Fashionista or Trendsetter? Create Your Own Style, Make Your Own Fashion

Make Your Own Fashion

Big glasses suit me and I like not having to squint through a tiny frame.
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Fashionista or Trendsetter?

Are you a fashionista, or a trendsetter? Or do you march to the beat of your own drum when it comes to fashion as well as other things?

First of all, what exactly is a trendsetter?

A trendsetter is someone who influences fashion and introduces new fashion and fads.

Fashionista: A term used to define a woman with a penchant for shopping and a natural flair for combining both current and vintage fashionable trends, (Jimmee).

Personally, I like to wear clothes that are comfortable and that suit my lifestyle and my figure. So many times I have seen women bowing to the latest fashion who look sallow and sickly in the current season’s colors, or who look ridiculous, even pathetic, in the latest fashions.

Just my opinion, but I think women in their 50s and 60s, even when they are in great physical condition, look undignified and almost comical in micro mini skirts. Please ladies, dress your age. There is no need to look dowdy or frumpy just because you are a little older. At the same time, when choosing to wear the latest fashion, you also need to adapt that current fashion to your lifestyle and make it age appropriate. Wearing clothes that are too youthful only emphasizes the fact that you are getting on in age instead of making you look younger. Lots of older women dress fashionably and age appropriately, and look fabulous!

Coco Chanel --
I don't do fashion, I am fashion (Khurana)

It is funny to me how many people try to determine a woman’s age by the way she dresses. Not everyone chooses to let other people dictate their style and fashion for them. There is nothing wrong with following fashion trends and dressing in the current fashion if it suits you, but be aware that not everyone cares about whatever the fashion world is promoting at any given time. Not everyone follows the latest fashion religiously.

As it happens, I love the large framed glasses that were popular in the 80s and that are still available though in fewer selections than back then. Lots of people do not seem to be aware that it is still possible to find the large spectacle frames, but they are still currently available, though in more limited options.

Because it is so hard for me to find frames for my glasses that I really like, and because my lenses are so expensive, I always try to buy at least 2 sets of frames when I get new lenses. That way if a frame breaks I do not have to try to find another frame that my expensive lenses will fit into, and that may not be to my liking. Or worse, throw my expensive lenses away and get new ones to fit easier to obtain frames. My glasses tend to cost in the area of $600 to $800 a pair mainly because of the lenses, so I really do not want to have to discard the lenses if I can help it.

Another advantage of extra frames with no lenses is that they make taking pictures a lot easier. When I know I am going to have my picture taken I switch my regular glasses that reflect light off the lenses and create glare, making the photographers job much more difficult, for the frames with no lenses, so that there is no reflection of light, and therefore no glare from the camera flash or the light source.

I have always been a person who buys in multiples when I find something I really like, and when I can afford to do that. I’m especially finicky about my shoes. Unlike Imelda Marcos who bought shoes by the dozens in every style and color known to man, I buy only a few pairs of shoes as necessary for various activities. When I find a pair of shoes that I really like, if I can afford it, I buy several pair exactly alike so that when one pair wears out I will still have several more pair. There is no telling when that particular shoe will be manufactured again in the future and making do with whatever happens to be the latest style until I can find a suitable replacement does not appeal to me.

Since my taste in clothes tends to run to the classic, when I find for example, some camp shirts that I really like, I buy them in as many colors as suit my skin, eye, and hair coloring. For a while I had more than 125 camp shirts in different colors and patterns. I do the same thing with sweaters and other items with classic styling that I know I will wear a lot and that will stand the test of time.

The Perfect Jeans

Everyone knows how difficult it is to find jeans that fit just right. When I do find the perfect jeans I buy as many pairs of them as I can reasonably afford. In the long run it saves tons of time searching for just the right fitting jeans every few months. Some people have oodles of time for shopping, but I really do not have a lot of time, so I like to stock up on things I know I will need and use for years to come, when I finally find just the right thing.

Who Do You Dress For?

Something I have read many times over the years is that women do not dress for men, but that women dress for other women. Presumably to impress other women with how fashion conscious they are and how much money they have to dedicate to the pursuit of always wearing the latest fashion. I do neither. I dress to please myself. As previously stated, I like clothes that look good on me, and that are comfortable, and appropriate to the situation or activity.

I have never felt the need to wear extremely revealing clothes. Believe me, unless you are wearing a rain barrel on straps, men are very good at determining the shape and condition of your body, and their eyes usually miss very little. No need to bare all, and in fact that will usually get you the wrong kind of attention and remove any mystery. Men do love mystery, but that is a subject for another hub.

Be An Original

Dare to be yourself and develop your own fashion style. After all, the women I have listed below did not become famous because they were carbon copies of other people. They are originals.

Here is what a few famous women who make their own fashion and set their own style have said in the past:

“You have to be unique, and different, and shine in your own way.”

― Lady Gaga (Good Reads)

“I'm obsessively opposed to the typical.”

― Lady Gaga (Good Reads)

Yves Saint Laurent: 
Fashions fade, style is eternal. (Khurana)

Yves Saint Laurent:
 Over the years I have learned that what is important in a dress is the woman who is wearing it. (Khurana)

Quentin Crisp:
 Fashion is what you adopt when you don't know who you are. (Khurana)

Just a few women who made/make their own fashion statements: Lady Gaga, Madonna, Cher, Elizabeth Taylor, and Marilyn Monroe.


Barnard, Christopher. “Cher’s One-of-a-Kind Fashion Legacy.” Vanity Fair 2 November 2010. Online. Internet 5 November 2011. Available

Chernikoff, Leah. “Elizabeth Taylor’s Most Outrageous Fashion Statements.” Fashionista. 23 March 2011. Online. Internet 5 November 2011. Available

Good Reads, Inc. 2011. “Lady Gaga Quotes.” Online. Internet 5 November 2011. Available

Jimmee. “Fashionista.,” Urban Dictionary. 26 October 2006: Online. Internet 5 November 2011. Available

Khurana, Simran. “Famous Fashion Quotes.” About.Com guide. Online. Internet 5 November 2011. Available

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Au fait 22 months ago from North Texas Author

Besarien, thank you for reading and commenting on this article, and I must tell you I think it's sad too, when little girls aren't allowed to be little girls even when they think they want to grow up faster. When my daughter was about 6 there was a little girl of 8 living next door who wore full makeup to school, eye liner/shadow and the works. I don't much care for the beauty pageants they have for little girls either.

Just about as sad are the old ladies in their late 60s and 70s who want to dress like 20a again. You probably aren't old enough to know the sexy 60s with the G0-Go boots and micro mini skirts . . . how lucky you are that you never saw Grandma dressed up this way! Thanks for the vote!

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Besarien 22 months ago

Voted up! All great advice! I think the other end of the spectrum should be taught to dress age appropriately as well. I hate seeing eleven year old girls dressed like thirty year old singles at happy hour. I'm going to sing now. "Mothers, don't let your daughters dress up to scare cowboys..."

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Au fait 22 months ago from North Texas Author

Peggy W, thank you for commenting and sharing this article. I'm glad to see the Europeans are going to be more sensible about body size than the fashion industry has been so far. I prefer practical comfortable clothing myself -- guess I'm getting old . . . :)

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Peggy W 23 months ago from Houston, Texas

I heard on the news recently that in the UK models who are too thin have been banned from working the runway. Interesting! Not only can few people wear those clothes but they are taking a stand against no longer promoting an abnormal body image as what happens with anorexia patients. Kudos to them! These days, as I mentioned 2 years ago, comfort takes precedence over keeping up with the latest fashions. Sharing this again.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you Shyron, for voting on, sharing and pinning this hub! I think people should be more creative and individualistic when it comes to fashion and décor. Not everyone looks good in the latest fashion. I have seen women who looked ridiculous or disgusting in mini skirts and I have seen women who looked horrible in the latest cosmetic colors. Needless to say, everybody who wears their pants (jeans, etc.) around their thighs with their underwear showing looks ignorant at best. Sorry, but sometimes the truth hurts. Can you imagine having to waddle away from a dog chasing you with your pants down around your knees?? Some women are starting to adopt this fashion statement (?) too.

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Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

Au fait, I don't know how I managed to miss this hub. I thought I read every hub that you have written and I missed this one. Good grief! I am slipping.

Voted up, UAI, will share and pin this.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you moonlake, for pinning this hub!

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moonlake 3 years ago from America

Thought I would visit this again and pin it to my style board.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Appreciate your stopping by Sara, but URLs are not allowed in comments, especially when they are being used to promote other sites, etc. So I hope you will understand that I had to delete your comment. :)

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Nicole S, Thank you for stopping by!

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you Peggy W for reading, commenting, and sharing your views on this subject, . . . voting on, and sharing this hub! I think as some women get older they realize what is important.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

ytsenoh, thank you for reading and commenting on this hub! Very much appreciate your sharing your thoughts. I don't like to be a slave to the fashion industry nor am I interested in keeping up with the Jones', or looking like everyone else, only perhaps not quite so good because the latest fashion colors make me look sallow or muddy. I think it's important to be true to oneself. Thanks again for your input.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you tillsontitan for reading, commenting, and voting on this hub. Agree with everything you said in both comments, which are showing here.

I have noticed a lot of strange technical type things happening on this site. I have noticed other people complaining about some of them too, but like everyone else, I have no explanation.

Very much appreciate your taking the time both times to leave your thoughts on this subject. One way you can tell if I have responded to your comment (I'm sorry I'm so slow, I have 33 more waiting right now), is that I usually read and comment on one of yours just before I respond to the one you left. One of the reasons it takes me so long is that I try to always read and comment on a hub of the person who left a comment on one of my hubs and that takes on average (for me) about 20 minutes each comment.

Your comments do indeed add more value to this hub and my slowness is a result of all the other obligations I have, not a reflection of anything at all about Hubpages, or the great hubbers here.

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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Wierdness always seems to happen to me. I got a notification you had posted a comment to this hub and yet when I got here, my comment was missing! Really?

This was a great hub and I certainly follow my own fashion style. I can remember years ago seeing 60 year old women with mini-skirts and thigh high boots...not a good thing. Best fashion advice is do what's best for you.

Voted up, useful,, and interesting as always.

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you mperrottet for reading, commenting, voting on, and sharing this hub! Glad to hear that you make fashion work for you instead of it controlling you. I have no problem with people who try to follow fashion and have the latest thing so long as they really enjoy it and it works for them, but sometimes people feel obligated or pressured to keep up even when it may not suit them or make their lives more enjoyable.

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Nicole S 3 years ago from Minnesota

Beautiful hub, I love the quotes!

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ytsenoh 3 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

Great hub of useful advice. Use your own imagination and have your own style--differentiate yourself from others so you are unique. You are correct in saying a person should dress for him or herself; it indicates you're comfortable with yourself. Working on setting your own style with anything on your person is kin to setting your own traditions. Think of all the women who wear or wore pointy toed shoes because it was so trendy, even when they hurt very much to walk in....made no sense to me. Thumbs up and thanks.

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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Seriously, who can really wear what's on the runway besides runway models? No matter your age, as you point out, you really have to be realistic. I like your idea of buying multiples when you find something you like. I know I've been disappointed many times when I go back to buy another pair of jeans that they no longer make!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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mperrottet 3 years ago from Pennsauken, NJ

I'm with you - I dress to please myself, and I also by multiples when I run across something I really like. Great hub - voted up, useful and interesting and sharing.

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Peggy W 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

I like your attitude about clothing styles. There is something nice about getting older and knowing yourself a bit better. My old clothes that are comfortable suit me just fine. I no longer see the need to rush out and try to dress in this year's fashions or colors. After year they will be different. That is how they make money. I would rather be comfortable and wear colors that I like. You won't find me in tall spiky high heels and mini skirts...that is for sure! Not only would I look ridiculous but I would probably kill myself trying to walk in them. Ha! Up, useful and sharing this hub with others. Good tip about the glasses frames with no lenses in them for photography!

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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you moonlake, for reading/commenting, and voting on this hub! Yes, photos/pictures turn out so much better of a person who wears glasses if they wear frames with no lenses just for the picture. Makes it so much easier on the photographer too. It doesn't hurt to have an extra pair of frames either in case one's regular frames get damaged or broken.

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moonlake 3 years ago from America

What a good idea about getting your picture taken with glasses on. My glasses are getting thicker and thicker and makes me look like I have beady eyes.

I wish I had bought many pairs of jeans because now they don't make my jeans in the sizes I was buying.

Enjoyed reading your hub. You're right about create your own style. Voted up.

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Au fait 5 years ago from North Texas Author

Thanks again Alecia, for reading my hub, and contributing to the conversation.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I think this is interesting and I agree with you. I'm a recent college graduate but I've never really been into a lot of trends. Some shapes are helpful but I can't wear everything on the runway. I think it's more about developing who you are and expressing it through your style of dress. I'm like you, I tend toward more classic styles that can fit any situation. Great hub!

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Au fait 5 years ago from North Texas Author

Thank you Jonny, for taking the time to read my hub, make comments, and for your kind compliment . . .

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Jonny windows 5 years ago from u.k.

i too like your large frame glasses , very seXy !

good idea to buy in multiples too , if the shoe fits.....

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