WWW Smackdown: The Facebook Fight

The Facebook Fight

It usually starts off as an innocent comment. A friend posts a photo of herself in a bikini. Another friend comments, "You look so skinny in this photo!" This seems like a compliment. Who could take this the wrong way?

The friend who posted the photo then responds with, "Thanks! Are you saying I was chubby before? LOL." For some reason, LOL is often included in these statements. It is as if "LOL" cancels out any of the negativity that was just implied. Obviously, these two friends have some unresolved issue and the Facebook fight is about to go down with lines like:

"No, I was just saying you look skinny. But you usually don't in photos if that is what you mean." - Friend

"What? Look who is talking." - Photo poster who was once chubby.

"At least I don't have to steal everyone else's man to feel good about myself!" - Friend... soon to be enemy.

"You have some nerve sitting behind that computer. That is all you do. Must be why you are fat!" - Photo poster who is now very angry .

Facebook Can Ruin Your Day

Facebook is a great concept. It allows people to socialize in a setting that is supposedly safe. One can reconnect with friends they haven't seen in years. Also, people can connect with others on Facebook that they would never ordinarily get to meet. I've had friends that have never met each other in real life have discussions (on my page) when they have a similar interest. In this respect Facebook is wonderful.

However, there is an ugly side to Facebook. Users often feel the need to friend people out of peer pressure or to be polite. So this means you may have co-workers on your friend list, relatives you do not get along with, and people you hated in high school all merging together in just one spot - your profile! This is a recipe for disaster.

You might just want to post one simple status update on your page only to discover that two of your friends (that hate each other) are battling it out on your profile page. Perhaps you made a mistake and posted a cute picture of you and one friend on your page. Well, your other friend took this moment to trash talk the other friend. Now the most vile and disgusting insults are being posted on your page back and forth between the two friends. Why can't adults just act like adults?

Examples of Facebook Fights

A Facebook fight can begin over the most simple situation. Often these battles begin when someone states something in a status update and someone else disagrees. Also, a person may post a seemingly innocent comment or photo on your page. This somehow enrages another friend and those two start to argue about it. A person may also simply try to instigate a fight. Instead of calling or meeting up with a friend or family member in person to air out some differences, what not instead post it on their Facebook page so the entire world can witness the fight?

Every now and then, you will witness an Epic Facebook Battle. This is when just one status update or comment triggers a rage-filled chain reaction. It can start on one person's page, but eventually a number of Facebook users join in on the fight. Comments start getting posting on a number of profile pages. Obscenities and capitalized words are all over the place! It takes a while for the battle to end. You know what usually ends it? People need to meet up in person or calmly discuss the issue over the phone. Being rational works best in these situations.

Ways to Prevent the Facebook Fight

Yes, there are ways to try to prevent a Facebook fight from breaking out. There will be times when it can't be helped or the whole fight is out of your hands, but there are times when you can completely prevent a fight. Some helpful suggestions are:

  • Don't talk trash about people in a status update.
  • Don't post a melodramatic status update that refers to a certain someone or event, but you pretend it does not.
  • Simply do not post something spiteful on a person's profile page.
  • Try to keep your hardcore partying photos to a minimum. This is especially true if your page is public or you're friends with your boss.
  • Delete the people on your friend list you do not like.
  • Delete the people on your friend list that try to start trouble.
  • Don't flirt with other people's significant others on Facebook. For that matter, don't do it in person either.
  • Do not friend someone just to be polite if you don't want to do so.
  • Always be honest. Don't tell your friend you can't hang out Friday night because you are sick if you are really going to your other friend's party. 9 times out of 10, you will be tagged in a photo at that party.
  • Don't post a major announcement such as a death, pregnancy, or divorce without first making sure everyone close to you knows. No one likes to get devastating news via Facebook.
  • Try not to be too sensitive. Sometimes a person posts something that comes off the wrong way. Don't just assume it is an insult.
  • Don't fight over relationship status updates. Just because you know your friend is totally lying about being in a relationship just to get back at her ex-boyfriend does not mean you need to call her out on it.
  • Keep the drama to a minimum. Even if someone is trying to provoke you, don't bother with them. You are better than that. Really.
  • Everyone just needs to grow up a little. Keep in mind you are not 5 years old and there are better ways to communicate with your friends and loved ones. If you have a problem, why not get together and talk it out? Stop making Facebook a hostile place for the rest of us.

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Soldieringon 5 years ago from Hemet, CA

I loved this hub. Unfortunately, fights like this were a driving reason behind my leaving FB for good.


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Jennie Demario 5 years ago from Floating in the clouds

LOL - this is so true. I love how everyone uses LOL as a safety net. When leaving iffy comments or status updates just add LOL to offset the nastiness.


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Thank you both for your comments. Sorry you had to leave Facebook due to the drama, Soldieringon. I've thought about leaving sometimes, too. Usually I just stopping logging in for days. Jennie Demario, yes, I've starting noticed LOL goes after every statement now that seriously does not sound like anyone should being laughing at all.


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marstoblog 5 years ago from Hitchin, England

Very good hub and very true! This is why we should all move to Google +. Has circles to limit who views your status.http://hubpages.com/technology/google-plus-the-fut...


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

I haven't tried Google + yet. I will have to look into it since it is all everyone is talking about. Thanks for the comment.


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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Great hub....and a hub that I learned many things about Facebook that I did not know. I have just started checking out different parts of Facebook....and here comes Google Plus. Voted up and interesting.


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Hahaha... I am glad you liked it. You perhaps learned more than you needed to know. I haven't tried Google Plus yet either. Thanks for the votes and the comment!


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nycgrl 5 years ago from New York

Facebook can ruin your day! And the battles on it can be epic. I will admit that I am guilty of adding the "lol" at the end of comments I know are somewhat not super nice but I feel like I have to post and then just add lol to not make it too uncomfortable! But usually that will be in cases of defending myself, never would make stupid or mean comments to my friends and yes do not friend people just to be polite. And every once in awhile do some FB "spring cleaning" and get rid of any jerks on your list. Delete button can be your best friend :-)


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Yes, Facebook can definitely ruin a day. One comment taken out of context can start a huge battle. Remember when people used to talk to each other? Not anymore. It is way better just to misread someone's post and start a fight over nothing. One week and tons of hurt feelings later, everyone discovers it was all a misunderstanding. I limit my time on Facebook now. Life is better that way.

Thanks for the comment!!!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Jeannie - I have not seen this yet but I can't help thinking as an outsider it would be funny to watch the smack down! I'm one of those people who don't want to be involved but I gotta laugh at it:) I guess as long as I am not the person getting the smack down! Lol


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

You are really lucky. Your friends and family members must be much less melodramatic than mine. There is always a silly fight over nothing. I will admit, it is fun to watch it unfold sometimes though. Thanks for reading and for the comment.


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jimagain 5 years ago from Hattiesburg, Mississippi

Loved the title and the picture. Who can't appreciate a good www.smackdown! People are addicted to strife & drama like a celebrity drawn to rehab. I guess we all love a good brouhaha. And I THOUGHT I LOOKED INCREDIBLE in that bikini pic IN SPITE OF WHAT MY JEALOUS CHUBBY FRIENDS IMPLIED!!!!!

er...sorry. Does this mean they're gonna' kick me off facebook again?


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Jeannieinabottle 5 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

I am sure you looked great in that bikini. I don't what is wrong with your friend. I am glad you could really relate to this hub. Hehe. Don't worry - no one is kicking you off Facebook. Thanks for the comment!


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

Interesting hub! I don't do FB or any social networking sites...don't really understand the need for them. I think words on paper can often be misinterpreted and then lead to these types of problems. I've seen it right here on hub pages a few times! Nice work!


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Jeannieinabottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD Author

You are so right! It is easy for people to misinterpret something that is written. Also, once it is written, who knows if someone else will save it or print it. Even if it's erased it can still come back to haunt you. Thanks for the comment.

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