A Guide to Posh, Bling & Designer Labels - How to Get It Right

Real Poshness is not about all the Bling

You are either posh or you are not. You cannot fake it or spend thousands and thousands trying to buy it. True poshness comes from the inside. It’s not a fancy house or an apartment in Beverly Hills, the Hampton's or Paris, nor is it owning flash car or being draped in loads of jewellery.

You Need Money to be Posh?

Having money doesn’t equal poshness either. In fact, it is far from it. Being posh is a mine set, which can be learned. It takes time and dedication, and a lust for life. So, ditch those designer labels, sell you flash car and remove all that gaudy jewellery. Time for some hard facts on really being posh.

Try to keep up with the Jones's?

A true posh person never publicly flashes his or her money around - ever. Yes they have money, but why do you need to advertise the fact? The hard truth is that people lust after social status. They want to be seen climbing the success ladder and proving it to the world. The goal is to keep up with the Jones’s, but have you seem the Jones’s lately? They are totally exhausted trying to keep ahead of you lot.

Materialism is like a Drug :

While these people appear on the outside to be successful, just below all the surface show is a deep rooted unhappiness as they fight daily to stay one step above the others. Materialism is like a drug and is very addictive and expensive too.

Poshness is really an inside job :

But you don’t have to live like this because being posh is not about flashing the bling. Poshness is an inside job, a mind set, that spills over into the outside. You ooze poshness and class, without hiding behind a cloak of expensive designer label outfits. People think they are posh because they have all the fancy outside materialistic stuff, while you know you are posh because you operate with honesty, respect, manners, honour, politeness, kindness and exude self confidence.

Develop ‘Je ne Sais Quoi’ :

There are very few real posh people about, but you will know when you meet one. They are confident, charismatic, and have that as the French say ‘je ne sais quoi’ - that little something. They don’t brag, don’t flash off their wealth and leave a lasting impression on everybody they meet.

Can I Learn to be Posh?

So, can I learn to be posh? Of course anybody can, but most don’t want to. It takes a lot of time and effort to reach a level where you are really comfortable with yourself, your body and your life.

Ditch the Designer Stuff :

First, stop buying designer clothes because you want to be seen wearing those labels. Do as French women do and buy clothes that suit your body shape and your skin colouring. Don’t follow fashion religiously. Belly tops, short mini skirts, hot pants, leggings etc don’t suit every body shape. Know your body shape and dress to suit that shape, and just as important, dress for your age too. Get clothes that fit properly, and buy good quality ones, but that doesn’t mean designer clothes. Prince Charles wears suits and shoes that are over 25 years old as they are quality clothing and look as good today, as when they were first bought.

What is Your Hair Telling the World?

Ditch the hair dye, go grey naturally as it shows people that you are comfortable with yourself. Apart from the fact hair dye ruins your hair, you are sub-consciously telling the world that you have something to hide. If you lie about your hair colour, what else are you concealing?

Buy Your Cars Wisely!

Drive a car with class and elegance, not some loud and brash sports car with racing stripes or the compulsory Merc or BMW of the nouveau rich. Your choice of car reveals to the world a lot about you, so choose wisely. The same applies about your house or apartment. Nice area, but away from the nouveau rich, so you are not tempted to keep up with them.

Inner Work is Key :

With the outside under-control, you need to work on the important bit - the inner work. Learn manners, take speech lessons and refine the way you speak and loose any heavy accents. Practice by giving more than you expect to receive. Remember, respect is definitely a two-way street. Develop honesty, kindness and common courtesy. Learn how to treat people better.

How Do You Treat People?

You can always judge a person by the way they treat other people like waiters, shop assistants and street cleaners. If fact, make an effort to speak to everybody you meet regardless of their job or position. Be polite and friendly with the cleaners, maintenance people, door men/club bouncers, taxi drivers, waitresses etc, they will remember you, and will be more than happy to help you out the next time you meet them.

They Remember How You Treated Them Too :

They also remember you if you have been rude and ignored them too. Ever wondered why that taxi driver drove straight passed you, or you get a drink spilled on your, or you cannot get into your favourite club?

To be really posh and class, you don’t need life’s riches and finery, you just have to be honesty, respect, common courtesy, manners, honour, politeness, which are all an inside job.

Thank you for taking time out to read this, and I hope it will help you make your life a lot more easier and stressful than trying to keep with those darn ‘Jones’s.

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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Well done. Posh is not something one buys off of a coat rack. That's just the paint job. A vote up.


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Midnight Oil 5 years ago from Isle of Man UK Author

Thank you, you are right, most people think posh is off the rack, it's a lot more than that.


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jayjay40 5 years ago from Bristol England

I have no chance of being posh with this west country accent, I sound like a farmer. Thanks for sharing, I voted it up


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Midnight Oil 4 years ago from Isle of Man UK Author

Real Poshness is not about all the Bling

You are either posh or you are not. You cannot fake it or spend thousands and thousands trying to buy it.

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