Maybe This is Hurting Your Chances to Find Love.

Are Cell Phones Present on Your Dates?

Remember the days when we had to stop at a pay phone to call our friends? Then Pagers came out, wow, what a cool idea! Now when someone is trying to get a hold of us we will know immediately then all we have to do is find a pay phone and call them back at the number they just left. Now we have smart phones and the ultimate iPhones came out. They have all the features and you don't even need to type your text messages anymore. The problem is when we become so reliant on them that we forget the important things in life such as real face to face conversation or at the very least a phone call so you can hear the other persons voice.

When will it end?
When will it end?

Ever Been Interrupted?

How many times have you been talking to someone face to face and their phone buzzes or the familiar text tone sounds off and immediately they look down to see who it is and start reading the text? Worse yet they start texting them back and then look up and say "Huh". Now the person right in front of them now becomes second to their phone conversation so they entirely ignore you and what you're saying. I know it sounds crazy but have you ever tried to go somewhere and deliberately left your cell phone at home? If not you should try it sometime, you'll have better conversation, enjoy the scenery more and best of all you'll realize that we really don't need technology...it needs us. Don't get me wrong I am pro technology but when I look at my $200 cell phone bill I always wonder if I could go back to the days of a regular cell phone. How about you, could you go back to the more simple days of technology or do you even want to?

Is your text really more important than the person sitting right in front of you?
Is your text really more important than the person sitting right in front of you?

Texting is a Great Way to Miscommunicate.

Have you ever sent a text only to have someone get mad or offended by it when you didn't mean it to sound the way they took it? Too many times I've seen people mus-interpret a text from someone where that person didn't mean it to come across in the way the recipient perceived it. A simple phone call with the same message would come across entirely different because you can hear the tone of voice the person intends to use. This is lost in translation through text messages.This isn't the biggest problem however, the problem lies when we become so dependent on technology that it takes the social aspect of life and sets it aside. If you can't sit down for dinner without texting or checking your Facebook page then you are co-dependent on your Phone.

This says it all.
This says it all.

Have Some Respect For Others

Nothing bothers me more than to see two people sitting at a dinner table, obviously on a date and texting away. Whether you're on your first date or have been together 25 years, cell phones should stay in the purse or pocket during times like these. This will not only make you interact with the other party but it will make your relationship grow without resentment. There is no better way to suck the conversation out of the date than with cell phones. When I get together with my friends we all put our cell phones on the table and the first one to pick up their phone when it buzzes or rings has to pay the bill. This is a good way to keep the conversation going without interruption. You'll be surprised at how this simple yet effective practice can have a favorable effect on your outing.

What About Emergency Standby?

What about in the case where you have kids with a babysitter? This is the excuse given by many, that they have to have their phones in case of an emergency call from the kids or babysitter. If this is the case you can give your kids or baby sitter a code to use in case of an emergency and just keep your phone in view on the table. A glance down when the phone buzzes can tell you if it is urgent or something that can wait until after dinner. The hardest part is trying to get your kids to abide by the rules and not send an emergency text because the other sibling may be arguing with them. This will always be a challenge as kids will be kids however, single people without kids should place their phone in their purse for an hour or two while on their date.

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Like most the answer to the question above is either 75% or 100% of the time we use our cell phones on a date. If you're in the lower half then you're on the right track and maybe just haven't found the right person. For the upper half you need to be more conscious of the person sitting in front of you and give them all your attention. The best dates are when the other person makes you feel like your the only one in the room and conversation is important to them. Without this, the initial observation is that the other party is not really listening to what you have to say nor are they even interested. This may or may not be the case however, this is the feeling you portray when using your cell phone even for a minute. Of course, if you're not really interested then this may be a good way to sabotage the date from the beginning. Now I'm not advocating doing this because I think everyone should get some respect however, it's just a thought. If you're truly not interested in the person I think they deserve to be told so there are no missed signals in the future.

Just Stop! Never mind, don't even bother.
Just Stop! Never mind, don't even bother.

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Comments 8 comments

Nancy 4 years ago

Thank you for your article, it is SO true! Yes, I am there already. I have the older cell phone, which costs me approx. $10.00 a month. That's right!! Plus, it has everything that the Iphone offers if I choose to use the features. My phone does not look so updated, but does all that I need. Yes, I also enjoy hearing the voice of others by phone. I do not use the text that much except to my Son on certain occasions. I also do not use the cell phone at all when I drive.


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

Too many people are dependent on this type of technology. I will agree.. I am one of them. My husband and I have the Windows phones. I wasn't really for them because they are touch screen and I have never liked that kind of keyboard. However, I have gotten used to them now. I enjoy the fact that I can delete and see my emails right away, post pictures or status updates on facebook and many other things. But, unlike many others, I don't take full advantage of my smart phone. I use it for texting, talking, facebook and email. Others do stuff on their phone that I can't even imagine. Yet with my phone I feel much safer. I once forgot it and instead of relaxing I kept freaking out... what if something bad happened and I need to call someone for help.

Great hub - however I wish when it came to cell phones people would realize ettiquette when they are actually around others... like don't check text messages until you say "excuse me - I am waiting for something important" or just plan ignore the phone. After all, nothing needs to be addressed right away - it wasn't before!


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

I have an iPhone and I love it.

I hate texting.

I can no longer remember phone numbers. If something were to happen and I lost my phone I wouldn't be able to call anyone because I wouldn't remember their numbers.

I don't know why people can't just turn the phones off when talking with someone. I agree with everything you said. Another problem I have is the rings aren't loud enough.


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cyoung35 4 years ago from Corona, CA Author

You are definataley just like myself when it comes to technology. I tried to leave my smart phone home when I go out to dinner or for drinks but it just eats at me of what I might be missing.


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cyoung35 4 years ago from Corona, CA Author

That is very true about remembering number, all you have to do is speak into the phone and it calls whomever you want. I agree that the rings are not loud enough on IPhones.


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I love my iPhone! I wouldn't want to go back to an older cell phone. I like the fact that I can access email, HubPages and more from it when not at home. All the apps are pretty cool too.


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cyoung35 4 years ago from Corona, CA Author

Good point, specially the part about accessing Hubpages.


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prettydarkhorse 4 years ago from US

I have an iphone, and I can live without it. It is useful specially when I am checking emails plus HP and I am out of the house!

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