Facebook - The Loneliest Friend

No longer a new craze... but the popularity of this site grows on a daily basis!
No longer a new craze... but the popularity of this site grows on a daily basis! | Source

The Craze of Facebook

Facebook is not a new craze. However, it continues to pick up speed at a rather fast rate. More and more people create new facebook accounts in this social networking ploy - including your grandma, your aunts, your uncles, and maybe even your kids- and more and more people are sending out friend requests in attempt to increase their facebook friend list. It seems to be a number game on how many friends a person can have on Facebook. Yet, even with the constant search for friends on facebook, we can still be lonely.

According to Facebook statistics, there are currently 500 million active users; 50% of them log on to Facebook in any given day. If you are into the bigger numbers, there are over 700 billion minutes spent wasted each month on Facebook. The statistics of Facebook are incredible and grossly impressive.

Yet, with the millions of Facebook users, how many people out there can actually say their Facebook friends are ‘real’ friends. When looking at some different Facebook profiles, some people have a few friends, some have a few hundred, and others, well, I don’t think I have ever met that many people in my whole life. But, because we are looking at numbers, the average user has about 130 friends. (So if that is the average, should we be questioning those that have more than 500 on a personal profile?)

It's Peanut Butter Jelly Time

That was one mean peanut butter and jelly sandwich. I just thought you would like to know!
That was one mean peanut butter and jelly sandwich. I just thought you would like to know! | Source

Statistics of Facebook - Are you just another number?

Now I am, of course, just another statistic. I am an active Facebook user, and I pretty much log in to Facebook on a daily basis. I know I am not the only one who spends excessive amount of time on Facebook, so I think it is safe to say I don’t inflate the numbers.

I have seen way more people who update every single aspect of there life. I will only do that if the Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich I ate was particularly good. And I will admit, I occasionally spam my account with my written masterpieces (which I only claim to be masterpieces because I want to hear them called that by someone sometime before I am dead!)

Overall, I guess that makes me about average in the world of Facebook account holders. I have a little over 200 friends; I have occasionally played a few games; if I find something particularly amusing… I will share. However, I wonder if my updates are pointless. Out of the 200+ friends I have, does anybody really notice?

Yes, there is the occasional one or two people who may “like” something I say… but that is out of how many people? Are the rest of my posts just invisible or that worthless so not even a single person even likes it.

In a single status update

That is when I came across a friend’s status update. Of course it was one of those stupid chain mail status updates… which are incredibly annoying and I usually ignore them. Unless of course they are so incredibly funny and stupid I have no choice but to share. But this one particular day I came across this status update that was neither funny or stupid. It was actually kind of sad. It made you think… and think is what I did.

The status update read: “We all have around 200 friends on Facebook, if not more, but when it comes to ‘needing’ a ‘friend’ how many will actually be there for you? Guaranteed not even half of your Facebook ‘friends’ will read this or even like it. Like this status if you’d be there for me if I needed a ‘friend’… Set this as your status and see how many ‘friends’ are there for you!”

Now if you are gutsy like I am, you will post this to your wall. After all, you are just curious if people will actually "like" the status to reassure you of the friendship. Fortunately for me, I already had a good idea of how many… or how little… would actually “like” my status.

Granted, there are variances. Some people are not on Facebook daily. Some people aren’t very active. Some don’t like even their own statuses. But it got me thinking.

How many people on Facebook are really so lonely that they need this reassurance; that they take these status updates seriously. As if not posting the status update on Cancer will be the end of the world or that actually posting it will get us any closer to the cure. Posting it has no effect. It won’t raise money; half of the time it barely raises awareness because we are too busy passing over the "spam" type posts.

I remember watching the movie “Funny People” staring Adam Sandler. There was a point in the movie where they were making jokes about Myspace. While I don’t remember the exact saying, the point of it was to say how lonely Tom is because even though he is by default friends with everyone… he isn’t friends with really any of them. He is just your default friend. That popularity can make you a pretty lonely person.

Mr. Lonely

How lonely are you?

So here is a test…. Take a closer look at your interactions on Facebook.

  • How do you rate when it comes to all your Facebook friends?
  • Do people often comment or like your status updates?
  • Do most of your status updates go unnoticed?
  • Do you feel popular because of all the friends you have on Facebook… or does it just make you more and more lonely with each status update that goes unnoticed?

To me, Facebook seems to be a great tool for overinflating a person’s ego, especially those who really don’t need it in the first place. Yet the ones who might already have a low self-esteem continue to float under the spotlight staying unnoticed, therefore causing their self esteem issues to get worse and worse.

Facebook in Real Life

Whose on your friend list?

There are a variety of different people on Facebook. Some who are active, some who are not; some who use Facebook as a tool to keep in touch, others who have it just because it is the social thing to do. I am pretty positive each friend is a little different.

Just like people, they are not cookie cutters. So you will have a variety. Unfortunately, there really isn’t a set category for each of these to fit into, so to make it simple, we will just describe them.

Active Facebook Friend - This is the person who lives on Facebook. Checking their Facebook is the first thing they do in the morning and the last thing they do before they go to bed. In between, they will usually update their status maybe and additional 10 to 20 times. They usually have it on their cellphone, so they never lose connection with the people on their friends list. These are the people who also report everything in their daily happenings.

  • “I think I am going to make myself a sandwich for lunch!” posted at 11:55 a.m.
  • “Wow! That was the best lunch ever!” posted at 12:15 p.m.
  • “I don’t know what to do today. Maybe I will settle down with a book for awhile!” posted at 12:20 p.m.
  • “Read a few chapters and got bored. Back on Facebook again seeing if there is anything interesting going on!” posted at 12:50 p.m.
  • “All that messing around on Facebook makes me crave a snack!” posted at 1 p.m.
  • “When life hands you lemons… get yourself some lemonade!” posted at 1:05 p.m.
  • “Drinking alcohol early in the afternoon. Guessing it is going to be a fun night! J ” posted at 1:50 p.m.
  • “I love tequilla!” posted at 2:30 p.m.

Okay so you get the point! These Active Facebook Friends update you on everything. They also have a tendency to comment on everybody’s stuff to. They are nice friends to have if you like the interaction. They are the annoying friends if you find your facebook feed is nothing but their status updates. In fact, there is nothing left to the imagination!

Passive Facebook Friend - This is the person who has a Facebook account but really doesn’t use it. They probably got it because someone who is active on Facebook said they needed one. They opened up an account just to get them off their back. They rarely comment on anything. They rarely like anything. They rarely even post a status update. They just go on, accept their friend requests, read through some status updates and go on their way in real life. They will occasionally upload a picture, but Facebook is obviously not a priority to them.

Would you like to play a game?

I used to play games on Facebook. In fact, this is my farm. However, I soon became bored with the games. Are you a "Gamer" friend?
I used to play games on Facebook. In fact, this is my farm. However, I soon became bored with the games. Are you a "Gamer" friend? | Source

The Gamer Friend - This is the person who is on Facebook purely for the games. They will send you requests to join them in Farmville or Cityville or some random ville that you have never heard of! They will send you gifts and hope you send them back to return the favor. Sometimes they comment on other people’s statuses, sometimes they don’t. They are all business… and their business is the games.

The Average Friend - This is the person who is on Facebook to keep in touch with others. They will occasionally comment, they will occasionally upload some pictures. They do realize if they miss a day on Facebook, it is not the end of the world. As average often describes… they are by no means exciting. But, they will comment on stuff if they have something to say.

When you look at these types of friends, you might say these are the extremes - and they are. Some will fit in a couple categories; some will fit into all of them.

So who are your friends?

Stop Joking around...

Why so serious?

What it really comes down to… some people take these chain mail status updates too seriously. Most people, including myself, have friends that fit into all these categories. However, when you are looking at 200+ friends, how many people do you think will actually respond?

The reasons for not responding are numerous. If you have a friend who has 500 friends, maybe they legitimately didn’t see your posting. Maybe they saw it, laughed and moved on. However, you should never base who your real friends are based off of your Facebook Friend Lists.

Facebook is a great tool. I was in the military for the past 5 years and I have met several people who come from all over. Unfortunately, when you move, you also lose touch with them. Facebook allows you to keep up with old friends in a fairly quick and painless matter.

It is also great for family. My family lives in two different areas. I have family in Wisconsin and I have family in California. Obviously I can’t be in two places at the same time. Facebook allows my family to keep up with my family and me. They can see my kids grow… even if it is just through pictures. They also know what I have been doing… whether it is me through my status updates or the pictures I post. Facebook is an ingenious tool that if used properly has many benefits.

Facebook is a great networking tool. It is great for the online writer because you can share your art. It is nice because you can friend other writers and through Facebook, where you can network and help encourage each other. Lately I have made a few writer friends on Facebook. The interaction with them has been nothing short of amazing. I have even met some in real life. In fact, some of these "internet" friends are actually more interactive than ones I know in real life. And the best thing is, through their interactions, I can tell whether or not they are procrastinating or if I have another future hub to look forward to! Of course, it can also get me procrastinating as well!

In the reality of Facebook sometimes you really are just a number. You, and me, just like everyone else… we are all just Facebook Statistics!

Just another tool...

Yet, what it comes down to is Facebook is just another tool. I am not saying these people are not real friends. But let’s be honest. How many of these people do you regularly interact with? If you saw them in the store… would you run up to them and give them a big hug!!! Maybe not. These people might be family or close friends you see every single day; maybe they are old classmates or those old High School flames; or maybe they are just someone you befriended to help on your Farmville farm. While you may know them through facebook, you might not even recognize them if you see them in real life!

So, out of all these deep thoughts, I do know one thing is for certain - we need to stop taking Facebook so seriously.

I am guilty of this, especially when I see someone who has a status update that makes no sense and 40 different people like it or comment. Then, when I try to put something meaningful on my update and nobody even seems to notice, it hurts. I feel ignored.

Let’s face it. Facebook is not the real world. The meaningful people are the ones who are always by your side. They might not even be on Facebook in the first place because they are too busy living real life! We all know who are real friends are and I hate to say this, but in the reality of Facebook sometimes you really are just a number. You, and me, just like everyone else… we are all just Facebook Statistics!

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annaw 5 years ago from North Texas

Great Hub. The only reason I have a Facebook page is because I was told by one of my professors that, "You need to get with it," Another said she would be communicating through Facebook with me. So grudgingly I set up a page. It has been so long since I have been there, I do not recall my password nor do I recall how many friends I have; I do know I only have a few. I do not post status updates. I do have conversations with my granddaughter occassionally( I did anyway). On a serious note I am going to start using Facebook as an Advertising medium. It is past time I started to market my business. I am a Conflict Management Specialist and I think Facebook will be a great place to create a presence, so I have heard. I voted this one WAY UP !


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Hey this was kinda like being on FB without being ON FB!! lol!

Thanks for noting me on your friends hubs above too!

Now, yeah actually some of my gaming friends I have become good friends with! I have one girl, born in Texas, but had moved with her husband to his homeland in Poland, but comes home now and again. Funny how we stay in touch. In game, we have a space to leave the other a short message, and her's might say "Don't return, will be en route home for next 14 hours" then I wait for her to catch up with me when she's back in the USA via her cell! (which she has the game app) I've become friends of a school teacher, and a few others through the games. But I have 222 friends, and I can say I actually interact with a lot of them because I ran a website for a well known musician for 12 years, and became friends with them long after I turned his business over to our European friends, who we rarely talk openly but in email! Plus I have a few groups I post in "classic horror films" and such. I don't know them, but we have a common love for movies, whether it be classic horror or just classics! We have the most of our banter in the film theatre's groups than on FB itself. The problem is, that sometimes a friend who really is close to me in real life, might post, and I don't see it due to the ones I have not segregated off into the "I don't know you thus, we only play the game" group! So if I don't check it often it gets pushed away and I miss it. As of now, I have friends on there who only about 50 I would say I don't really associate with but are excellent gamers! My longest term friend of 19 years, we speak here n' there but hold each other high on the friendship ladder! I have a friend in Malaysia who is adorable, and LOVE her photos of her two beautiful children (you might have seen them in my photo bar) We speak on IM a lot more than actual in FB conversation! I have friends who I rarely speak to, but you bet on my last trip back from MI, I stopped off at his house and we met each other physically! But we've spent many nights talking on the phone! We all try to connect on youtube, in fact if you get a chance, come by there and view what we all yak about lol! :) Hey there's even a short clip of "ha ha I was told I could never learn guitar," so I got a clip of me about 17 years ago with a Metallica intro just to say "NA NA I DID IT" HAHAAA... a make up sharing friend who we'd LOVE to go through your earrings LOL! Yes, I too don't like it when I miss a post, sometimes with all my tabs open they think I'm online when my computer is right here, but I'm ZONKED.. snooozin' the night or day away! :) Taking my rants from here to there though.. I dunno.. I have a tendency to bug the poor people enough LOL! :)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@annaw - I actually got my Facebook page after my dad... talk about coming around to it later. Although my dad went on there so he could play games and wouldn't add me as a friend. I laugh about it now!

Overall, I believe Facebook is a good tool but I think some people take it too seriously. Maybe I am one of them. I am a people watcher. I notice others posts and keep a mental note of how "popular" they seem to be based off of how their friends interact with them. It makes me horribly sad sometimes because I would love the interaction but my friends aren't always active. That is what actually inspired this hub, was the lack of interaction.

@Katherella - You are very welcome... I was trying to get stuff that was a little more serious in nature. I think it fits the theme. Since mostly I write stuff that is funny, I think this topic weighs a little heavy. So, because I usually try to share links on my pages (what can I say - karma baby!) I was trying to come up with some of the more serious stuff.

As for facebook, I think I can count on my fingers how many people on there I don't actually know. And by know I mean they came from the games and I have never interacted with them other than in a gaming sense. Everybody else I know. Ironically though, some of the people on there that I have never met in person are much better friends then the ones I have known personally. It is a great way to show a persons true colors I guess.


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Ya know, BBG, try not to take things to personally, especially on there. As I said I had friends for along time on there, and newer friends, plus my gamers, with some I have made new friendships. Sheri and I are very close, when I go to Michigan, we hang out, spend the night at each others house, stay up all night, go out to eat etc. and right now I'm REALLY worried over her health. Her brain is bleeding, she's depressed beyond words, our mutual friend Karen's husband just died last week in his sleep. Karen can't seem to talk to anyone, Sheri feels helpless, and is under more stress. I text with them, but are words are very few on FB. But I might talk with someone I barely know, or posting in a group and missing my feed. If I refresh my feed and the McDonalds incident I was in tears over is gone and the "I just ate a candy bar" is there from a gamer I don't know. So it's a matter of understanding that while some friends might need me or acknowledgment has been pushed down the feed. So it's not always a matter of someone being ignored, it's the speed the feed goes and unless I go seek it out, it's gone, then I'm moved between the 9 browser tabs I have open. If Sheri blamed my missing her headache of today on "my true colors" that might be bright rather than dark, she would spend her days thinking nobody cared for what is happening to her. In reality, she knows that if she emailed or text me and said "I need you" that I would be tossing overnight clothes, my dog in my truck and on the road in a heartbeat.

She sent me a text last week just before the funeral. It said "I'm afraid, I can't go in. I'm in the parking lot. I can't ease Karen's pain." I had to text her back, if she sees you, you've comforted her. You can't ease her pain, nobody can. I had to remind her, what she did when my dad died. "I didn't do anything, I didn't know what to do." I had to tell her, "You came over, we sat in my truck and sang songs and drank beer and backed up the song if we missed a word, you kept my mind busy, but that is all you could you." -Silence-

People stress over things they cannot help. Things they can't change. What others think or their actions. For Karen, every other day I send her a heart text. No words, nothing else. Then one night, I got a text from her in the middle of the night "Thank you, you're a wonderful friend." Because that is all we could do for each other.

I've known Jeremiah 19 years. He's been a great friend to me. He's gone though my darkest hours, my happiest days. But it's a rarity he clicks a "like" but in reality, his truest colors are, he's going to always be there for me unless he can't. And it would be out of his control. I can't judge him on how often he comments on things, if I did, my heart would be broken a LOT. But when I posted my rant over the McDonalds incident, he knows I totally freak and cry over those things. His small words that replied, were his words of comfort not just to what happened to the poor girl who was attacked and beaten, but to me because he knows how I react to those things. Try not to let the colorless wind blind you.


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Hyphenbird 5 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

I closed my Facebook account because it seemed so silly. Like you said, I would post something real and it got ignored but let somebody post about a stupid TV show and everyone got so excited. Also, I decided I really don't care to know who has a bladder infection! I mean really. Facebook is a great idea and allows connection to ones we cannot see in person. But it really was not for me. I never played the games and blocked all those applications. I would rather spend the time writing or reading here on HubPages.


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I use facebook on a daily basis. I like to keep up with family members and I am an online zynga texas holdem addict :). I also post almost everything I write on there. Enjoyed reading your hub and I agree some of the stuff people post is ridiculous.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

BBG - I used to have a FB account. I didn't like it all that much. I'm weird, I know. But some of the people that would send me friend requests ere down right scary! I didn't like seeing that "creepy Joe" from 6th grade wanted to refriend me after 30 years:) or my EX! Jeeze - he would comment and "like" everything I said! He never liked what I said before! Haha! It was suddenly as if he had stepped into my world with me - ewwwww! Finally, I had to close the book.

I did enjoy picking out crazy status quotes but not even my sister would comment:) haha! She is too busy too.

I did I would want to be your friend and I would stalk you there too!

And thank so much for the sweet mention up there BBG! And my favorite one too. You'll be thrilled to know I just figured to make those little boxes turn blue! Lol!


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Azure11 5 years ago from UK

Great Hub Barbergirl, I was a bit of a facebook addict and I still do go on it every day and I have a huge mixture of friends - some who I really consider good friends but I don't see often due to my location and it is a great way to see what they are up to and then have stuff to chat about when you do see them. But I also have friends who I would like to unfriend but I don't have the nerve. They are people I met a few times (or even just once) but I will likely never see again. Much as I kind of am interested in what they do, I can't really see the point when we are really not in touch in any other way.

But mostly it makes me feel part of people's lives who I don't see much so I do still love it!

p.s thanks for the link too :-)


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Niki Hampton 5 years ago from Oregon

I am totally guilt of spending too much time on FB. This is tough when you work at home online. It's an easy distracter from work. On the other hand, I only have friends who are actual friends. I set my securities for only friends to see and try not to post my every move. It's a great way for me to connect with family and friends I don't live near and be a part of people's lives. For me it's a positive thing and my hubby even got on board recently to stay in touch with our car club people.

Good hub!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

11:13 am - I'm making Asian slaw and going to look for your perfect boiled egg recipe for deviled eggs.

Haha! Couldn't resist!


marellen 5 years ago

When you are stuck in the house like me because I caregive my Mom, FB is great. It has reconnected me with family and old friends. Most of the same people comment and come up on my feed but I know who my real friends are because I physically interact with them. Now that I'm on HubPages, FB is not that important. I will however, look everyday, I don't want to miss something. lol

But I'm not as active as I was.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Katherella - I will admit, sometimes I take things a little to personally. I think it comes from my middle child symptom of always feeling ignored and invisible. Unfortunately, sometimes the true colors people shoe on facebook are the same true colors they show in real life. On the other hand, I am glad I know who my true friends are. Those are the ones I can text at anytime and know that they will be there.

@Hyphenbird - I would have to agree - I find it a little bit disturbing when I constantly see someones medical issues all over the status updates. Some things are just better left to themselves. And I have to agree, while I still have my Facebook account - I definately find so much more satisfaction in Hubpages. And the people I have met here are outstanding!

@Just Ask Susan - Oh great - I might have to check out the Texas Hold Them now. I seem to find something that I just can't get enough of and play it endlessly for days. It is a great way to be mindless for awhile. They had one called Pathwords that I was horribly obsessed with for awhile. I guess it is a competition thing for me. ;) I like beating my last score. I do use Facebook for posting some of my writings, but I don't post all of them. I am not really sure why. Maybe it is because it doesn't make much of a difference.

@Realhousewife - I would love it if you had a Facebook account. I can just imagine all the harrassement back and forth. But, since it isn't for you... I will just do well with the stalking on Hubpages! LOL ;)

Your welcome for the mention. I was trying to go with a serious type topics and so it fit... and it was one of my favorite articles too! And I am so proud of you for finally figuring out how to turn those boxes blue! Before you now it you will be inserting links and making charts! You are a pro!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Azure - Funny that you say you would like to unfriend people but don't have the nerve too... I feel the same way. Or I feel like I might miss something if I am no longer their friend. I guess that puts me in the category of just enjoying what ever person has to say about themselves. I was talking to someone and they were talking about cleaning out their friends. Ha ha - I guess I never thought about it as spring cleaning... lol

Your very welcome for the link. Keep writing the good stuff! I like to add exceptional articles onto my stuff. It is almost like a different version of hub hopping... only it is more like a recommendation from someone you like to read their stuff. You never know who you will run into. :)

@Niki - I too spend too much time on Facebook, but after finding Hubpages, I have decreased my time on their. It kind of depends on if I have anything interesting to say. I tried to keep it just friends and family for awhile... but then I realized that if someone friend requested me, I could check them out and if I wasn't comfortable, I would delete them. Some of my better friends are people that I have never met before. But I do like the benefits of being able to keep in touch with people that I might have otherwise lost contact with!

@RealHousewife - Good luck on the Hard boiled eggs - we made 50 this year. OMG - I don't think I am going to want another Hard Boiled Egg for a very very long time once we get through all of those! LOL

@Marellen - My thoughts exactly. I find it horribly annoying if I feel like I miss something. So even if I have been away for awhile I will sit there and go back through all the feeds. Granted, it is easy to breeze through everything if there are a lot of articles posted or horoscopes... the garbage stuff. I think that is how I ended up spending so much time on there in the first place! LOL - I didn't want to miss anything!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Haha! The eggs WERE really perfect! I made perfect deviled eggs (my favorite)! They were gone in about 10 minutes:) thank you!!


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Lady Wordsmith 5 years ago from Lancaster, UK

Well, FB works just fine for me. It allows me to chat to friends who don't live nearby for free - can't complain about that.

If I saw that status update that you talked about I would not comment or 'like' the status, because I would probably think that the person who posted it was being rather too needy and taking FB too seriously. I would probably think 'if you want something, just ask, and if I can help I will! Quit being obtuse with silly status updates, and trying to trick people into declaring themselves as your "true friend" just to make you feel better about yourself!' I don't think the number of friends means very much at all - I have about 160 'friends' on FB, some are real friends and some are only acquaintances. I don't really care whether or not most of them ignore me, because I just enjoy chatting to the people who do interact with me on there :) I never joined FB to collect friends, I went on there to get in touch with the friends that I already have.

FB - I could cope without it, but I'm glad to have it for the time being.

Linda.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@RealHousewife - Outstanding... maybe you should have made a few more so that lasted 11 minutes.

@Linda - In those that posted the same status update... I don't think I liked most of them or even commented on them... unless they were someone that I interacted with on a regular basis. It just made me sad to see such status updates. I don't need to validate who my friends are... but there are people out there that take it really personal. Unfortunately, people will ignore these things... and might also miss that these people are asking for help and asking to be noticed. That is what is so sad about it.


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Lady Wordsmith 5 years ago from Lancaster, UK

It is sad, I agree. People need to relearn how to ask for help outright, I suppose. As soon as most of us see those status updates we don't even read the whole thing, just turn off and move on.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I totally agree. I don't like those forward type spam status updates. If I wanted spam I would go back to check my email! ;)


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Aley Martin 5 years ago from Sumner, Washington,USA

BBG: I love this HUB...it tackles a subject dear to my heart and it also gives me a place to discuss this subject with others.

BFB (Before Facebook) I was involved in a social networking group of spiritually minded people that opened me up to a whole new world of friends. And yes, I did not know them at ALL...but have met 75% of them now in real life....! And they "get me" and I "get them" and we would do anything for each other! The close ones are all part of my life on FB as well as my coworkers from my many jobs, students from my many classes, family, high school classmates, college classmates etc. I am 55 years old and have over 667 "friends" on FB, but most of them are not active, perhaps 150-200 I communicate with on a monthly basis. Some each day, some once a week, others once a month...etc. I have people who like to play the game I play (Citiville) and others who are loyal to read my Hubs, even though they may not comment.I miss my old website that shut down about 2 years ago, but bow find these people are true friends because they have no expectations, they are there with a kind word on a bad day and they do not require me to "meet them for lunch, coffee" or anything else in the physical world, that I have not time to do. The meetings we have had are planned and occurred at different places, or they have come to stay in my home, or I have stayed with them. They are the people I find them to be online. And IF there are those that are less accepting are the stodgy old conservative relatives or old friends who find me "Strange" they un-friend me, or the like. No big loss.

Thanks for sharing a wonderful place/space/Hub with your thoughtful ideas and a place for others to come and comment on their own experiences...this is always a treasure when this happens.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Thanks for stopping by and sharing your wonderful story. It is crazy how sometimes you don't even have to know the person and you become really good friends with them. One of the best friends I have on FB I have never met in real life. We bonded over both naming our son Max (we do however have 1 friend in common - which is how she found me) I have so much in common with her and we have discussed a few serious subjects without even meeting eye to eye. I have also found friends here that are in the same boat that I have never even met in person. These people get me and are just like me.

When a person writes there true person comes out. The great part about this site is that the people who like me on here like me for who I really am. There is no fake behind my writings. On Facebook, sometimes it feels like we are always trying to impress someone. I still enjoy it, but I am glad I have found Hubpages and fellow hubbers who I can really relate to.


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

My friend came over to check on me today because he hasn't seen me online. I've not felt well, so it's on/off etc.

I get your middle child thing, I have the "youngest OOPS" thing! Talk about feeling invisible. At my sons wedding, I had that feeling horribly. Me and my dad were the ONLY people on our side of the family there. Her side was FULL. Nobody introduced themselves, nobody said anything and I felt we were completely in the way. I whispered to what I thought was a person I had a close connection with (my son) that I felt invisible. He got mad and walked off. Her family looked at me like I was evil because I didn't stay after to help clean up. Um, I had an 82yr old father who was tired and wanted to go home, and they weren't making an effort to speak, and I wouldn't put my dad out for NOBODY. I never even got a thank you note for driving 2,000 miles to show up. So I understand ya.

I rarely post to anyone's pages on FB. Strangely enough, the only people who post to me are gamers who want "this or that" that.. so I quit even trying. Send a gift, I'll return one, but that's it.

You guys make me jealous with the devil egg thing! I'm allergic to them, although I used to eat them as a kid and LOVED them. When I realized I was the only one getting sick off them, I knew it wasn't the eggs, it was me! I can only eat them like in a salad! Otherwise I'd try them too! They always look good to my EYES.. my tummy kinda says.. NO! Forget it! lol!

Still working on my comedy movie hub! Oh, guess what I got my 100 followers today!!! Yippie lol!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

That really sucks! Such a sad sad story. I have always felt invisible because my parents were always more concerned about my other sister's and what was going on with them. I guess there was nothing special about me. I was the good child and as they said, they never had to worry about me. I guess that meant I never got to develop a relationship with them either. It is a subject I probably won't breach on here, just because I know family sometimes reads the stuff... and I just don't like starting a big fuss. My husband says I should say something, but I don't really see the point.

Deviled eggs are delish... so sorry you can't eat them. I had one on Easter... but there were so many other snacks that was about it.

Yeah to you for getting 100 followers ... congrats... here is your accolade for that 'Y' --- why - because I can... lol


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Dear Barbergirl,

I am afraid I am a lonely face book person..I will put my hubs on there and no one reads them..boo hoo...I only have the face book to get current pictures of my grandchildren. I can be off face book for days and no one notices..another BOO HOO...Sniff sniff.. I have tried to interact a little. I am afraid that I hub more than face book and I like the hubbers better..:)

Thanks for a great article.I really didn't think of it before but I really am bad at face book..haha Up and Awesome..

Sunnie


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Thanks for stopping by Sunnie - I have to say - I am in the same boat as you are. I can post hubs on Facebook and very rarely do I get any reads from it! So, off I go back into hubland... because I would have to say, I like the hubbers better. They are much more my style ;)

However, I do have a link to my facebook on my profile page... feel free to add me as a friend and I will look at your hubs when you post them!


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Aley Martin 5 years ago from Sumner, Washington,USA

I think this happens because people are not interested in reading...honestly....Hubbers are people who love reading and writing...a lost art. :)


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I noticed that my family and friends will read my things if I ask them to. If I say nothing - then they wouldn't read it on their own. They wouldn't read much of anything with substance on their own. A few lines of chatter is enough. They just don't have the attention span or interest in reading, and I can't fault them for it. One time I asked a relative if he had read a book that I knew he would like and he said, "why read when you can watch a movie?" he was serious. Can't fix stupid.

Now, Sydney - she just devours every word I write. She's 11 and she is a little writer herself. She will chuckle in all the right places, shake her finger at me and show me that she's onto my written humor. It her thing too though so it's really beyond words cool:)


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Thanks Barbergirl I will look you up...now I will have at least one friend who responds..lol


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

lol can't fix stupid!! Last year I met up with my friend from years ago. She married a real JERK.. he got mad at me and said "you're fat and don't belong here" she walked off like she was going to walk home or something lol, and I got out of my truck (mind you it was like 95 degrees out, and I threw a whole tall glass of sweet tea in his face hehehe (bug bait) and said, ya know Chris, I can do something about fat, but you can't do nothing about stupid and ugly LOL!!! Then I left. That's cute about your daughter tho!! At least she's a reader! And about a movie? Um, did anyone ever tell him that there is WAY more stuff in the book than the movie? My friend George reads a book in about a week all the time! Then says I saw the movie, it wasn't half as good.

BBG & SD: Yeah I never post mine on face book either. It's like friends want me to read their stuff even if it's a one word line, and they'll respond to me IF I have responded to something they wrote, so today I posted a hub at BBG's FB page LOL just to gloat about my finally making it to 100. I have one friend who is in college and sometimes she posts up silly stuff and we'll have short banter about it, but that's about it. Today it was "butterheads" lol. BBG you could probably see that if none of them are blocked. lol


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Aley - it truly is said that reading and writing is such a lost art. Unfortuantely they are the ones missing out. After all, they don't know what great jems they have missed!

@Realhousewife - One of my sisters is probably one of the few people who actually seeks out my writing. In fact, the other day, she posted on my wall basically yelling at me cause I apparently haven't been as active on Hubpages as I was a few weeks ago. What can I say - I have been busy and I have been trying to work on my keyword research. LOL - I know - lousy excuses.

My daughter is also another writer. She is 9. she loves to read and she is starting to write little stories. She is too young to read too many of my stuff... although maybe I might give her a try. When she sees me typing she often times inquires what I am writing about. I might just have to do that.

@Sunnie - I definately will... I am all for supporting our writer's out there. After all, we got to revive this lost art. There is way to much junk being posted out there that people are claiming to be writer's from. Real writers, well, I will chase them down to get that new hub read :)

@Katherella - Ha ha - can't fix stupid but you sure as hell can cover it with a drink. Thanks for spamming me with your potato hub. I know think that you owe me a Mr. Potato Head. I haven't played with one of those in years. LOL


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

You should try it! I love her take on things - she is hilarious about it! She even reads some of your hubs BBG! She loves some of the hub people and it's something we talk about together. I do sometimes have to leave out paragraphs or scan for appropriate content but it's a great learning tool for her too!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

That is awesome - we have a future hubber in our hands here! As superheroes we are obligated to mold her into the ideal candidate... on with a sense of humor, sensitivity, and a keen sense for the written word. But I don't know what I am talking about. I think the only requirement was knowledge of the Booty Pop - and that one we will keep away from your daughter... lol


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Now the oldest one has a poppin booty - and that is why I even took note of it - I was teasing her and saying she should get one:) hilarious! Syd laughed her booty off about that one already! The girls thought it was hilarious. I wish you could have been here when they were reading it BBG you would have been pleased:)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I definatley would have been pleased to see their reactions... I am sure we would have all laughed our bootys off... lol

The other day we were teaching our 9 year old to rollerblade. She kept falling on her butt so finally I looked at her and told her that she needed a booty pop. I don't think I have ever seen her roll her eyes so big! LOL


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Too funny! I can totally imagine that scene! Tell little girl on s she gets her center of gravity she will no longer need to booty pop! Haha!

I always like to suddenly yell at Laurel - Dance! Too much booty in the pants!

That always gets the eye roll!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Darn kids and their eye rolls.... I dont' know where they get it from (.) (')... okay that is my eye rolling, but it don't look so good translated in typewritter... lol I guess we will just have to get her to learn to skate... either that or tell them to stop dancing their butt off! LOL


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SweetiePie 5 years ago from Southern California, USA

If it is your own Facebook page, it is not spam to share your articles. However, if someone is posting lots of their articles on other pages, that is spam. I do not mind when people do that from time to time actually, as I found some great blogs that way.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Very good point. If I post something it is only on my wall. Therefore people can choose to see it or choose to ignore it. There is only one time that I spammed someone with my stuff... and they actually asked for it! LOL Although I must say I don't mind the occasional spam, as long as it is something I would really be interested in, and it isn't too often.


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truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

Great Hub! Very funny. I will admit I am on Facebook all the time ~ very addictive. A few people do read the Hubs that I post on there.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Hi Truthfornow - I too am a Facebook addict. Thankfully though, I have been able to replace it with a similiar addiction... like Hubpages. I should post a few of my hubs on Facebook more often but I just find I don't get a whole lot of traffic. Maybe that means I should do it more often! :)


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Mark Ewbie 5 years ago from Euroland

Hi Barber, I'm probably one of those Facebook non friends. I have hundreds, maybe thousands of non friends and they spam me with stuff I am not interested in, and I spam them with my Hubpages. Waste of time. I am now having a clear out.

Good page by the way...


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

well, ALL Superhero's are welcome to spam my FB page with your articles! Don't be surprised if you don't get many hits, the only people who pay attention are the few who are my real life friends and my gamers! lol.. and they already hide from everything! lol! Hey I think I have a hub on if it's ok to spam your friends.. I'll have to look it up, maybe revise it a little lol! (and lol@Yer daughter skating bbg!! hehe.. poor thing.. probably was a good thing she didn't have the ol' Booty Pop on, it might popped and shot her to the ceiling!) lol


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Mark - thousands of non friends - wow! That is a lot of non friends! You must have a fan page! Thanks for stopping by and liking my article. I think I might even spam this as well! LOL

@Katherella - I am really thinking of spamming you. I got about 5 reads from the last one I spammed you with. I think I actually got more views from spamming you then I do when I spam my own stuff.

Ha ha - that is a funny visual of my daughter getting shot to the sky for busting her booty pop! I am going to be laughing my butt off for awhile about that one!


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DIYweddingplanner 5 years ago from South Carolina, USA

I just had this conversation with one of my "real" friends and we decided there are real friends and then there are Facebook friends. Real friends will come and sit with you in the ER when your baby is sick. Real friends come and cry with you when your parent passes away. And real friends let you know every day they are your friends by their actions...not the 384 "friends" you have on Facebook.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

That is a great way to put it. I think I have had this conversation with my husband a few times... of course in a joking matter, I was telling him I was mad because he never liked any of my statuses. In fact, according to Facebook app, he isn't even one of my top friends. He stuck his tongue out at me and we laughed. Facebook is a great invention but sometimes it can be horribly lonely!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

BBG: Spam the heck out of my FB page I got tons of gamers on there so who knows who sees what! :) Yer good, do it! Put booty pop on there and all my perv friends will hit yer page! Oh and lol@yer girl flyin' up with the booty pop! Totally spam my page with that one! And SIGN UP UNDER ME lol

DIY: Yep, that's so true! I actually had to ON TEXT walk my friend through getting THROUGH another friends husbands funeral. We're all really worried/sad for her. They are my friends in real life that DO go out of their way for each other. In fact, when my dad died, they took "shifts" so I wouldn't be alone! Now that's a friend! I do consider some of my FB friends real friends though, they just live like.. on the other side of the earth! :) Others are both gamers and friends we keep up with each other like when we had our last candy bar! lol.

MARK: Geeze, no no no.. let us come spam your page with our stuff LOL then all the sudden people will come out of the wood work and say "wow you have some cool friends" lol! :)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Katherella - I will have to do that when I get into my promotional phases... lol! I usually take the first run of traffic and then when it starts dropping I start promoting to get it back up! Maybe I do things backwards! LOL


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

I know, do it just before you have to do something where you can't be on for a few days! That way, people will come and read your hubs and even if you can approve comments, if you haven't already gotten your 10,000 read hub accolade, then that'll be one thing that would help! Then when you get where you can approve or not, that adds onto your being busy on here! If I would stop reading and replying I could get my hubs in the making posted LOL! But I keep on reading! And posting! lol


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Ha ha - this is almost as bad as an online chat room. Sometimes I spend more time chatting back and forth than I actually do writing. And my husband thinks I spend too much time writing. Boy is he wrong. I am just too darn chatty... lol

BTW - what benefits do you have from getting 10,000 reads. Just curious. I noticed that lately since I got 300 followers I have been getting alot more hits. But, the other thing I noticed to is your stuff gets more active the more active you are. So this chatty stuff is wonderful! LOL :) Big smiles cause I hit a 100 - yeah!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Well, yeah it helps you get more reads! The more accolades I think people see give a newcomer (or not newcomer) the impression that you've got interesting hubs, and they begin their clicking around, eventually jumping in on conversation, plus, they are more apt to buy something off of one of your hubs! (or clicks) I'm going to do for you what my friend did for me when I hit 100. He posted to his FB page kind of to gloat, "look my friend hit 100" so that was cool only I hadn't put my link to referrals in yet LOL so I did that and got a sign up! :) Anyway, so I'm going to do that right now before you go... sleep or eat dinner LOL and it drops to 99 lol!!! I'll promote you on my page, so it's not like your gloating too badly lol on my page! Although my friends who know me well would totally get a kick out of that. Then, maybe you'll get some sign ups under yours.. lmk so I can make ya send me pennies LOL j/k hahahaaa... :) check my page and see it in it a bit!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I am going to skype with my sister than I will check it out


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

All this face book talk! I'm going to get a new account - but no one tell my ex! I'll have to shut it down again! Not LOL! I'm going to be very cautious about my privacy settings! It just got out of hand before. Is there anything wrong with only having like 10 friends on there?


marellen 5 years ago

@realhousewife....you can have 500 but probably only talk to 10 on a daily basis anyway. So, why not have only 10. Good luck with this...


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I don't think there is anything wrong with only having like 10 friends. The other option is to not put anyone on there that you personally know. Use it as a means of networking with your writing. That is when I started adding more people. However, if I notice any problems, I would be quick to delete them, and quick to block them from being able to see my account at all.

Just remember to add me!!!! You can find the link to my facebook profile on my hubpages profile! :)


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

@Marellen - thanks! I need all the well wishes I can get!

BBG - you would be one of the first people I look up:) sorry! Read this and weep! Hey good idea - I'll say it's my "work book" and I'm not allowed any personal calls:) Haha! Ok all kidding aside - thanks because I wondered about that exactly! I didn't know you could just delete people like that (I wasn't on long before the creep was onto me) and I also was constantly confused about what he could see - I always thought he saw my page exactly as did! I actually had to tell friends not to post certain things so he wouldn't know - and he even sent friend requests to ALL of my friends - even my mother! It was ridiculous!


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neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

i think there should be a special word for

'friends" as defined by social networking sites and friends as in real life.That way maybe we would not get into any confusion about whether they are our frieds really speaking.

my favourite facebook story is of the girl who got up and posted on facebook "just got up and stepped off bed" and five people rated it up, one said"wow baby great job"the other said "yeaaa go for it babe " a third said "rad honey real rad" her bf said "that is my baby"and at the end of the series the girl posted "thanks folks i love you all" and went off the brush her teeth confident in the belief that all ws well with the world and that there were people all over who loved her.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Realhousewife - the only reason I know this is because I got in a little tiff with this witch. A friend of mine was going through a potential divorce, her husband took the kids from her said she was mentally unfit... it was a horrible situation. I don't really care - but I did care about the kids. What is between the adults should stay between the adults. Well he kept making these posts on Facebook stating how his poor boys - there mother doesn't really love them. Stupid stuff like that. I retailiated and said that their mother loves them and as their father it is his duty to make sure they understand that instead of filling their head with this bad stuff. I said it nicer - just don't remember. Well his sister started cutting on me. Saying how I don't know what I am talking about and that I dont' care about these children. It was pretty childish and sometimes I get a bit of a temper. Well, she looks pretty mainly and I asked her if she had her operation set to have her balls removed! She blocked me after that. Then she posted something on the same feed about how bad of a person I was because my husband and I split up and I went to visit a friend and had sex with all these men while we were separated. First off, what was between my husband and I is personal and not needed to be on display when we are talkign about the safety of these kids, and second off, don't start rumors about someone who has talked to you once. She blocked me so I couldn't see the trash talking about my suppossed affair... but my husband could! So, I reported her profile... she changed her name, but now a days you can set your privacy so tight that you can even group your friends between people that see certain pictures and people who are just gamers and what not. You should be able to keep him off your site. I know, because I have been blocked! LOL - I am such a bad person apparently... lol

@neeleshkulkarni - It is funny how sometimes the most ridiculous facebook status updates often get the most attention. That is a great story. Thanks for sharing!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

That is crazy! You were the only one being rational it sounds like! See - that's part of my issue - I won't say anything bad about him that Laurel might see (Im pretty sure she won't catch this:) Even at her age - no one should hear a parent talk badly about the other one! I refuse to do that. At first when he sent me a friend request I thought, oh Lulu will like that. I didn't realize what an intrusion it could be! Plus I couldn't say go jump or anything. She knows he's a jerk - she doesn't need me rubbing salt into the wound, ya know?

I am sure I will get blocked:) I will work on it! Haha! This one girl I worked with - very manly - I called her G.I. Joanie:) lol! She started working at the lab years after I did - for some reason she didn't like me. I was very neutral or joking at work - never had issues with anyone - except her. My boss asked what I did to her - I said nothing yet:) haha! She ended up getting fired. Pity.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

That is such a crazy story. I know personally I am all for the kids. The parents... I don't really care about. The kids are the ones that are important. God help my kids... cause I am sure when they are older they will be messed up... because we are crazy! LOL But seriously, the parents need to set aside their issues and not trash each other. It was sad. I am glad she blocked me though... I am much much happier without her in my virtual life - even though I was never friends with her - I was friends with 2 people she regularly commented on. But it does bring a whole new thought about talking behind someone's cyber back... lol

By the way... that is a great nickname you came up for that girl. She should lighten up! LOL


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

OH.. well, I hate to tell you guys, but I have you both beat on this one! I am the REALLY BAD BAD PERSON! Did you know, that I can make you steal from your husband.. thousands of dollars, get your doctor to put you on meds you don't need to be on. Then get your husbands to cheat on you. Make you believe you have a deadly disease, THEN I can MAKE YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE MAD AT HIM WHEN YOU'RE NOT REALLY MAD AT ALL. I can make the girl he cheated with, (whose name I don't even know) sue the company he works for, and make YOU lose at minimal $30,000.00, and then I can turn your 10yr old daughter into being gay, when I never even have spoken to her! Then if I catch you in a lie.. say.. you told me you burned your lip that has a bump, that coincidentally looks like the bumps on your back from a medication that I MADE YOUR DOCTOR GIVE YOU, and then say, "I think you lied about that being a burn on your lip." I am the MOST HORRIBLE PERSON ON THE PLANET because I decide it's time to stop being friends with you because you are mad because I didn't give you $10,000. of the $3,000. my dad left me when he died.

DAMN AM I GOOD OR WHAT!!!

I'm seriously NOT kidding... I totally got blamed for all that from 1,000 miles away. When this husband CALLED ME AND SAID "PLEASE HELP, SHE IS RUINING OUR FAMILY, AND SHE WON'T SEE A DOCTOR WILL YOU PLEASE MAKE HER GO" and I say "You have 24 hours to tell your wife you called me AND WHY. I'm not going to betray the person! So, he tells her, but it's STILL MY FAULT he decided to cheat anyway... but she's not mad at him, she's mad at me, and hates sex and is glad she "doesn't have to go there anymore"... soooo... I must really be inferior and crazy! Or Superior and not crazy!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

G.I. Joanie heheh... I looked up this "problem" I have, and apparently even though I have not had ANY interaction with these kids I stole their WHOLE LIFE. I had to tell her not only do I NOT want to be friends with her, but block her kids WHO KEPT PUTTING ME ON THEIR FRIENDS "I LOVE YOU" LIST, then I see on my cell phone from the 13yr old "I'm sorry" and I couldn't respond, she knew she lied.. so I blocked them ALL OUT OF MY REAL LIFE AND MY CYBER LIFE! How did I manage this when I've been focusing on buying my house. I was telling my doctor about it and he said they call those people "helicopter mom's" and she'll be in danger of losing custody of them, and I'm sure that'll be my fault too. How do i do that?!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

OMG DID IT HAPPEN ALREADY? :( AM I GETTING FASTER AND BETTER AT IT? :( *SNIVEL*


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Yeah BBG - that's so weird to me when you barely know someone and they decide they don't like you? I'd like to at least know a reason? Or I wish I could have at least had the fun of doing something jerky so someone had a right to focus their anger on me.

Kat - yeah you need to block those kind of people out. Waste of your valuable time and not worth the salt in your tears:)

BBG - I added the other link I thought was perfect for my hub! Tell Max thanks;)!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Thanks RH: When I got a phone call and was expecting to hear "how did your eye surgery go" and then get yelled at while my face is all patched and ugh eye drops, I hear all the blaming me for stuff. I even said how smart her daughter was, and she'd been stalking me through her older daughter's id for a year and not telling me. I knew her 25 years, and she didn't even tell me she was online? And everything is my fault, I felt bad for her kid, but I deleted and blocked all of them off now I don't know whose who, I don't care if strangers are on there or people I game with, but Stacy can see my id and know I don't go being mean about anyone! No tears were shed, but thanks.

BBG SORRY I VENTED and jumped the "mean fb people" train on here, it's just like.. ya think you know someone, but you never really did. I wouldn't of even told her I met or liked you guys cos she would of gotten jealous. Never wanted me to have friends other than her, and I've met the coolest fun ppl on here! Oh.. and..

I'm going to upload my comedy movie hub today so, any last request for reviews. Trying to keep this one kinda "family/kid" friendly! Then I'm hittin' the scaries I know about much better lol. Let me know what your kids laugh at the most before I post it! (Kids should laugh, not hear swearing and sex stuff I think)

Oh BBG, how does that skype work for you? I have a friend in Canada that I'd like to talk to real time! We do video's but not the same! Other people can't see or get in on the conversation can they? Maybe do a hub on it lol :)


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Kat - skype is really cool! I wonder how BBG likes it too? It's so much better being able to see your friends or family - or kids while out of town! Plus you can shoot the moon just for fun! That wouldn't be fully appreciated via telephone!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Katherella - you are a BAD girl ;) I can't believe that you can do all that stuff without even trying. Wow, I wish I was that powerful. LOL

Realhousewife - I guess as humans we are all overly judgmental. I read somewhere that it only takes about 7 seconds to judge someone and whether you will like them. I try to keep an open mind until I at least hear them speak. I try not to be too judgemental. But sometimes it just comes out.

@Kathella - Feel free to vent anytime. It is nice to hear other people's stories. And skype is a great tool especially if you want to see someone face to face. I mostly use it with my sister to chat. It is nice because she can see the kids and the kids can see her as well. So even though we might not be in the same state, she still gets to see them grow and they will still recognize her.

@RealHousewife - there is only one negative... you can't go to the bathroom discreetly when you are video chatting... lol


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kesinee 5 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

Your hub is very interesting and I really like what you wrote about facebook and facebook users. Facebook is such a great tool to keep in touch with family members or friends who isolate from each other and a great tool to express one's feeling, attitude, opinion or life style of the users. Whenever one's feel lonesome facebook is a friend.


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Yeah even my Dr was floored at my expertise! ::sigh:: LOL, Oh.. thx for the Skype info, I d/led it on my own computer, I really need to get it fixed. LOL don't spill soda on a laptop. My bf actually said "well go wash it off" RIIIGHT, I'LL SQUIRT IT WITH THE HOSE, better yet, drop it in the bathtub and scrub the key's LOL!! I told him if he buys me a new one, then he can wash my old one! LOL

RH: Yeah, it's scary to take friends to the bathroom with you if you have iPhone 4 too. I mean, if you do, it has to be under something. I've heard they might video you after they are off! lol.

Hi Kesinee! Beware! lol :)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Kesinee - thanks for the wonderful comment. Facebook is a great tool to use, whether you are lonely or just chatty... :)

@Katherella - I would highly advice against washing your laptop... or for that matter... drinking soda over the top of your computer. I am lucky. I drink around my computer but I have been lucky enough to hardly spill. However, my son does have a tendency to do a lot of hard shut downs of my laptop. Sometimes right in the middle of me commenting or reading something. That can get really annoying.


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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Great hub...I enjoyed reading your views on facebook....I would say I am a passive facebook friend...only signed up..cause "you have to do it"....only sign on when I have a request via e-mail.....now hubpages on the other hand....now that is my addiction...voted up


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Cogerson - I go through phases where I am really active on Facebook. Then, all of a sudden, I have nothing to say. So, I just don't say anything at all. Lately, that has been the case. Now I comment occasionally, upload a status maybe once a day... if that. Hubpages, on the other hand, is a completely different story. The comment section itself is a whole different editorial and can sometimes get off track! It can be pretty fun around here!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Jeeze Kat - you just scared me right outta getting that iPhone 4:) holy hsit! That would be horrifying! Lmao!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I am so glad my phone isn't due for an upgrade.... I am the second line so my husband got a new phone - I get to wait. But at least I won't be tempted by the iPhone4 anymore... lol


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Don't get the back flip either - biggest piece of crap I've ever had!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I have come to realize it is always when you get something new that they come out with something better... than you realize how much money you spent on that piece of crap...lol


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Ok duh um, I've been trying not to be long winded, but just for clarity I should mention that "i heard this about the lady shutting her iphone off".. I don't know if she did or didn't! But mine has never taken a photo or done anything other than ring when it shuts down. If I actually TURN IT OFF lol like hold the top button down it doesn't do anything until I turn it back on. So don't take that to be solid that these smart phones are that smart LOL how's it going to turn itself around and aim (omg dont' wanna give it idea's lol) That kinda reminds me of that movie.. grr.. name!!.. the robot that kept screaming input input! lol! But no I wouldn't trade my iPhone in for NOTHING! I made a vlog about it on my way home one day.. LOL I kissed it! haha..

yeah the soda thing, in fact since I got my sight sight back I've not spilled anything on anything or anything at all. Oh BBG: lol I was blind when that happened! I guess I should mentioned! Oh, and to prevent a hard shut down on your laptop, change the setting or d/l firefox I just shut this laptop off now when I have to get up, and when I open it, it's right where I left off and didn't use battery life other than the little light on the side saying it's plugged in! No! Totally don't think I'm too crazy LOL I "MY" laptop is this huge klunky thing ugh, I needed a big screen when dad was in the hospital and I didn't have glasses cos I didn't know at that time what was wrong with my eyes that I couldn't just get glasses when I got home, but then my dr looked in and started calling and making appointment etc. and scaring me, but got all fixed!!! But my shoulders have those damn impingment things that TOTALLY BLOWS so I can't even hardly lift it, so that's why I'm going to give it to the bf when he gets here if that's what we decide.

In either event yeah don't let what I said sour ya on getting an iPhone, but the only reason I'd detour someone from one is the cost! But yeah the new upgrades thing too! Back in 96 my computer professor told me, it was dumb for someone to put "under construction" on a webpage because THEY'RE ALWAYS under contruction so it's just redundant! I think everybody should just get what they need for them, that suits them ya know! Like now I have my eyesight back I don't want that big ass thing back LOL. But my shoulder/back meds make me thirsty a lot and.. omg I'm not like my friend who can DRY SWALLOW A POTASSIUM pill (ever see how huge they are?).. I don't see how he does it, speaking of.. ugh.. I HATE PILLS :( AND PAIN lol. Um, I uploaded a new hub if you guys want to check it out.. or not, the one person who posted, is the same person, you know BBG ON THAT ONE SITE.. "what would you have your kid collect" and she picked ROCKS lol now I know because SHE collected them as a kid she picked that for her kid! lol. I mean I think I gave valid points all around. it was almost like she came back to bash me or something. I think the lil baby at the end was cute though.

I'm almost done with my comedy hub then aw, I was going to do one on the lolz cats, and after I made really cool ones the rules say you can't use them on a monitized site! SO, I think I'm on to my scary -sooky or cheesy horror flick hub plus I have a few more at least I got pix for today.

Have I rambled long enough? LOL :) wait :Dooooooooooo (that was in song) LOL


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Katherella - I don't think you ever have to worry about your rambling. I think the amount of time it takes for you to write a comment increases my scores! Ha ha - so stick around ramble as much as you like... (would you mind rambling on some of my lower scoring hubs!) LOL

I can't wait to get a new phone - today I went to take a picture and all of a sudden the screen started flashing all these weird colors and it completely froze. Got to love the Blackberry. For me, it is one of the worst phones I have had for longevity. It was great for the first 2 months and I have had nothing but issues since! Stupid phone.

As for the laptop, I never usually shut it off. I do the same thing you do, but if my son comes up and sits by me, he is intrigued by the power button and then all of a sudden the next thing I know the screen is going black. Crazy kid! Must be telling me to get off the computer or something. Cause afterwards he laughed! Boy am I in for it! LOL


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Barry Silver 5 years ago from Rockford to Chicago and back.

BarberGirl,

Liked the HubPage. I just completed the exercise you referenced and got 4 thumbs. I don't feel it's indiciative of my friends. It's much more a statement that if Zuckerberg had called the action "acquaintencing", we'd still be talknig about MySpace.

I have often commented about Twitaholics that Social Media is merely a tool. If you are engaged and can't figure out how to properly use it, than you are the tool. Same for Facebook.

Thanks so much for sharing. As I started, loved it.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Barry - I have to agree. Facebook or any social media network - does not show you who your friends are. If anything, it is a popularity thing. And unfortunately, those who are popular don't necessarily have the true friends that those who have less friends actually have. It has kind of gotten mixed reviews, overall. Some people take it way to seriously. But really, it is just a tool.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Speaking of FB - did you see the article I "shared" on FB? I'm confused - I don't know if I should have one or not!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I had to go back and check because I wasn't sure which article you were talking about... Pole Dancing with Jesus - yes - you should have shared... lol

Oh wait - you were talking about the Facebook account. Anytime you open yourself up on the internet - even on Hubpages, it can be tracked. So, with that being said... there is danger all around - it depends on how you use it. Okay - now I am actually going to go read it. LOL


Anne 5 years ago

I don't know day or night when I work with Facebook. It's like I get all that I need.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Anne - Facebook is a great tool. I am glad you get what you need from it.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

No I'm sorry I meant the article I shared about why you should close your FB account. It has to do with privacy and junk. I thought everyone would realize that one you press send on the Internet - it's like throwing out the trash - it's no longer private. So I'm not sure why that article is like news? It's confusing to me. Oh well - don't answer that question! Lol


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Yeah - it was the most recent one you published, when I responded I hadn't looked yet - so that was the smart a$$ coming out! LOL But I do agree - that shouldn't have been considered news! LOL But, then again, look at all the common sense things a person can write and people think they are brilliant for writing them... lol... I do that a lot! LOL What can I say - I am brilliant! LOL


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

You should have just been named - Brilliant! Or when you were in the service - could anyone resist calling you hot lips houlahan? Haha! I don't know if you watched Mash.....


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myi4u 5 years ago from United Kingdom

It's all very true. Most facebook users just add any friends so that they could be seen as having many "friends" in their facebook profile. I tried to be careful when adding friends nowadays. As I live in the UK at the moment, most of my facebook friends will be Malaysian. Hence, one of the reasons of making wall posts is to let my true friends know a thing or two about my life here. In addition, I would prefer to chat using the message function rather than making comments on the wall.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Realhousewife - No - I have never been called that before. But that is okay! I never really got into MASH so it wasn't like I was thinking about it... lol

@myi4u - Sometimes I see these people on my feed and daily it is like so and so is friends with so and so and 11 other people. It drives me crazy. I can't honestly say I know that many people... lol. I am pretty picky about who I add. Therefore, most people I add are for a purpose.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

It was a hilarious show! I'm sure the service wasn't quite as fun as they made it seem.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I have seen a couple of them, but just in passing because my husband would through it on TV. I don't usually watch TV, I am addicted to my laptop :) But from what I have seen - yeah - the service wasn't all fun and games like they made it out... but we did have fun! LOL


reeltaulk 5 years ago

Lol I couldnt read you entire hub, but I read enough to agree that it's quite obvious that most people are indeed lonely and post way too much information on facebook as though people really care, or maybe just to get people's attention to care. In all actuality I believe that some people are on there for promotional and advertising purposes. They have alot of "friends" and people they can market to. So in all actuality facebook serves different purposes for everyone. Whatever their reason they have to live with the reality they have created. Personally I don't like the people on there trying to convert or condemn people with religion. It is so repulsive, I just delete them if I see anything I deem repulsive come through my feed.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@reeltaulk - Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I do believe that people create their own reality on facebook. I have a facebook account for a variety of different reasons. One - it helps me keep in tough with others, Two - it is fun, Three - it is great for networking and promoting (even though I don't see a dramatic increase with that!)

HOwever, I do agree with you about the religious stuff that comes through. I don't appreciate all the religious feeds or the political feeds. These are great ways to start arguments and I try to stay away as much as possible. Now - I do have my opinion about each - but it just isn't worth starting an internet fight! I just ignore those posts.


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tony0724 5 years ago from san diego calif

barbergirl major props to you on this one ! I had written a hub with subject matter synonomous to what you are writing here. I called it the lost art of talking face to face. And like you were talking about here it seems as technology envelopes more of our lives we indeed grow more isolated and impersonal, I do not see this as healthy for people , families and society in general. I will take a smile over a cup of coffee at the shop then a smile on the computer anyday ! Two thumbs up here.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Tony - I agree. It seems in today's society we have lost touch with face to face contact. Today, it is much easier to just send a quick text, write on someones wall or send an email. We have seemed to become so technologically savy that it is as if we almost forgot how to communicate in person. Thanks for the wonderful comment. While I do enjoy the different social networking sites, I too will take a smile over a cup of coffee any day over a virtual smile!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

A great Facebook analysis! I do not care about the status of a person who says things like, "I am going to go water the flowers," or the like (such as those you mentioned). Okay, water your flowers. I do like to know about the needs of my friends, their humor, and an occasional good "forward." When people find a site they like with positive quotes, that is nice, but when they fill up a page or more of my newsfeed with their quotes, I get a bit irritated. You analyzed most of the Facebook scenarios with grace and humor. I loved it!! Up and across! :-)


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@sholland - Thanks for stopping by. I have learned to take Facebook with a grain of salt... some have everything to say and some have nothing to say. But basically it is like hubpages. You say what you want.. some will come back with a great response and others won't get any feedback whatsoever. I guess I like interaction! Thanks for stopping by and I am glad others see it the way I do! :)


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

I didn't have time to read all the comments, so I am only responding to your Hub which I think is excellent, balanced, and asks and answers some important questions about how we use social media, What Facebook purports to be and what constructive role it can actually serve in our lives.

Here is how much I like and appreciate your Hub. I desperately wish I had written it! :) For the past four years, I have made my immediate family crazy by saying to them (in bits and pieces of course) most of what you said in your great article.

I was on Facebook briefly once, at a friend's invitation. I was inundated with trivia and mindless requests and comments and I had no time for games of any kind. I realize it serves a positive purpose for some people, and people at great distance from each other can stay in touch which is wonderful, but it was not for me.

I joined HP to belong to a quality writer's community. I don't hate the Forums or the Question/Answers, but I seldom go there. What I want to read, and hopefully write, are articles that are at the top of the game. And so far I havee not been disappointed. That is not everyone's purpose at HP, but that is OK, there are enough really good and really serious writers here to keep me interested, intrigued and happy. Thanks for listening. :)


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@phdast7 - I have to admit I have a love hate relationship with Facebook. For awhile I was so amoured by the constant companionship... even if it was only a virtual one at the time. True - I do know almost all of my facebook friends personally, but some of them are purely online friends. But when it gets slow, I find I get bored. Hubpages almost replaced Facebook for me. I found the community interaction what I was missing on Facebook. I found people who, frankly, are just like me. They want to say something, they want to be listened to and they want to have intellectual conversations... even if that means just back and forth in the comments. I am glad that you found this truly something that you wish you could have said. That is probably one of the best compliments a person could ever recieve! :)


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debbie roberts 4 years ago from Greece

I totally agree with you on the fact that people should stop taking Facebook so seriously. After three years on Facebook I have accumulated about twenty five friends and family - a fact that I'm sadly proud of. On the rare occasions I do login I get an email from them welcoming me back - that in itself makes me feel noticed!!!

What worries me is that some children actually believe that having hundreds of friends on Facebook gives them some sort of status in life. I've tried to teach my two only to except people from their classes and family and so far they seem to have listened. It's my Mum that befriends all and sundry, bless her!!

Give me HubPages anyday!!..

An interesting hub, thank you for sharing....


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@debbie - I am not really sure what people's fascination is with collecting friends. For the most part - I want to be in contact with those who mean something to me. Recently I have also used it as a networking purpose for Hubpages. While I use to have it as close friends and family, I have really met some outstanding hubbers through Facebook. But, even then, it really shouldn't be taken too seriously. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. I appreciate it! :)


Deepunetfish 4 years ago

A different hub and very interesting, i myself made an assessment on which category i suits best and thinks that I am an average friend. voted up and sharing in facebook


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Deepunetfish - Glad you enjoyed it. I range somewhere in between active and average. Somedays my life revolves around Facebook. I can literally check it every 2 minutes and be disappointed as to why nothing new is popping up... and other days, I don't even care what is going on! Thanks for stopping by. I am glad that you enjoyed this and thanks for sharing!


bettybb 4 years ago

An excellent article. Thanks for posting it. I enjoyed it.

I believe it's impossible not to take FB seriously at times, especially when people we care about ignore important posts.

I'm hurt over my family and friends' lack of support. I recently announced the publication of my first novel, my lifelong dream. Only three of my 300 FB friends--many of whom are relatives and writer friends I've known for years--clicked the "like" button or commented.

I've repeatedly asked myself why they're so silent. I've concluded that some may not have seen the post, some may feel that acknowledging it obligates them to buy and read it, some don't care, and some may be jealous. The only thing I'm certain about is that many of them saw the post as they're habitual FB users.

Most of the same people did press the like button and offer their congratulations when I announced that my son graduated from high school.

For a while, this experience convinced me that my novel sucks and that everyone is silent, because they don't want to tell me. An editor assured me that this is not the case. She loved the story so much that she read the 600-page novel in one day.

I would have deleted my FB account, but, since I'm a writer, networking with others in the field is of vital importance. Still, every time I log in, I feel bitter toward some of these people. I've considered deleting some of them from my friend list and have already gotten rid of two.


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@bettybb - Thank you for the truly heartfelt comment. I can totally relate because sometimes I feel like I get more status notifications from other people's status updates than from what I myself have actually updated. I guess sometimes I can just be overly sensitive. I know since the changes that Facebook made I can say that I know I have missed alot of my friends statuses. While I do have the ability to check it on my phone, sometimes they don't all show up and when I get back to the computer, I notice different statuses coming up. Even then, it still saddens me that sometimes we can be so excited over something that happens and nobody wants to share in your joy.

I am sorry that you had that happen to you. I would hope that when I publish a novel that all of my facebook friends would congratulate me and show me support. But as you said, as a writer it is a great networking tool. Can't live with it... can't live without it.

Now - just out of curiosity - what is the name of your novel! I would love to check it out and see if it is something that interests me.


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ccmorrow 4 years ago from Florida

This is a really great blog! And it is so true about all the different "facebookers" out there. You have the ones who are constantly posting their every move or feeling, and it's their online diary. But, I will agree that facebook is a great tool to connect with family and friends who are a good distance away. Another good point that you mentioned is the immense amount of friends some people have.. and over the years, you accumulate many friends. So, how many of those do you really interact with? or even want to interact with? Funny to think about.. I'm going to go through my friends list now and see who the heck is on there :) haha


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@ccmorrow - Thank you so much for the comment and I am sorry it took awhile to get back to you. Apparently the comment went into the spam folder and I just found it.

I just have to say, this is such a thought provoker. What kills me is the sheer number of friends some people have. Sometimes I have a hard enough time keeping up with the ones I have. If I were to add a thousand to it, I think I would miss so much more than I already do!


Atyq 4 years ago

Ya know, BBG, try not to take things to personally, especially on there. As I said I had friends for along time on there, and newer friends, plus my gamers, with some I have made new friendships. Sheri and I are very close, when I go to Michigan, we hang out, spend the night at each others house, stay up all night, go out to eat etc. and right now I'm REALLY worried over her health. Her brain is bleeding, she's depressed beyond words, our mutual friend Karen's husband just died last week in his sleep. Karen can't seem to talk to anyone, Sheri feels helpless, and is under more stress. I text with them, but are words are very few on FB. But I might talk with someone I barely know, or posting in a group and missing my feed. If I refresh my feed and the McDonalds incident I was in tears over is gone and the "I just ate a candy bar" is there from a gamer I don't know. So it's a matter of understanding that while some friends might need me or acknowledgment has been pushed down the feed. So it's not always a matter of someone being ignored, it's the speed the feed goes and unless I go seek it out, it's gone, then I'm moved between the 9 browser tabs I have open. If Sheri blamed my missing her headache of today on "my true colors" that might be bright rather than dark, she would spend her days thinking nobody cared for what is happening to her. In reality, she knows that if she emailed or text me and said "I need you" that I would be tossing overnight clothes, my dog in my truck and on the road in a heartbeat.

She sent me a text last week just before the funeral. It said "I'm afraid, I can't go in. I'm in the parking lot. I can't ease Karen's pain." I had to text her back, if she sees you, you've comforted her. You can't ease her pain, nobody can. I had to remind her, what she did when my dad died. "I didn't do anything, I didn't know what to do." I had to tell her, "You came over, we sat in my truck and sang songs and drank beer and backed up the song if we missed a word, you kept my mind busy, but that is all you could you." -Silence-

People stress over things they cannot help. Things they can't change. What others think or their actions. For Karen, every other day I send her a heart text. No words, nothing else. Then one night, I got a text from her in the middle of the night "Thank you, you're a wonderful friend." Because that is all we could do for each other.

I've known Jeremiah 19 years. He's been a great friend to me. He's gone though my darkest hours, my happiest days. But it's a rarity he clicks a "like" but in reality, his truest colors are, he's going to always be there for me unless he can't. And it would be out of his control. I can't judge him on how often he comments on things, if I did, my heart would be broken a LOT. But when I posted my rant over the McDonalds incident, he knows I totally freak and cry over those things. His small words that replied, were his words of comfort not just to what happened to the poor girl who was attacked and beaten, but to me because he knows how I react to those things. Try not to let the colorless wind blind you.


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Atyq - Thank you so much for the well thought out and deep comment. You are very right. True colors will show through on the moments that we need them and usually that isn't going to be in the Facebook feed. Sometimes people take everything to heart. I sometimes am one of those people. :) But I do know who will be there for me when I need them most. From that stand, those are the same people I will reach out to regardless of whether they have liked something on facebook or even made a comment.


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sunilkunnoth2012 3 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

Informative and useful. Gladly shared on my FB account. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. Voted up.

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