Mean People on Social Media

Social Media Etiquette

Here we go again. Somehow once more I find myself embroiled in a debate on Facebook. It got too angry. So I blocked the person who referred to me as either "dimwitted" or a "liar" because I did not see things his way. When I pointed out to him he was being abusive and very mean-spirited, he copped out by resorting to what most bullies do, blame the victim and insult them some more.

Who are these people? I have a feeling I know. They are the ones who are so socially dysfunctional in real life that their "friends" are the made up ones on Facebook and other social media sites. This is the guy at work who hides in his cubicle, never having an opinion on anything, never offering any suggestions or being part of the team but get him behind his laptop or iphone and he's a real confident, genius on twitter.

It's not just twitter or FB where I have encountered these nasty, unreasonable creeps either. Right here on hubpages, I have had a few disagreeable people. One of my hubs details the issues I had with my mortgage lender, the hard fought battle and the final foreclosure and sale of my home. My hub was heart-felt and very real. Some nasty soul (soul-less?) guy decided to post some ugly things in which he stated emphatically that I was a cheat, a liar and probable felon. Excuse me? Do we know each other? I am always amazed how someone can go gang busters with an immediate attack when we have never had any previous interaction! At least on hubpages I can approve or not approve their post. I usually approve because I think an irrational, angry post shows the person as a fool.

Seems to me even with hubpages, twitter and facebook having posted rules, no one follows them. We must learn self-restraint and develop our own code of behavior. This can only benefit us all especially in these days where future employers or college admissions people are checking our "status" online for our online reputations.

Here and now, I promise:

  • No more getting baited into any political discussions. I promise to keep my affiliations to any political party a secret.
  • No more discussions about religion or my lack of believing in any organized religion.
  • No more bashing people of the other gender. No funny posts referring to dumb husbands or incompetent government staff workers.
  • No more re-posting or "sharing" of stories having to do with pot smoking grannies, cute animals, tragedies involving soldiers coming back from war.

I am sure this list could be much longer, but it just dawned on me that promising to do all of these things is really promising to give up my constitutional rights or at the very least watering down of who I am and what I think. Maybe I will just swear off Facebook for a week or better yet, I choose to simply unfriend all those alleged "friends" whose negativity, narrow-mindedness, refusal to accept differing opinions were weighing me down. I may not have the 500+ friends, but who cares? I am old enough to not care and do not let the number of phony "friends" I have on FB define me. When I went through my list of so-called "friends" I was shocked to see people I have never spoke to or had any exchange, not so much as "thumbs Up" to any of my cute photos or sayings. Whatever....I am over it.

Peace to you all whether you agree with me or not.

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The Invincible 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

Really interesting stuff... For one thing, you can't please everyone all the time.. Similarly, some would be pleased, while others might still poke you with some derogatory contents. (on this one too)

No matter whatsoever, these were your own views, and I somewhat agree with you...

The only thing I don't agree with is about giving up your rights just because you were been pointed out... Doing away with social media for a week is good enough.


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Askme 4 years ago Author

Thank you Invincible. You are right. I should not be scared off or silenced because some idiots disagree. I am taking a break from Facebook. And guess what? I have a lot more time to spend doing some meaningful things!

I appreciate your posting.


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

One of the greatest things about freedom of speech is speaking, one of the worst is hearing. I think it is more often appropriate to speak up for what you believe than it is to refrain due to possible nastiness. But we have to be thick skinned about it. Certainly if you cannot stand up for and even take abuse for your political or religious beliefs, you might want to reexamine your commitment thereto.


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Askme 4 years ago Author

Good point Ericdierker! I have re-examined and decided I won't be scared off. For all the nasty comments there are thumbs up to what I say too!


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Fantastic Askme, Here is the next step when you are ready. I like your depiction of the office guy who just bottles up hate and unleashes it on the net. But what I invite you to do is have compassion for someone with such a miserable day and or life. In my life I have noticed most meaness comes from real sadness and anger, or social retardation. Either deserve our compassion and acceptance. That is to a point. Don't be a doormat.


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Askme 4 years ago Author

Great idea Eric. Unfortunately, in my office, the person whom I call a stalker is a miserable B-otch. I took her to lunch and before we even got into my car she was nagging about where I parked. She was rude to the server at the restaurant and sent her food back. When I left a $3 tip she was "oh my, guess your salary is much more than mine"

Anyway....my depiction of the guy who hides in his cubicle was an attempt to show that a lot of bullies online are really pathetic, shy people who are mousy in real life but become larger than life in the virtual world. We should be afraid of those types because they could become the next James Holmes (Colorado movie theater shooter).

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