How to Deal with Unwanted Facebook Friends?

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My Crusade Against Facebook Friends

I have been using Facebook for last four years. For me the main reasons of being on Facebook is to keep in touch with friends, to make new friends and to promote my blogs and Hubs.

Facebook users can have a maximum number of 5000 friends. A year before, I reached to this number. Thanks to the unknown persons, who requested me to add them as friends. It was my pleasure to add them as it was beneficial to me, more friends giving more visitors to my blog posts and Hubs.

But few months ago, I started to remove many of the friends from my list. It was a need of me to remove them. Following is the story of why and how I kicked off hundreds of Facebook Friends. I am sharing the story just because I think it may be useful for many. If you want to start a crusade against your Facebook friends, just go on reading.

The Reasons Behind the Crusade

There were many reasons behind removing the friends. The most important reason was there was no space for new friends because of the limit of maximum 5000 friends which I had reached. It was a senseless thing that the persons to whom I did not know were in the list of my Facebook friends, and on the other hand many of friends in real life had requested me to add them on facebook.

Second reason was that many of the friends on facebook were posting objectionable posts and photographs on my wall. Such objectionable posts included hatred against specific persons, communities and groups; childish and unmatured statements; and sometimes porn photographs. This was not good for my reputation, as such posts were distributed amongst all facebook friends of mine.

The third main reason was objectionable comments against some of my blog posts. Many times I write on some controversial subjects, some readers do not like such articles. When I promoted my blog posts through Facebook, some friends there used to comment against it and against me in intolerant way, many times using abusive words.

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The Crusade Against Facebook Friends Starts

It was not an easy task to remove some specific people of the 5000 friends. This was time consuming work. But I was not in hurry. I decided that whenever I will be on Facebook, I will check the 'Home' section, where you find updates from friends. Then I have to remove:

1. The friends who have posted objectionable posts, as well as the friends who have liked and shared such posts.

2. The friends who have commented in objectionable way against my or others updates, and against my blog posts.

3. The friends who do not portray their own photograph on their Facebook profile, instead of it they use a photograph of political leaders, historical persons, film actors etc. How can be somebody your friend if he/she is hiding his/her identity?

Once I took the decision, it became an easy task for me, although it was time consuming. Everytime I logged in my Facebook account, I removed many such faceless and useless friends. I started to get positive results within few days. Now one can see only clean things on my wall.

Simultaneously, I started to add some good friends, especially who are working in print and electronic media, as well as the writers and poets. So now bad friends are gone, good friends are there.

Blocking Your Facebook Friends, the Last Weapon

I do not believe in blocking bad people. As their behavior may be a temporary stage, I believe that we should give them a chance to overcome. So I avoid to block them. My benefit is even if I have expelled them, they are able to see my updates, and then visit my blogs etc.

But some bad people on Facebook have an habit of being bad all the time and they like to spam, leave bad comments etc. again and again. In this case I have to use the last weapon, that is blocking them. When we block a person on Facebook, he can not see our profile, our updates, our comments on other friend's status etc. But believe me, until now I have blocked very free people and I always remove the block after one or two weeks.

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cfin 3 years ago from The World we live in

Wow, you have a lot of facebook friends. Remind me to ask you to share an article or two of mine :) This article was both interesting and informative. Voted up!


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jainismus 3 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks, Rajan for the comment.


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jainismus 3 years ago from Pune, India Author

tammyswallow,

You are taking a right step.


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Interesting to learn your experience with some FB friends. I've lucky not to have experienced such behavior. although I do feel adding all and sundry to the list of friends is not the right thing to do.

Voted up.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

I think you did the right thing. Your online reputation is very important and you want to keep it as clean and professional as you can. I know what you mean with regards to fake people. If they're just taking space on your page and not adding value to your life, then might as well delete them. voting up!


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tammyswallow 3 years ago from North Carolina

Great ideas! I also remove those who send me game requests every day and I never hear from them otherwise.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thank you Michelle for reading and commenting. Yes, we have to keep clean our social networking.


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

A good, sensible move indeed. I add someone whom I know or is already in my circle of friends too..I have experienced cases of spamming and hacking myself and empathize. A well-written piece.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thank you Alocsin for sharing your views on the topic.


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I think what you do on Facebook has a lot to do with your goals for it. For me, Facebook is a way to market my writing so I accept as many friends as I can. But I have not experienced some of the problems you have. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks teaches12345 for reading and expressing your view about Facebook.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Agree that facebook can become an overwhelming experience when you have friends that are not actually supporting you. It is a great social media but it must be relative to your lifestyle. Great hub topic.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks healthylife2, now I have changed my path and adding only matured friends.


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healthylife2 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

Great idea if you have too many annoying "friends" on facebook. I keep my friends list includes only people I would hang out with in real life.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks Urvashi for commenting on this Hub.


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Great information that we all need to be aware while using facebook. I can't imagine myself touching 5000, now I have only 250 friends. This article is very useful for all facebook users who might sometime add people randomly.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Christy, thanks for the suggestion. I am already working on it.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks snowdrops for the comment.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks Girish.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thank you Naimishika, for the comment.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Yes Marchi, New changes in Facebook have given us better control. Thanks for reading this hub and expressing your views.


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girishpuri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

I am agree with your view point, all the best.


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ChristyWrites 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I am quite cautious as to who I add to my Facebook account. I add people who I already know. Good for you, organizing your list.


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Marchi 4 years ago from Australia

I had to create a new account for the same reasons, some time ago. However, with the new facebook changes, no need to do so as you have a better control of what you see or exposed to and vice versa!! The ability to subscribe, has also made a rather big difference.

Of course, in regards to personal content and friends, who has 5000 friends, I'd like to know!!


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snowdrops 4 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

Wow.. I hope that many people especially those teens will have to screen and delete friends whom they do not know for their safety too.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Hi Sherry, your police of not adding unknown people is right, but I added most of those who requested to add them. It was a wrong thing I did, I know.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks Curiad, for reading and commenting.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks Larry Wall, for reading the Hub and sharing your views. You are right, on facebook we get a lot of unwanted stuff.


Larry Wall 4 years ago

What you are doing is the very reason I have never been active on Facebook. I promote my Hubs there, but I am not sure how much traffic I am getting. My Friend list is small. As it is I have a person I knew in grade school (we are in our 60's now) posting pictures of her grandchildren. Cute kids, but do they need to be on my wall. I was never fascinated by Facebook. That small level of fascination is beginning to decline.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thanks Varsha, for reading the Hub and expressing your views.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thank you Sunshine625, for reading and expressing your view.


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Sherry Hewins 4 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

I never have this problem as I don't add anyone I don't know to my friends list. But then, for me FaceBook is social, I've pretty much given up promoting my hubs there as I don't want my friends to feel like I'm spamming them. Maybe I should make another Facebook just for my hubs, then I can use your tips. Voted up and useful.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India Author

Thank you Sir, Best wishes to you too.


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

Great hub my friend. I need to do this too.


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varshamaniar 4 years ago from Mumbai, India

It is true, the whole purpose of Facebook is defeated when spammers or people who just befriend because they are promoting some link has become a nuisance. I never accept unknown friend requests however good they might seem.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Good for you to taking back control of your FB. I have also been thru a few FB cleansings. I like "out with the old, in with the new." Great hub!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I am in the process of doing this right now and I agree with all of your points. Best of luck to you; it really is liberating.

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