Wavy Hair or Straight Hair

Frizzy, straight or curly?

I hate my hair! Why can't it be like so and so's hair? That has been one of my biggest struggles in life - my hair. I was born with what is called dishwater blond hair (looks dirty, in other words). So since I was in junior high school, I have colored my hair ash or golden blonde.

Of course, coloring your own hair comes with a lot of surprises. Actually, depending on the brand of hair color, I have had lovely shades of green all the way to strawberry blonde! Now that I have gotten that under control (I always buy the same shade of the same brand), I still have hair that tends toward frizzy, especially since I live in Hawaii (humid and hot).


Which do you prefer?

My hair is naturally curly or in other words, it goes exactly where it wants to.

Whenever I have my hair trimmed, the beautician always has a fit when she sees how curly my hair goes after trimming the dead ends off and conditioning it. They always say I should just embrace my curly hair and enjoy it. But, my hair also has many cowlicks. There are certain areas on my scalp where I prefer the hair to go one way, but inevitably it will go the other way.

I have about three straightening irons, two curling irons, about five blow dryers, and all types of hair brushes. I have a whole shelf of shampoos, conditioners, de-frizzers, and other hair tonics that I have tried and in my eyes, they have failed. It is pretty insane.

The sad thing about all this is that all I want is straight hair. I look at others with their long straight hair and wish my hair would do that on its own. Why are we never satisfied with what we have?


I have heard that the Japanese have developed a hair straightening technique that is very successful, but when I suggest to the beautician that I want it, she says it will ruin my hair. So then I get nervous and don't do it.

I have also heard about the Brazilian Keratin Treatmentwhich is supposed to be very effective.


My dream hair!!

What's a girl to do? One time I decided to embrace my curls and actually thought if I had a permanent, at least then I could make the curls go the way I want them to. Wrong! That was a BIG mistake. I had a frizzy mess for about a year.

Sometimes to get my hair in the style I like, I wash, then blow dry, then straighten and then curl. What kind of madness is that?

At one time my hair started falling out - not too long ago. I decided it is better to have some hair than no hair. I got a shampoo Mane 'n Tail Shampoo (which is also for horses and dogs) and since then my hair has stopped falling (thank goodness).

What kind of hairstyle do you like best?

  • Curly
  • Straight
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I know I am just playing into the whole pressures of society thing, but a lady needs to feel good about herself when she goes out in public.

I am just looking for that perfect beautician who will read my mind, and give me the perfect haircut that will make it fall perfectly after I wash it. I know I am asking too much, but I will keep trying.

Great Video for Those with Curly Hair

I know there are some great products out there to help out with my dilemma. I will keep trying them until I find the right one for hot humid weather like we have almost year round here in Hawaii.


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

thanks, elayne! :) yeah, I do like to joke around a lot sometimes, :) its just my personality! Yes, some boys are just as particular about their hair just as women are! Funny, isn't it? :) LOL!

~Peace


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Your comments are hilarious peacegirl101. Some boys are just as vain as women. Peace.


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Hair is so beautiful! :) lol at least the females think so. Lol :)


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks Abhitheprince - I like your HP name and avatar. Glad you enjoyed my hair hub.


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Thanks, elayne. :) How I found out your real name was Ruth? Simple! No need for smarts there except learning to read! :) It said that on your profile! It says your real name is Ruth Elayne Kongaika. ( So sorry if I spelled it wrong. ) Aloha!

~peace =)


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

how did you find out my other name was ruth? peacegirl101 - you are pretty smart, I think (where did you find it?)


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Alright, elayne! :) How did I know what?

aloha

~peace


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Please call me elayne. That is my artist and writer name. Ruth is my Bible name. It was also my grandmother's name. How did you know?


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

You are welcome, Elayne. ( Do u want me to call you Elayne or Ruth? )

Aloha! :)


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Yes, thanks peacegirl101. Beauty is not only skin deep for sure.


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Thanks, All of us all need at least a little work on inner beauty, Good luck!!


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

so right peacegirl101 - need to work on the inside beauty too!


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

:-)


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Thank you elayne! Yes, and everybody has beautiful hair, including you. People have wavy, curly, and straight hair, black, brown, and blonde hair. Short, long, or in between. Hair is somthing that God gave us. And we should be thankful for it even if you aren't too crazy about your hair. And remember, the best kind of beauty is inner beauty. Not on the outside. But on the inside. Hope this helps! Aloha! :)


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

No problem peacegirl101 - we should be glad for others and I am for you. At least I have hair! It could be worse!!


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Sorry if I bragged a little too much.

Aloha!


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Thanks elayne! Good luck with your hair!! :)

Aloha!


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks for sharing peacegirl01. My hair is the pits some days, especially with the humidity here in Hawaii and also the trade winds. Glad you like your hair. I'm a little green, but I'll get over it.


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peacegirl101 6 years ago

Wow! This hub is one of the best hubs I've seen in a while! Great job! :D

I have dream hair ( to me it is anyway :) ) my hair is golden brown, long and smooth, and how can I say this? Half wavy half straight 50-50! I love my hair!!!!! Sorry about ur problem elayne, I hope u find ur dream hair soon!!!! :D ( this is a secret, I actually wish I was blonde. ) I always wanted to be blonde!!!! I love hairstyles and fashion too! I vote for straight hair.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks for the advice pmccray. I have actually entrusted my hair to what I thought were professionals, but have never been satisfied with the results, especially after spending a horrendous amount of money. That is why I am just trying to deal with it myself. Maybe I am too hard to please? I appreciate your comments.


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

I voted for neither style curly or straight. It depends on the contour of ones face. I personally use straightening products on my locks. Being black my particular hair texture is very very thick and curly.

Most of the time I will wear hair pieces, because my hair is now gray and I'm unable to use the straighter along with hair color(not even non-permanent). If I do so I suffer massive hair loss.

Contrary to popular belief, African American hair is actually delicate not coarse, and we must be careful of with what we use.

If I were you I'd spend a little money and entrust your curls to a professional. Maybe they can come up with a style/cut you'll be happy with in your hair's natural state. That way you can take care of it on your own.

Best of luck.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Glad you understand, but hope you have found a way to enjoy it most of the time. Thanks for commenting.


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FirstStepsFitness 6 years ago

Wow Great Hub ! I completely understand the dilemma , I have very thick , wavy hair . Of course since I color it now it's really dry . High humidity and it's rare here but when it comes it frizzes out in volume .


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks for adding your experience with your nieces Alta5656. I guess it is better to by soft than look stern. Sometimes we try to look like others, when we would do well to be happy with what we are blessed with.


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Alta5656 6 years ago from Davao City, Philippines

I have a dozen nieces with wavy hair.. They try to change their looks by having their hair "straightened" via beauty salons. They looked different alright, but it seemed to erased the "soft" look on their faces or appearance. They look "stern", but this may be not the right term.. The wavy light hair still suit them, well, at least to me. But if they feel happy with their new look, then, let it be..


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

I'm all for trading CASE1WORKER - if only hehe

Thanks M. Rose - You have experienced the humidity of Hawaii then so you understand - that makes me feel better. But I'll keep trying nevertheless.


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M. Rose 6 years ago from Orange County, CA

I feel you on this one for sure! I've got wavy, thick hair + cowlicks so I know how tough it can be. You're very brave for attempting straight hair in Hawaii...when I vacation in Hawaii, I don't even bother straightening my hair because it unstraightens itself by the afternoon! Great hub :)


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CASE1WORKER 6 years ago from UNITED KINGDOM

I COULD LEND YOU SOME STRAIGHTNESS FOR A LITTLE CURLY- EVEN A LITTLE WOULD BE GOOD!


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks Pamela99. Thanks for sharing your hair secrets with us. Glad you have come to terms with it.

@Research Analyst - It would be great if we could just always wear our hair how we want, either curly or straight. I guess there are wigs - but they are so hot and heavy. We should just be glad we have hair at all. We may not in a few years.


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Research Analyst 6 years ago

To me wavy hair is so pretty, and straight hair can be nice and chic for special occasions.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Elayne, Great hub. I have curly and sometimes frizzy hair so I know exactly what you mean. I just keep it fairly short, use good conditioning products and accept this is the best its going to get.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Gee, dreamreachout - I agree with you about the straight hair - that is my dream for sure.

@GojiJuiceGoodness - Glad you don't worry about hair - it is pretty pathetic isn't it? Glad you love your naturally curly hair.

So PegCole17 - I would love to move to Texas - but can't think of another reason to go there rather than my hair would be straight. I know my hair sits pretty nicely in Utah - I blow it dry and it actually stays the way I blow it. I would be willing to make a trade if it were possible. At least for a while....


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PegCole17 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

This is exactly what keeps salons in business. Many many years ago I was a hair stylist. Nearly everyone wants a hairstyle that they don't have. If it's curly, people want it straight and vice versa. I did men's hair when they were getting perms in the 70s! And for men who wanted to look like Rod Stewart (when his hair was long and beautiful). I bet those guys are wearing the Howie Mandell (shaved) look by now.

Best advice I can give you is move to a climate like Texas where the air is dry and hair goes completely straight. I'm really thinking about getting a perm today. Just tired of the limp, fine, nothing hair I have. Wanna trade? hahaha


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GojiJuiceGoodness 6 years ago from Roanoke, Virginia

Very interesting. I've never been one to worry much about my hair. I've had long hair for years, but I wanted my hair to be curly, not just kinky. So, I cut it about shoulder length so it can curl naturally & I love it.

To me, curly hair is just perfect--my sister-in-law has really curly hair & she's a dirty-blond color & I think it looks great.


dreamreachout 6 years ago

Straight hair is more beautiful and manageable!! Maybe, oiling and oil treatment could help hair straight up in the long run!!


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thank you Pollyannalana - I used to have hot rollers, but it is so dang hot already and I am worried about damaging my hair further. I will try to look for the oil though. I found the Mane 'n Tail shampoo and conditioner in the aisle for African American hair and I am really happy with it. I appreciate your help.


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Pollyannalana 6 years ago from US

My mom's hair was so thick and so dry I started trying oils meant for African American women I think, there is one called pink ,,something. Its in a pink bottle and sold in that section for hair. It also works for me if I use just a few drops, blot my hair with towel, then comb through, but leave pretty wet, shiny and manageable. Hot rollers do help for a smooth soft look when you have time.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks LianaK. I understand totally how you feel. Hoping you have a great hair day - soon.


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LianaK 6 years ago

I sure do know about wavy hair :). Gotta love all the products that we buy to make our hair smooth or curly. Great hub and hope that my hair learns how to do what I want it to do.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

At least it is comforting to know that I am not alone. Thanks Hello, hello.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

I know what you are talking about. I have curly hair and it is a headache the moment the weather is damp.


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elayne001 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains Author

Thanks for commenting VioletSun. Glad you have found style that works for you. When I am in Utah, where my family is from, my hair goes much straighter and is more manageable, but the humidity here is the problem.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

I have very curly hair so can relate to you. I tried for years to have straight hair, but the minute I stepped out in the high humidity of New York, my hair would get frizzy. Here in the Oregon weather, my hair behaves better but have to spend hours to get a straight do, so I now use hot rollers on occasion to create smooth waves, which my s/o and friends like.

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