Reasons to Never Tattoo Your Partner's Name
Tattoos Aren't That Big of a Deal Anymore, Right?
Opinions about tattoos vary with each person. Some see them as art, or a form of self- expression, while others think of tattoos as trashy, and damaging to the body. Thirty years ago many believed that having a tattoo meant you were riffraff. This day and age it is not uncommon to see a person, who is in high rankings with society, be decorated with the colorful ink. Plainly put, looking around in present time, tattoos are no longer a big deal.
After 30 years though, there is still one main area of tattoo ideas that is highly debated. Permanently branding your body with your partner's name, also known as couples tattoos. There are a number of reasons a person may frown upon body art, but this specific topic definitely has more cons than pros. Continue reading before deciding whether you would ever pay the ultimate tattoo cost using your partner's name.
Reasons Not To Commit Tattoo Suicide
Are you, or you and your partner both considering the idea of a name tattoos, be it matching or not? Whether you're dating, engaged or even married, incorporate each scenario into your own life and relationship as you read the list below, and then decide if this is the best tattoo idea for you.
What if we break up? This is the most obvious question to ask yourself, yet one that is often overlooked. Many times in relationships, especially new and fresh ones, you feel as though you'll always be with your partner. You are still in the honeymoon stage, and your feelings for your significant other are strong. It is during this time that you are the most likely to get a new tattoo of your partner's name. Here are five reasons not to commit tattoo suicide.
1. Just when you were starting to forget.
You finally erased the remaining pictures of your ex from your Facebook page, and their favorite shirt went out with the trash. You're now undressing to take a shower and you glance in the mirror. There, beaming back at you, is a tattoo of a name you had hoped to forget. Congratulations, you will forever be stuck with a permanent reminder of a love gone wrong.
2. Who is that tattoo for?
If the tattoo is visible to others, then you can expect at some point, for someone to ask you to explain the story behind the name. This has a tendency to become embarrassing, as well as a few awkward moments of silence. Even more so if your partner is present, or asked if the name is theirs.
3. Anything is possible, including changing partners.
In all probability, you will eventually start dating someone new. Unless you're reading this hub because you're working on the tattoo of your fourth spouse's name. If so, it's probably safe for you to skip this point. One way to start a relationship off on a bad foot is having to explain this tattoo to your new partner. On top of that, they will have to look at your tattoo more than you will. This can cause resentment, doubts or worse. Another break up.
4. Intimacy Problems
Depending on the location of your tattoo, (lower stomach, chest, etc.) anyone you become sexually active with after your break up will have to endure looking at your ex's name. This can cause intimacy problems for you both, and even self-esteem issues. You may begin to wonder if your tattoo is the real reason your new partner asks to keep the lights off during intimate times. If you end up opting to get the tattoo removed, or don't even have the tattoo to begin with, and your partner still requests the lights be off, then you're on the wrong hub. Sorry.
5. I can always get it removed.
I strongly advise anyone that's considering getting ink done, regardless if it is a partner's name or not, to research laser removal of a tattoo. In addition to the costs, pain of the procedure(s), and the less than appealing scarring of having your tattoo removed, also comes risks. Even after thousands of dollars, and several laser treatments, it's a possibility that the tattoo still won't be completely gone. More serious risk includes allergic reactions and infections.
Still want to show your love in permanent ink?
If you're like me, and already have a tattoo of someone you're no longer with, it's not the end of the world. You are not necessarily destined for relationship failure from here on out, and it shouldn't stop you from meeting new people. However, I do speak from personal experience when I say that it does take an understanding and strong person to accept the fact. There have been countless jokes at my expense, and at least a million I told you so's, but I'll live, and so will you.
If you are someone that was only considering getting a tattoo of your partner's name, I hope reading this article has made you reevaluate your reasons, and think about the what if's of your future. If you read this hub though, and still can't wait to have your love for your partner permanently branded on your body, then I truly wish you the best of luck.
My ex and I had a long and emotional talk concerning our children, property, and money. You know, the formalities of getting a divorce that no one wants to talk about, but is mandatory. We were finally finishing up when I tried to ease our obvious hurt by jokingly saying, "at least you'll never forget my name, and neither will anyone else that's around when you have your shirt off." Hearing it in my head I thought it was funny, but actually saying it out loud caused us both to immediately tear up. After 9 years together, he knew that I was about to burst into tears, and he came over to hug me before he left. He told me something that I will never forget, and which came to be a piece of advice that I often share with others.
"Minds can never love, and hearts can never learn." - Jacob Hale
Who has a tattoo you ask?
1936- Life Magazine- 10 million Americans, or approximately 6% of the population had at least one tattoo.
2000- National Geographic News- 15% of Americans were tattooed, or 40 million people.
2002- Esquire Magazine- 1 in 8 Americans were tattooed.
2003- Harris Poll- 36% of those aged 25-29 had one or more tattoos.
2006- The Journal of the American Society of Dermatology- 24% of Americans between 18-50 were tattooed, which is almost 1 in 4. Thirty-six percent of Americans 18-29 have at least one tattoo.
2008- Harris Poll- 32% of Americans, aged 25-29 with one or more tattoos.
2010- Pew Research Center- 38% of Americans, aged 18-29 have tattoos, and 32% of Americans, aged 30-45 had tattoos.
In 2006, a Harris Poll asked, "Why Regret Getting A Tattoo?" The number one answer with 16% was, "Because of the person's name in the tattoo."
In today's society you can easily get tattoo ideas and inspiration from almost anywhere you look. Before getting a tattoo of your partner's name, or even just to appreciate the art of tattoos, I strongly suggest checking out these 3 books. You can get an awesome deal on them at Amazon!
- The Mammoth Book of Tattoos
- Tattoo Johnny: 3,000 Tattoo Designs
- Vintage Tattoos: The Book of Old-School Skin Art
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