Who Has Control Of Your FaceBook Settings?

FaceBook Monetizes Your Data

Once you get a taste of FaceBook and see all the crowd sourcing of friends commenting and running from page to page to see the hottest, latest, most popular tidbit, photo, video, fashion, recipe, poll, inspirational message, political rant, quote or any other post, you're hooked.

Not only has FaceBook redirected your life's energy and time allocation, scraping your personal information, now they doing their very best to pick your pocket. How can they do this? Well, we've recently seen the little promotional teasers where they show your image, comment or post on prime territory on the page with a note that says essentially, "This can be your advertisement." And, by paying a small fee for this real estate on the page, you can gain thousands more friends and views. Isn't that tempting? Do we know this is true? I'm not sure, but how can you maintain this friendship, interest and popularity? That will take a little more of your money.

Did you know that FaceBook has gathered your email address and that of millions of users? They also own all your personal family photographs that you have shared and uploaded to their cloud.

They datamine all of your religious and political beliefs. Do you remember commenting about the recent presidential election? They got you!

Just guess the next step in the game for FaceBook? Let's play Pick Your Pocket or Pick Your Pocketbook. If you make one purchase, I bet they've got your credit card, you business address, your office and mobile telephone numbers. I hope they don't get hacked.

Don't you want to send your best friend or relative a birthday or holiday gift? It could be so easy without leaving your comfortable warm seat and your keyboard. It's happening right now. If you live in the United States the option to send a variety of gifts from a number of providers can be yours. Who doesn't use iTunes and it's only a dollar or two that costs as much as a greeting card these days?

If you have moved to viewing FaceBook over your mobile device, their genius computer gurus make it even easier to make a purchase and you can't miss all the prompts from advertisements. Of course, you are already used to sales tactics of internet marketing. All the advertisement automatically targeted and geared towards your surfing habits. You like something or search for some item, that will automatically show up in the prompting ads from FaceBook. They got you!

Request Friends To Change Comment Settings

Have you received this message from a friend?

To all my FaceBook friends. May I request that you please do something for me? I want to stay PRIVATELY connected with you. However, with the recent changes in FB, the public can now see activities on any wall. This happens when our friend hits "like" or "comment." Automatically, their friends would see our posts too. Unfortunately, we cannot change this setting by ourselves because Facebook has configured in such a way.

So, I need your help. Only you can do this for me. PLEASE place your mouse over my name above (do not click), a window will appear, now move the mouse on “FRIENDS" (also without clicking), then down to "Settings", click here and a list will appear. REMOVE the CHECK on "COMMENTS & LIKE" by clicking on it. By doing this, my activity amongst my friends and my family will no longer become public. Many thanks! Paste this on your wall so your contacts can do the same. Illustrations shown.

RECENT GRAPHIC SEARCH CHANGES FACEBOOK

Original Post February 2012. Update July 2013

FACEBOOK has made life difficult for everyone. Click this. Click that. Request people take MINUTES out of their lives to reconfigure their settings. All these minutes add up to hours, days and *POOF* time is wasted. Life ebbs away. What have we accomplished? Privacy Shmivacy. The government is watching you. Companies collect your personal data. Now, strangers (friends of friends) can also spy into your personal thoughts, purchases, family photos and comments, etc.

HERE IS THE LATEST FIASCO:
Hello to all of you who are on my list of contacts of Facebook. I would like to ask a favor. You may not know that Facebook has changed its PRIVACY configuration once again. Thanks to the new “Graphic app”, any person in Facebook anywhere in the world can see our photos, our “likes” and our “comments”.

YOU ARE ASKED TO TAKE SOME ACTION, MORE OF YOUR TIME
During the next two weeks, I am going to keep this message posted and I ask you to do the following and comment “DONE”.

HOW WILL WE KNOW WHO HAS TAKEN THIS ACTION IN ORDER TO UNFRIEND YOU? WHAT IF YOU HAVE HUNDREDS OF FRIENDS?
Those of my friends who do not maintain my information in private will be eliminated from my list of friends, because I want the information I share with you, my friends, to remain among my friends and not be available to the whole world.

I want to be able to publish photos of my friends and family without strangers being able to see them which is what happens now when you choose “like” or “comment”.

FACEBOOK DICTATORSHIP MAKES THE RULES. NO OPT OUT
Unfortunately we cannot change this configuration because Facebook has made it like this. So, please, place your cursor over my photo that appears in this box (without clicking) and a window will open. Now move the cursor to the word “Friends”, again without clicking and then on “Settings”. Uncheck “Life Events” and “Comments and Like”. This way my activity with my family and friends will no longer be made public. Now, copy and paste this text on your own wall (do not “share” it!). Once I see it published on your page, I will un-check the same for you.

  • THE LATEST INFORMATION ON SNOPES REGARDING THIS ACTION It just keeps getting more and more complicated.

Your New FaceBook Comment Editing Function

FaceBook Does It Again
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How Does That Poem Go?

Take Back Control Of Your FaceBook Email Settings

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue That's the way I feel about FaceBook because . . .

It's getting old these sudden surprises: Sometimes new things light up our eyes: With comment editing we've been asking: However email changes hidden lies

Below a snag so you can see: And wonder why FaceBook doesn't have: A notification system for all to be: Fully informed, rather that Oh My Golly Gee!

Did you know that FaceBook Gave To You A new email instead of the one you indicated And, made it your default not hidden but visible
What are you going to do with that?

Learn how to take your control of your email here.

What gives with FaceBook? They constantly have all these new options and features which makes everyone crazy. We must scramble around and figure out what to do, where to go, how to make changes and repair settings.


Recently I took note of 'notifications' as if we don't have enough to do to check the running stream of activity, emails, messages, event invitations, and who the heck has time for all those games and lovely swans, hearts, holiday cards, etc.?


Does anyone do any work anymore or have we become a nation or nations of people spending time playing on FaceBook all day and night?


As I was saying, I check a whole list of notifications and suddenly I see all these people who say they WORK WITH ME? Well, darn, I don't even have a full fledged job either as an employee or an employer. I manage a social network as a non-profit organization to educate people about my passion and hopefully empower others to realize their potential to heal.


So, along comes a line of people who say they work with me in my field. Not only don't I know who they are, have any personal contact with them, have ever spoken to them in my life or know where they live on the other side of the globe, but they have the audacity to say I work with them!


How does one deal with this situation and how can I prevent this information from becoming in FaceBook land "permanent" data and information for the search engines and algorithms to market and mine. FaceBook has got a real problem when everyone must OPT OUT of what they automatically get in to on that network.


Shown below an image example illustrates this situation where the person's profile picture and name are blurred as not to make his identity recognizable.


WHERE TO LOOK ON YOUR FACEBOOK PAGE

  • I have updated to the new Timeline format since writing this article
  • Look on the left hand column and it will say "NEEDS REVIEW"
  • When you click this a new screen opens with a full listing

FaceBook Example
FaceBook Example

First of all, I am not a doctor. Secondly, there is no year, time or date that I have worked with any of these people. Is there a cultural divide that people do not know the meaning of WORK with others?


Something tells me that FaceBook has created a barrier or gate in the same way that LinkedIn makes you identify your relationship as friend, family or colleague. And, because these individuals have been trying to make a zillion friends, FaceBook has required them to tell some association with the person to whom they want to connect.


Well, sorry folks. This just isn't going to work.


One other person claimed we were family members and when I just asked him about this association his reply, "Hi Debby -- To my knowledge, we are not related. That is an odd message." So, how could this possibly happen? I think it is the FaceBook Police.

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My Solution

With no recourse, I have written to each of these people that there has been an inaccuracy in our relationship and connection, where upon I post the fact that I do not and have not ever worked with them.

The other option is to click the X button in the right hand side which means "IGNORE"

TNW Next Web | How To Delete All Your Old FaceBook Wallposts, Public and Private, From Your Timeline. Did you know that FaceBook supposedly posted everyone's private messages to their friend view timeline walls? This page illustrates exactly how to adjust your settings.

People Are Unaware They Have Made These Selection Choices to Connect With FaceBook Friends In This Way

These contacts really have no idea that they have even connected in this way! See message conversation.
These contacts really have no idea that they have even connected in this way! See message conversation.

Are You Happy With FaceBook Options?

Do you approve of the features and options that keep changing on FaceBook?

  • Yes. I love having all these new updates and services
  • No. I can never keep up
  • No. For some other reason
  • I have no idea, I don't use FaceBook
  • Sometimes they provide good services
  • They need to tell us and provide tutorials on all updates
  • Users need to make informed choices and Opt In rather than Opt Out
  • Other. Post your comments below
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HAS THE WORLD GONE STARK RAVING MAD?

While I'm at it, I do have one other pet peeve on FaceBook. Someone please explain why there exists people in this world who highlight their hatred and violence so everyone can view these types of images? I have seen guns, knives, blood, slaughter and all sorts of horrific photos all in the photo albums when someone asks me to connect and be a friend.

Are they out of their minds?! I would certainly not friend a person who has these types of things on their mind. I especially become surprised when these people claim to be physicians.

DO YOU VET AND REVIEW BEFORE YOU FRIEND?

  • What this tells me when people connect with others with photos, sarcastic jokes and other hate messages is that people do not take stock in who they want to associate.
  • In fact, a person can only be a friend to people with whom they frequently talk and make a connection. Just adding up a bunch of names is meaningless.

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FaceBook methods create poor handling of forced connections and puts a person at a disadvantage to keep his information truthful, secure and private.


About the Author

Debby Bruck, CHOM loves to write about various topics of interest including social networking, poetry, discussing serious subjects about the environment, health and sometimes dabbling into politics. You may find a good number of blogs on the different social networks like Twitter.

Have you wondered whether you have an internet addiction?

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Some Recent Legal FaceBook News Highlights:

  • FaceBook faces Lawsuit | What! They are cookie tracking without your permission. No surprise there, after reading how you have no control over your page and interactions. Plus, all those marketing advertisements keep hitting you in the "Face"Book when you clicked on a friend's link about who knows what!

    Did you know that Facebook uses cookies to track users even AFTER they log out of the service? They keep saying that issue has been fixed. Who and what do you believe? This is the third lawsuit.

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Comments 34 comments

Breen Bergstrome 4 years ago

I don't know how I got here first, but here it is:

I joined facebook in November 2011 and stopped a month later. I felt immediately obligated to accept connections when that was not my focus.I'd had more than I wanted right away and was scared off before any trouble could start:-)


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Cardisa 4 years ago from Jamaica

Debbie, I am glad that I am not the only one crying out about these online virtual communities. Is there some virus that infect the brain when we go online for extended periods? I don't know but people are hypocrites when they go online, some of them are even cruel and nasty. I wish I didn't have to associate with them, but since I want to make some sort of income online, I have to bear with it until I can do differently.


Dave Baldwin 4 years ago

I haven't gotten these types of requests on Facebook, but I have seen them on LinkedIn. A number of people who "worked" with me, but I never heard of them. I'm not sure if these people are just claiming to have "worked" with anyone they can find for spam purpose, or what they're trying to do.


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MichaelGallinger 4 years ago from Detroit, MI

Nice, Thanks for sharing!


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Dear Breen ~ I understand your trepidation about entering into FaceBook and many others have told me the same. Not only does it take your energy, your information and your privacy away, it really does take time from living your life fully.

Dear Cardisa ~ For 'crying out loud' yes these social networks do act like viruses. We now speak about everything 'going viral' as a good thing, and we use it like parasites to our personal benefit while acting as a leech upon others. I'm not saying these networks have only negative attributes, because they do bring like-minded people together from all corners of the world, but we must weigh the pros and cons for joining all of them.

Dear Dave ~ Wow! What a joy and surprise to find a FaceBook friend take a moment out from their busy day to read and post a comment here without becoming a Hubpages community member. We do receive similar messages on LinkedIn because they have requirements which supposedly make connecting with others more safe. Unfortunately, people can find ways around these security measures as shown above. This leaves the owner of his or her page to ferret out the meaning and do private investigation about the identity of these individuals and figure out why they want to make a connection. On LinkedIn we can see the six degrees of separate chart which gives some help to our search.

Dear Michael - Many thanks for visiting this Hubpages.

Blessings to all

Debby


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Dear Debby - Facebook has a life of it's own. I have mine blocked so that I'm not searchable personally. I only add people that I have an idea of who they are on hub for example. I do not approve anyone who I have never encountered before. Its a truly a pandoras box!

I have only had it for about 6 or 7 months so I'm still amazed every day but something I see there! Lol


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Kelly ~ You have made a wise choice to make settings secure in this way. As a major connector for people around the globe, I keep my FaceBook page and HomeopathyWorldCommunity Fanpage for people to learn and study, even though I find the FaceBook space cumbersome and unhappy with the way you have hidden charges to your profile. People do not realize they give their personal information for data-mining and daily targeted with marketing and advertisements while on the internet and beyond. Hugs, Debby


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Debby

Thank you for sharing this valuable information.

I don't spend much time on FaceBook. I use to play the games but quickly got tired of them. They always wanted you to invite friends to play. I have not updated to the new timeline. I don't like it.

Voted up and awesome

Take Care


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Hi Sue ~ I have also not updated to the new timeline and decline all requests to play games. As you can tell, I'm not so fond of FB and they gather up your info and try to sell you stuff and get you even more addicted to internet by playing. Smart girl you are! Blessings, Debby


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

I've had to block several people on Facebook. You know I was accused of being a stalker by someone who was the person sending *me* emails on Facebook? Also I get mad at someone for paying me poverty wages and she writes negative poetry about me and my mother and she thinks that the problem I have with her is the fact that she commented on me writing bad descriptions. No. It's the damn poetry she wrote and the poverty wages.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Hi Flora ~ Your mom left the first comment and I can see you've had your trials and tribulations with that network. The world seems to be turned upside-down at times when others make accusations against the innocent.

How can we remedy the situation about this person who harms others and receives no consequence? Does blocking and ignoring her make any difference? Of course, I am sorry to hear what you have been through. The internet and social networks can provide both a supportive community, like here at Hubpages, and unsupportive one depending upon the people. Blessings to you, Debby


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

Debby you said it sister. I'm having security issues with FB and now temp use a friends. I really like it better and if they don't mind may just keep it that way. Don't really have the time to be on there alot and all the requests and foolishness were starting to get my goat anyways.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Hello Alastar ~ Give you a pat on the back if you can stay away from FaceBook. I try to keep activity there to a minimum. Friends have created so many GROUPS and that is another point of contention. Meanwhile, we continue to hear the news about how these companies misuse and abuse our personal data and people don't seem to care! I can't figure that out. Lawsuits will start to fly. Blessings, Debby


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

I think most of people know this site very well. Every cell phone completed by facebook application. It make us easier to find many people form around the globe. Better use this site wisely and never disturb others. Peace,

Prasetio


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Dear Prasetio - I think you have more to tell here that is not explained fully. Many people do log in to FaceBook using their cellphone today and thus exposing their account this way to companies and maybe to thieves or spyware. They do force you on a number of networks to identify yourself using your cellphone number today, which should not, in my opinion, be mandatory. Thank you, Debby


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Absolutely, Flora. I hear the clock ticking about those timelines. Who asked them to do this? Do we want our life lined up in a sequential manner for everyone to view our steps? This does present present a true measure of our lives. I'm with you on this issue of not being forced to manage our connections based only on their terms. Many blessings to you dear friend. Debby


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Thanks, Debby for your detailed explanation. I had never know about that. We should be careful from now, just for anticipation. Have a good day!

Blessing,


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

As always, Prasetio, glad to be of service. Lovely day to you, Debby


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

I totally agree with you, our lives don't seem to be our own anymore. We have no choices when it comes to FB. I don't work, I am retired so I am presuming all my friends are retired too, thats how they get to spend all day on FB. Lol. me I go in for about half an hour 3 or 4 times a week.

What bugs me is opening my email to find I have hundres of emails because someone else has decided i should join another group, I have left 3 groups in the last 2 weeks which still leaves me in 3. Wouldn't an invite be more appropriate and respectful, then we have the choice to join. There is just no keeping up with it all.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Hey Rosemay ~ That's my biggest pet peeve with FB - automatic group membership. No one asked us? And there is another one when people include you in a group conversation and you wonder how you got there in the first place? This means every FB user must be cautious and take active actions every step of the way, otherwise they may find they are involved in many activities for which they did not give approval.

I agree about wondering if EVERYONE is retired that they have all this time to play around on FB all day and night.

Be well, Debby


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

I have added two new bits of information. 1) Update on comment editing 2) Take back control of your email settings.


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

I hate facebook. I hate everyone seeing everything. I hate friending people I don't want to friend. I hate them knowing my business. I also hate people saying to me " I see your daughter did this or that."

I go on about once a week. I miss most of what goes on. If it weren't for my family I wouldn't be there.

I once had a quiet little guestbook with women that came on and would visit each day. They wanted to leave the guestbook and go on facebook. That ended the little guestbook where we had all made friends. Now they want to come back to the guestbook. They don't like facebook.

I vented enough. I enjoyed your hub and voted up.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Dear MoonLake ~ My sentiments exactly. We're there only become it seems imperative in today's society. Although, I suppose you don't HAVE to be there. Meanwhile, people will hopefully wake up one day and there will be a mass exodus. People will return to their quiet little nook, where people form deep relationships without their rights being stolen under their noses. Hugs, Debby


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Very interesting read, debby. Firstly, I'm going to size down the friends list and then get friends to change my comment settings. These changes in FB are becoming just too much to handle. Like I found my emails getting unmanageable so I had to edit the settings there.

Voted up, useful and shared.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Dear Rajan ~ Glad to here you will take action to minimize the number of activities making your day more manageable. I think we would all be less stressed to do so. Blessings, Debby


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bayoulady 4 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

Super article! I pulled the plug on facebook in June of this year. I liked my newsfeed for groups such as lymphedema guru,chorkies,MS World, Brambleberry,etc. I Have NO friends. Yes,I deleted 212 "friends". It's great! GRRRRRRR eat! No more reading other people's drama,and time consuming replies to the most mundane comments.(such as "Just tried the new orange juice with calcium,ugh.")


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Hi Jackie ~ Your move was so smart. You saved yourself from time consuming constant updates, dealing with people who clutter your life, when you have better things to do.

However, FB houses the major communications in my professional group and must remain involved. Sharing the latest news. Blessings, Debby


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bayoulady 4 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

Yep,Debby. I see why you need it. I did not use it for that,so it was great for me!

It's like when I got roped into almost a year of attending other people's Tupperware parties...because I went to Jane's,and Kat knew it....well,I HAD to go to Kat's...and on it went for a year,for Pete's sake! Hey,I don't even LIKE Tupperware. I wanted to spend my money on my kids.So I just stopped. Didn't care what any of the gals thought. Kapoooosh, I'm done.( I felt so free.) I wrote a paper on it my senior year of college. I called it "Deliver Me From The Tupperware Party".

Well,I was spending way too much time on Facebook,commenting on one person's post,because I KNEW that I'd get an inbox message if I didn't,then another one's post because,of course,she saw that I commented on freind A's post. ...and so on. I actually was starting to WORRY over other people's problems which were posted for all the world to see. EWWWW..some stuff was just plain icky!

Go ahead people,if you don't like it anymore,freedom is just a few buttons awy,lol.


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago Author

Dear Jackie ~ I suppose looking deeply into our motivations for our actions and relationships will "deliver us" as you say. If what we do does not free us from stress and worry, then we must question why we continue to go to Tupperware parties. If we go simply to have a good time, be social, and visit with friends, then we all benefit and feel happy. But, if it becomes an obligation, a duty and a drain on our energy, then we end up feeling guilty or worse, feeling angry and upset with ourselves. You took the right step forward. Blessings, Debby


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bayoulady 4 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

Thanks. This was great article!


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That Grrl 3 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

I almost don't use Facebook now. Between their idiot games and their lack of regard for privacy, I can spend my time in better ways. It's a good thing to post information for Facebook users. Most of them don't have a clue about how to use the site or how the site uses them.


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Debby Bruck 3 years ago Author

Hello Sweetie - It's kind of a necessity for me, however, I keep reading about daily, weekly changes and even spam, hoax and privacy challenges for the giant to manage. It does get more complex with each iteration. You're pretty smart to put your energy into Hubpages. Blessings, Debby


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

Debby,

Online security is now a big concern for people around the world. I use social media in a professional level, to promote my works, and until now have never encountered security problem. However, I'm concerned about my privacy. Thanks for sharing your expertise.

Cheers


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Debby Bruck 3 years ago Author

Dear Vinaya ~ Lulled to sleep, innocently thinking that social networking benefits the people for 100% good intentions may be a deception. Be careful what you say, where you go and all interactions. Blessings.

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