Precious Men's Panties

A man's panties are precious. Women may sometimes fail to understand the importance of panties to a man who loves to wear lingerie, because to us women, panties are really a practical item of every day existence. Sure, they can be used for appealing effect, and it is certainly true that not all panties are created equal, but nevertheless, panties are, for most women, just panties.

For a man however, panties can be much more. If he wears panties because he likes to feel feminine, then panties can act as physical, material conduits to feelings within himself of softness and femininity. Without them he feels bare and masculine. Alone with his own body it is more difficult to access the cascading feelings of joyful well being which come when he dons his panties.

We can all relate to putting on nice clothes and feeling good. Well, the same applies to men who wear panties and other items of women's lingerie. The panties aren't mere scraps of cloth, they represent a part of his personality, of who he is.

Interestingly enough, it is often for this reason that women object to the men in their lives wearing panties. It is not the panties that the woman really dislikes, but the creature which her mate becomes when he is in his panties. When a man feels differently, he behaves differently, and it is possible that the softer gentler male is not what the lady in his life is looking for.

Fortunately with a little bit of time and just a skerrick of mutual understanding, these issues can often be overcome. People are multi-faceted beings, and to expect the one you spend your life with to behave within the confines of some imagined role is a recipe for disaster at the best of times. That's a sword that cuts both ways.

Men can sometimes feel guilty for wearing lingerie quite independent of women of course. The self is usually the harshest judge (unless you're an American Idol contestant,) and many men are quite capable of independently whipping up a storm of self recrimination and loathing large enough to consume them. At these times, a man often purges his panty collection, throwing them away. Of course, what he is really trying to throw away isn't the panties, it's a part of himself, a part less easily stuffed at the bottom of the trash can. For this reason I recommend that men never throw away a lingerie collection. It's a waste of time and money and it can never achieve the goal they want it to achieve.

The solution, of course, is to simply relax and accept oneself for who one is. An interesting creature, walking the gender lines with the alacrity of an acrobat. One moment, totally masculine, the next bathing in the warm waters of the feminine. Yes, you really can have both.

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Comments 9 comments

Cyndie_D 7 years ago

So true,so true. Nicely said - thanks

Cyndie


NicoleAnn3 7 years ago

Thanks hon I wish more woman would read this and try to understand us CD


phil 7 years ago

i agree. men are so fragile. They have this concept that to be pantied or pretty is demeaning. And many women think the same way. But we are who we are. In a way,lingerie is look but don't touch for men. I say this because lingerie is designed to appeal to men in the first place. And often designed by men. as you commented women have grown up with full access to frills and bows and kind of take it for granted. Sadly fem has lost out in the gender equality field. Although i admit to being a sissy, i feel that women themselves have been led astray in their attempts at equality. I do believe that they are fully entitled to equal pay and rights,but giving up femineity seem a high price to pay for it. Sadly it seems a woman in male attire is still percieved as powerful and in fem attire weak. I am a child of the late 40s,early 50s and i do so miss the darling fem outfits.


kfsteve391 7 years ago

I love how nice the ladies look in their lingerie. I want to look that way, so I wear the same thing. My thongs and panties are the sexiest and most feminine I can find. I get so much pleasure wearing them knowing that I look as sexy as the ladies.


Manny aka indrag13 7 years ago

Hope, you got this pretty accurate, you sound as if you were talking about me. My girlfriend has said to me that I act differently also when I have on lingerie. It's not intentional, maybe I just enjoy the femininity? I do love panties, esp lace ones. I think it makes my day feel so much better.


ILoveLingerie 7 years ago

You can really put things to (virtual) paper.

You can look into our hearts and minds, Hope!


Wren 7 years ago

As you so elliquoently put it, all clothes are merely fabric. Pants used to belong to men...we mow accept women wearing them. Panties for men!

Viva La Revolution!


Suzy31 7 years ago

I love your last paragraph, which perfectly sums up my feelings. Remember the old Peter Paul commercial: sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't? Well, sometimes I feel girly, sometimes I don't, and the panties, etc. have a lot to do with that feeling. I have known transexuals who have made the transformation and so are skewed entirely in one direction, and I have known crossdressers who seem to think they can't have one persona without rejecting the other.

Personally I embrace both my masculinity and femininity. I think that proclivity is what is most confusing to people encountering the cross dressing phenomenon. We often accept complexities in our own personalities but in others we're more comfortable pinning them into a role we have assigned them. And when that other person is a cross dresser, he must want to be a woman full time, or at the very least, he's trying to attract another man.

My dream, and what keeps me walking that tightrope, is to be able to work in an environment wearing a skirt, heels, wig, makeup etc. and where people know I'm a man but accept my cross dressing and accept me as a feminized male, and therefore as something kind of a special.


Niqqi 7 years ago

Oh, your second paragraph is so spot on. There's just something so special about the word "panties". Does anyone wonder like I do if wearing panties would still be as cool if they were called something else? I know Shakespeare, I believe it was, said a rose by any other name would still smell so sweet, but what's a rose compared to panties?

There you go, Hope, you got me thinking about the panties and slip I will wear this evening when I get home instead of the work I need to do right now.

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