel pain as much as my un redheaded friends which kinda contradicts the sensitivity theory also I seem to be accepted by women but other men seem to try put me down for some reason.


Seyed 4 years ago

I am a guy with dark hair and I absolutely adore redhead girls. They have a mesmerizingly beautiful face. I sometimes get caught by redhead girls while looking at them and appreciating their simple and natural beauty.

I wish I can get a redhead wife so i can adore and love her for the rest of my life!


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Redhair 4 EVA 4 years ago

I love my red hair!!!!


Zoe 4 years ago

I am 12 and am a redhead, and my face is entirely covered in freckles. The kids at my school often call me names but I never have a comeback. Most of the time they say I have no soul.


Rita 4 years ago

I am a born red head...I remember my mom telling me that my great grand-mother who was 4th generation to me & was a red head told her when my mother was pregnant with me that I would have red hair. My mother told me that she used to have nightmare about it, I was told that she would keep a bonnet on my head to hide my hair. I remember being told by a lady that as a baby I was so ugly because of my red hair & all the freckles on my face...I used to wonder if I was adopted or maybe my father was another man, being the only one at the time in my family until years later when my niece was born with red hair & went through the same hell I did. I was laughed at by kids & even teachers who would call me carrot top... I remember being of French speaking being yelled at by the English kids in my neighbourhood "Red head pi the bed 5 cents a cabadge head" People referred to me as "Red" My uncle used to asked me if I had slept under a rusted screen, because my face was full of freckles, he had told me to rub my face with lemon & they would go away. I would do it until my face would burn with no result of course...But as I grew holder I was so proud of my red hair, to be a true red head you have to have lived through the teasing & kids laughing at you...No bottle on the shelf can make you a real & true red head unless you have suffered the pain of growing up with it. Yes I am sensitive to the sun, to pain, but I do not have a hot temper....& no, my bush is not on fire, as I was asked by so many men...So many insults, injures, but you know what... I would not trade it for the world. Thank God I am a red head....


wanda 4 years ago

I have had five children, and i have a little girl who has red hair, and i have to say out of all five she is the younger one and we all know she is the boss of us all. we all love her so much but she hits bites and kicks lol (not funny really) i work with children as well and i have to say red heads no what they want!!!!! but red head i feel do very well at school. i love my little girl so much but she is a handful


stevie boy 4 years ago

I am a 35 year old guy in the UK and have natural red hair. Teased my whole life. Every decision I have made has been influenced in one way or another by my redhair. People automatically disrespect guys with red hair. Respect has to be earned by licking up to people. People just seem me as a joke. I am very moody, don't like meeting new people, don't like mixing with strangers whatsoever, make excuses when friends and family ask me to go out, as I know I will have some confrontation or fight about my hair colour. Ring any bells fellow red headed males?? I believe I am very boring to other people and struggle to talk comfortably at work to colleagues. I have no confidence whatsoever. I have never dyed my hair, as I don't hate it. I hate the fact that 99% of general public hate it and they just cant wait to redicule you in front of their friends....or yours. I believe guys with red hair gets more abuse than other ethnic minorities, as we have nobody defending us. The whole world redicules us like we are diseased. On a last note, the only reason I have never had kids and don't wont any is because I don't want a child of mine growing up in this world with redhair. Its nasty and cruel as a child/adult to have redhair. Anyone that doesn't have redhair will never understand anything I have said!!!!!!.....unless they have kids with redhair. An old lady told me once that the people that have ginger kids are the people that used to torment the ginger kids at school. The only positive thing I have experienced by having redhair is the fact that the girlfriends I have had have all been really good looking and have only dated me because I had redhair.


tky 4 years ago

I am a natural red head with brown eyes, although I have no freckles and I can tan very well. I love being a red head, everyone loves my hair and thinks its amazing that I can tan!


clare mc 4 years ago

never enjoyed being a redhead when I was younger, I dyed my hair dark until I was 26 and now that it is finally natural again, I can honestly say I've never had so much "luck" in my life haha it's true what they say about redheads... xxx


Andrew 4 years ago

I am 17 and have red hair. It's pretty tough growing up in this generation because of the whole "ginger" thing rooting from southpark. I get it in high school and from my little sister's friends in middle school. One of the redheaded girls that has been in my homeroom since 6th grade dyed her hair blonde last year and she has avoided the negativity, but I still live with it. I mainly power through the hate because I won't have red hair for long. My dad had the same auburn hair in high school but now his hair is brown with only a ghostly reminance of red like a fond memory of the past. Honestly, though, I think it's just a childish jealousy thing or something because I get hate from people younger than college but I get compliments from people older than college. High school is just a rough place... it will be over in a year.


Carrot Top OBW 4 years ago

I feel sorry for you qwertzuiop2


Tex 4 years ago

Seyed, you hit the nail on the head. My hair is blonde, I'm in high school, and no matter what I always find myself in awe at the beauty of the girls who have red hair at my school. They all have the most beautiful faces and their hair color is a perfect complement.


a ginger 4 years ago

tormenting a ginger person is socially acceptable. Most comedians use us as bate for their laughter. There is no such think as gingerist!! If I am black and get ridiculed, people see it differently......why? Surely it is how it makes the person feel. A couple of people on this bloke have thought of suicide and cant wait to die etc. Why do people not get it????????? It hurts when people comment on your hair. We are all human and made of the same stuff, so why do people seem to think that a ginger person would feel any different about being tormented????????????? Why does the word prejudice stop at with people with ginger hair??? I have looked on other blogs before. The only people that ever comment are the people that don't have ginger hair. PEOPLE THAT DON'T HAVE GINGER HAIR, JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


J. 4 years ago

I am 33 years old ginger guy. I have taken abuse for being a ginger my whole life from other students, teachers, colleagues, doctors, strangers, relatives. I feel like the whole world hates me for who I am and I cant do anything about it, so I live by myself with my cat. I have no friends and almost no outside life. I make a little money on the internet just about enough to pay the rent. I really cant work outside no more. I just cant take it anymore. I have made a promise to myself, the day my cat goes, I will also go.


Proud2bRed 4 years ago

I am a 12 yr old redhead, and I am Irish. I'm 5ft and I weigh 95lbs. People at school are really annoying, mostly because there are maybe 15 redheads in 3000 people, and they need someone to annoy. The worst are the 3rd years, (I live in Ireland, so i'm not sure what that is in the American Education system, but they are 13 to 14 yrs old) they are older, so whenever you walk past they will stare, and then whisper to their friends ginger alert and stuff. Some of the boys in my year are really insensitive, saying ginger nut get back in the biscuit tin and things. But i wouldn't trade my hair even if I could. I just try not to listen to them. I know you adults will think its silly, but its irritating when people try to set you up with other redheads. Its funny to see the lookson their faces when you beat them ingrades or have a really good comeback. my school is quite strict, and bullying is taken seriously, so if you get them a detention they normally will stay away for a while. Oh and one last thing, all of you stupid people who have posted offending comments, just be aware that you are insulting a wide community of people who have posted, and we are not amused. You really need to grow up and stop acting like babies. you are all old enough to know that people have feelings and im sure you wouldn't like it if the situation was reversed.


Kimberly A. from Topeka, KS 4 years ago

I was teased my whole life growing up. Some times pretty rudely. But, as an adult woman, I would NEVER change my hair color. When a redhead walks in the room, everyone looks, men & women. As I am in my mid-fifties, I have to dye my hair red, now, Someone suggested I should go blonde. NO WAY! I am a redhead FOREVER!


deinie 4 years ago

Am a 15 year old girl, 10th grade in high school. I have auburn brownish red hair. The only one in my family that is different , my dad has black hair he is Caucasian &&' my mom is navajo with brown hair. I am so ashamed of my red hair i always wondered if i am adopted ? Or have a different dad i don't know about , i have never seen an actual baby picture of me or even my birth certificate so i am convinced.. For five years I have been dying my hair brown just to get away from all of the horrid teasing that comes along with being a red head , such things as ginger , fire crotch, does the curtains match the drapes , oh look its Lindsey lohan! I am too chicken to ever let my hair grow back, it is as if people see red headed people like we have some sort of disease &&' people just HAVE to make a stupid profound remark about us . I have often thought of suicide even got into being a part of a gang , got much respect from it but since my friend had got shot nothing was the same , i decided to get out &&' restart my life all over again because all the drugs Like meth &&' partying &&' good for nothing so called "homies" didn't do me any good , and in the family i was known as the fuck up . Running away from home &&' such things wasn't showing my family i was doing anything better? so i made a change for the rest of my life. I just wish i could just move somewhere far away where no one would ever known a thing about me &&' live free , and actually being able to grow my hair out to its natural color ... This all might sound very pathetic , but if you have been in my shoes you'd understand . i just can't see my future out of high school. Just had to get all this off my chest , &&' i thought i was the only one going through all of this torment . When i am older i probably will enjoy having red hair , but even now when i see someone with red hair i think of them as gross people which is sad because i too am one . But if only south park never introduced the word "ginger" to the world&&' having no souls . Just completely embarrassing . Well thats it , came to share my story &&' go along with my day .


Krystal 4 years ago

I have waist length medium auburn hair. Almost every time I am out in public, at least one person and often more tell me my hair is beautiful. It doesn't matter if I wear it curled, straight, pulled back or in a pony tail, so I've come to realize it's not what I've done with it. It's the color. Men, women, and children of all ages comment on my hair. Over time a lot of people have reached out and stroked my hair. (Like they are petting a dog or cat.)

Recently at separate times, two different people I had not seen in 15 and 17 years reconized me from behind by my hair.

A lot of men feel the need to tell me that they love redheads. (I'd rather hear they love blue eyes, at least then I'd know they had at some point looked me in the eyes.)

I live under the reputation that so many have given redheads which can be either good or bad. I've found that a lot of men really try to get me fired up to get "the redhead firey response." I really don't appreciate that.

I realize that I am very fortunate that I have never been made fun of because of my red hair, only complimented.

Still...The color of my hair does not indicate who I am.


natie 4 years ago

redheads are one of the most beautiful beings iv seen...but the world has different views on it..readheads are a love*hate topic to be honest..either way readheads rock:),i may not be one but hey what can i say..beauty's in the eye of the beholder


gjkjhkjh 4 years ago

Why don't you work at mcdonalds


Justin 4 years ago

I am 19 years old and have red hair also.. My whole life i've been teased about my hair color (especially in grade school) now that i've graduated and grown to over 6'6 the only nick name I have now is BigRed. However, I feel sorry for some of the redheads now because of the whole "ginger" episode from southpark because it gives other kids something to make fun of them about when actually it's them who should be getting made fun of! I've come to realize that I should be thankful for my hair and feel greatful that I was lucky enough to be born with it.. mine's more of a brownish-red but you can tell it's red! I'll always defend a fellow redhead.. since i'm so big no one ever picks on me anymore but I will definitely stand up for someone who is getting picked on! It's sad to read all these stories about all the abuse people have been taking for all of these years just because the color of their hair! it really upsets me because they are no better than we are and they should be jealous! SO FELLOW REDHEADS!! GO live your life and be thankful for your hair color!


Evelyn 4 years ago

Hey Hey, I'm a redhead too. Been one for 50+ years. Because my hair was very curly, coarse, and hard to keep combed, my mother insisted that I keep it short. So I wore it in a pixy ‘til I was about 18, then bounced from medium, to short, to medium, for a few more years. I have been wearing it long for about 25 years now, past my shoulder blades. My eyes range from deep sapphire to crystal blue to stormy gray and I have pinkish, transpar-ent skin with very few small freckles, unless I’m in the sun, even those fade in a day or two. While growing up I was told I couldn’t wear reds and pinks, so I didn't try until I was in my late teens. I do wear pink and red but very careful to choose the cool shades of them (No orange, salmon, or warm reds and pinks) Cools are on the blue side, and warms are on the yellow side. I look hideous in salmon and other orangey pinks. Flesh tones and beiges wash me out. I absolutely love orange I just can’t wear it. I have to be careful with browns, and I like warm greens best.

To dispel the remarks of silly people, just remember- the tops of carrots are green, and if you've ever actually seen ginger, it is yellow. But ginger is easier to say than cinnamon. Just take a look in the spice section of your grocery store, or cut into a fresh ginger root. If your hair is that color, it isn’t red, it’s blond. Personally, my hair shone in the sun, like a brand new copper penny. I don’t mind being called copper-top; even if it is a battery.

Yes people are hurtful, just remember those people must be in pain too. I went through hell in a tiny country school in the middle of the United States, and truly the only redhead. I cried a lot. One remark sticks in my mind. One of the girls ask my, quite seriously, why I didn’t dye my hair. I finally realized that people might have been jealous of my hair color. But I grew up to be a lot more humble and empathetic than I would have been otherwise. I won’t belittle anyone, but I will say what I mean, sometimes more honest than is necessary, but I never felt the need to purposely hurt a persons feelings. Nor would I take advantage of anyone, man or woman (though in hind-site I realize how easy it would have been).

I was quite beautiful as a young adult, and still turn a few heads. I walk with grace, as my granny and my grand-mother were into teaching me how to command respect. I usually get it.

I don’t usually wear a lot of makeup except on my eyes. My eyebrows are the most difficult I have to mix a to-paz (a luminous yellow) shade of mascara with sable brown to get the reddish color that looks the most natural. I really hate the flat browns the makeup industry offers. I use the mascara applicator almost dry to color every eyebrow hair without over doing it. I made that color long ago when Avon was selling the jewel colors of mas-cara, I bought several tubes, I’m out of it now and as I suspected it’s not an easy color to find. Though I haven’t tried very hard since I started going without makeup, most of the time, about 10 years ago.

One final funny, reading this blog reminded me, about when I fooled a boyfriend of mine, years ago, by putting on a black wig. I made up my eyes with very black mascara, eyebrows too. I used very light shadows and makeup so I would look like I wasn’t wearing any, (as if I was actually black headed). It was the funniest thing I ever saw, the look on his face was pure amazement, as well as pure gold. He really didn’t recognize me at all. Talk about being identified by your hair color. If that doesn’t prove it, nothing will.


Krystal 4 years ago

If you are a redhead and want to get your eyebrows more pronounced, you can dye them either with mustach dye or use a permanent root touch up. Then you don't have to put makeup on them. Just touch up as needed.


Makayla 4 years ago

I wasn't a huge fan of the article. We are a product of our genes and environment but isn't everyone? Red heads are not 'special' because they are less then 4% of humans any more than brown or black heads are 'special' for being the majority.

Children are the meanest of mean, and they will pick on anyone for height, hair (color and texture), weight(large and small), athletic ability (and lack thereof), names, parents, and all sorts of other information they can get their hands on; unfortunately this sometimes follows into adulthood. Every 'type' of person has positives and negatives about who they are those seem to transcend into the world... but it's no reason to play 'woe is me'.

I am a red head, and yes I am strong willed, a little wild, and all sorts of other things that fit the stereotype for 'redheads', but I am a product of both my genes and the world I grew up in. I am able to accept what I am and what I am not. Stereotypes are created because they are a common observance and humans happen to 'GENERALLY' follow them. There are always exceptions, and for some reason people feel threatened by those stereotypes. I have never met a person in the world who didn't follow and cast at least one stereotype and I doubt I will. Be proud of who you are, redheaded or not, for you are an individual in the community of the human race.


Redhead 4 years ago

I agree with some of the things you say but in my own experience of being a red head I have realized that if you embrace who you are on the inside and on the outside people can't help but except you too. And yes kids can be cruel but the only reason they pick on your weaknesses is because you show them that you're not confident in your own skin. Trust me I am 14 years old and i have overcome many of these issues. So all i can say is whether you fit the stereotypes or not just own who you are and you'll get the respect you deserve.


Lighthouse 4 years ago

As a bright redheaded boy I had to take lots of nasty remarks which took a toll on me.

Then starting from the age of 11 or so I noticed there were actually girls who have a weakness for redheads. These were without exception the nicest and prettiest girls around. Really gfs you could be proud of. From then on I couldn't care less about people calling me names.

Be proud and confident my fellow gingers! You're effing special! :-)


Pennsyltuckyred 4 years ago

I'm a redhead. well more of a copper. my eyes are the same color. I've never met someone with my color eyes. im now 24 years old, and haven't been made fun of for my freckles or hair color. my friends joke around and everything saying ginger, and soulless. I'm the only child out of 8 that has red hair. growing up it was like a scene from a movie old ladies just wanted to pinch my cheeks, and play with my hair. it was kind of creepy. and just a case you're wondering yes the curtains match the drapes!


msmokov 4 years ago

I have bright red hair, male, 23 yr old. All you guys that are complaining, man up and take advantage of your uniqueness. It's not that girls don't like you for that reason, its because people give you shit, ruining your self confidence. Be yourself, be loud...doesn't matter, we're all badasses...I've always been popular...let no bring you down!


Anna 4 years ago

I have natural light red hair, my sister has natural fire red hair, my dad has light red hair like me, and my mom has brown hair. People pick on me for my red hair, my Facebook is more like a page to comment on my photos and ugly hair. But I'm not ashamed, I live it.y


Dany 4 years ago

I'm 18. I'm a dyed redhead with pale skin emerald-green eyes, and I don't have freckles (I want freckles...).

I would love to have natural copper hair, but nature didn't blessed me with that. Well, my hair is a natural dark ash blonde, and I hate it because it looks like gray. I used to feel like I'm completely dull and extinguished. But well, as soon as I dyed my hair of a medium copper blonde, I knew I had found my colour. In fact, I feel like I'm more like a natural redhead (even when it comes from a bottle) than a boring ash-blond (I'm not judging blondes, but I really hate that gray colour in me). I have red hair since 3 years ago and I would never change it. Even my friends tell me that I look great with "ginger" hair, and the people I met asks me if my hair has this colour natural (I think I have a really good dye, I don't know XD)

So, natural redheads, you're blessed with that colour. Please, If you can, embrace it, because it's incredibly special and beautiful. And you have it for free!


BriTCU 4 years ago

I absolutely love being a redhead. It is rare and certainly gets me noticed. Most guys seem to have some sort of fetish with my hair, which can be somewhat annoying at times. Neither of my daughters have red hair and I so wanted them too, but of course they're gorgeous in their own way. They live my hair too though and comment on it often. The only time I've really been hurt by a red head comment came from a biology professor who said the I was a "freak of nature" bc of my hair and bc I'm left-handed. Not rare, but freak of nature. Seriously?


Michael 4 years ago

If you are actually a REDHEAD,you were teased constantaly when younger. Denie it your a liar or a fake. But they never Talk about how BADASS REDHEADS are. Take a carefull look at the founding fathers of this country. REDHEADED, IRISH,done with being picked on established our counrty. F the bullies,make a stand. Jealous assholes that at a reunion are afraid to talk to me. why? I am no longer 101 pounds of . So to you younger REDHEADS don't worry.


robyn 4 years ago

my son is a red head he is 14yrs old a has shit and crap at school all his life :( but there a a lot of school friends of his now that see past the colour and see him .he used to make jokes about it before anyone else could but guess what he went to barbars today and had highlights put in :( but still it looks good but i just wanted to say how shallow some people can be is shamefull but that is just there insecurities coming through when they take the mick .


ADL101 4 years ago

Im 11 years old , and i am interested in dying my hair a a little lighter than auburn . But I know my dad would NEVER let me until I move out . I know a lot of people with red hair might get teased , But who cares what the people teasing them think . We are people , and we are all mostly tought to be ourselves .Just be yourslef .

P.S please sent a comment on here telling tips to get your parents to convince them into letting you dye your hair at a young age , like 11 .


Jasmine 4 years ago

Hello! Since everyone's telling about what they look like first, I'll do that too! I have medium auburn reddy hair that is very bipolar sometimes it's curly, wavy or even a little straight sometimes. I don't get made fun of


Mersediez 4 years ago

I am 15 and I am a redhead. I have never really received any grief about being a redhead if anything people have been anoyingly worshipy about my hair. My friends and I joke about how completely opposite I am to the stereotypes. My mom is a red head though and she was teased a lot for being a redhead and we've always wonderd whu people have had such a change in heart about red heads. But reading some of these comments I'm wondering if it just has to do with where we grew up, my mom california me hawaii. I've noticed that in hawaii there's so many cultures and ethniceties that there's not much room for stereotypes. Though I have only seen 2 or three other redheads on the island.


Bill g 4 years ago

Having red hair sucks. I'm a typical micky Finn Irish redhead. I've been bullied my whole life about the hair and when southpark made the ginger kids episode it got even worse. I wish there was a permanent solution to getting rid of this curse.


natalie 4 years ago

I've had red hair my whole life and only a few people have teased me. I honestly think it's because they are scared of me, which the should be because my friends always tell me I look like I'm always going to kill someone.

Old Ladies used to come up to me all the time and tell me they loved my hair. They still do occasionally.

I don't really see my hair as being different anymore. It's just there.


Ryan 4 years ago

I'm not a redhead, but I do think that redhair and natural freckles on a girl are a turn on. Your hair is beautiful, and so are you.


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Carolyn 4 years ago

I am a 46 year old 6 ft tall redhead with an athletic build. I also have a clear green eyes.....growing up was a nightmare, people are so afraid of what is different that they use that excuse for bullying. I am now laughing as I have always had a steady stream of admirers and women who would "die to have my colour hair" I turn heads as I walk into a room, and with my bubbly personality people don't forget me after first meetings......I am more likely to forget them! Irrespective of being bullied as a little girl, I am now a confident, attractive woman and I still have admirers. My daughter is a redhead and hasn't been bullied at all only admired by her contemporaries she is even more confident, but there is no getting away from the fact that we are different and that is great because many people long to stand out in the crowd and pierce and tattoo their bodies and dye their hair shades of red for the attention. So to all you redheads out there be confiident, wear your Titian crowning glory with pride and enjoy the attention.....soon we get old and invisible, so enjoy being visible, beautiful and HOT!


31m 4 years ago

I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I makes me look so ugly. I have tried a dark-haired wig the other day and I looked so normal and good. With this cursed hair color I never had a chance in life. I hate it every single day. When I look into the mirror I am disgusted by myself. I can't dye it, nor shave it off, dying is for women and does not look natural and I'm too pale to be bold on the head. ....I know there is a drug on the market that is not licensed but it can change your hair color (MT2), but can also have serious permanent side effects. I have been thinking about doing it for almost a year now. If it kills me... screw it, this is no life worth living anyway.


tom h 4 years ago

I'm 26 born bright red hair used to hate it but I've learned to live with it.... I remember as a child older women in grocery store come up and say my u have some pretty red hair and ask where did u get it.... its kinda obvious where I gott it lol, most people are in awe cause its curly... I have two chiildren and neither one has redhair... redhead power!!!


Jill 3 years ago

I've always adored and relished the fact that I am a redhead. I have received attention from strangers my entire life, a very difficult thing for a shy child. I am quiet, reserved - not at all loud or wild. Women are jealous of my hair color. Gay men are in love with it. I am proud to be a redhead, and I would choose to be nothing else. Thought I am not Irish, everyone thinks I am - I am Danish, however. One thing I do hate as of late is the perjorative use of the word "ginger." I don't think it's fair or right or just or nice to use the term negatively, as an insult. Thanks, South Park. All in all, being a redhead is special. No one should hate his or her red hair. It's a gift. (Mine is curly, too!)


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Ema 3 years ago

I've been dying my hair red with henna for 4 years now, and I absolutely love being a redhead! It's the most amazing hair color :)


Phenix_official 3 years ago

I'm probably one of the few redheads in the middle east, people usually think redheads are ugly but I'm a fitness model in Australia- lol


Christina 3 years ago

The redhead experience sounds allot like mine,

except I am a black girl with big curly afro hair.


Stacy 3 years ago

Why when people list celebrity redheads do they include bottle reds? Reds by a bottle simply can't compare to us naturals whether they're a celebrity or not. If you haven't gone through bullying, teasing and dealing with men's weird fascination with the color of your pubic hair, you don't deserve to be called a redhead or ginger. Period.


Patrick 3 years ago

Wonderful posts. At 62, my hair is no longer red, but white…but I don't miss it. Pretty awful growing up and even into adulthood being mocked and ridiculed for red hair and freckles. Perhaps things will change for the newest generation.


Jess 2 years ago

i've never been teased about my hair before, i've only gotten compliments. my hair is slightly darker than nicole kidmans, long, and wavy. i'm also the opposite of the stereotypes(i'm very quiet and shy). the only problem is that either other girls adore my hair or want nothing to do with me. i get pretty nasty looks. i'm kinda worried i'll never get a boyfriend either.


Red 2 years ago

I am a 71+ year old male and am now light reddish blond but I had very red hair until my late 40's. I was teased constantly when I first started school. The first day of the first grade I hit a kid with a 2X4 for teasing me. It took until about the 3rd grade to realize that I couldn't whip every kid in school but it wasn't for lack of trying. All through the rest of grade school and high school I was a 'loner' with very few friends. I was a lot like Charlie Brown and even had a crush on a little redheaded girl but never the courage to ask her out. I was teased and bullied constantly. Even one of my high school teacher teased me. I know EVERY derogatory name for a redhead.

It wasn't until I was out of school and started working for the railroad that I finally came to terms with having red hair. Everyone at the railroad had a nick name and I was soon labeled 'Red'. For the next 40 years at the railroad I was 'Red'. There were a couple of other redheads but I was the only 'Red' and I was and am fine with it. Red is part of my business name. At the railroad you were identified on the roster or 'call sheets' by your first two initials and last name. My initials are R W. People that I worked with for many years would ask what the R stood for and I would tell them " Red of course."

I did learn that I really needed to develop a good sense of humor. Laughing at a tease took the fun out of teasing and made them look foolish in front of others.

People say that redheads have a bad temper but wouldn't anyone if they are teased constantly?

All in all, be proud of your red hair!! It is a gift not a curse and we are being breed out of the population.


Merck Manual 2 years ago

Any attractive woman will not give a red-haired guy a second look. Simple words to live by: dye your hair and eyebrows dark brown, and stop trying to figure out why girls hate red hair on a man.


2 years ago

You got that right Merck!


Red26 2 years ago

I am 18 years old, and have been wanting to dye my, but the only problem is I am only one in the family with red auburn so my family don't want me to dye even I can always grow it out again to get its natural color back, everyone else including my sisters have died their hair or added highlights, so I want to as well, I still want to keep the red look, but maybe go strawberry blonde or something like, my hair was a strawberry blonde when I was younger but has gotten darker over the years so I want to lighten it up but I have to somehow convince my family to let and since I am 18 I should be able to do what I want. Any ideas on how I can convince my family to allow me, I am a European (meaning I am only one in my lectures to have red hair) I am not Scottish or Ireland like most people think I am. They can never seem to guess my home country right at first I found it annoying and now when they ask me where I from because they look at my hair and immediately think I'm from some were else, I tell them to guess, through most people think I also have different accent and that I do not have a kiwi one which probably doesn't help the cause either.


Lara Schmidt 2 years ago

I'm a 46 year old female and have had red hair my entire life. My feelings about my hair color are mixed. One one hand, I have had many people admire my hair. It makes me unique, and it makes me stand out.

On the other, it's not always good to stand out. I was taunted and teased as a child, and all throughout my school years, the popular kids avoided me like a plague. My mother made my situation worse, as she constantly told me that as a redhead, I would never be considered as beautiful as blondes or brunettes. Neither of my parents has red hair, but my father's father did, so I obviously got my hair color from him.

In high school, I was one of the most unpopular kids in my class, and to top it all off, I was left out of everyone's senior-week plans. No one wanted to spend a week at the Jersey shore with the ugly red-haired girl.

The abuse has abated in my adult years, but it continues to linger, only now in more subtle ways. Though I am now happily married to a man who adores my hair, I have lived through the hurtful experience of having men turn me down for dates because of my hair color, because God forbid they should get serious with me and have a red-haired child. I once worked in an office where my supervisor favored my co-workers who were blonde like she was. This horrible, bigoted woman constantly harassed me for my hair color, so much so that I was forced to quit a job I really liked because I couldn't take the abuse any longer.

In public, many people are gratuitously rude to me, even though I am always courteous to others. I am convinced it has to do with my red hair. Many people assume that my hair means I'm 100% Irish, when my genetic ancestry is actually a mix of Irish, Slovak, and German. (My red-haired grandfather was actually of German descent.) And I get compared to every red-haired celebrity, even though I don't look a thing like Molly Ringwald, Tory Amos, or Amy Adams.

I have given up shopping in trendy clothing stores because the staff either ignores me or is flat-out rude to me. But I have learned by this point in my life not to take the abuse and will call people on it. For example, if I am treated shabbily in a store, I will nonchalantly say, "I know, you'd rather not wait on the lady with the ugly red hair. I get it," and then just walk out.

If I have anything to be thankful for, it's the fact that my former coppery hair color has now darkened to auburn. In some pictures, I look more brunette than red. That, for me, has been one of the compensations of growing older.


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greeneyedblondie 2 years ago

I know someone with naturally red hair and she wants to dye it brown. I don't blame her, especially with all the comments on here.


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Cindy Walrath 2 years ago

My children, Myself, and my brother are redheads. We have no problem with our hair color. We are unique in our own way, and carry ourselves with respect, and respect others. I was also picked on as a child (We all were, and still are today). Scientists have found that ginger hair and a pale skin offer an important advantage in the survival game. Redheads, boast a secret genetic weapon which enables them to fight off certain debilitating and potentially deadly illnesses more efficiently than blondes or brunettes. This is why we are always told "Redheads have a gift". As for relationships when it comes to redheads. We don't carry ourselves as a easy piece of booty anyways, so who cares if most people wouldn't give us a chance. "Good Lord" I have heard it all now! I have never had a problem finding love out there. Redheads need to stand their ground... I DO! Guess that makes me a fiery redhead..Lol..Really? It has even went to the extreme of men asking me "if i smoke after sex"? Being picked on so much for being a redhead I automatically come back with the phrase " I don't know. I have never looked!" The expression on their faces were priceless. Some of these hurtful redhead jokes need to be laughed at instead of actually hurting people with red hair. My child is 12 yrs old, and he has came in telling me some of the old jokes the school kids are still saying today. One actually told him "He was red on the head like a dick on a dog" YES THIS PEED ME OFF! I just laughed, and told my son to stand his ground and FIRE BACK! I can give you some fire back jokes all day for redheads, but you all have probley already heard them anyways, so i am going to finish this up. Blondes may be considered more fun to you guys out there, and brunettes may be smarter, but when it comes to us redheads. We are smart and have fun also. Too bad you are missing out..LOL!


Michelle 2 years ago

Hey don't listen those idiots i personnaly don't have red hair but i think it's beautiful and espacially adorable on children :)


brunella 2 years ago

I love redhead but I hate blonde so much


CNikki993 2 years ago

I have red hair (actually auburn but it shows more of the red in sunlight) and had more compliments and that my hair color is expensive when dyed than negative feedback. I've had some, but I guess when compliments are in the majority then it doesn't bother me as much. Haters gonna hate.


Lex 2 years ago

Oh I WISH I had redhair! I am obsessed with it. I honestly would love to have red hair despite what you said (some things I actually would like people to do!)


adam 20 months ago

That's horrible. Its stupid how people judge others based on that. I've seen it. Some good friends of mine were ginger. Heck my first crush was ginger(she was hot....sorry off topic I have a thing for redheads)


Beth 16 months ago

Soooo true everything you said ! I am a redhead my self and I used to hate it but now I'm kinda being to like it ☺️ However there is one thing that bugs me , all of the boys at my school say "she's alright for a redhead" there talking about how I look and it bugs me so much that they consider redheads to be less pretty and I'm like I'm not different !!!!


Mattie 4 months ago

I am 13 and I have been bullied ! Sometimes I think there right about me but then I think that if God wanted me to be brown, blond, or even black haired child then I would have been but I am not I am a red head and I am proud to be one. Life can be unfair to red heads and we are bullied and thought of as the devils child, but when have we ever shown any sign of the devil? Never because we aren't. We are proud, strong, independent, and loyal. We live our lives to the fullest and rarely back down. We have feelings, we care, we crie, and we can be anger at times but when we are anger there is a good reason for it! I have 2 sibling and neither of them are red heads but the look on my moms face was pricles (picture) when she found out I was a red head and that made me greatful to be a red head


Mattie 4 months ago

I am 13 and I have been bullied ! Sometimes I think there right about me but then I think that if God wanted me to be brown, blond, or even black haired child then I would have been but I am not I am a red head and I am proud to be one. Life can be unfair to red heads and we are bullied and thought of as the devils child, but when have we ever shown any sign of the devil? Never because we aren't. We are proud, strong, independent, and loyal. We live our lives to the fullest and rarely back down. We have feelings, we care, we crie, and we can be anger at times but when we are anger there is a good reason for it! I have 2 sibling and neither of them are red heads but the look on my moms face was pricles (picture) when she found out I was a red head and that made me greatful to be a red head

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