Tips on Gracefully Turning Fifty

My Fiftieth Birthday Party

Dancin at my 50th (Me in the black)
Dancin at my 50th (Me in the black) | Source

Though its been some time since I was fifty, I remember it well! It is after all, just another birthday...turning fifty. However, to some people it's a traumatic experience, but why? Is fifty that much different than forty or forty-nine? Really? Fifty is just fifty.

Stop and think about what it took to get to fifty! All the things you've done and learned along the way. Your experiences and where your past has brought you. Sure its a milestone, but what kind of milestone is entirely up to you.

Turning Fifty Quotes

"Looking fifty is great - if you're sixty." - Joan Rivers.

"She was a handsome woman of forty-five and would remain so for many years." - Anita Brookner

"The man who views the world at fifty the same as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life." - Muhammad Ali

"I'm aiming by the time I'm fifty to stop being an adolescent."
- By Wendy Cope

"You take all the experience and judgment of men over fifty out of the world and there wouldn't be enough left to run it".
- Henry Ford

"By the time we hit fifty, we have learned our hardest lessons. We have found out that only a few things are really important. We have learned to take life seriously, but never ourselves."
- Marie Dressler

"I should totally do the sexiest man still alive for AARP!" - George Clooney

Good things about turning fifty

Let's stop and take a look at the good things about turning fifty. What about fifty being the new forty? Looking back in history with medical advances and better health choices its easy to see why fifty can be the new forty. No old ladies or old men at the age of fifty...save that for seventy! (I know, all you seventy year olds are saying, no way, its eighty and so on.)

By the time you turn fifty, there's a good chance, your children will be leaving home and your life begins another phase. Now, it is just the two of you again. A time to start planning what you two want to do. You can go places on your own or you can stay home by yourself, its up to the two of you and no one else. You might even want to try something new. What about those dance lessons you always thought about? There's always that trip to the Bahamas you put off because of college expenses...Think of fifty as a new beginning.

Remember that saying, "Fifty is Fabulous". Be fabulous. Go for long quiet walks, they're not just good for your health, they're good for your soul. A time to be alone and reflect, or a time to share with your partner as you take in the wonders of nature.

What about senior discounts? Most places give discounts if you're over fifty-five but some out there honor you at fifty. I take a discount wherever I can get it, age or no age. Don't forget you can join AARP at fifty!

Oh wait, did you know Tom Cruise is fifty? What about Paula Abdul or Jon Bon Jovi? Do you see what good company you're keeping?

Things to do when you turn fifty

Rejoice! You've made it to fifty. Have a greater appreciation of life.

If you haven't been using a moisturizer (man or woman), now would be a good time to start. Keep your skin moisturized and soft. It not only looks good, but it feels good too.

Start volunteering. If you're still working, which most people are, still try to fit in a few hours a month volunteering and finding a niche to help when you do retire. Your help is needed in so many areas and in so many ways, even if its just making phone calls for the American Heart Association or Cancer Society.

Make sure you are ready for retirement. Get your finances in order, try to pay off some big ticket items so you won't have to worry about them when you do retire. Put some money in the bank so you have a little nest egg when you're no longer working.

Motivate yourself to take action...exercise. Take that walk or maybe buy a Wii so you can exercise at home. Just move more to keep that body in shape and limber. Plus its good for your heart.

Yes, get regular medical checkups. You knew this was coming. If you haven't established a good health regiment and don't see your doctor on a regular basis, now's the time to start. Speaking of health, make sure you have good eating habits. I'm not saying you have to drink beet juice, but eat more healthy. Include more fruit and vegetables in your diet. You'll be glad you did when you turn seventy or eighty!

Jamie Lee Curtis

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Turn Fifty Gracefully

Accept fifty! Realize you have made it to fifty! So many suggest just making sure as you begin this part of your life you are happy and looking forward to it.

Writer Margaret Atwood said that fifty was a time "when we thought we were running away from the grownups, and now we are the grownups.”

Listen to people like Jamie Lee Curtis and Michelle Pfeifer....not Joan Rivers!

Remember you're still the same person you were yesterday, you know, when you were only forty-nine.

For women, wear lighter lipstick shades and longer skirts. Its more flattering and you don't look like you're trying to live in the past, or pretend your fifteen.

Remember you are simply aging, not getting old. Your frame of mind helps keep that difference in the forefront. Let your mind lead the way.

Make sure you get enough sleep so that you're energized and look rested not haggard or drawn.

Parting thoughts

F ifty is your new age
I t's time for you to turn the page
F orget the old and ring in the new
T ime to think about just you
Y our life's experience will see you through

This is a turning point in your life. Accept it with grace and fortitude. Get ready for the rest of your life. Enjoy what is and what's to come. "The great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.” –Madeleine L’Engle

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epigramman 3 years ago

.....and I guess that is the key word - lol - 'gracefully' although they say it's not how old you are it's how young you feel.

Well I am 54 and with the help of mind over matter I still feel like 24 in some departments - lol - I love your attitude and a sense of humor helps too - are men and women the same at 50? Or do they react differently?

Thank for you sharing this personal sojourn and please keep writing your personal thoughts because you are such a wonderful writer.

Sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 9:30am and watching the sun come up over the lake - how is the weather on your side? We've had a fairly good week here - mostly dry and clear but cold - more rain than any snow


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Epi your comment made me smile. I don't think men and women are the same at any age ;) I'm glad you enjoyed this hub.

I'm in Ulster County New York and the same time zone...weather-wise we are very different. We had some rain this week and the weather's turned colder but no snow yet.


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Deborah Brooks 3 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Now that I am 61 ... I don't know how graceful I really am.. lol.. I go with the flow.. but I do know that now that I am retired I can do what I always dreamed about doing and that is writing my poetry and my novels.. So my dreams are coming true.. yes there has been some hard times. but that's life right? .. I do love your hub..

sharing

Debbie


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btrbell 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

great hub! I agree wholeheartedly! Thank you for sharing!


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Wow, great hub! Thanks for those thoughts. I just hope I can remember them when I get there. :-) It won't be too long.


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I love the quote by Joan Rivers...that's how I feel about it. I don't even remember turning fifty. I guess I must have, right, since I'm so far past it now. LOL People like Michelle Pfeiffer are freaks of nature but God she is a beautiful woman.


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Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

Loved this Mary and will say this I am not there yet, but at least you gave me a bit to look forward to fifteen years from now. Thanks!!! Have of course voted way up and shared all over!!


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Mary,

I just turned 50 last November and I ran willingly into this decade.

First off, I hate to correct you, sweet thang but 50 is the new 30 and that makes 60 the new 40.

I celebrate every day that I am alive. I see others sick and dying way too young all around me and am so blessed. It would not dawn on me to be sorry for any age and wow, the discounts!!

Thank you for writing this because I certainly know folks who are traumatized by these milestones. You are helping others more than you know.

You look FABULOUS at your party, not surprising, pretty lady!

Voted UP and all across the board. Love, Maria


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ChitrangadaSharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

Wonderful hub, with good sense of humor. I am also on the wrong side of fifty. But I believe age is just a number. You are young, if you think like a young person...if you take care of yourself, so that there are no health issues.

Nice and interesting hub.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Yes, Deborah, its all about our dreams coming true...we can't ask for more than that!

You are most welcome btr!

You'll remember Victoria, its after you turn 50 you start forgetting ;)

Thank you Billy....looking at Michelle Pfeiffer is very difficult so it made me smile when you said she is a freak of nature! (Loved the Joan Rivers quote as well.)

Janine I have a feeling it will be a beautiful time for you!

Oh Maria--the most beautiful sound I ever heard, Maria...all the beautiful sounds of the world in a single word...Maria...need I say more! P.S. That picture was 15 years ago ;)

You are sooo right ChitrangadaSharan! Glad you enjoyed my take on the matter.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A great share my friend and I am now 54 years old but feel younger than I did when I was 34yrs or even 24yrs.I have to award this gem my special Up up and away!!! .

Enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

My congratulations goes to you my dear friend Eddy....for your happiness! Thanks for the vote. God bless.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

GF...I love Jamie Lee...she's so real and natural...and gorgeous at that! Fifty? Ha!.... That was a piece of cake, right, Til? Let's not go any further.....I have nothing more to say.....UP ++++


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bdegiulio 3 years ago from Massachusetts

I remember it well. It wasn't so bad after all. To celebrate we went to Italy. Could be worse! We may not be as young as we once were but we are infinitely wiser. Really enjoyed this Hub.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Oh GF, so much to say we have to keep quiet ;)

bdegiulio, how great..Italy? Definitely wiser my friend.


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

It is too early for me to contemplate about Turning Fifty, but I must share your tips with my mother.

What a wonderful work you have done here.


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LaserLipoNewYork 3 years ago from Long Island and Manhattan

Hi tillsontitan,

I just found your Hub on "gracefully turning fifty" and I couldn't agree more! Age is something to celebrate, not to be afraid of. It brings many advantages and benefits as you mentioned here, I agree wholeheartedly.

As a cosmetic surgeon, you probably wouldn't expect a response like this from me. I fully support anyone's choice to either leave their face and body to age as it will or to seek out ways to stay looking as young on the outside as they feel on the inside. That's the #1 reason why patients decide to have plastic surgery when it comes to age-related "sprucing up". I wrote a blog post here if you'd like to read more: http://globalgoodgroup.com/blog/2012/06/14/secrets...

I hope you will continue to touch on these topics, as there are many patients on the Internet looking for answers to their concerns with regards to aging.

Yours,

Dr. Emmanuel Asare


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thank you for reading and for the encouragement Dr. Asare.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Vinaya....someday you'll see what I mean ;)


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Be yourself, have enough sleep, exercise and age gracefully the key to a healthy age.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

A healthy life AND a healthy outlook DDE! Thanks for stopping by and commenting, it means a lot.


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

Great hub and inspirational too. I know exactly what I want to do when I turn 50 and have started saving my pennies so I can! BTW, you look great in your black dress dancing!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

You go girl! Thanks Glimmer but that pic was fifteen years ago ;)


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Docmo 3 years ago from UK

A-ha. Just the right tips for my aging soul. Whether I intend to take this trip gracefully or disgracefully ( always with a twinkle in my eye) I absolutely agree with your take. Its not that long before I shall enter this wonderful threshold and I hope and pray that I carry on feeling the way I do... curious, carefree and cheeky! Thank you Mary - who better to tell us how to do this than the one whose outlook is eternally youthful...


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Well I don't know how cheeky you are but I do know you're free with the compliments ;) I don't think you'll have a problem hitting 50, or 60 or more....you'll definitely do it with a twinkle in your eye.


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HoneyBB 3 years ago from Illinois

My 49th birthday is coming up but I thought I'd get a head start on knowing what to expect at 50. Thanks for all the encouraging words that tell me it won't be half as bad as many people make it out to be. Voted +++


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Sharyn's Slant 3 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

My 50th came and went this past April. It bothered me somewhat but in reality, it was really no big deal. And then I wrote a hub about all the senior discounts you can get ~ some beginning at 50, ha. I enjoyed this hub Mary!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Just another year Honey, with a lot of benefits people don't think about. Glad I could ease your fears ;)

Great idea Sharyn...I'll have to check out your hub.


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

I guess age is just but a number. It should be treated like another milestone, like you've suggested. Thanks for sharing!I am passing this on.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

I definitely think so Michelle. Thanks for the vote and visit!


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Anne Harrison 3 years ago from Australia

Thanks for an interesting hub. I always think of women like Grace Kelly or Audrey Hepburn, who prevued age is no barrier to elegance, style, or simply being a good person. Thanks again!


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Jools99 3 years ago from North-East UK

Mary, great hub - I turn 50 next June and plan to do it in some style! I am quite looking forward to it - 50 is just one day older than 49, yeah, but the party will be fun and my fiftieth will be a celebration :o)


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ImKarn23 3 years ago

lol..i remember getting a mug when i turned 40 - it read Fit & Fabulous..

oddly enough - i got another mug when i turned 50 - it said Hot & Flashy...sigh..(kinda close, yes?...haha)..

Personally - i'm just happy to be alive - considering the alternatives as Michelle Pheiffer says (and i've said forever..)..

Loved this empowering hub, Mary - you're right on the money - it's all in our heads! (god, jamie lee curtis is stunning - i don't believe she's had ANYTHING done, which is almost beyond belief considering the pressure in lalaland..Michelle, on the other hand - while gorgeous and confident - has definitely had LOTS of work done - which is fine, when done with confidence - and not desperation...)

voting up and sharing out, my friend..

All the best in the new year and alwaysxx


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HLPhoenix 3 years ago

Great Hub!!!! I've never understood the terror big birthdays appear to cause folks as they march ever closer... I've always felt that the alternative was unacceptable, and always wake up on my birthday, big or small, glad that I woke up, at all. :) Sharing.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Sorry I didn't reply sooner...away for a wedding, using my iPad.

Ann I like your comparison to elegant style, thanks for stopping by.

Jools, I think you will grace fifty and it will be a grrrreat celebration!

So, are you collecting mugs IM? True that both women I chose can represent different ends of the spectrum, but you see the point so beautifully! And a fantastic new year is wished for you GF!

Being glad to wake up is the best way to start any day...you are so right HL...thanks for stopping by!


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

Gee, I don't remember what it was like when I turned 50: it's been too long ago! I'm just thankful to be alive and energetic every day.

Great read. I enjoyed this one.

Hope you have a Happy New Year!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Aw, come on Mary, it isn't that bad ;) Glad you enjoyed and hope you have a Happy New Year as well.


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cleaner3 3 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

Mary , this is a thoughtful hub when you are as pold as me . I go about life as another day and as the years pass they are only a number too me. Oh well I will act my age one of these days.. Ha,ha.

love your write.

Michael


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Michael. I think men are less likely to react to any 'age'. ACTING your age is another story. My mother always told me to act my age....like you I think one of these days I will ;)


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kohuether 3 years ago from New Hampshire

Another great example of someone who is Fantastically Fifty is Tosca Reno, the body builder. She looks like she is in her 30's! I think it's all about attitude and taking care of yourself. It's something for me to strive for when the time comes!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Great addition to this hub Katherine! I have no doubt you'll hit fifty head on with style and grace.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

Great advice for any 'milestone' birthday or anniversary! I really think people are obsessed with numbers -- age, weight, clothing size, etc. Everyone needs to get past those things because they only define a person if that person allows them to do so. Voted up, useful, and beautiful. Will share with my followers in hopes they will take this excellent advice to heart!


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Sherry Hewins 3 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

I loved turning 50! I felt great and still looked pretty good. I've always embraced those milestone birthdays. I had a huge party when I turned 50. I hired one of my favorite musicians I loved in my youth to play and even got up and sang a song with him. It's a memory I'll always treasure. Now I'm on the downhill run to 60, I hope I can embrace my birthday with the same enthusiasm.

Ha, I like the quote from George Clooney "...the sexiest man still alive..."


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Seems I always agree with you Au fait! Numbers are just that, numbers and they have no reason to rule out lives. Thanks so much for the votes and share, so appreciated.

Sherry, way to go! Now, celebrate 60 the same way.


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sgbrown 3 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

It's all about attitude! We can either be depressed and moan about it, or we can simply celebrate another year that we are on this earth. I choose to celebrate! I remember being 30 something and wondering when I would feel like a real "grown up". Now I am 56 and wondering when I will feel like a "senior". Great hub! Voted up and awesome! :)


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Exactly sg ... Life is what we make it and that includes our views on aging. Thanks for the votes.

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