Improve Male Personality to Be Handsome

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Any man can benefit from the 10 skills on how to become more attractive to women - skills previously perhaps overlooked, yet so simple to learn and easy to implement.

First Impressions

What do women see when they first meet you? What is the first-time impression you make? On first impression, only looks can count - we shall deal with your personality later. The first thing to do is to find out what you really look like to outsiders, to someone who has never met you before. Having taken that step back, you are able to select and evaluate certain areas of your appearance that could be improved. We are not talking about fashion or cosmetics here. The process of learning these 10 skills is a positive journey to better yourself in all aspects of your physical behavior and mental attitude. Incorporate them in your daily routine and lifestyle, later they will become automatic and will have improved your whole personality. To this end we must first improve your self-observation skills.

Observation And Self Confidence

Take a few videos of yourself and observe. At the two extremes, the same man can look either like a worn out, depressed, "given-up-type" loser, or he can look happy, victorious, optimistic, strong and open to life's challenges. The size and mass of his body will also be found somewhere between those two choice margins of being fit and handsome or an unattractive slob. The good news is that you are in control of your body, your looks, and your self-image. Before you can find the confidence to change, it is necessary to identify the areas you are not happy about. This can be achieved through objective, self-observation. In short, if you don’t like a part of your looks or personality, then you can change that. For situations not covered in this article, feel free to leave a question in the comments section.

What Is Attractive to a Woman?

With a well-defined jaw line, wide shoulders, beautifully tanned smooth skin, and an irresistible strong neck that women like to kiss, any man who goes to the gym can soon look like a male poster model. But is that really what women want? Most poster models are gay anyway. Men seem to keep their best specimen to themselves. A real transformation worthy of a woman's love needs to go far beyond a six pack. How do you stand, how do you move? What does your voice sound like? Are you funny? Do you care? Have you got guts, courage? Are you going to be a good dad? The following 10 skills will help you get closer to being her charming prince.

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2. Style of Moving

People go to the gym to gain muscle and lose weight, but how do they move? Are you a good mover? Or are you ungraceful and clumsy? Again, moving well can be learned from a basic understanding of

  • gravity
  • planes of motion
  • breathing
  • flow
  • anticipation and reaction
  • timing

and many other factors that determine your style of moving. Observe your daily movement habits. Which are the most pleasant, which are the most uncomfortable?

Perhaps when you stretch on waking up? When you run? Or having sex? Which movements most displease you? Driving? Climbing stairs? Sitting at the computer for hours? Examine your daily movement patterns and eliminate (if possible) or replace the nasty ones with better moves. Go dancing. Copy moves from others that you like. Imagine you are Brad Pit walking down the street and you will become him (to a certain extent). Learn to move adroitly, smoothly, economically, and gracefully (least effort for greatest output). Study the true meaning of body language and the overwhelming importance of facial expression.

Facial exercises are as useful for the face as fitness exercises are for the body. Don't bypass this important part of looking after yourself. Buy my book.

3. Facial Fitness and Expression

Everyone makes faces at themselves in the mirror but that image you see of yourself is too familiar. Your mirror image is the opposite of how others see you. We are so used to seeing our face in the mirror that we do not notice its slowly acquired lack of symmetry. In all things beautiful and healthy, symmetry and balance are critical assets. How to correct symmetry?

Use two mirrors at 90 degrees to each other, or even easier, use a 3 way mirror to see the real you as seen by others. Or take a video recording of your face in action. One eye smaller, one eyebrow higher, a mouth corner drooped etc.

Now that you have identified those imbalances in your face you can begin re-training them back into place with targeted facial exercises to regain facial tone and symmetry in the face. What does your handsome face say when it speaks? How is the tone and mood of your voice? C'est Le ton qui fait la musique!


4. Tone of Voice

A main distinction between men and women is in the voice. There is nothing more pleasant and re-assuring for a woman than to listen to her loved one’s voice gently whispering kind words into her ear. When at the negotiating table, a man’s voice should be firm and decisive, yet courteous and generous, open for comments. Test your voice by recording it and find out what you like or don’t like about it, then correct it to your liking. Sing in the car to work, or at any other permissible opportunity. Changing habits is easier and more fun than you think. Before long your voice will be much more to your liking.


5. Hair Style - Please Don’t Shave Your Head

What is hair for? We grow hair to protect the body against the cold. It’s as simple as that. A cat left outside in the winter cold grows thicker fur to keep him warm. Like a plant, hair needs light and air to grow.

Or put it another way, if you cover your head with a hat all the time, your body thinks it doesn’t need to grow any hair. So when a hat takes over the function of hair (to protect your skull), hair growth becomes redundant and ceases to operate. Bald men have inherited centuries of hat-wearing and are losing their hair. Is hair on male heads becoming a rarity? Is human male head hair soon going to be extinct?

Receding Hairline over 2 Generations

Genetic resemblance of a grand-father and grandson at the same age. Observe Tomi's further receding hairline.
Genetic resemblance of a grand-father and grandson at the same age. Observe Tomi's further receding hairline. | Source

The two pictures above show Occi and his grandsonTomi at around the same age. Look at Tomi's further receding hairline. Please, boys, don’t shave your heads. Shaving your head eliminates one of your potentially most attractive features. Keep your hair on as women love to gently stroke it with their fingers when they love you.

What about Beards?

Having to shave may be man's sacrifice for not having periods. While some well-groomed beards may enhance the shape of a double-chinned jawline, a smooth face is more attractive to most women. Plus, groomed beards take longer to maintain than to simply shave. A well groomed beard may be taken as a sign of vanity, but if you insist, watch the next video.

Beard Grooming Tips

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Do You think You Are A Handsome Man?

  • Yes, I am as tall, strong, happy, and handsome as I shall ever be.
  • No, I don't feel handsome. I believe I can improve my looks.
  • Sometimes I feel handsome, while at other times I feel ugly.
  • I like certain parts of me while others I hate.
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6. Beautiful Eyes

For eyes to look good, they must also function well. With the Bates method for Better Eyesight Without Glasses, you can do eye exercises to prevent visual impairment in the future and to widen and sharpen your eyes. Your eyes can become friendly, focused, clear and bright, all by training them to be most efficient and expressive.

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Characteristics

Now that you are better equipped to become physically attractive, find out which character traits will make your personality match your looks. There are four more skills to learn.

7. Empathy

Do you like animals, nature, life, children? Do you care about anything else but your looks? Can you put yourself into someone else’s shoes? Gallantry, empathy and helpfulness, as part of your body language and general demeanor, can go a long way towards making you a more attractive man.

8. Courage

Are you willing to take risks? Would you go out of your way to help an old lady across the road? Would you dive into the river to save someone from drowning? Do you have the courage to defend your point of view, even if it is politically or socially considered “incorrect”? With fun-to-use fitness equipment like a gravity inversion table or a yoga swing, you can train to be more courageous. Once your are confident to take risks with such safe and sound pieces of fitness equipment, your character too will loosen up and become more daring.

9. Curiosity and Intelligence

Are you open to new ideas? Many couples grow apart because one partner has decided to stop growing mentally. Never stop questioning the myths and dogmas put into place by history and by mainstream media.

Learning new things every day keeps you young and alert. For example, try a new way of playing Sudoku with colors instead of numbers to feed your curious hungry brain with new puzzles to solve. Use it or lose it.

Play Color Sudoku now for free!
Play Color Sudoku now for free! | Source

10. Honesty and Humility

And lastly, be honest and humble. Don't tell lies as they will only draw you, and those you lie to, deeper into confusion. Be humble, admit the errors of your ways by being the best that you can become every day. Please don’t be a control freak! Women too have a brain to think for themselves, and feelings in their hearts. Be open to their views. Strive for perfection, recognizing that you will never be the best in the world and be happy with your lifelong progress.

A Liar Will Always Be Found Out

Lying is a road towards self confusion and losing reality.
Lying is a road towards self confusion and losing reality. | Source

To Sum Up

With external issues like

1. posture and body language

2. style of moving

3, facial fitness and expression

4. tone of voice

5. good hairstyle

6. beautiful eyes


Plus the personality traits of

7. empathy

8. courage

9. curiosity and intelligence

10. honesty and humility to top it all,

you have ten 10 skills to improve your looks and personality forever. Training towards perfection in all areas of your being improves your performance. Even if perfection is, as we all know, never attained, it is the process that counts. As soon as you start on your journey to self-improvement, the rewards of your diligent efforts will immediately become visible in your appearance, your behavior, your karma, and, most importantly, your health and happiness.

PS: You may have noticed, there is not a word said on fashion in “10 Skills to Improve a Man's Looks and Personality”. Fashion fads don't make a man. Just dress clean and comfortable, suited to your mood and the occasion.

Good luck, put your questions and share your progress in the comments to learn from many other guys who are in the same boat, trying to be more attractive to the opposite sex.

Useful Links

Decompress your Body with Gravity Inversion

Lose Weight with the Sneaky Fast Plan

How to Read your Date's Body Language

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Comments 15 comments

Dardan 24 months ago

wow, thanks a lot, this can show me how to look better and still stay in the friend zone


SHIYON 2 years ago

Give me ur hands..u r right

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Sue Adams 2 years ago from Andalusia Author

You are welcome Dilip. You're cool when you are happy with your own progress.


dilip 2 years ago

I was feeling ,i m not the guy for talking to new ones nd be the cool guy...but after reading these tips I really feel confident towards the future,nd thanks for the tips!!!


Crystal Eye Candi 2 years ago

Love that you mentioned empathy. Basically, a man with a pure, loving and sensitive heart masked by a "tough" exterior is one of the most attractive combinations you can achieve. Don't be afraid to be loving. But don't walk around trying to impress.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hello, Sue

I voted you up and away for this story. It was informative, interesting, and very colorful. Rats! If I had only had this piece back in the day. Sigh.

I left you some fan mail, and now following you.

Now if you would, I cordially invite you to check out a hub or two of mine and then be one of my followers.

I would sincerely appreciate that so much.

Kenneth/ from northwest Alabama


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Sue Adams 3 years ago from Andalusia Author

Life is one long fruitful road towards never achieved perfection.


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bat115 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

I'm always trying to improve myself. Thanks for the tips!


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ajwrites57 3 years ago from Pennsylvania

You are welcome to well deserved comments! Older men--not me :o) - would really benefit from your tips to reinvent or reinvigorate themselves and their image.


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Sue Adams 3 years ago from Andalusia Author

Hi ajwrites57,

I am very flattered by your comment. Keep self improving for great results.


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ajwrites57 3 years ago from Pennsylvania

Sue Adams...Wow! Very nicely expressed and very thought provoking! I like how you call them skills--like a sport--they need to be practiced. All 10 of these skills men take for granted or at worst ignore. Wonder what would happen if men took these to heart and worked on just a few of them? Well, I gtg--I need to practice my Brad Pitt walk and practice a few of your suggestions. (Seriously, you should write an ebook about these, Sue Adams--or some kind of handbook.) Thanks so much!


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Sue Adams 4 years ago from Andalusia Author

Than you for your comment Eswar. What you say about attitude is so true.


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eswar 4 years ago from India

Nice hub, excluding the lots and lots of beauty accessories that are available in the market for both men and women, being beautiful, handsome is a matter of attitude not a calendar age that you can fix it as and when you want. It is our consciousness of life, youth, and joy that determines this. we must create an interest to love ourself first then must create within ourselves a love o life; we must not be content to watch life go by; but we must be willing to take part in it. Very good hubs you got Sue, i am much interested on the topics you picked, will pull me back here ;-)


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Sue Adams 4 years ago from Andalusia Author

How well you understand Ms Dora. The trouble is getting the guys to reveal their feelings, even to themselves, as you can see from the very few comments left here so far while stats show many reads. hmmm, interesting!


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

Can't vote, since I'm not a man, but I know the men will find this hub very useful and interesting. Your message is clear: "Handsome" on the inside is the foundation for "handsome" on the outside.

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