Using social networking sites to vent and air out your problems: Wise idea or not?

There are so many social networking platforms to use.



I'm not sure if there is a good enough word to describe the popularity of social networking sites in our society today. It seems that everyone, and I literally mean everyone is using some form of social media. Whether it's Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, or any of the other social platforms, people from all ages and walks of life are part of them. Social media has a way of connecting people near and far. Everyone has their own personal and individual reasons for using social networking sites. Some of us use them to connect with like-minded people, while others may use them to reconnect with classmates and old friends. Some of us use them for both of these reasons, or there could be other reasons that I didn't mention. One of the things that I see a lot of on social networking platforms is people airing out personal their personal thoughts. Thoughts that seem to bother them. In this article I'm going to bring up the question; Is venting on social networking sites really a wise idea? I'm also going to give my thoughts and opinions on this topic. The ideas expressed in this article are strictly my own opinions, so there is no right or wrong. I hope you will continue to read on...

Are social networking sites a popularity contest?

There has been one thing about social networking sites that has become painfully obvious to me. It appears to me that many social networking sites have turned into popularity contests for some people. What's even more unfortunate is that many of the people who treat these sites like this are adults. I'm not talking about the 18 or 19 year old crowd of adults. I mean the 30 and up group of people who seem to be looking to live out their high school years again through social media. Maybe it's just me, but we expect this way of thinking more so from a teen or young adult using a social networking site. Not necessarily from the older generation. It almost feels like social media sites have become virtual high schools. You're either in the in crowd or your not. I don't fully know, nor can I say what the reasons were behind the creation of social networking sites. However, I don't think there were created in order to run popularity contests. Then again I have been wrong before. Regardless of what the meaning was behind the creation of the various social networking sites, the individuals who use them are the ones that define their meaning. Some people use social networking sites for positive purposes, while others enjoy the gossip and negativity that some people spread on these sites. It just depends on who you ask, and how you view social networking sites through your own eyes.


I'm not going to portray or act like I've never used social media platforms to vent things on my mind. I've definitely had my fair share of moments where I was looking for validation and support from my social networking friends and family. As much as I've participated in this practice before, it's a habit that I've strayed away from in recent months. It's not my place to tell anyone what to do or say with their own social media page. Hey, if you're one of those people who likes using social networking sites to air out your problems, more power to you. Depending on who you ask, using sites like Facebook to vent can be a good thing. However, as I've sat back and observed how many people handle these sites, I personally feel that it's not a wise choice. Here are a few reasons why I feel this way:

  • Most people on social networking sites don't care about your problems: I know this is probably controversial, but it's the way that I feel on this subject. Most people who claim to be your friends on these sites are only there to be nosy. When you air out your problems, the majority of the people on these sites are most likely laughing at you. The ones who aren't laughing at you are most likely telling someone else what you put. If someone really cared about what was going on with you, they would call you up and talk to you personally. Not over a social networking site for the world to see.
  • It makes you look desperate for attention: Again this is strictly my own opinion, but when a person is constantly on social networking sites talking about their problems, it makes them look like they are consumed with looking for attention. Lets face it, most people are using these sites to gain attention. There's nothing wrong with receiving attention from posting or writing something positive. If you are looking to get into the music industry or something of that nature, that's positive attention. You will most likely get attention when you air out your dirty laundry on social networking sites, it just may not be the type of attention you are looking for. You know the bad kind of attention that seems to spread. Like the saying goes; "Bad news travels fast".
  • Most people on social networking sites can't solve your problems: Again this is my own personal opinion. I will admit that this one can vary depending on the type of friends and people you have looking at your social media page. As I mentioned before, most people are using these sites to be nosy. If they are just looking for things to see and gossip about, there is no way they can help you when you put your problems out there. Is that a real friend? I would have to say absolutely not. You would be better off calling, texting, or meeting up with someone you feel you can trust and truly cares about you.


If you are one of those people who carefully monitors who you allow to view your activities on social networking sites, then I'm sure this article is like preaching to the choir for you. I want to restate that the views expressed in this article are my own opinions. People are allowed to use their social networking pages for whatever reasons they want. I'm just one of those people who believes in not giving out too much ammunition for someone else to use against me later on. Just remember that not everyone you add to your friends list is sincere. Would love to see your comments, thoughts, and feedback on this topic. If you have a different opinion from mines, I would love to see that as well. Thanks for reading.

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lovedoctor926 4 years ago

This is an excellent hub Brad. Many people are exposing themselves through social networking sites and online writing communities, which can be the equivalent of social death for many people to injure a person's character and reputation and turn them against others for no reason only out of hate and jealousy. Brad, I can agree with you more. Cyber-bully follows the love doctor from one writing blog to the other. People seem to get obsessed and fixated on writers they admire even when they're no longer around. hate me or love me, either way I'm still on their mind. It makes sense for everyone to stay cyber-safe these days. Thank God for the approve and delete forever buttons on hubpages.

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kschang 4 years ago from San Francisco, CA, USA

Social network exposes you to like-minded people, which may NOT be the right thing. Airing problems to "like-minded people" leads to confirmation bias, not critical analysis and fair assessment.

It's okay to use Social Network against big companies who mistreated you. Here's a 7-step guide:

Airing your own dirty laundry online is a definite no-no. I actually wrote a hub on this: How do be an idiot online (and how to avoid doing so)

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SidKemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

This is a great issue, and you do a good job discussing the issues. Your article elicits two questions: Is venting our problems healthy at all? I think, only if we do it in a place of safety, as part of a process of self-awareness and growth. Otherwise, it is simple projection, doing nothing to heal the problem.

And, is there a contradiction between venting problems and competing in a popularity contest? Does being good at venting make us more popular?

I would note that Facebook began as a popularity contest for college students, rather than becoming one.

There are many ways to use social media. My wife publishes, encourages, and teaches poetry writing on Twitter.

Wherever we engage with others, let's do it in healthy, creative ways.

Voted up and interesting.

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ksinll 4 years ago

This is a good topic to write about and I like how you handle the topic. I use Social Media to see how friends are (the ones that moved away)and keep in touch. I rarely post anything negative or too personal.

I also like it as an exchange of ideas. I've found many interest groups out there and it helps to stay up-to-date on my various areas of interest.

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Ms Dee 4 years ago from Texas, USA

You make very good points for people to consider. I'm one who finally decided to quit Facebook. Those I am close to keep in contact more by email, anyway.

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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hi ksinll. Thanks a lot for taking out the time to read my hub. Like you I don't post anything personal at all for the most part. I used to, but I cut it out completely once I realized that most of the people on there really don't care. I mainly use social networking for the reason you mentioned. It's a great way to exchange ideas with like-minded people. Thanks again for your helpful feedback. It's much appreciated!

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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Ms Dee. Thanks you so much for your feedback, and for taking out the time to read my hub. I definitely understand where you are coming from when you say you decided to quite Facebook. The only reason I still stick around Facebook is to promote my writings. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. It's greatly appreciated!

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beingwell 4 years ago from Bangkok

Voted up, useful and interesting my friend.

I'm all for it. I enjoy social networks. It's a great way to meet new connections. Remember, we met in one of these right? haahaha!! Keep it up! You're doing very well!

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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you my awesome friend. I'm all for using social networking to meet and make new connections, but a lot of the stuff that people post on Facebook is garbage in my opinion. I mainly use the site for sharing things that myself and others publish. Thanks again :)

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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hello kschang. One of the things that I personally do like about social networking is being exposed to like minded people. I find that it's difficult in my everyday life to come across people that I can relate to on certain topics. Social networking has allowed me to be able to do that. I'm pretty sure it can be wrong in some aspects. It just depends on how much of yourself you are willing to put out there. Thanks for your feedback and the links.

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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks a lot SidKemp for the great feedback. I think it's okay to vent and air out some things that bother us. Keyboard in that sentence is "some" things. The problem is that so many people air out too much, and then get angry when it comes back on them. Like you mentioned, there are some very positive things that have come from the usage of social media. I agree with you that engaging in healthy and creative ways is the key. Thanks again for your awesome feedback sir.

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Amadaun 3 years ago

You're right that if someone really has a problem, picking up a phone and calling a friend is much better than telling the internet about it. I sometimes rant on my forum, but never with the expectation that anything is going to be done about it...though sometimes it makes for interesting debates.

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LisaMarie724 3 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

Not a good idea to air your dirty laundry on social media sites. Too many people act like these sites are their diaries. It's best to keep some things to yourself.

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prospectboy 3 years ago from Texas Author

@LisaMarie724, I agree with you all the way on that. These are the same people that get angry when things they put on their social networking profiles gets seen by people they don't want. It's their own fault. Like you said, it's best to keep some things to yourself. Thanks for the feedback :)

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prospectboy 3 years ago from Texas Author

@Amadaun, Thanks a lot for stopping by and giving your perspective. I think we're all guilty of ranting via social networks sometimes, but picking and choosing what to say is the most important thing. I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks :)

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LauraD093 3 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

I use what I refer to as "Facebook-land" but I do so cautiously what I generally do is forward cartoons and Animal right's information and more recently have exposed applicable articles from to my time-line. A lot of my "friends " work as I do with rescue agencies and are big on animal posts. I have posted more personal information there in the past but no longer do so. If I need to address something more personal I do so through personal messaging. Good hub really enjoyed it.

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prospectboy 3 years ago from Texas Author

@LauraD093, Thanks again for your feedback. I personally think that it's fine to use Facebook, I just feel that some people just talk or should I say 'type' way too much on there lol. Like you, I share a lot of different things that I come across. It's great that the work you're involved with benefits you from using Facebook. I believe that's a good reason for using the site. Glad you enjoyed the hub, and thanks again.

Xako 2 years ago

You are so right on the moooooney! But I still vent on Twitter. Don't do Facebook, there everyone is nosy and don't give two craps...LOL

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lovedoctor926 2 years ago

Hey Brad, There is a lot of truth here. Social media gives people a safe outlet to express things; however, there's no need to do that. Grab a pen & your journal and just write. It's a great way to release some pent-up emotions.

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prospectboy 2 years ago from Texas Author

@Xako, Lol, thanks. I definitely agree with you about Facebook. Nothing but a bunch of nosey people on there anyway lol.

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prospectboy 2 years ago from Texas Author

@lovedoctor926, Hello Marlene! I agree with you. I just feel that we as people invest too much of our lives into social media, and I view it as a bad mistake because most people don't really care that we have problems. The idea of a journal is a good one, and thank you for recommending that.

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lovedoctor926 2 years ago

You're very welcome. Hope everything is well and Happy Holidays! I am hardly on here anymore but do stop by to read an comment every once in a while. You're so right! Great hub!

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prospectboy 2 years ago from Texas Author

@lovedoctor926, Happy Holidays to you as well. I'm not as active as I once was on here, but then again, it appears that no one really is these days. Thanks again for the kind words. Best wishes!

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