The "Skinny"- How To Dress To Look Our Best!
Tips and Tricks
It doesn't matter if you are a size 0 or a size 20, if you wear the wrong size or style of clothes for your body type you are going to look bigger than you really are. You may trick yourself into feeling "skinny" by going down a size but the lumps and bulges the wrong size creates isn't fooling anyone. On the contrary, going up a size is going to make you look frumpy and heavier than you really are. It's all about the correct size and the right "fit" for you body type. We need to accept that there are certain styles we cant wear if we a have a particular body shape. For example, I am typically a size 2-4, very petite (only 5' 1). I love skinny jeans, but I cant wear them! I have short legs and curvy hips, skinny jeans add about 10lbs and look absolutely ridiculous on my body type. Same goes for leggings (that one really depresses me) but I have to respect my shape and dress her accordingly. Below are some other things we can do to appear smaller and better put together.
Fashion Tips For Any Size
Bra Size- Lets start with the very basics. Having the correct bra size is essential for looking slimmer and better proportioned. It can prevent sagging, bulging and even hunched shoulders. Larger breasted women can benefit from a "shelf" bra, as it adds better support, makes the breast appear higher and more rounded (instant breast lift). Ladies with smaller breast can benefit from bras that fit well in circumference and offer a certain amount of padding or lifting with under wire. No matter what size you are, it is worth it to have a proper bra fitting. You will instantly notice a difference in they way you look and feel. Having the right fitting undergarments is the first step in looking better. Look at it as "building your foundation". This leads us to the next item"
Panties- Yes, thongs, bikini's and those little boy shorts are sexy, but not if they are covering the wrong butt. Underwear should be comfortable, supportive and able to pull in the tummy. You may think this is not important because most people don't see you in just your underwear (I hope) but its easy to sometimes tell what type of underwear someone is wearing just by the way things are looking in that area. I'm not saying that larger women can't indulge in thong underwear but it needs to" work" with the outfit she is wearing at the time.
Pants & Jeans- Just because we love a pair of jeans on a mannequin doesn't mean they will look nice on us. We have to be willing to walk away sometimes. It is super important to find the right size and fit. Jeans that are to small are going to make you look lumpy, dis-proportioned and they will accentuate the bad, not the good. Too tight jeans flatten the butt (in a bad way) and make the belly appear bigger. Ever noticed someone in super tight jeans and thought "Wow, she would look fantastic if she could just rotate her body - (butt becoming tummy, tummy becoming butt) Not good! This can just as easily happen to smaller sized women, jeans don't discriminate!. Another huge no-no of having pants to tight is that dreaded... I'm going to say it... I have to say it (we're all thinking it anyway) Camel-toe! Ugh!! If you are under the impression that sporting camel-toe is sexy, someone has been telling you lies. Repeat after me "Say No To Camel-Toe!!!" (Sorry, I had to bold it... yes, it's that important!) One more thing to be aware of when buying pants is the rise. Too high of a rise might make the belly appear bigger and less toned and too short of a rise can result in the dreaded "muffin-top" and lets face it ladies, a roll of fat hanging over our jeans is not sexy. We all have a certain amount of body fat so this can easily happen to petite women as well. Buy pants and jeans that fit properly and that flatter your "ass-ets". Make sure they have the proper rise and cut for your body type. Skinny legs work on some people but most people look best in a boot-cut or slightly a flared jean or pant.
Tops- When buying a top you should aim for something well fitted but not clingy to your body, especially if you are trying to hide a belly or love handles. You can easily find tops that flatter your positives but slightly skim over the negatives. For example a top that flatters the breasts, with a nice cut but that also loosens as it reaches the belly and waist is a wonderful choice. Also if you don't want to appear wider than you are, avoid horizontal stripes. Our eyes tend to follow pattern and horizontal stripes scream "width". Meanwhile, verticals stripes elongate the body's appearance and can be quite flattering. Also be weary when buying bold patterns, they can sometimes fool the eye as well and possibly add bulk.
Choose The Right Color- Everyone knows that black is certainly the most slimming color, but who wants to walk around looking goth all the time. You can easily hide all those little imperfections with other darker colors. If you do tend to stick with black, you can spice it up with a bright belt, necklace or other accessory. Use color to your advantage, darks for the areas you want to hide and bright colors on the places you want to show off.
Accessories- Accessories are God-sends! We can use accessories to divert attention or to draw attention to certain areas. Have a little bit of tummy you want to hide?, what better way than a slightly wider belt than usual. The right necklace, earrings, hair accessory or bangle can draw the eye away from imperfections and act as a perfect first impression that is pleasing to the eye. Be brave, play with accessories, different styles and colors can add just the right amount of distraction when your not completely comfortable with your chosen outfit.
Confidence- Pay attention! Ladies this is your most important fashion must have. Be comfortable with who you are, love yourself and be your best friend. Appreciate your body type, embrace your curves! When someone pays you a compliment simply smile and say "Thank You", don't say something negative or attempt to convince them otherwise, accept the compilment. Not graciously accepting a compliment is just as destructive as negative self talk- don't do it. Sure we might be a little bigger than we want, just as some of us may have a wrinkle we don't like, but chances are we earned it. We loved, nurtured and cared for others and often put ourselves last on the list. Our bodies are the vehicles that brought us to motherhood and love and compassion for others, it's time we showed a little appreciation that it got the job done.
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