Thinking About Going Old Lady With My Hair

One Order Of Pretty White Hair, Please... Hold The Mousy And Stringy!

THIS is what I'm afraid I'll look like...minus the red eye shadow, what is UP with that anyway? This was actually from a Halloween article, no lie!
THIS is what I'm afraid I'll look like...minus the red eye shadow, what is UP with that anyway? This was actually from a Halloween article, no lie! | Source
THIS is kind of what I mean! Pretty and almost white. Can I order one of these please, hold the mousy?
THIS is kind of what I mean! Pretty and almost white. Can I order one of these please, hold the mousy? | Source
THIS lady just looks plain BEAUTIFUL! Wow! This would be good if I can't get the waves in the picture above. How do I get this look?
THIS lady just looks plain BEAUTIFUL! Wow! This would be good if I can't get the waves in the picture above. How do I get this look? | Source
My husband's one request... just PLEASE don't get an "Old Lady" hairstyle... I think one of these is kind of like what he meant!
My husband's one request... just PLEASE don't get an "Old Lady" hairstyle... I think one of these is kind of like what he meant! | Source

After A While, Hair Color Just Doesn't Seem To Work Right Any More

As I've been getting more ... mature.... yeah, that sounds better than OLD... I've noticed that hair color is looking much different on me as I go through this aging process. And I'll tell ya, the old saying about how aging is not for sissies is totally TRUE!

Anyway, hair color that used to work really well for me just does NOT look right any more. I keep trying different products, but can't seem to find the "right" one these days. So, I'm thinking about maybe saying "forget about it" one of these days and just letting it go natural. If it's gonna be gray, it's gonna be gray.

Only thing is, I've heard that it takes a LONG time to let it grow out completely gray, especially when it's kind of long like mine is right now. From looking at my roots this last time, I'd say it's going to look kind of a hideous ~ mousy ~ brownish ~ grayish ~ streaky, and did I mention hideous? color. SO, what to do?

I've been searching on the internet for ways to let it go gray "gracefully." From everything I've read, it goes gray first, then later, sometimes much later... it goes "white". See, that's what I want, I want a beautiful head of gorgeous, flowing and wavy if possible WHITE hair, I want to SKIP over the gray part if I can! I mean, that's not so much to ask, is it? (Don't answer that!) So, I'm trying to figure out just HOW to do that!

Maybe I'll go fluffy like grannies sometimes do and tint it with a little blue, purple or pink... there ya go! I'll be a rainbow girl! I'll have hair that three year old's will think is cotton candy! That might just be a PLAN! Seriously, though, right now it is just looking dull and funky.

I know I need to do something with it, but what? I was using a light blonde shade of hair color, then that started looking TOO light, like I was damaging my hair, so I switched to one shade darker like I used to wear in my late 30's and early 40's, it looked really pretty back then... now it just looks... funky.

I have known people who dye their hair black and keep dyeing it that color, then one day decide to just let it go WHITE. It is so shocking when they do that, I don't really think I want to do that. Maybe if I let it go gray naturally, it won't be such a "shock" if one day it does go white. I think white hair is beautiful and some shades of gray are also very pretty.

I have learned a few things along the way on my search for an answer. I learned that gray hair is drier and stiffer than your other hair, which makes it more difficult to color successfully... hence the name "stubborn grays". I also found out about how hair gets its color in the first place.

As hair grows, when the brand new hairs are just forming, there is something called melanocytes which are cells that produce pigment. These melanocytes put the color, also known as melanin, into the hair strands, causing them to become either blonde, brown, red or black. The production of this melanin slows down as people age, and eventually it disappears, and that's when hair becomes totally gray. So, I guess I can't blame these gray hairs on my kids or my hubby any more. Da*m, I was hoping to be able to keep doing that! You know, I could have been a master of guilt, makin' 'em think they caused all this gray! (Winking!)

So what this all means is that everyone eventually will get gray hair when they age, but how much each person gets depends largely on genetics and on the amount of melanin they still have left. Actually what scientists have found out is that gray hair is simply hair that is lacking in pigment. And in a side note, there are researchers hard at work right now, and some researchers the Langone Medical Center in New York City (A part of New York University) have actually discovered a way to make black mice go gray! Unfortunately, they haven't figured out how to apply this technology to humans yet, and have not figured out a way to keep it from happening. So, for now, we have to just keep covering it up if we don't want to embrace it... yet.

I'm not sure I'm really ready to do this yet...maybe I'll color a few more times here and then think about it again. I know I have to try a different color though, this one just isn't workin' out any more! I did find out through some research that there are some really GOOD "root touch up" products, even for blonde-ish hair! I may start to try that in between colorings until I'm really ready to take the "ole lady" plunge and let it go au naturel!

Some Root Covering Products To Try

TouchBack Marker ~ This is the only root touch up product I've found that contains real hair color. It's temporary color, but it is hair color. There is no ammonia or peroxide, and it is supposed to be easy to apply and stays in your hair for a while. And it is dry in less than a minute, which is a nice bonus. The effects are said to look really natural, without any flaking. And it's available in eight shades. Available for about $29.95 at touchbackgray.com.

Revlon Root Erase By ColorSilk ~ This product comes in the form of a sponge applicator that delivers the magic in a precise way to your roots. The formula used is ammonia free and it's supposed to be very easy to use without mixing with brushes and bowls. I often feel like Frankenstein (or is that Bride of Frankenstein?) mixing all these chemicals, so this would be a welcome change. And it comes in twelve shades, including blonde which is nice. Many of these products seem to come in brown and black only! And it's pretty inexpensive, running about $4.49 at revlon.com.

Rita Hazan Root Concealer Spray ~ Color in a spray can, what WILL "they" think of next! Didn't they show this on the Seinfeld show one time? I thought I remember George trying spray on hair color to cover up that bald spot on one of the episodes?

At any rate, most people think of spray as being used for hold only, not to color ones hair, but it seems you can use it to color now as well. This is the first color in a spray can on the market. It's available in five shades, and supposedly you can find those unsightly roots and simply spray and go. It is said to dry quickly, with only one slight drawback, it washes out with the next shampoo, making re-application necessary, and again, and again. But for those who simply need a quick touch up for a special occasion and don't have time to color, this could be a miracle product!

Rita Hazan Root Concealer Temporary Color Touch Up Spray is available at sephora.com for about $24. Might be worth a try!

Oscar Blandi Pronto Colore Root Touch-Up And Highlighting Pen ~ How cool could this one be? Carry it anywhere, a highlighting pen that you can use any time you find some gray. The pen style makes application easy, and it is available in six colors. Only thing is, like the spray-on color, it does wash out next time hair is washed. But in a pinch, for a special occasion, or for that time you're about to do some public speaking and find those unsightly grays... ok, if you're public speaking you're worried about a lot more than hair. BUT, it could come in handy at times.

The Oscar Blandi Pronto Colore Root Touch-Up And Highlighting Pen (whew! What a long name!) Is available at blandiproducts.com or at Ulta.com for about $23.

There is also a mascara wand product available through Avon called the Color Protection Grey Root Touch Up that goes on much the same way that mascara does. This one comes in just two shades though, brown and black.

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It's been fun delving into possibilities and planning my old lady hair here. I'll have to come back and update this when I get brave enough to let it go "old lady" and share my journey. Whether I end up with the flowing white waves I dream of, or a mousy stringy combination of wiry, uncooperative, unruly, sticking out all over the place, angry looking head of gray hair, I guess it won't matter much, what is REALLY important is what is UNDER all that hair, right?

Oh and just one question... Why is it that MEN can go gray and they are called "distinguished" and when WOMEN do it, they are "HAGS"?

Just WAIT until some kid asks me..."Are you a good witch or a bad witch?"....

I don't think they'll really want to know the answer! (Winking!)

Like Dolly Parton once said "You know they call us dumb blondes, but we know the truth. The truth is we're not dumb, and we're not blondes either!." Gotta love Dolly, she knows just how to be honest, in a hilarious way!

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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

I enjoyed the moments of humor throughout this fine write. My Nana had the most beautiful white hair. Many times strangers would stop her and ask if she colored it that way. It was natural and gorgeous. Worn the right way, gray and white hair can be a crowning glory.

Nana's was so beautiful it became her trademark. A poem was written by her daughter (my Mom) at her wake and her trade mark white hair was mentioned as well.

Let us know what you end up deciding.


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Wow, that is so neat shining! :) I love beautiful white hair, but even if mine just ends up gray, that's ok too... I'll just do the best I can with whatever I have! :) Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed the humor! :)


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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

This hub is a good laugh, Kathy ... sad to say I have the grey, sticking up all over sort of hair :) but I’m quite happy with that as my hair has always done its own thing, a bit like me.

I used to colour my hair all the time when I was young, but as it grows very quickly I got to an age where my roots were grey again after a couple of days. And as I’m the sort who can’t bear having to continually fiddle about with my hair (at all) I let it go grey.

I too would love white hair but when the hairdresser tried to do that for me it just went a boring blonde which actually did not suit me at all. So now I am just waiting for Nature to get her finger out.

I wrote a hub about it ages ago and you would not believe the response I got from women who think like I do.


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

I think your hair looks so pretty in your picture, Angie! I wouldn't change a thing! :) Maybe when hair does its own thing it does reflect the wearers personality, so I'm likely to have the sticking up all over type too! :) Thanks so much for sharing your story!I'm going to read your hub, too. Thanks for commenting! Much appreciated!


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Loved your take on grey being the new blonde, Angie! :) It may not be too much longer for me, I will take your words to heart when I decide to stop this coloring nonsense! :) :)


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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

You go for it, girl!


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teaches12345 4 years ago

You have some charm and wit in writing! I am facing that thought as the years approach also. My mom used to have her hair dyed once a month after she was 65. She looked so beautiful in her shades of gray highlighted with tints of light blue ( it was more like a charcoal cray). I hope I look as good as she did then.


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

I bet you will, teaches. What keeps me from doing it right now is that period of time when it is growing out...lighter on the bottom (ends), darker on top... that's what has kept me from going natural so far! :)

I used to work with a lady in her 70's that dyed her hair at least every two weeks to keep it blonde... problem was, most women in their 70's do NOT have blonde hair any more! With the wrinkles and other signs of her real age... it looked bizarre, not more attractive. But I think due to the fact that she was working with younger people she felt she had to keep up the facade of looking young... that's just my armchair psychology guess! Thanks for commenting! :)


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CyberShelley 4 years ago

My mother has the most beautiful literally silver grey hair and many people have stopped her to ask what colour she uses! She never coloured her hair, it has always been natural. I am still colouring, but thinking of letting it go natural. Up, funny and interesting.


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thanks CyberShelley! I hope you have hair just like your Mom's when you do decide to let it go natural! Thanks so much for reading and commenting! :)


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lauramaryscott 4 years ago from Boise, Idaho

Be prepared to one day while walking past the mirror to be started for not recognizing the person in the mirror. I decided to let my hair go naturally gray because my Mom's hair was beautiful. I have received lots of compliments on my many shades of dark to light. It gets lighter in front and at the temples and is darker at the back. If you stop having permanents, as I did, it also gets slick and shiny. All kinds of new things to learn how to handle and enjoy. Thanks for sharing.


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KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thanks for letting me know, lauramaryscott! :) I have white hair at my temples, too, so mine might be similar to yours. Thanks for letting me know I might be startled one day, it helps to know that a little ahead of time! :) :) Thanks for commenting! :)

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