Is It Wrong to Post a Selfie on Facebook?

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The Selfie

I've been hearing a lot of talk lately about the "selfie." For anyone that does not know, a selfie is basically a photo you take of yourself. Yes, some people pose in the mirror to take a selfie. Other people may pose with a group, but want to be in the photo as well, so the photographer aims the camera at his or herself and the group. For some reason, many selfies are in the bathroom (I suppose because the lighting is best in there).

Lately, all I have been hearing is negative commentary about the selfie. Well, you know what? Get over it! Why is everyone so anti-selfie now? People have been taking these so-called selfies for years, even before the age of digital cameras. Of course, now it is ever so much easier to take a selfie because of the digital age. You can take numerous photos with your phone or camera, and then choose only the best one to post online. Once that is posted, you can delete the less than flattering photos just like they never existed.

What is Bad About a Selfie?

So many people now talk about the selfie as if it is a terrible thing. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with many of the selfies I've seen on Facebook, Twitter, and other sites. Sometimes you simply want a nice profile pic and when you want something done right, you have to do it yourself!

There is an assumption that people are vain if they take a lot of selfie photos. While that is true in some cases, this is not true for everyone. Some people just like to share with their Facebook friends a lot. They take photos of themselves when they lose a few pounds, buy a new shirt, or get a new haircut. If you are home alone and feel the need to share a photo of yourself, obviously you are going to have to take a selfie.

Duck Face & Bathroom Shot - Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right

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When Selfies Go Wrong

Part of the reason there are so many anti-selfie people out there is because of the selfies that go wrong. People are taking selfies during inappropriate situations, such as a funeral. While I am sure folks are mourning the death of grandma and not fully thinking straight at the time, that is still not a good excuse for taking a selfie.

Aside from being in the wrong place for "selfie" time, there are a number of other selfies that people find annoying. Due to this small amount of terrible selfies, it has given the selfie a bad name. Some examples of selfies everyone should avoid include:

  • The naked or half naked selfie (save that one for your significant other!)
  • The strange angle selfie (often focusing only on one good attribute - this is very popular on dating sites)
  • The "I am asleep in bed" selfie (did you take that photo in your sleep?)
  • The boob shot (taken from a high angle so viewers can see what a gal has to offer - also a popular photo on dating sites)
  • The creepy alone in basement/dark room selfie (men do this a lot - for whatever reason, I do not know)
  • The mirror and/or bathroom shot (yeah, it was cool back in 2004, but the days of MySpace and the selfie mirror shot are long gone)
  • The "too many hashtags" selfie post (on Facebook or Twitter, no one wants to see 10 hashtags about your photo, such as #cutie #blueeyes #hotgirl #dateme #kisses #sexy....)
  • The duck face (I don't think this needs an explanation... just stop.)

A Flattering Angle from Above!

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When Selfies Go Right

Sometimes selfies are awesome! At times, the lighting is just perfect, the hair is just right, and the angle of the camera is on point. Let's face it, that camera angle with the camera slightly above your head tilting down towards your face just a little... well, that is just perfect! This is especially the case if you happen to have a double chin... not that I am saying I do! I am just saying hypothetically speaking, that is a great camera angle for those with a double chin (or so I've heard).

So to all of you moms out there that frown upon your teenage sons friending girls on Facebook with "selfies" - I say think again. Give selfie girls a chance. To all you haters out there that mock the people with a lot of selfies, leave them alone. Perhaps they just have a lot of confidence in their appearance, and since when is confidence a bad thing?

To those of you (and you know who you are) that embrace the selfie, you keep taking those photos! Just don't take so many! You also might want to avoid some of those tired shots we see all the time and perhaps post some photos that are not selfies at all. Have someone else take a photo of you every now and then. Let's all do our part to improve the reputation of the selfie photo on Facebook and all other forms of social media.


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I don't see anything wrong with it; I do question people who post several selfies each day. I mean come on, are we in love with ourselves or what?


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

You are so right. The chronic selfie posters are the people that give selfies a bad name. Thanks for checking out my hub!


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kschang 3 years ago from San Francisco, CA, USA

Nothing wrong with selfies, until all you do is selfies. Then you're vain as **** and needs a reality check.


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

kschang, that is probably the best quote ever. You are completely right about selfies. I don't like it when people hate all selfies... some are great. Too many are just not a good idea. Thanks for your comment!


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Jeannie, I think selfies are being unjustly maligned. And what's with the sunglasses? Is that a requirement? Just askin'.


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rohanfelix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

Too many selfies- a big no no. Otherwise, they are fine! Interesting hub! Voted up!


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

drbj - Hahaha... the sunglasses are not a requirement, but they are often a good addition to any selfie. ;-)

rohanfelix - I am glad to hear so many people are getting on board with this one. Thanks for the vote up!


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Jeannie, my son takes selfies all the time. He also changes his FB profile pic often. Usually he's in the car when he takes them. Sometimes he's in his room. I've tried doing it and just can't get a handle on the right angle. I always have someone else take my pic, but it has to be when I'm wearing makeup, which isn't often these days.


sheilamyers 3 years ago

I don't see anything wrong with selfies either. Like you said, there are some exceptions though. One thing people can learn to do is use the timer on their camera. It took me some trial and error, but I figured out how and where to set the camera and where I needed to be when the flash went off. After some practice, I think a lot of my selfies look almost like professional shots. My profile pic here (and I use it as my author photo on my book covers) is a cropped version of me in front of my fireplace I took with the timer feature.


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

bravewarrior - The car selfie seems to be quite popular with guys. I think the message he is sending to the world is, "hey, I have a car!" :-) Since I don't have a car, gals like me are impressed by it. There is a certain art to getting the right camera angle with the selfie. With a little practice, I'll bet you'd have some great selfies.

sheilamyers - I am one of those people that can't seem to master the timer on my camera. I need to keep trying though! Your profile photo looks great. I would have never guessed it was a selfie. It does look professional.

Thank you both for your comments!


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Minnetonka Twin 3 years ago from Minnesota

Hey Jeannie-this is such a great idea for a hub because selfies seem to be the big thing right now. I have no problem with the selfie except when it is overdone. My niece would strangle me for saying this-so keep this our little secret, but she takes tons of selfies and does the dreaded duck face you speak of. It drives me nuts! I try nicely to tell her that her beautiful normal face is much better than the duck or pucker face. By the way, I absolutely love your elf 'angle from above' selfie-I like that angle too. Great job on this Jeannie!


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ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina

As one who hates to have her pic taken anytime, there's no way I will be posting selfies. But I learned so much from this hub. I did not realize the self-pics had even a special name: selfies. Thanks for informing and entertaining.

Best,

Kim


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FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

This is good. There are a lot of mildly humorous selfies (bathroom shots, duck face, tongue sticking out intentionally, unfortunate things in the background), and I generally don't mind them. I do get tired of seeing so many of one person posted in rapid succession. But then there's always the unfriend option. Voted up +++ and sharing.


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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

I hate seeing pics of myself, so I don't really understand wanting to take a selfie, and I'm with some of the others who ask if these people are in love with themselves who do it all the time. Still, I think they are fine in moderations--and yours are freakin' adorable!


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Marie Flint 3 years ago from Jacksonville, FL

My new profile is a selfie and was posted on Facebook for a short time for feedback from my family and friends. My sister liked it, so I kept it. It's no longer posted on Facebook, however. I removed it after the feedback.

Cute hub.


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vibesites 3 years ago from United States

I do selfies sometimes. I see nothing wrong with it. But as with other things, I just do them in moderation. :)


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Minnetonka Twin - Oh no! Your niece has fallen victim to the dreaded selfie duck face pose! I think many girls do that face out of habit since it was once cool. She will probably grow out of it... I hope!

ocfireflies - Up until about a month ago, I did not even realize there was a name for a self photo either. I guess it is the "in" thing to say now, even though people have been taking selfies for a long time.

FlourishAnyway - Thanks for the votes and thanks for sharing. And yes, you are right... the rapid succession posting is what is most troublesome about the selfie.

Victoria Lynn - Thank you... I guess it goes without saying I usually take a lot of photos before I find one worth posting. I am not naturally a good photographer or that photogenic.

Marie Flint - I happen to think your profile pic is a very nice selfie. I don't know why anyone would discourage you from posting it.

vibesites - I think that is what I have learned the most from the comments... moderation is key to the selfie.

Thanks for the comments everyone!!!


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macteacher 3 years ago from New York

Great hub! The whole selfie thing can get out of control in the wrong hands. But a great selfie is worth a thousand bad shots. Thanks for the humor. :-) Voted up!


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

I think that is the best way to look at a selfie. A great selfie is worth a thousand bad shots. :-) Thanks for the comment.


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randomcreative 3 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

I agree that selfies can definitely be awesome when they are done right. You've shared a lot of great examples of both the good and the bad selfies.


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Jeannieinabottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Thanks so much! I am trying to make the selfie something positive. :-)


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kittythedreamer 2 years ago from the Ether

The picture I use here on HP is a selfie! LOL. I don't think they're bad, if they're done right (as you've said). And sometimes I feel like I know my best angle and the best lighting, and so my favorite pictures are ones that I've taken of myself...seriously! Great hub...and I love your selfies! :)


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Jeannieinabottle 2 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

There are so many anti-selfie articles out there, I felt I should write a pro-selfie article. I like your selfie profile pic, too!


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brakel2 13 months ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

I love taking selfies, as it is new talent I have developed in the last year. When I take a good one, I sometimes send to relatives or repost a profile pic on a website. I do try to delete the ones I do not use, as I hate to see numerous selfies in my photos. It is not arrogant to do that, in my opinion. I have relatives that will not take selfies, as they think it is not the thing to do. Thank you for this interesting article. Blessings, Audrey


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Jeannieinabottle 12 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

You make a good point, Audrey. Sometimes it is good to go through old selfies and delete them when you are bored with them or not using them. Thank you for your comment.

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