Playing Panty Pretend

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47 years old. Can you believe it? And in 1982, before we all started poisoning our faces!
47 years old. Can you believe it? And in 1982, before we all started poisoning our faces!

I'm watching 'Victor Victoria' for the second night in a row, a movie that causes me to marvel in so many ways. Firstly, can you believe that Julie Andrews was 47 when she made this? I thought she was under 30 – but there you have it. Nextly, the concept of a woman pretending to be a man pretending to be a woman. What madness! Still, it reminded me of you, men in lingerie.

Many of you men are pretending to be a woman when you put your panties on, aren't you? Slipping those silky scraps over your thighs transforms you into a beautiful, delicate, vibrant creature. Woman.

As a woman it's taken me a while to get my head around this fact. After all, being a woman isn't nearly as super as it looks on television. There are the mood swings, the cramps, the monthly onslaught of agony you're supposed to grin and grit through in site of the fact that your insides are melting. (Seriously, who the hell thought that up? The result of design by committee I would guess.)

But to the casual male observer, being female probably appears to be a sweet deal. Women have it easy. They are pretty creatures that flit about being charming and having doors opened for them. They look nice, they smell nice, they smile and giggle their way through life in a way that a man could never hope to.

If you have that sort of outlook on what being a woman is like, there's no wonder that pretending to be a woman would be a great escape from the mundane masculinity of the every day world where you're supposed to lift the heavy thing and happily get shot if push comes to shove.

Maybe that's why some women don't like it when men pretend to be women, or behave in more feminine ways. If you guys start getting the female perks, who knows what might happen? Will we be expected to lift the heavy things? I sure hope not.

So then for some men, wearing women's lingerie may be a tactile thing, in other cases it's a case of the lingerie drawer being silkier on the other side and in still others, its a chance to escape to a lacy day dream land where he is woman, hear him roar.

There's nothing wrong with playing dress ups, and there's nothing wrong with playing pretend. They often tell children that imagination is their greatest gift, but I would argue that imagination can be an adult's best friend too.

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Gunnau 7 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

G'Day Hope

Pretending to be a woman and wearing something nice against the skin are two different things that i can see.

I'm a great lover of lingerie for men. Although we see how pretty some women look, we feel that sometimes we are ripped off in the wardrobe department,

The choices in mens undies is a pretty dull and boring one and choosing between a cotton boxer and a pretty nylon or microfibre panty, i know my choice.

I love to wear lovely things but i never want to be a woman although i do sympathise with the torture you go through on a regular basis.

I would love to be able to enjoy the freedom of clothing you have but that's another Hub.

In the mean time, i'll enjoy what lingerie i am allowed to wear. Panties Rule.


SatinSatan 7 years ago

I'm with Gannau.


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C.S.Alexis 7 years ago from NW Indiana

And for some women the choice of No Panties might seem extreme. So, there they have None! Choice Rules! or No Rules is even BETTER.


Mikki 7 years ago

Gannau makes some very good points... but I think there is, as in most things, more facets to this gem than are apparent.

I think wanting to be a woman and wanting to be feminine are two different things. Speaking for only myself, but somewhat based on my experiences with other crossdressing males, it is the dressing and assuming the feminine role both mentally and physically that is so strong for many. When I dress in lingerie I also mentally dress in my perception of the female role - giving, nurturing and making every effort to be gentle and considerate in my immediate social setting. To be honest, this does not typically include being subservient in any negative way - I actually do not practice or am interested in those who are submissive humiliation seekers. I prefer open, fun loving and active partners who enjoy embracing their role playing as much as I do.

I have said before in this hub, I wear female attire under my business clothing 4 out of 7 days when possible. There can be long stretches where I don't, and I notice that during those times I become more assertive, competitive and less considerate in my thinking - not always in my actions because I am aware of it, but I do notice a change in my mental state. When I am dressed, there is a distinct change in my mood, my perceptions and my processing of social interactions... I become saner, more inclined to build consensus for decisions, more tolerant of mistakes, more nurturing of subordinates... you get the idea. Is this brought about by a few scraps of nylon and lace? Or, is this an unconcious reflection of the identity I assume in my feminine frame of mind?

Darned if I know for sure... but I am just happier in a nice pair of panties instead of mens underwear made of the same material. Go figure!


cestlavie 7 years ago

Moving from the relative security of describing what people do and into the realm of defining why they act as they do, leaves the blogger's/writer's comments open to varying degrees of scrutiny. Your blanket assessment of all men who step outside of society's rigid vestment limitations and into various items of lingerie as "pretenders" is not uniformly applicable.

I, for one, have been wearing panties for many years. Thats right - all day, every day! Pretending to be a woman never enters my mind! For multiple reasons, panties are very practical. In addition, I wear them for the comfortable fit, the variety of styles and fabrics, as well as the endless choice of patterns and colors.

Should you find this to be realistic, try wearing men's scratchy, droopy, unimaginative, dorky-looking briefs or boxers for a month.

If, by virtue of wearing panties, I am guilty of "pretending to be a woman", then "Long live pretenderism"!


Screwloose 7 years ago

Wearing a pair of panties does not automatically mean that one is wanting to be or pretending to be a woman. I do not sit up at night wishing that men could walk about in public wearing a skirt and heels.

I have always considered myself very much a man that just happens to love wearing womens underwear.

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