Careful “Friends” Your Neediness Is Showing On Facebook!

First let me say that I really like Facebook. I like the idea of it. I like sort of connecting with people I was only half interested in in the first place. (And seeing how much older they look than me even if we’re the same age.) To me Facebook is best used for self-promotion, glib comments and an occasional poke of a friend who shared their lunch money so you could buy a carton of chocolate milk in fourth grade. At its worst, it is an intrusive window into the lives of people you barely know now that is so dull it wouldn’t even make it on a reality show’s cutting room floor. And as the holidays get closer it seems that much like life, so many are showing their needy. Careful “friends” your neediness is showing on Facebook! – Don’t Get Me Started!

It used to be you only got chain letters in the mail. When email became our method of communication, email inboxes got stuffed with them. (After all, you HAD to forward it to ten people in ten minutes or risk losing all your hair and your front tooth, right? No, much like a bad fortune teller at a carnival it was never that specific, it just let you know if you “broke the chain” something “bad” was going to happen.) Well Facebook is quickly becoming the new chain letter medium and just like when it came in the other two formats, I’m not interested and you can count on me being the weakest link in the chain. I remember agonizing over whom to send the stupid chain emails too. I didn’t want to piss off real friends. (So now you know, if you ever got a forwarded chain email from me, I didn’t consider you a “real” friend.) But the chain letter has evolved like some sort of strange species in a science fiction movie. It has now become, “Post this as your status in the next hour. I know my real friends will do this.” Really? Is that supposed to be a threat or are you the neediest person in the world who never had a date for one dance during your school years? (And can anyone explain to me why these and all chain letters have a supposedly “inspirational” story attached to them?)

While I don’t feel everyone needs to know what I’m eating (or eliminating) when, I do have “friends” on Facebook who feel the need to “over share” and although we’re a country built on our craving things in excess, there’s a lot of information these people share that’s just too damn much. If you don’t have any real people in your life and have to post about you being in a “down mood” just to try and elicit someone writing on your wall, frankly you creep me out. I get that we all need validation but go to the pound and let a puppy lick your face because at least you’d be doing both parties some good but don’t post anything on your wall about your mood and expect me to be your Facebook Prozac.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. If the only social interaction you’re having is on Facebook you’ve got problems only a licensed therapist can assist you with at this point. Facebook can be fun and silly and a lot of other things but when you make it your own version of a “Precious Moments” figurine with your supposedly poetic life inspirational insights (when you’re the most screwed up person you or I know) or a place to post every single emotion you’re having so that people will write you cheery messages on your wall, you’ll discover that not only were we never friends (by my own definition which is a pretty high standard and NOT synonymous with “acquaintance” as it with so many) but we’re no longer even fake “friends” on Facebook. That’s why God invented the “delete” button. Careful “friends” your neediness is showing on Facebook! – Don’t Get Me Started!

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LillyG 4 years ago

Nice hub. I agree with the whole "post this as your status" crap. I hate that. Like me not posting something due to my hectic work schedule is measurement of my friendship. Now I have been guilty of occasionally posting how I feel when I'm upset, but not for attention more because there wasn't anything else to post and I was bored. LOL. Mostly, posts are upbeat though, and Facebook allows me to share my work on Hubpages and through my other writing venues. I do agree too much is shared nowadays, and I just wrote a hub recently about altercations carrying over to Facebook. Its gotten pretty bad if you ask me. I have used the "Delete" button more often than not for chronic fighters who can't seem to keep tiffs with others off my FB wall.


Earth Angel 4 years ago

Happy Season of Thanks~Living to you and yours Funny-Man!! I've been pretty amazed by what gets posted to Facebook! About the time I decide to withdraw from social media entirely, someone writes something really nice to me and I'm in again! For the best "dog face licks" on the Central Coast of California, I've been hanging out with www.CampCocker.org! Those "wiggle butts" are better therapy than social media any day! Good advice Scott! Have a good one! Blessings always, Earth Angel!!


DougM 4 years ago

I shook my head "yes" so vigorously to this I think I gave myself whiplash! Scott you don't pull any punches but at least you do it in an entertaining manner. And for the record, I tell myself almost everyday "cancel this damn Facebook account it's a frigin' waste of time" so what keeps holding me back?! Arrgh...


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somelikeitscott 4 years ago from Las Vegas Author

LilyG - Thanks for reading and writing in. I don't get the whole "fighting on Facebook" - I get that people do it I just don't understand what satisfaction is to be gained by doing that. Plugging your Hubs is the best use for Facebook!!

EA - You always have been a true, Earth Angel! Wishing you all the best this and every season. Love the idea of CampCocker!! Adorable, just like you!

Doug - I think there's stuff to be gained by being on Facebook and believe me, I've discovered more about my "friends" political views than I ever imagined I'd know about, maybe that in of itself is a reason to stay? I just know that it gives me plenty to bitch about and without that I'd probably have a lot less to write about, right?


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moiragallaga 4 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

This is a pretty good hub Somelikeitscott, you raise interesting points and present it in a manner that's enjoyable to read. I especially like the point you raised regarding the similarities between chain mail and the "post this as your status." Never thought about the similarity but you are right. I got the feeling before that when this started cropping up in facebook that this seems familiar but couldn't quite figure it out. You've just made it clear with this hub, the facebook version of the chain letter. With the number of chain mails I've ignored, I should probably be dead by now, hehe.


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Daffy Duck 4 years ago from Cornelius, Oregon

LOL! I love it!

Evolving into a strange species huh? I happen to really enjoy sci-fi films. :)

I have a facebook account but I only log on once a week. For me it's just a way to keep somewhat current on the social crap flooding the internet. That and the fact that I am now conversing with people I haven't talked to in a long time.

Of course the really needy ones also have a triwwer acount because they feel the need to "bless us" with the current/mundain events in their lives like their toilet isn't working.


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somelikeitscott 4 years ago from Las Vegas Author

moiragallaga - thanks for reading and commenting, glad you enjoyed!

Daffy Duck - I know exactly what you mean I don't get the oversharing that people do. My most recent tweet was "I feel sorry for people with flat butts. I feel even sorrier for people with long flat butts. And people say I'm insensitive, don't get it." Alas, another medium I'm not sure I fit into!


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Daffy Duck 4 years ago from Cornelius, Oregon

if you don't fit into something like Twitter that's not necessarily bad. Now if yo no longer fit in your shrinking clothes that could be a problem. LOL

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