Internet Temper Tantrums

Some time back there was a fascinating discussion on a forum about deleting or not deleting comments. I realize many people strongly feel that keeping all comments on Hubs and websites is respecting freedom of speech, but to me there is not taking away from freedom of speech if you delete negative overly provocative, or pointless comments. I do not delete the majority of comments, but if someone feels negative and wants to throw a temper tantrum on my hub I will delete their little fit. The little sour grape can go write a hub about how I did not approve their childish comment, but I do not have to keep it on my hub. My stance on this issue is I enjoy edifying, informative, respectfully humorous, and positive comments, and some comments just wreak of someone who wants to take their bad attitude out on the world. The Internet is a space where small number of people feel comfortable doing this from the anonymity from behind their computer when making some really nasty or just ridiculous remarks.


Only kids look cute when throwing a temper tantrum.  Adults cannot get away with this look!
Only kids look cute when throwing a temper tantrum. Adults cannot get away with this look!

I have received a few of these comments in the past and sometimes they are written by anonymous posters, and other times people actually use their real profile to post these tirades. One man that was Jehovah's Witness was so offended by my hub stating that this is a religion people should reconsider raising their children in, but he said I must be a sour grape because I did not have a good experience with this group. Interestingly he left a link to the Watch Tower website encouraging people to obtain "real" information about Jehovah's Witnesses, which is very humorous because this group will never tell the truth to your face. Actually this group has a fun time prodicting the end of the world, and their founder insisted his wife remain celibate while he made conquests towards a young teenager girl he was supposedly mentoring. Does this sound like good family values? Not really.

The Jehovah's Witnesses want you to believe that good Christians will never display an ounce of patriotism or salute any flag, but they have no problem using the US legal system to secure their freedom of religion. For years the Jehovah's Witnesses preached about how the UN was an evil organization that represented Satan, but interestingly the Watch Tower is an NGO (Non-Government Organization) within the United Nations. So the JW propaganda will continue to preach about the Biblical references of how the UN represents the end times, but they will rely on this organization to protect their human rights interests countries that do not always support freedom of religion.

Mr. Pro JW poster to start a bitter argument with me with his emotional rant, but my point of view is that it is my personal hub with my point of view on it. The few years I spent attending Jehovah's Witness Kingdom Hall in elementary school were were a bit socially ostracizing because I was not allowed to participate or take part in even the simplest of holidays. Mr. Pro JW poster can go write a hub about how great his religion is, but I do not have put up with his silly comment, especially since all he wanted was to he j prove his comment was bigger than mine. I am not lover of debate, and if a comment is negative or a happy attitude drain, well there is a possibility it may just be deleted. Companies have the freedom of speech to send out junk mail, and I have the initiative to throw that away too! If Mr. New Affiliate of the week wants to post a spammy link or overly promotional comment to my hub, then I have no problem sending these to spam land. Go write a hub telling us why your contradictory religion and/or spam link is really important as I am sure everyone is pining away to read about that! Not!

My favorite deleted and spammed comment was from an anonymous poster in Boston ( I looked up his IP). This man wanted to let me know my pop-up card was the ugliest thing he had ever seen, and that I had the motor skills of a child. Oh well, I guess he was in a rotten little mood, and if he hates my pop-up card that much, then he does not have to look at it. There was no way I was going to indulge his little snarky comment and defend myself as his tirade was only meant to try to zap my energy. People have freedom of speech, but I also have the liberty to delete and spam their odd ball comments. Suppose I have to give Mr. Boston brownie points for making me laugh before I deleted his garbage.

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

 If someone wants to delete a comment, that's their right, or if they want to keep it, its fine too. Same goes for avatars, some like to use art or photos of celebrities,  instead of the real photo, and that's fine too.  However, a nasty belligerent comment just for the sake of being mean, I would delete.

When folks don't feel good on the inside, they vent on others; glad you showed Mr. Boston the garbage . hehe.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Hi Violet Sun,

Keeping most comments is probably best, but I just see no point in keeping some comments meant to start arguments. Yes I think that Mr. Boston comments do belong in the recycle bin :). Thanks for sharing :).


SirDent 7 years ago

Great hub, Sweetie. I understand where you are coming from. I edit comment capsules anymore to wherew I have to approve the4 comments before they appear.


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BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

I agree SweetiePie. I can understand the right to agree or disagree - but no one has a right to aggravate me, rain on my parade, disrespect me, expect me to suffer fools gladly, etc.


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

<stamps> IT'S NOT FAAAAIR!


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Elena. 7 years ago from Madrid

I'm laughing at my European fellow hubber temper tantrum here! :)

SweetiePie, this is your party and you ought to play it like you want to play it. I think we all have to be aware that by posting our opinions or creativity we expose ourselves to "critizism", and I think that should be expected and I think it's fair.  However, I am with you that plain bad manners and insults and personal attacks are not only in bad taste but also probably "removable" in nature because they really don't contribute ANYthing to either the writer's edification or that of the visitors.


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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States

<---- rolls on floor, screaming waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I always regret deleting comments, but I do delete them if they contain profanity. If someone is negative, it can be an opportunity to clarify or illuminate some other point.


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earnestshub 7 years ago from Melbourne Australia

Hi SweetiePie. I enjoyed reading the comments as well as the hub. I have only deleted one comment so far, but I don't get many visitors apart from my fans here on hubpages So far I have had about 6,000 hits, and most are from fellow hubbers who are generally well mannered and supportive, I guess I will be getting bad comments when I get more visitors..


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

sirdent,

I can understand wanting to edit comments.  I still let things go through, but no qualms about deleting certain comments.  They can go have their temper tantrum else where :).

BkCreative,

Positive comments are just much more sunny to me.  I have more time to focus on positive things.  I often let through comments that do not agree with me, but see little point in debating.  I am not a debater :).

LondonGirl,

I think you are joking :).  Very funny :).

Elena,

Yes I agree with you to some point about how we open ourselves up to critism when we publish, but we also have the freedom to ignore those opinions that are negative :). Many great writers and celebrities ignore the ridiculous reports and negative reviews because when they produce their work it is for themselves, and they feel people should take them as they are.  After being in several professions where I learned everyone had a different opinion I just think there are way too many critiques and negative comments out there.  The Internet seems to be a popular place for them to live, so I just delete these when they come my way.  At the end of the day I write and create for me, and no one has to love me for it, but at least I know that those who enjoy what I have to contribute are at least honest and true.  Thanks for sharing.

Tom,

I have a few hubs where people like to sign in anonymously and leave a weird comment.  To me the hub speaks for itself and indulging their fit is like giving candy to a baby.  If someone wants to tell me something very weird they are just spam and no reasoning with them :).  I appreciate your comments though.

earnesthub,

Thanks for reading and sharing.


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C.S.Alexis 7 years ago from NW Indiana

SweetiePie,

I love it when you speak your mind on such issues. You have your right to do as you please and shout it to the world. It appears to me that you most likely do not have a harmful bone in your body and really are most interested in what is right for all. Thumbs up to you!


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

C.S. Alexis,

Thanks for your support. Actually people tell me I am way too nice, and I believe in my online writing I express my opinion more freely than in social situations. I am truly believe in what is right for all and feel everyone has the right to write about what they please :).


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ShalinIndia 7 years ago from Gurgaon,INDIA

Freedom is what i like....can be good for me bad for others...


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

ShalinIndia,

Well the type of freedom I am talking about is not where someone puts others down. All I mean by freedom is allowing someone to design a card or say they do not like something without being criticized for it. Even recently in the forum I saw a large group of people verbally gang up on a man from Africa who simply stated he feels that Westerners do not have as strong as family values as people in more traditional societies. If I were him I would have stayed out of the forum because people were unfairly getting mad at him for just expressing his opinion, but they continued to tell him he was biased and they were not. However, everyone has a bias, and to me I just do not like to see someone with a divergent opinion be told they are wrong constantly. I thought the comments towards him were mean spirited, but I would never say so there because there is too much of a pack mentality when it comes to certain people. Oh well, at the end of the day I think people could allow others to express their opinions more freely.


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Al Martin 7 years ago from U.S.A.

Freedom of speech is one thing, basic civility however is just as important. This is your hub. If someone wants to make an ass of himself, he should do it on his own hub.


Crazdwriter 7 years ago

I'm with you on this one girl! I don't like when people are rude. No where does it state that Freedom of Speech or Freedom or Religion that you can be a total ass and be rude. So I agree with you, already having deleted some rude comments from one of my hubs. So I agree with you 100%

And I couldn't help but laugh at some of the comments made on here. lol they were funny the ones who were "throwing a tantrum." lol


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Crazdwriter,

You take time writing the hub, so I think the freedom to delete comments is in order. Not all comments are worthy of being shown, in my opinion anyway.


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina

sp,

I have had neg comments on the hub about my daughter. I left it there because it reminds me of what an uneducated idiot they were. It was an unregistered user anyway. Don't let it upset you, yea this is Dori telling you not to get upset. lol

dori


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

It does not upset me Dori, I just do not have the patience or time to indulge their temper tantrums, so I deleted these. Thanks for stopping by.


SirDent 7 years ago

I found something for those who feel a temper tantrum coming on. Just click the link.

http://www.instablogsimages.com/images/2007/10/09/...


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Very cute image.


SirDent 7 years ago

Thanks. ;)


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

It is amazing all the fun blog images to be found out there :).


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

SP, I'm in total agreement with you. As the creator of the hub, you have every right to accept or deny any/all comments. Freedom of Speech is a guaranteed right in America. But not on your hub! Good for you for deleting inappropriate, slanderous and ridiculous rants.

At least you got a chuckle out of one of them, tho!


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

SweetiePie- Very good hub. I once had this discussion with weblog but it was about my inability to edit my comment I found frustrating with people who set it "approval". For me I can understand the ultimate onus lies with the hub owner i.e., whether to deny or allow a comment. Irrelevant/personal attacks may sometimes take away the essence of the hub's original message.

Ultimately as long as one sticks to the rules and follows the hubpages TOS I don't see why somebody should take issue whether somebody denies or allows since the prerogative lies with the hub owner.


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Here's another idea to slow down the venomous commenting! http://www.thegreenhead.com/imgs/smittens-romantic...


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Mighty Mom,

Some comments are just too ridiculous as we have seen even on the forums here. Of course I know most people do not leave slanderous types of comments, and most who left the weird comments were not signed in. Thanks for sharing the cute blog image too :).

countrywomen,

I always enjoy your common sense and fair approach to these matters. You are always fair with your comments :).


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Thanks for the compliment about my "common sense" although my husband might disagree with you ;)


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

I think it is a husband or wives job to say that about their significant other :). I am glad you found such a nice guy :). Although, I am sure he does realize you are a very sentient women cw.


Writer Rider 7 years ago

Freedom of speech pertains to hubs, in my opinion, not comments.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

That is pretty much my take on it too. If someone cares that much about it they can just write a hub.


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lawmarketing 7 years ago from Fort Pierce, Florida

Your hub is YOUR sandbox.

If you don't want CATS doing what cats do in sandboxes - well, it's your RIGHT to not let them defecate in YOUR sandbox.

I agree with Writer Rider. Freedom of speech means the freedom to create YOUR OWN hub - not the freedom to crap all over someone else's hard work.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Thanks for sharing your views.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

I was joking...hehe. Usually he is very nice but he does have his moods. Most often it is when I try to persuade aggressively for morning walks when he still wants to sleep and that's when I have to receive his uncommon ire. ;)


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Earthscribe 7 years ago from Tampa, Florida

"Go write a hub..."

Exactly. 'Freedom of Speech' is often cried out by commenters at the slightest assertion of editorial authority, often by those who've no contextual knowledge of its actual Constitutional function. Lame...

I say delete anything you want, for any reason, in your sphere of influence -- your Hubs. This isn't a democracy! It's a webservice for cryinoutloud.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

countrywomen,

I know you were joking, but even in a joke there is some truth. I think all spouses sometimes get on each others nerves, you know :). Of course your husband is a great guy, but it does not mean you two will agree all the time. I think you should just go on the walk in the morning if you want. My sister and husband have two kids, but much of what they do is separate anyway.

Earthscribe,

Very well said! You know I do not even delete that many comments when it comes down to it.


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Lgali 7 years ago

Hi SweetiePie good read


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Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

sweetie pie, I have to agree with you on this too. Its Like my husband gets upset when someone cuts in on him on the road or does something stupid. I tell him to cool off and just ignore them, as they are the idiots and they will get to their graves first. If we get annoyed we are just lowering ourselves to their level. What do you think. thanks for sharing that.


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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA Author

Eileeen,

I think some people tend to get too upset about the road. Road rage is really bad her sometimes during rush hour, and I almost even hate crossing streets. My pet peeve is how California are allowed to make a right hand turn on a red light, and many people fail to stop and nearly hit me when I am crossing the road because there is a walking light. I just try not to get upset about their inconsideration because there is nothing I can do about it. I agree with you about how we should not let the actions of others anger us.

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