Texting, Email, I. M, Cell Phone Conversations... The New Poster Child For Anti-Social Behavior

Texting, Cell Phone Conversation

It's safe to say, and it's not an exaggeration, everywhere you look you can see people using their cell phone, Blackberry, i-phone, any handheld communication devices. I mean, automobiles, bikes, walking down the street, dinner tables, literally everywhere. Not surprising, it's actually condoned, you see commercials advocating, "use your handheld device in any situation." For instance there is this one commercial, where a woman in the delivery room is actually giving birth and she's taping the delivery herself with her I-Phone, or whatever the device is, with her husband in the room, crazy, huh!

It's gotten to the point that there are almost no real face to face communications. I actually heard a woman say that when she and her husband are home, and in different parts of the house, they will text each other. It's as if we can't stand to face each other anymore.

There's even a name for behavior associated with this phenomenon. It's called Nomophobia, it refers to a psychological syndrome where a person is afraid of being out of mobile phone contact. It is coined from a term "no-mobile-phone-phobia.


What Face To Face Communication Is Like

You texters, Instant messengers, emailers, and whatever other kind of handheld communication there is, let me give you a glimpse of what a face to face encounter would be like.

When you are face to face with someone, you see their true expressions, emotions, and all that it entails. For instance, when they LOL, you actually see them when they're Laughing Out Loud, meaning you can see, the crinkles around their eyes, their beautiful wide mouth, their body convulsing,when they are, "cracking up," the tears that comes when they, "laugh until they cry." When they OMG! You get to see what an Oh My Goodness really looks like, the physical expressions, such as raised hands to face, the wide eyed look of shock etc. When they IDK, you really believe them when the say "I Don't know," because of their facial expressions, and perhaps the shrugs of their shoulders. Oh yes, when they SMH, you actually see it when they are saying "I'm Shaking My Head," the head is actually moving from side to side. I get the feeling that physical expressions will be a lost art in the future. (I'm just saying).

Suffice it to say I don't know all of the abbreviations, but you can see where I'm going with this. Even though face to face communication seems to be out dated, there's no comparison, trust me, none of the new techno forms of communication can even hold a candle to it.

My Suggestion

Let's establish a National Face to Face Communication Day. Ah, I know that I'm just blowing smoke. But just think, what a day like that would be. People actually having to look at each other as they talked. They'd have to pay attention, so as to get the real meaning of what is said. Say, can you imagine one of those conversations. When a person began to (LOL)"Laugh Out Loud," the one they are talking to looks at them in amazement wondering "what in the world are they doing."

Here's another one, suppose, during this conversation, one began to (SMH) "Shake My Head," not knowing what this means, the other thinks he's convulsing, panics, and calls 911.

Even though these are exaggerations I can foresee face to face communication becoming a real problem in the future. What bothers me is no one seems to see this as rude, I mean when you're talking to someone and they are focused on the device in their hands, and not you. I've actually learned a way around that, I just stop talking until I get their full attention. Now that only works if they're interested in what you're talking about, and I admit, I'm not always all that interesting.


Conclusion

So to all you techno addicts, look up from those handheld devices, and see what you're missing, no not Reality TV, real people, some even wanting to communicate with you face to face. Give it a chance you might enjoy it.

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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I like your take! God bless fastfreta!


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suziecat7 6 years ago from Asheville, NC

I work with the public and I know just how rude these gadgets can be. People have forgotten to be polite. Great Hub.


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shyonegb 6 years ago from Australia

hi fastfreta, I did a story similar to yours however, I had no response, so I deleted it. Yes we live in an antisocial world where gadgets and gizmos have taken over. There's no respect and socialising face to face will probably be non existent. As parents, we should continue to teach the basics to our children especially manners......


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Hey there Micky Dee, thanks.

Suziecat, you're so right politeness has gone out the window as far as these gadgets are concerned.

Shyonegb you're right, it's up to us to try to teach our children that this is not the way polite society operates. However, not enough of us will do that.

Thank you all very much for stopping and taking the time to leave comments, hope to see you again soon.


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justom 6 years ago from 41042

I've seen kids sitting right next to each other texting and I don't get it. The worst for me is being at the grocery and folks on the phone paying no attention to what they're doing or where they're going. I get a bit edgy with them sometimes, it's just RUDE!! Good hub Freta, Peace!! Tom


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

And what about this one Tom, people walking across a busy street with their heads down. I actually saw a young man that worked in a home improvement store run into a wall while texting. I wish I had the presence of mind to take a picture with my phone, but I'm not that vested in using my handheld device in public, in that case I wished that I was. Thanks again Tom, see you again soon.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

You raised and made a very good point. It'll come to that, if we are not already in it. Thank you for your super hub.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks for the validation, Hello, hello. Thanks also for stopping.


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

I love it, love it, love it! I think we have all gotten a little carried away with all the wonders of technology. Nothing can take the place of face-to-face communication though. It's what keeps us sane and fulfilled.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Veronica, you're right, nothing can take the place of face to face, but unfortunately it seems that there's no end to this new techno communication. Again, thanks for stopping, see you soon!


Wooded 6 years ago

This is so true. I think it's a shame that we have grown so accepting of this type of communication regardless of the setting. My own children will text while we are speaking and it just infuriates me.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Actual Wooded, my children texting while in my presence is the reason why I originally thought of this hub. As you said it's infuriating. Thanks for stopping,see you later.


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Bail Up ! 5 years ago

I'm with you on this one. Its pretty annoying when kids do it but when adults do I thinks its even worse. You would think they know better and have SOME manners.


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fastfreta 5 years ago from Southern California Author

You're right Bail Up, we should know better, but alas the genie is out of the bottle on this one, and there seems to be no turning back. It appears we're all doomed to either do it or witness others doing it.


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crazybeanrider 5 years ago from Washington MI

Great hub...so interesting to ponder the reasons why people would rather text, or IM each than have a genuine conversation. But in defense of these devices, one-The cell phone saved my father's life, two, I have seen my niece and nephews communicate better with their parents and other adults in their lives...For some reason they are more apt to share on facebook, cell phone and e-mail... So all is not lost. It is just to bad we can't be more forthcoming with face to face conversations.


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fastfreta 5 years ago from Southern California Author

Oh, I do agree, the cell phones are very useful. However they seem to be replacing face to face conversations with electronic communication, which in a lot of cases, is bad, it fosters no social skills. Anyway thanks a lot for stopping and taking time to leave your wonderful comment. Please come back.


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