How To Wear Lingerie At Work When You're Male

It is a common wish for a man who wears lingerie to want to wear lingerie to work. There are several reasons for this. For starters, you get to feel that lovely lingerie against your body throughout an otherwise mundane and boring workday. Secondly, there is the secret thrill of wearing lingerie, nobody knows you have it on, and you can be making a big presentation or talking to the boss in a camisole, bra, panties and stockings without anyone being the wiser. This can be quite a rush for many men.

However if you are going to wear lingerie to work, you need to do it smart if you don't want to get caught. Read through these useful tips and cautionary notes before making your big expedition!

Loose Pants Save Butts

Be careful to ensure that you are not wearing tight pants. You can get away with some fairly elaborate lingerie, stockings, suspenders, even a garter, as long as your pants are not too tight. Fortunately most of the time business wear tends to be fairly loose, so you should be okay.

WARNING: Ensure that the pants do not pull tight when you sit down. Pants that may seem loose when standing can become embarrassingly tight when pulled over the seat of your behind!

The Thong Trick

A thong has traditionally been used by ladies to avoid the dreaded VPL or visible panty line. You can harness the power of thongs too! Beware however, a thing may ride up and give an incredibly uncomfortable 'butt flossing' sensation, so make sure you test drive the thong you plan to wear to work all day. Then again, you might like that sort of thing.

Tone It Down

If you like to wear stockings, then skin tone stockings are your friend when it comes to the work place. Stay away from shimmery colors and loud patterns. Opaques and skin toned stockings are great for wearing around the work place.

Double, Triple, Quadruple Check

Look at yourself in the mirror. It sounds like a simple thing to do, but the simplest mistakes are often the ones that are the first to be made. Use a full length mirror to see if there are any obvious signs that you are wearing lingerie. Alternately, use a digital camera and inspect the picture on your PC.

Think About Colors

Do NOT wear a dark colored bra under a light colored shirt, or vice versa. Even if that black bra is not visible under your shirt to the naked eye, an inopportune camera flash can reveal otherwise. The same can happen in reverse, believe it or not. Try to match your underwear to your outerwear when it comes to colors, or nude tones are also a good option.

Go With A T Shirt Bra

For men who want to wear bras to work, the T Shirt bra is a godsend. T Shirt bras are molded from one piece of fabric, and do not have the telltale seams to press through clothing that other bras have. T Shirt bras are specifically designed to be discrete, so you get to have the naughty feeling of wearing a bra, without anybody knowing.

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David 9 years ago

Hope, some good tips. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror before I leave for work to be sure that my bra is not to obvious but then out in the daylight it appears to be totally evident. I was always told (by my wife to wear a black bra under a white shirt. Is she tricking me? She also perfers that i wear no pink or any thing lacy .

A good fitting bra is very difficult for a man to find, you have to explore a lot of options.

Most people at work probably know I wear a bra and I'm ok with that. I live in the VI and the weather is always warm and beautiful so I wear a lot of Polo and T shirts so it gets difficult to hide.

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Hope Alexander 9 years ago Author

Hi David... Yes, the black bra under the white shirt is probably not a great idea unless you really want to be giving your own impromptu lingerie show :) And very good point about checking yourself under natural light too!

Will (Kaleigh) 9 years ago

I have been wearing lingerie to work and shopping for a number of years, and many times i have woren bras under just a t shirt. The biggest problem I find is hiding the straps over my shoulders. My solution for this is to wear racerback sports bras or convertible bras that will become a racerback. As for panties, they have not been an issue, just make sure my t shirt stays tucked in.

steve 9 years ago

I'm a hairdresser and wear a bra every day, most days I wear a loose top. There have been several days where I 'm shampooing a lady leaning over the bowl I know my bra and straps show in the back any suggestions

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Hope Alexander 9 years ago Author

Hi Steve,

My first suggestion would be to perhaps invest in a strapless bra. This eliminates the chance that straps become visible. My other suggestion would be to try wearing darker, thicker fabrics that cling less to your body.

Another thought would be that your bra, or your shirt may be a little too tight. Tight bras stand out more than loose ones, so if you find it is cutting into you, maybe a larger bra is the solution. You mentioned you wore loose shirts, but if they are pulling tight when you bend over, perhaps you need to wear an even looser shirt?

Perhaps some of the guys will have further tips for you, I'll try a blog post and see what we can come up with :)

Bobb 9 years ago

I'm luckey enough to work weekends when I am the only person in my area, and don't have to hide it from more than maybe 3 people. BUt I still use caution.

If I wear one to work, I wear a tee-shirt with a heavy sweater over it. I find the layers help hide all straps and hooks. and make sure both shirts are not to loose around the neck.

As far as panties, I wear them to work and out all the time and have no issues. I wear jeans 99% of the time and have never cared about VPL. Most people would probably never notice, and even if they did how would they know if they were panty lines or tighty whitey lines? The only thing I care about is if the panty tag is hanging out, that happens a lot with most panties, even on my wife. I'm always tucking har tag back in for her, and I can't tell you how many women I see with the same problem when walking through a store.

Hope that helps.

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Hope Alexander 9 years ago Author

Great ideas Bobb! Thanks for adding those. I've actually never noticed having a tag problem myself, possibly because as a younger woman I wear lower cut styles a lot. The tag issue is probably more evident when you have a higher waisted panty that sits closer to the waist of your clothing.

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Hope Alexander 9 years ago Author

Will (Kaleigh), those are some great bra tips as well!

Bobb 9 years ago

I'm only 28 myself so I'm not to old LOL. I wear string bikinis for the most part and thoes are the ones that do it the most. Hipsters don't seem to do it as much, but it also depends on the brands.

I wear a 8/9 and the ones I get from Lady bug and Lane Bryant (both I think made by the same company) seem to do it more than my Joe Boxer or Vicki Secret.

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Doreen R 9 years ago

Hope, Great advice and I might add that a nude colored bra is the safest bet for non detection. Of course, those of us who are flirting with detection for the thrill are wearing colors that will show the lingerie. I love to wear a white bra under a white shirt, it is sooo detectable.


gboy 8 years ago

You feel a constant excitement, your imagination is working all the time. Like constantly figuring out what the women you see are wearing underneath. The tension keeps you on your toes, it is a surefire antidote to the sleepiness after lunch. I suggest a check shirt, possibly with double pickets, you can always keep a pen or notebook in when you go down to the canteen for instance. Or a polo short with dark horizontal panels and stripes, this conceals what you have on underneath.

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mbledsoe2624 8 years ago from Watertown, NY

Usually i don't wear a bra to work or anywhere outside of my home but i do wear my panties anywear. thank you for the tips hope

Bruce 8 years ago

If we wear panties all the time you probably have no fear about panty lines showing through your pants, light color and on the tight side. Who cares what people says or snickered at them!! I am one of those person who love to wear stockings and pantyhose as well. Lingerie feels underneath my see through pants.It even make me feel real sexy. Do I care? NO of course!! More PANTY POWER. It is a livetime adventure for me--YES!!!

Gary 8 years ago

Iwear panties and thongs everyday and when it's cooler out I wear stockings I've never wore a bra or camisole but I do like the thought of wearing one to work or out with others to see if they can detect anything.

beverlyann 8 years ago

I been wearing panties for a long time. Found i love thongs, I even wear pads on them. Been wearing a bra more and more now.It's just a great feeling.

angus 8 years ago

i wear panties out every time i can and wear just regular carpenter pants there is usually no chance of lines there may be a danger of alittle lace peeking out when i bend over, but that's part of the thrill. i occasionally wear a bra out and just wear a loose baggy tshirt over it, even if it is seen its an extreme thrill and my wife and i love to go out on the town with both of us wearing bra and panties

no name  8 years ago

well I see I am not alone in the world I have been wearing panties for as long as I can remember my wife is okay with it for the most part I used to wonder if it was normal the more research I do I am finding out it is pretty normal I wear panties everyday and sometimes around the house I will wear a bra and stockings I have never had anybody say wether or not they have noticed that I was wearing panties but I know that people have and it was kinda exciting well all I wanted to say

john 8 years ago

Please just cut those tags out of your panties with a pair of scissors. Make sure you don't cut the panties though just the tag. problem solved.

My wife lays out my clothes and the panties she wants me to wear every morning. If i`ve made her mad i usually end up getting the but flosser thong for the day. HAHA

Sam_T 8 years ago

Thank you Hope for putting this hub together. I have always loved wearing panties...and the ocassional bodystocking. Your articles are informative and thought

provoking. I feel more confident knowing that there are lots of men out there who are just like me. Like most men who panties daily, my concern is VPL. I would take it as a great kindness if you would do more features and articles on this subject. Any tips would useful. Maybe some suggestions on possible purchases.

jocal 8 years ago

I'm happy .. you also guys loves wearing bras.. i really like wearing it.

My wife is okay if i wear it just at home but to make it sure it is not obviously seen.

lingerielover 8 years ago

I had the same problems jocal. At the beginning my wife did not like my bra wearing. But after some time now it´s ok for her. We go out together while I wear my bra and lingerie. I don´t wear white shirts because I don´t want to be too obvious. During summer a tshirt bra is a good choice. So far I never had a bad experience. When I buy lingerie I don´t hide the fact that it is for me and always had nice and helpful salespeople. They know that a lot of men buy lingerie for themselves.

nylon panties 8 years ago

Bobb- Like you, I mostly wear bikini panties also. Most of mine are the kind with the double strings on the side. Vanity Faire makes them under the "illumination" brand but I get mine from Hillard & Hanson from Mervyn's dep. store because they offer them in the microfiber material. Size 7. They are very soft & state that "how can they know if they are from panties or tighty whites"? Believe me, they can. During my younger years, I would wear tight pants and of course, I would always wear panties. None of the employees (male or female) had any clue. One day, while bending over while taping a large box , I heard one of the gals tell another female employee, "look, he's wearing panties"! I pretended not to hear her but was really embarrased. I had worn these pants and panties on many occassions before with out any one commenting. I went home that night, looked in the mirror as I was bending over and there it was.....not the panty line from the legs but the seam from the back of the crotch area. On women's panties, the seam rides higher on the back and you definitely know they are women's panties as men's do not have that seam at all.

By the way Angus, good for you if a little lace sticks out the top now and then. While in the military and assisting in setting up a 20-man tent, one of the female soldiers saw a little of my yellow lace sticking out from my battle dress uniform(fatigues) as I was wearing some yellow nylon panties and when I happen to go into another tent to assist, I over heard her telling some of the others about "he is wearing panties". I wanted to die but what the hell, it happens, it happens. No one said a word about it to me.

Just Me 8 years ago

I have been wearing bras SO long that I actually feel more self concious "not" wearing one than when I am (little too much jiggle). Fortunately for me, in a manner of speaking I am a full augmentaion. I do feel that since I have been wearing a "good" bra for so long that I have helped shape my breast. (Thanks Bali) My wife highly recommended Bali by the way. As far as panties, well DUH!!! lol

8 years ago

I am a bra, pantie & tight wearer. I don't worry about it now and it is normal to me

charlie 8 years ago

i wear gridles to work and at home all the time. i wear jeans and a loose shirt. i wear all in ones 36b most of the time. i don't worry about strap lines. my wife dosnt like me wearing them. i been wearing them for over 30 years.

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jenniferlyn 8 years ago

i wear bra panties stockings every day and far as i amconcerned it is nobody business except my own.

Jon 8 years ago

I like to wear a bra when I am home alone, doing housework. I am trying to get up the courage to wear it to work, but fear getting detected.

I have worn panties to work, as they are easy to conceal.

I want to go out dressed as a woman on Halloween, and I would like to get my wife to suggest something fun for me to wear, perhaps even help with makeup. Any suggestions?

kelly 8 years ago

I'm a male nurse who is very feminine with long hair and pierced ears. I wear panties everyday and I know they are visible which doesn't bother me. I wear bras outside of work and would like to be comfortible waring a bra daily at work. I'm sure many people would know because of the lifting and moving of patients. Any ideals or toughts would be greatly appreicated.

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Elizabethxd 8 years ago from Horicon, WI

I often wear stockings with a waist cincher with garters as well as panties under my male clothes. The waist cincher has the added benefit of making you look thinner! But good advice about wearing loose fitting pants. Tight pants will show the garters. In cold weather, heavier material pants, such as wool also help conceal the garters. I also wear a bra occasionally and a heavy sweater is perfect. Thanks for the good tips and for giving a forum to those of us who enjoy our feminine side.

scantilyclad 8 years ago

I wear panties basically 24/7, SO much more comfy than tighty whities, only time i don't is if i have to undress in public, i do have to do a lot of bending over in my job and i often wonder if people can see the panty line but nobody has ever said anything and my attitude is if it bothers you.....don't look!!

Garry 8 years ago

I love all these comments and would love to wear a bra. I wear panties anytime but afraid of being detected.

JC 8 years ago

I really like to wear panties ... Luckily a lot of people are same to me.

girdley-man 8 years ago

"I was always told (by my wife to wear a black bra under a white shirt. Is she tricking me?"The idea is to wear a bra that's closest to the wearer'sskin tone to minimize showing through a light or dark shirt. If the person wears a white shirt with a white bra but his skin is darker, then the bra will be more visible. On a much lighter skinned person the undergarment wouldn't see through quite as much. A darker skinned person should then wear a similarly darker colored brassiere for more discretion.

LP 8 years ago

I wearing panties full time 24/7 everybody at my work knows i wear them,they don't care. I also wear bras ,I have been taking breast enlargement pills and went from a 36a to 36c , I don't even hide dressing anymore and I am so much happier

andrew 8 years ago

I love wearing sportsbras and bra tanktops all the time and when at home I wear tight girls stretch jeans with usually a thong

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kelly says:3 months ago

I'm a male nurse who is very feminine with long hair and pierced ears. I wear panties everyday and I know they are visible which doesn't bother me. I wear bras outside of work and would like to be comfortible waring a bra daily at work. I'm sure many people would know because of the lifting and moving of patients. Any ideals or toughts would be greatly appreicated.

Hi Kelly,

I' anRN too, and I corrsspond with other bra wearing nurses. email me at: ariko72(at) (change the (at) to @)

kumar 8 years ago

hey!! m really boosted up with this blog..

i want 2 ask is, where in india suspenders r avaliable.??

any idea..?? and other thing is i like to wear padded bra, but itzz pretty to obvious that's it visible. what should i do..??

CDLV 7 years ago

Made a mistake by wearing hold-up stockings. By noon I was giving a presentation and felt the one on my right leg coming down. I got behind the podium and called for a break at which time I mangered to get to the bathroom to take them off. Will always wear a garter with hold-up stockings fo added safety.

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pantiesboy358 7 years ago

Hi I wear bras and panties all the time and to work with the amount of clothing that I have to wear you could never see it even with tight clothing. stretch tops under a skirt or sweet shirt works well. Just remember different storks for different folks.

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rich3800 7 years ago

@Nylon panties, How many women know that men's underwear doesn't have a rear seam and among the ones that know, how many would care? Don't worry, be happy.

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rich3800 7 years ago

A mind bender: would a black person wear a black bra or a white bra under a white shirt?

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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

Don't quote me on this, but I am pretty sure a darker person would be better off with a darker bra.. or wait.. no maybe a lighter bra to match the shirt... aaargghh... head explode

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Don Witten 7 years ago


Today was the first day I wore panties to work! It was heavenly! Thank you! Also I have question about panty sizes. I have been hestitant about buying panties online. I don't want a size that is too small or too big. Any suggestions. Most of my panty collection is from Wal Mart, but I would like some Victoria Secret or Fredericks of Hollywood but I am not sure how those fit. I am not man enough to go to a store such a VS. What do you think?

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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

Buying any kind of clothing online is usually luck of the draw. I would recommend that if you're not prepared to take the risk, buy brands you already know what size you are in. Otherwise, just buy the size you are according to measurement charts (which most major manufacturers provide)

Shelley 7 years ago

Dear Hope... I'm really very thankful to you, a young lady, for advising us guys on how to buy and wear bras, panties, stockings, camisoles, etc. I wish all the women in this world have feelings like you and accept/ insist on men wearing lingerie. As a matter of fact all my women love me in women's lingerie and have come to me after they saw my bra through my shirt at some public place or the other. Have you noticed one thing Ms. Hope? That there are probably millions of men (and more are being added every day) who wear or would like to wear lingerie. What do you think is the reason for this worldwide trend?

As is evident, I wear lingerie and my wardrobe is stocked with most types. My feeling is that comfort is the prime criteria. Men's underwear have never been designed to provide comfort - only support. The second would be a feeling of sexiness. Silky, satiny stuff close to your skin and intimate parts provides a wonderful sexy feeling. Third would be the naughtiness and eroticism. Wearing bra and panties while visiting public places gives a tremendous high because you know that you are in lingerie right in front of other people. And if one can carry it off giving glimpses of his bra straps then it gives a mighty erotic feeling and one can't wait to return home to complete the fun. Then there is this logic of a man always not being 100% man inside his head. Rather he is a mix of some part man and some part woman at any given time. If he is more woman at some time then he would enjoy wearing lingerie at such times. Finally every man at some time or the other gets fed up of exhibiting a macho exterior in front of this society and would like to give vent to his woman-like feelings by wearing soft sensuous lingerie.

A personal question I would like to ask you is that although I've exhibited my bra through my thin fabric shirts at large shopping malls and other such public places (where I think I'm an unknown guy) and care nothing about what people might think, yet I wear only thongs to work. Mind you not the men's thongs - they are lousy. I wear the women's thongs with the small crotch. No problems there, as I know what size fits me well. But I've never dared to wear a bra to office because everyone there knows me and I'm scared of what will happen if I'm caught wearing one. Can you please please please advise me on how I can wear a bra to office - because I really want to wear a bra to work?

stevie 7 years ago

Hope, I have worn panties for over 25 years but until recently, never to work. I work at a power station in the states and need to change into and out of a uniform at work. After working there for a feew years, I thought I would try wearing panties to work so I put on a pair of purple VS bikinis and went to work. No problem changing into the uniform as I was always early. At the end of the day, when I went to the locker room, there was a few other guys changing out of uniform. I waited as long as possible and then took off my pants, with my shirt pulled down as an attempt at concealing purple panties, but I am sure I got noticed. Nobody has ever said anything to me, but I wear panties to work a lot more now and am able to change without anyone noticing. I have to say Hope, that the thrill of possibly getting caught was one of the biggest turn ons of my life. More recently I have been caught a few times at Barnes and Nobles when I bent over to grab a book and a couple of older women saw my satin pink panties peek out of my jeans waistband. Their reaction was priceless, one blushed and couldn't believe it and the other smiled and turned away. when I walked past them on the way out I heard them whisper "pink panty guy". After that, I am hooked on showing a little!

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lingerielover 7 years ago

I have worn stockings and girdles for more than 15 years at work under my suit and never had a problem. So far I have been asked a few times what kind of stockings I wore because you can spot a 20 den stocking but I don´t care. Usually I answer that I wear pantyhose. Stockings and girdle are not common anymore. Most women don´t wear girdles and younger women might never have tried one in her life. I don´t need the thrill of getting caught. It is just that I became so used to wearing a girdle that I don´t feel properly dressed without one.

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chris009 7 years ago

Hi...New to Hub, thanks to a post at SkirtCafe which linked to these articles.

Question: Why hide it? Let's keep pushing the frontier so that I can wear at work a visible lace cami just as freely as you can? I would love to embrace the sheer fabrics and layered look that the ladies in the office enjoy. Or, as one of the men who wears women's shoes, I would love to not have to 'camouflage' the fact with thick socks, and boldly wear sheer-toed stockings instead.

Your advice on HOW to hide it is good - no criticism. But let's also look for chances to change society so that we don't HAVE to hide it.


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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

Chris, keep reading. I've written a litany of articles about that, and I'll probably write another one addressing this point here, because you know, the thing is, most men who wear women's clothing want to have to hide it. At least, that's the feedback I've gotten on these articles. A few men want to be 'out and proud', but there's a bigger community that enjoy the taboo.

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chris009 7 years ago

Thanks Hope - And thanks for the new article!

Lets explore the 'hidden fun' aspect for a moment: I concur that part of the fun lies in the very fact of the taboo. But doesn't part of the fun for a lady, of wearing a sheer blouse over a lacy bra, also lie in the fun of the taboo? Of showing off things that 'nice girls' hide? OK, call me an exhibitionist then, but I submit that even when men are "allowed" to wear women's clothing in public, there will still be plenty of opportunities to scratch the itch labeled "naughty."

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